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yea, I'm waiting. Till I'm married. Well, thats the plan anyways. My boyfriend and I plan on getting married in two years. Which really isn't that far away...but still. The question now is...do we really want to wait? Is it really worth it? I just don't know what i want. Cause i want both, really. I want to wait, i want my wedding night to be special, and for my first time to be special. Thats how I've been raised, and i don't want to regret it. But, on the other hand...We've been dating for a year, we both want it, we're both ready for it...we just can't. Cause we want to wait. Unless we change our minds. Which we might. But i don't think so. Ha, i sound like I'm crazy.

aanndd...do oral sex and hand jobs/fingering count as sex? Am i suppose to wait for those too? Cause ya, that just doesn't make sense to me. I don't really see how they're that different from each other, really. You're trying for the same thing aren't you? Why Am i asking a bunch of virgins? haha, jk.  But seriously, i don't know what I'm suppose to do.

jaisikae jaisikae
26-30, F
13 Responses Aug 12, 2007

Jaisikae,<br />
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You do not sound lame. I'm glad you posted so others can see it does work out. <br />
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You are very lucky. He is very lucky

Thank you. And yes, I'm glad that we waited. I think that it makes marriage more special. Adds another dimension. And I waited for the most important person in my life to give something that I can never take back. And now I sound super lame, but whatever. :)

Jaisikae,<br />
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Congradulations. Put each other first and keep some of the dating. Marriage does change things but not completely. <br />
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Would you like to comment on how things went? Was it a good idea for you? <br />
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G

Congrats, may you have a long very permanent and blessed marriage!

Yep, we got married last year.

This thread was started back in 2007. Are you two married yet?

Wow, well I'm going to offer the opposite opinion. I say do it, go ahead and have sex, as much as you can as soon as possible! <br />
I'll tell you why. Because if you wait two whole years to get married to have sex, then find out that you're not "sexually" compatible with the guy, then you have wasted two years for a fairy tale encounter (my first time wasn't THAT special, but other better times soon followed it).<br />
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Woah, I just realised how old this post is... nearly 3 years! So I guess my opinion is too late, but I'll still post it since I spent my time on it! Maybe it'll be of value to someone else... I wonder, did you marry the guy in the end, was the first time as good as you hoped?<br />
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Take care x

I am no longer a virgin...wish I still was (I'm a recycled virgin!). Anyhow, I will always regret that it was not on my wedding night, the way I always wanted it--even if I end up with the man I lost it to (which is still the plan...). In my opinion, when you have been married for 10, 15 years the two years you waited to have an experience you'll never forget will seem worth it. Because no one ever forgets their first time. You just don't. Even if you don't marry that person!! So, wait. You won't regret that in the long run. Finally, all of this is easier said than done. I know. Trust me. Be strong, and talk to me about my situation, if you'd like :)

not a virgin. .... wasn't either time i married so don't really know where you are coming from - but do want to give you this to think about...... Are you COMPLETELY open and honest with each other??? are you completely comfortable telling (talking about) what you want? because if you are not then problems will occur. You must be able to verbalize your wants, needs and desires. and he to you. .... good luck

Sex isnt the be all and end all of a relationship, just dont put too much onto it or you will probably be disappointed.

ya, im 19 years old. mind you, i don't think i have very much life experience, haha.

You didn't mention how old you are. If you're like, 13... definitely wait. If you're older and more mature and have more life experience you have to use your better judgment.

well im sorry to say that im not a virgin. and yes you do want to wait. i could tell you some things that would make you cry. please wait.