I Don't Know What to Do

Wow. I think that's kind of presumptuous of you. Not that I should have to defend myself, but my husband is the one that doesn't want sex or intimacy. And I have no idea where the religious thing came from.

I certainly don't think having ********** will save a marriage. Or make it any stronger. I think that's just something shallow to use as a temporary fix.

Marriage isn't based only on sex. There are a thousand different layers involved in a marriage and sex isn't the only one. Trust, loyalty, conversation, friendship, respect, etc...

And why is it the man that should only have his "fantasies" be acted out? You think us women don't have fantasies? If that if our fantasies aren't realized that we just magically decide to live with it and go with the flow? I think your answer for saving a marriage is not a very strong one and certainly isn't going to help with my situation.

But this has nothing to do with MY situation. MY needs aren't being meant. But, I'm not going to defend myself here. I'm the one that wants to have **********, but I wouldn't force my significant other to do that if they were uncomfortable.

Thanks for those kind words. We don't have any kind of communication and that's always bothered me. My husband is a wonderful person. Intelligent, funny, generous. Yet, he's anti-social, I'm social. I want intimacy and it's like he doesn't care about that. It's hard and I have no idea what I should do.

curiosityKitten I think the Okrocker has gone off his rocker if you ask me...which you didn't but it's just my take on what he had to say and I don't mean to upset any one by my comment....he he... I understand exactly what your story is about...I was there too with my ex=husband...he never wanted me from the day we said I do! If you need to vent just send me an email I'd be glad to listen!

Aww...thank you tskmail. I needed that. That Okrocker guy upset me and angered me a little. But, thank you for your kind, supportive words. I'll definitely take you up on your offer of venting!! Thanks and hugs!!

Wow.

First of all, I wasn't looking for a pity party. I wasn't looking for advice. I was simply sharing my story like everyone else on this site.

Secondly, the 2nd post you just added is ridiculous. If you don't know anything about my situation, don't try to psycho-analyze me.

Thirdly, your last post is highly sexist. And any man that believes that is destined to be alone forever.

Wow is right! Go look at his profile...he has no friends and he wonders why? Why would he when he is attacking people...Don't pay any attention to him Kitten!

Yeah, all of his "groups" are sexually related. What's up with that?!

Yep I'll bet he becomes an ep perv!

Why do you think I'm attacking? The only one that's been attacked on this thread has been me!

I think you might be reading extra meanings into my words...
There was no intention to psycho-analyze...only to provoke the thinking process...
And wether the comments were sexist or not...well that's a debate for a much more well informed, mature group of people than you or I, just my opinion of course.

Kitten...I never said you wanted a pity party...just that it turned into one.

All kinds of people write comments on all kinds of subjects, some good, some bad. Ya take 'em or ya leave 'em, it's just that simple...
But enough about it...

Kitten...I hope you find happiness in whatever path you take. I hope you'll think for yourself honestly.

Remember...misery loves company...
Under all the layers and kill the man beast...
the Divorce Club mainly wants you to join their ranks!
They only think one way and have the same old, worn-out answers that lead to the same one place!

I'm done with this!