Still Single

Because of bad things in the past, whenever a guy shows an attraction to me, my flight mode sets in. I hate this but I don't know what else to do. And I do want to know what it's like to be in a relationship but their attraction scares me.

I look around me in school and all of these cute couples look so happy and my friends are always bragging about what they did with their boyfriends or girlfriends and they leave me out of discussions because I "won't understand". Albeit this is only a small part of why I want a boyfriend, it just bugs me.

Also I've had so many secret crushes that I've run out of people to like.

I've decided to wait until college to look for a relationship. Mature boys and living more like an adult might just help me get rid of my feelings of unease around guys.
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3 Responses Dec 10, 2012

Wait until you feel you need to share your life. College or high school or simply doesn't matter because this is about you and not about society or standards or anything else. You should feel like you found someone, rather than look for someone per se, just find happiness in life and while doing that keep your eyes open to spot people you want along for life and smiles as you do....and if you're of those friends you have may just turn out to be more.....but like you pointed out a little already...having a relationship just to have one isn't only silly but grotesquely selfish towards your "significant" would you feel if you were in the shoes of the loved but it turned out you were just a product to market around so someone else looked cool? I see this happen sometimes .... I hope the people you mentioned are not doing this.

If you respond by being scared when a situation occurs...try to find out as much about this feeling as you can. When does and doe it not happen, what makes it stronger and weaker, for who is it different? The more you learn about this the more you learn about yourself and give yourself support to doing what you really want to do...whatever that may be. Feelings are strong and great gut feelings about stuff....but they are guidelines at best, not rules, for that you also need to think about them rationally.

..let me just add a piece of advice. ...find someone willing to listen to what you said because communication is the key for relations of any kind, not just love.

You don't have to thank me at all. Just make something good from it all the best you can and in some sense everybody wins :)

I Am 26 and my name is andre , looking for chance to have some one in my life , i look ahead to your reply

i understand i been single my whole life but college does help in different ways

np like ur wolf pic i love wolves lol


Experiences were unique to careful about getting your hopes up too much about something "fixing everything" ....if it sounds too good to be usually is....the same goes for things that sound impossible not being so and when in random :D