Men & Weight
Posted July 11th, 2007 at 10:52AM
Hi all,
I am not fat, but rather a little overstuffed. I'm still attractive, although my hubby says that I need to lose weight. I should've known not to marry him when we were dating because he always said I was the heaviest girl he ever dated. Well, if you want model material, look elsewhere.
I'm ok with me... and I am a little overweight, but it's not like I'm so big I can't walk! Geez, give me a break.
It's a known fact that most people are overweight - and after 2 C-sections, and a partial hysterectomy (3 cuts in the same place), my muscles just don't work like they used to!
If the truth be known, I would love to lose about 20 lbs... but it doesn't matter what I try, it doesn't work. And ladies, I'm not wanting to lose it to please my husband either! I want to please ME! Because it's ME I have to honestly live with! Hubby? Yeah, well, I have to live with him too, but with his attitude these days, he just doesn't count!
Would love some comments and suggestions on sucessful weight loss from anyone out there...
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Good Luck!
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while I don't have the hysterectomy problem - i can help with the losing weight. Go for a walk after dinner - not long but make sure it is after dinner. You will be amazed at how much that little bit helps.
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Thanks for the comments... I will try the after dinner walks - I don't get out much but really need to - maybe this is just what I need - some motivation to get out AND lose weight.....
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So true Coastierat......I would love to start by losing 20lbs.... and see from there if I need any more loss...
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Thanks for the input all of you! You are wonderful people who care... however, my husband hurt me badly when he said that... and it hurts to this day....
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girl....you're husband is not right in the head. I would kick my hubby's butt if he ever said that I needed to lose weight or that I was the heaviest girl he's been with.
Be strong! Like you I am a mother, 3 kids to be exact. Weight loss is extremely difficult for us! I lost weight 11 years ago with Weight Watchers, and I am doing it again! I cannot financially afford to join, so I went to the first meeting and paid so I got the materials. I made a deal with my best friend and her sister and her best friend to do this together. You need a support system in order to lose weight. It is not a diet, it is a lifestyle. I will help you in any way I can.
You are right do this for you! When I decided to leave my man 11 years ago, because he made me feel worse about myself I lost alot! You will find the inner strength that you need to feel better about yourself!
I pray for you, and I will keep you in my thoughts. -
Thank-you Strained... that means a lot to me! And hey, thank-you for the gift... that was awful nice of you!!!
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Me too that's all I wanted to lose and I have tried everything under the sun..walking, working out, eating salad all day, water, water, water, nothing was working..I saw OPRA one day she recommendeing
http://applepatchdiet.com/kl77851
I went and it worked for me my 20lbs are finally gone yeahhhhhhh..... good luck -
Thank-you Kaddy! I will check out that link. I love Oprah but I don't get to watch her much these days. Will keep you all posted on how I make out!
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Go to Abraham Hicks on u tube, type in key words "Abraham Hicks Weightloss" best stuff I promise. Ecspecially if diets dont work.
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Thanks Alshadi - I did watch the video however, I found it somewhat confusing. Is there a pre-video that I should watch first?
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what seems to work for me is less dinner and a bowl of popcorn with a movie I look forward to it more than the dinner no kidding it works.
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Hmmm, would that be buttered popcorn? I love popcorn and my kids have a lot of it.. I'll give it a try! Thanks Elviris!
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I say screw your hubby. He shouldn't be tellin' his wife that she needs to lose weight. I say, so what if you're a bit "overstuffed" as you said :] You are who you are. It's what's INSIDE that counts. Not looks. I'm sure you look fine. But good luck with your weight loss :]
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I'm with you there xX!! Thanks!
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Your hubby's comments are not right. but do not take him very seriously. I had lot of weight earlier and could not lose weight whatever I did. However after 2 years, now without doing anything, I am losing weight and now I do not want to lose weight. I fear I have some serious illness.
They are lots of methods of losing weight and they work, walking for an hour perday, sit ups, exercises, yoga, they all work. Do not lose hope.
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Thanks ProudWoman....
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i9 think your husband if he loves you . he schould accept you as you and support you no matter what you dO men are clueless
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I agree JD... thank-you!
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Thanks Joywish! I agree with you wholeheartedly!!! I have been trying to lose that 150 anchor for a while now - he won't leave!!
I appreciate all the support you have all given me! This is why I LOVE this community and all the people in it! You people are the BESTEST people EVER!! :-) -
Here's just what i know. In the hope it helps, here you go. Also, I think this is great that you're starting to do this. Losing weight should be about YOU, and how you feel about your own looks and health. It's about health, emotional and physical. It'll be worth it, and you've got the right reasons I think. Anyways, here's what I know, and good luck!
These are the only things to do that i've seen work. You have to do them together for best results, otherwise they can cancel each other out.
smart and healthy eating. Know your food basics a little bit. Sometimes you need carbs, sometimes you need protein. If you know how to plan your eating, you'll need less food to get your energy and you'll be more satisfied after you eat.
portion control. We overeat more than we need for many reasons. But it hurts us in the end. So, no social eating (like how you eat more when you're friends are having some with you or suggest it.) No emotional eating (eating when sad or depressed or stressed. Eating to "reward" yourself. Or eating to celebrate or because you "deserve it".) Watch out for how easy it is to turn to food if you're actually bored, and don't eat just for something to do. Also eating out of habit, and not because you're actually hungry, is also easy to do.
