A Little Trick to Know Whether to Use Who Or Whom.

Here's the quick and dirty tip that my I learned a while back. Like whom, another pronoun him ends with m. When you're trying to decide whether to use who or whom, ask yourself if the answer to the question would be he or him. That's the trick: if you can answer the question being asked with him, then use whom, and it's easy to remember because they both end with m. For example, if you're trying to ask, "Who (or whom) do you love?" The answer would be "I love him." Him ends with an m, so you know to use whom. But if you are trying to ask, "Who (or whom) stepped on Squiggly?" the answer would be "He stepped on Squiggly." There's no m, so you know to use who. So that's the quick and dirty trick: if you can't remember that you use whom when you are referring to the object of the sentence, just remember that him equals whom.

fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
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19 Responses Feb 21, 2009

what if its (it's) a she?

My is so hilarious all the time.

Myonis..........thats funny as hell.....lol ....I laughed out loud....

thanks for the tip...I will remember it

Maybe someday.

I read usair's comment and I remembered my eyes glazing over in school too. I am sure he is 100% correct but I would not know a nomnative what - I know dangling participles (sp?) where bad, don't know what they are I liked the phrase. I used to have trouble with their and there - I remember people can be heirs and a thing can be here. For whatever that maybe worth to someone someday .....

Ahhh thanks girl. Glad I could help.

Thank you fungirl! This solved my problem when it came to trying to figure out when to use either word. A couple minutes ago I had to rewrite a story so that it wouldn't include "who" or "whom" because I wasn't sure which word was correct =/ I wish I read your story sooner :P

Because she would be out of business quickly.


Who do I love? Youm I do love! hahhaha...

LOL I poke fun at one of my friends for his weird way of talking, but I am the goofball. <br />
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You are right My. It just just sounds stupid.

I do know how to use these, but I don't always follow the rule because it just sounds so darn pretentious sometimes. Can you imagine the rock song being sung "Whom do you love? da da da da! Whom do you love?"

Well Rog you made me pay closer attention to this because you are the who/whom king in conversation. It is really quite lovely the way you seem to always use them correctly.<br />
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Anti, I did as well.<br />
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PBR, thanks sweetie.<br />
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USair, Good points.

For those of us to whom (notice the correct usage of "whom" after a preposition) grammar school is a distant memory, a little basic English review is needed. A nominative pronoun acts as a subject of a verb (Who ate the cake?) or as the subject of a linked verb (Did you see who ate the cake?). A direct ob<x>ject, on the other hand, is the ob<x>ject of a verb (Whom did you call?) or a preposition (He is the person to whom I placed the call<br />
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I had to look it up my self ....lol

i used to have this problem. i've always been attracted to really intelligent men and when given the opportunity to use the term 'whom' i would always second guess myself on whether or not i was using it appropriately.....i'm not exactly the sharpest....anything, so i was always afraid i'd look stupid.

I never paid attention until I started talking to my friend in the UK frequently and he says whom and it just sounds so weird to me. Love the new avatar btw.

you are welcome. Glad I could help.

thanks my friend ill take your advice!