Venting About Someone Else Venting...

So a facebook friend of mine posted a long vent about comments that she had gotten. Aparently some people had looked at the pictures of her and her beautiful family and told her how lucky she was. She got pretty upset and went off about how having a good marriage and wonderful kids has nothing to do with luck, but instead hard work. Okay, I get that a marriage is hard work, and kids are certainly hard work, but she can't deny that she was dealt a pretty good hand. (No, I wasn't one of the people who told her how lucky she was.)
Maybe if I hadn't been raped by someone I cared about and thought cared about me, I would be further along in the process of finding the love of my life. Instead, I get terrified when I get too close to someone because they could hurt me just as bad as I have been hurt before. And any thought of being intimate with someone immediately triggers flashbacks that paralize me. Maybe if I didn't have the medical problems preventing me from ever having kids of my own, I might be closer to having that beautiful family. There is nothing that I want more in life than to have children of my own, and knowing that it will never happen is heartbreaking. I don't consider myself a victom in any sense, but there sure are a lot of things in this life that I yearn for and know that I will never have.
So maybe instead of looking at your family as something that you have to work for, you might want to look at them as something that you have been blessed with. Not everyone has that same blessing, so don't take it for granted.
darkerside16 darkerside16
1 Response Jan 8, 2013

My cousin was raped by her farther from the age of 11 to 16 when she bought a gun and shot him. The family were humiliated by her, I wasn't and remain close to they blamed her, she was convicted of premeditated murder and was behind bars for 2 years. When she got out she started studying and could only get a job at McDonald's. she then managed to get a job working in government. All her love affairs failed, if she told the guys then they'd run and if she didn't then she couldn't get close. She drank a lot and hurt herself. Anyway she's now 30 and found an older guy who loves the **** out of her, she could never have children but had happily adapted to caring for his 2 daughters. She is the happiest she ever was. I really hope my cousins remarkable story helps you, I believe you will find love and agree that your friend should never take family for granted.