One diet suggestion is to eat a handful of nuts and some water when you feel hungry, and then get busy doing something else while you wait 20 minutes. After that, check to see if you still feel hungry. Sometimes you only needed some quick energy, which that protein gave you. Or if it was emotional or bored etc, eating that little bit, and then filling your time with something else can save yourself from filling up on food you didn't need to eat.
and lots of exercise. At least 30 minutes every day (or 5 minutes, and work up), and know your exercises (depending on what you need, some are better than others).
Consistency. You need to keep at it, and give it a chance to work. Most people give up too fast, but a few days isn't soon enough to stop. A few weeks is better for seeing the results. Since you eat consistently - you also need to exercise/manage your health consistently. -
I've tried excercise - walking - biking (which hurt my knee), up and down stairs, and have used excecise equipment such as the Gazell (by Tony Little), to no avail...
I've cut back calories, carbs, fat, and still nothing. If anything, it makes me crave sweets, although I do my best not to give in!
I've had my thyroid checked (nothing there), and all my physicals come back normal. It's very frustrating! So now, I just give up! -
I would not say I am a vindictive anything. And it's not like I haven't TRIED to lose weight. It just won't come off. I'm not going to give you reasons because you would just roll your eyes anyway.
Funny how it's always the scenario of us WOMEN who 'loosen up' as you put it. I've seen it the other way around too.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not angry for your comment - not at all, and in some ways you have the right picture, but not the WHOLE picture.
First of all, you men marry us... then you get us pregnant so that our bodies stretch out of shape and we get twisted and turned with baby.
When the weight from baby doesn't come off, or God forbid, we have to have C-Sections (which tears apart every muscle in your lower abdomen), our 'beloved' men think it's ok to call us fat lazy cows!
For some of us women, there is more to losing weight than just eating salads and working ourselves to the bone! Much much more!
In my case, I worked my 40+ hours a week, ran 2 businesses from home, am raising my 2 young daughters (ages 8 & 11), keep my home running, pay the bills, look after hubby's needs (of which sex is NOT one of them), feed and water the dog, the cat and help my daughters clean out BOTH hedgehog cages! So, it's not for lack of being active - and I don't overeat.
Somewhere along the way, my metabolism just quit working. I used to be 96 pounds when I was 21. Some would say that's too skinny but you know, I was half as active then than I am now.
I have had my doctor check my thyroid among other things to find out what is going on and why I can't seem to lose the weight - every test he does comes back normal...
So, StWayne, as much as in some cases I would agree with your bit and piece picture, can you suggest something that I may overlooking?
As for paying the price - I have been paying mine all this time with the sadistic comments from my husband and I'm reminded of those comments everytime I climb the stairs..... -
Hey Beautiful,
Thanks! I love your attitude girl! I am going to try the apple cider vinegar again... I did that before but was taking it before meals... maybe I was doing it wrong.
I can't run - not yet anyway, but I will definitely go for brisk walks and keep the snacking down to before 6pm.. I don't usually eat after supper, but our supper time has been about 7 or 7:30 lately and I know that isn't helping...
As for the suggestion box.... hmmm... love that!! Will keep that one in mind!! :-) -
http://the-non-diet.com/
you may watch the above and find it interesting.
I am a male but I am with you. One should respect maternity and motherhood as it is just too much of personal sacrifice since the woman cannot even sleep on her back for 9 months and I know how much it hurts physically to be carrying that weight on you for 9 months and going through labour and c-section.
I do personally hope that you find the courage and resolve to face this world. You need to alter your eating habits and always keep tab on what you eat. I guess pop corn is the best alternative to your craving and what you need to do is to stop using microwave popcorn. you can make popcorn by just using corn kernels and adding a pinch of oil in a pan and putting the corn in the pan to pop and on low flame. the result is good. hydrogenated oil is the culprit in ready to eat microwave popcorn.
keep up the spirits.
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http://glen12930.eliteweightlosspackage.com Every one you have to check it out type it into your main bar at the top make sure it is empty first tho you are all going to love penny too i have tryed every think but this really does work hope you all get to the size and weight you only dream of i am nearly their now i have gone from 16 stone to 12 and a half in 7 month because of this i cant wait till my wedding next year now good luck all im on a mission to help as many people like me i can please please dont give up and start to get down that will only make things worse trust me i did but now im feeling so much beeter and can even wear a dress ans skirt wo hoo
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Thank-you WG... will give this a look and try to keep you posted!
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Hi,
I think ur hubby loves u a lot thats y he is insisting u to lose weight which is for the betterment of u only. u should not take ur hubby's comment in other sense. See, in this way, he is providing u the required motivation to lose weight. If u still think, he does not love u and thinks abt u as inferior, talk with him straight. this should help.
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Thank-you Lonely... I understand what you mean..
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Although I am "not" speaking for your husband, I do wish to share my situation with you. As a loving husband of 15 years, my wife put on over those years 56 pounds to her very short fr
ame. Her BMI was in the "morbidly obese" catagory. Her Asthma was uncontrollable and her energy level was almost nonexistant. After years of quietly asking her to take charge of her health with no results, our realtionship sank to its lowest possible depth. Obviously she felt terrible about her situation and it affected our marriage. I was fearful that I would bury her prematurely like my brother had buried his wife just one year ago due to weight related problems. We fianlly ended up in marriage counselling last fall and she is finally making changes to claim her health and life back. The last 10 years has taken a terrible toll on our relationship and she now wishes I had spoken more forcefully to her when she only had 20 pounds to lose instead of almost 60.
We continue to go to counselling and I am learning everything I can so I can prepare healthier meals for us. Maybe your husband should try becoming part of the solution
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