Turning 26 And Have Never Had A Boyfriend

I will be 26 in 7 months and the realisation that I have never had a boyfriend or never been kissed, when more
and more of my friends are getting married and having children has definitely hit me.

I am a quite shy person and don't know really anything about trying to get a boyfriend.

All the fellows that seem to be interested in me are either way too old, or too young and immature.

I don't know if anyone else has had pressure from family and friends to find someone but I definitely have.
I get asked all the time when I am going to find someone.

I just don't really want to be by myself my whole life.
I don't want to turn 26 and still be in the position where I am right now.

Any advice would be appreciated.

sica211 sica211
22-25, F
2 Responses May 23, 2012

I completely feel for you. I am 23 and a lot of my friends are engaged and getting married. my family puts so much pressure on me and I'm so sick of hearing it. I just like being single bc that's all I know...but I do want to get married someday...I feel like I have time...but it's a constant worry in the back of my mind. I always think there is something wrong with me bc I have had some opportunities...I just freaked out and didn't want to go through with it. I guess I can't find anyone that I like enough or connect with.

Thanks for commenting, it's good to know of someone else who is having similar problems.

One of my friends is married and just had her fourth child, she is six months younger than me, but I see her life and she isn't really that happy, I do like the fact that I can go out and do whatever I want to do when I want to do it.

I know there is nothing wrong with you, I know the feeling though, I know people who have married people they don't really love or have a connection with and they are pretty miserable.

I look at one of my friends who is 33 and just getting married, she waited and is very happy because she found someone who is perfect for her.

Thanks again for the comment, I'm sure if we are ment to be married it will happen :-)

As a 26 yr old that has been married twice, I can tell you that love happens when you create it. You have to be willing, flexible, passionate and create what you want. Love doesn't just come along and sweep you off your feet. You have to go find it, make it a reality, and LIVE it. I found my husband on Craigslist. Why? Because my heart wanted the right person, and I went out and found him. We have a beautiful son and a wonderful life. It wasn't without lots of hardship and trial, though. He was not the perfect match at first. He had a lot of work to do to be a better person. But I believed in him, and we worked together. He lost 80 lbs and changed his career. It takes a lot of work, love. Go work hard. You will find it.

Thanks for your advice :) I think part of my problem is that I live in a rural community with not a lot of males to pick from. I am working on fixing that. will definitely keep working on it :)

I know the feeling. I lived in a tiny town too. Good luck!

Thanks :)