I Never Had a Real Wedding, and It Sucks

It's not that I didn't have a real wedding, I just didn't have the wedding that I want to have now. My (now) husband immigrated to the US from another country. Given the terms of the visa he received I thought, let's have a small civil ceremony and then a big wedding later on. Turns out that the big wedding probably will never happen now, because no one seems to care about it. None of his friends or family are willing or able to travel over to the US, and the longer we put off having anything thing at all, I feel like people are going to care less and less. I guess that now I don't even have the option of having a wedding I really do want one. My advice to anyone who is planning on marrying someone that is immigrating to the US - don't do what I did. Plan the wedding prior to his arrival, because he won't care about the details anyway and you're more likely to actually have people from out the country attend. And you're less likely to be like me, feeling disappointed and depressed about having let the opportunity pass you by.

Husband doesn't know that I feel this way, don't know how to tell him without making him feel like I blame him. I blame myself really.

Sorry to have vented about this, but I just needed to get it out.

chipmunk23 chipmunk23
26-30, F
2 Responses Aug 9, 2007

YEAH, DONT GIVE UP ON THE DREAM WEDDING. ME AND MY HUSBAND MARRIED IN A COURTHOUSE ALSO. I ALWAYS WANTED A WEDDING. I KNOW I WILL HAVE ONE, ONE DAY. SO DONT GIVE UP THAT IS YOUR DREAM. IF YOUR HUSBAND KNEW HE WOULD PROBABLY TRY IS BEST TO MAKE THAT DREAM HAPPEN FOR YOU........PRAY GOD WILL HELP YOU.

Don't give up your dream of a real wedding. It is never too late.My fiance and I are getting married at the courthouse and can't afford a honeymoon, but one day we will have a nice ceremony in a church and a nice honeymoon. It could be a renewal of our vows or an anniversary. Hang in there. Peace and blessings.:)