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I Never Had a Boyfriend

I Need Advice

By: sincerelymetes
Written on January 31st, 2013
So, a guy from my youth group that I don't know too well started texting me the other night. He told me he liked me and wanted to get to know me better. I agrees to see a movie with him. The problem? Well I've really thought it over and it's not what I want. I'm not good at saying no to people though. And I like to make people happy, I'm a people pleaser, and sometimes I forget about my own happiness. So now I'm lost on what to do... I don't want to totally diss him. And I said I would see a movie with him and I don't want to go back on my word. But I don't want to lead him on either. I don't know what to do and how to let him down easy. I really don't think this is what's meant to be. I feel like there's someone better out there for me. But I don't want to tell him that. I HATE being mean to people and letting them down. But I can't lie. Honesty, it's the best policy. Or, that's what they say...
Help?
By: sincerelymetes
Age: 16-17 , Female
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  • Grimmstorm
    Grimmstorm

    Indeed, quite the predicament. I say go, but don't make it seem like you are interested in him in that way but try to be nice about it I guess. This also gives you more of a chance to get to know him a bit better, but I agree with Cleat, I find that a movie is not the place to get to know somebody, bowling or some other sort of activity is a good way to do that. Just try to remain nice, and at the end of the evening if you find he is still not who you would like to be with then you could always tell him that you think he is a nice guy and that you only wish to remain friends. Story of my life, that line right there, but in the end I was not to upset over it.

    Good luck to you.

    Jan 31
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    • sincerelymetes
      sincerelymetes

      Thanks for the advice. I agree. It's better to tell him the truth right away than to lead him on.
      Thanks again.

      Jan 31
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  • cleat
    cleat

    Be honest. Explain to him you would like to meet him, but maybe bowling or something instead? Honesty is the best policy, and bowling could be a laugh for both of you :)

    Jan 31
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    • sincerelymetes
      sincerelymetes

      I guess your right. But I feel like once I try to explain it to him I wont be able to find the right words...

      Jan 31
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    • cleat
      cleat

      try writing it down and practice yourself for the moment? :)

      Jan 31
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