Please, Don'tI really like EP. I've made some wonderful friends, met some interesting people, read some thought-provoking stories as well as stories that made me laugh, cry, aroused me and moved me emotionally in many different ways.
When I joined EP it was to learn from others who were going through or had gone through similar experiences as I was going through at the time, some of which I'm still struggling with a bit. I've rediscovered my love of creative writing which is invaluable to me after writing marketing / communications materials for the last decade.
Finding real connections with some amazing people as well as the flirty, fun playfulness were benefits I didn't foresee and am so happy to have discovered. I've been on an emotional roller coaster it seems since joining this site, and it's good to really feel again. I don't think you can truly appreciate the highs without the lows. Two of my real-life friends joined the site because of my experiences on it, and I've made a few real-life friends from being here.
However, in the tradition of old-school Dennis Miller (although I'm nowhere close to his league) this letter is to vent frustration at one particular aspect of this site that's really getting on my nerves.
I am a woman confident in my sexuality. I love sex with a man I find attractive, a real man who can captivate my mind and command my body. Just because I love sex, am assertive about it, crave it and write about it, does not mean I want to have virtual sex with you. I've posted hundreds of stories now in the time I've been here, and the majority are not about sex. That's not all I am. I'm not a living, breathing sex toy, so please, stop messaging me wanting to know my kinky fetishes, my fantasies, asking me to suck your ****, asking me to let you **** me. If you read my profile, you'll know I'm so much more than that, and if you can't talk to me like a human being who deserves respect, then please, leave me the **** alone. And yes, I am a lady, and I use the word "****." Get over it.
Also, if you can't form coherent sentences or only message in text speak, please don't bother reaching out to me. I'd like the time I spend here to be mentally stimulating, fun, flirty and real. I'm not looking for sexual chat partners, especially if you can't have a discussion that isn't only about how horny you are or how horny I make you when you don't even know me, and you can't see my pictures. Also, I don't post nude photos, so if that's what you're looking for, I'm not your girl; please stop asking me to add you so you can see my photos.
OK. Piece said. I'm stepping down from my soapbox now. If you want to get to know me, I only let a few people in to see the real me, but I'm not discouraging comments, gestures, whiteboard posts or private messages. I really do like meeting new people and making new friends, and this site is wonderful for that. I intentionally keep my circle small because I like to interact with those in it somewhat regularly. I love witty banter, fun comment threads and interesting discussions in private messages. Just please, don't solicit me for cybersex. Thank you.
P.S. Similar to something a good EP friend said, don't call me sugar, honey, baby, babydoll, sex kitten or any other terms of endearment until we've had at least a few conversations and form some kind of connection. I think terms of endearment should be reserved for people who know each other a little better than "ur so hot. want 2 B in u. pls *** me."