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"Some True Facts About Clinical Depression"

       Depression is a disease like cancer, alcoholism, diabetes, and any other disease you can think of.  No One would choose to feel the way a person feels when they suffer with depression. I have been on EP for awhile now, and I must admit, people do give good advice. However, it is hard to know what to say to someone suffering with this condition, especially if you don't suffer from it yourself. I know that people have been sincere in trying to give advice to people who have depression. There are, however, some things you never want to say with someone who does suffer with this horrible illness.
        Here are some examples of what you should try not to say: You just need to find something that interests you.---- This will not help, people who suffer from clinical depression do have things they like, but when depression sets in, you lose all interest in everything you once loved.
 Cheer up, tomorrow will be a better day.====no it will not. We know this for a fac
t, If it was a simple case of the blues, that would be correct, but it isn't. Tomorrow will be just as bad, if not worse than today.
Another expression that is all to common is "You are just saying you are depressed so you can get attention"-----Asking for help, and seeking attention are two very different things. People with depression may be looking for someone who understands them, and they may wish to talk about what is bothering them. But, make no mistake, it isn't that one problem on their mind causing their clinical depression. It may be something that is adding to their sadness, but it isn't the root of the problem. Talk to them about it, but never assume that there is an easy fix, because their isn't.
Another reply that I have seen that is far too common is: "Get over yourself"---You really don't know how hurtful that remark is to someone who is hurting so deeply inside already. That remark can do more damage as soon as it leaves your mouth, than you could possibly ever imagine. my suggestion to anyone who isn't sure how to talk to someone with clinical depression, is to tread lightly, let them know that they are valuable as a friend, and that you will always be there to listen, even if you don't understand. It's better to be truthful about not knowing what they are going through, than to pretend that you do and chance saying something damaging.

As  I have said in my other post, depression isn't something that can be turned on or off with a switch, it is continuously on, although with the right medication(s), some people can live a normal happy existence most of the time.  It takes trying several medications sometimes before one that works is found. It is a painstaking process. sometimes, a person can go through this long drawn out process, and still end up not finding one that will help. There is a whole side of depression that only the ones who are suffering with this horrible disease can understand. There are so many people that think that someone can become happy if they go out with friends, or go out and buy them self something new, or something equally absurd. I have heard it all.  just like the preconceived notion that we will feel better after our medicines kick in for the morning, and my personal favorite, "we just can't handle the truth". What a load of popping--****. If you are interested in learning more about depression, you can visit http://www.eiteaid.com. There are also many other sites that are loaded with information. I will  be posting more on both posts about depression very soon. In the mean time, google the word, and you will have plenty of choices to choose from........If you know someone with depression, try to take some time out for them. I am sure they will appreciate you more for being the best friend that you can be,

TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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The one about attention-seeking; I want to tell people, but that's kinda what I'm afraid of. They'll think I want attention. And I'm worried I'll annoy people if I try to tell them about my depression.

I am sure that it wouldn't hurt to try, but like with anything else, I would still advise seeking a doctors opinion. You can never be too safe. Thanks for the suggestion, I hope it will help others, every person counts.

I have depression, it comes with the Bipolar and some of the ADHD I have, what you said is true, it's the if you would only, why don't you just, if you really wanted to you would. There's a lot I want, could and should be doing, but I get it that sometimes we feel how we feel, it's like saying that somebody who is manic is just full of energy, that might be some of it, but being manic is not just having energy, it's worse than that and so is the depression, so I get what you are saying on that. Drop me a line sometime and lets talk.