Life Not Including Kids

I love my kids dearly.  However, I feel like I need to find some kind of activity for myself.  I need to have a life that doesn't surround my kids.  Yes I love them.  Yes they need me now, but its also not fair to revolve my life around them.  What happens when they don't want me there?  Oh don't worry, I'll still be there, but what about having something to do and talk about that doesn't have to do with the kids.  It always comes back to me needing to find myself.  What do I want?  I want to have friends and hobbies that don't involve my kids.  I want to do things with my kids, but I deserve to have something that is mine right?  But what?  I just want to interact with people.  I need friends.  Where do I start? What do I like to do?  Almost anything.  I'd like to one day run in a race (like the walks/runs they do for cancer, etc....)  A marathon would be an incredible goal.  But I don't know if I could do it or how to start.  It'd be great to find a group to do something like this with.  Have a friend to enjoy it with.  My husband wouldn't do it.  It'd be great to get my daughter to do it, I think we could bond, but she has no desire to run or walk.  I ask her sometimes to go walk with me, she says she walks in gym class...

Anyway...any suggestions?

Julia Julia
36-40, F
2 Responses Mar 14, 2007

Boy! Do I have suggestions! :) Take a class for what ever you're interested in, organize a walking/running group and advertise on a free local site for it, swim, bike, volunteer for whatever cause you might be interested in, join a book club at the library, join a sport organization and so on.<br />
Start now with something - I have three kids and I devoted myself just to working and caring for them. Now that they are older they really don't need me and have their own lives, I'm struggling with the empty nest syndrome and trying to find things to do with myself. If I had started exploring an interest for myself when they were younger, I probably would be alot better off now. <br />
I started walking four to five miles a day, a year ago. It doesn't take long to build up stamina and strength and it would help assist you if you wanted to train for a marathon. I go by myself (none of my kids want to go with me either), throw on the headphones and bop along.

I can't have kids so enjoy them for me. They will also grow up.