Not Married

I'm turning 29 years old. Some people might argue that is still too young to be put into the 'never married' category but it really doesn't seem to be going well. I was engaged at the age of 22 to the first boyfriend I had (since 16). He was wrong for me in nearly every possible way but I thought I was in love. Thankfully the wedding never happened. We never married and since then I have not had a steady partner (we broke up when I turned 23). I have had flings but the experiences were not solid enough for me to consider these men my 'boyfriends'. I have also tried dating, the slow way but there always seems to be something go wrong. I became a Christian so that keeps my head on straight and not jump into anything too quickly. I would like to meet a man of faith but I am open to just about anybody. Usually when I meet someone I am very excited. But after a short while but he gets extremely 'busy' at work or his ex-girlfriend starts calling again. I am getting older and a bit worried about not being able to have children. I am faithful to my religion, which prevents me from having kids without a husband. I would be very sad if I can't have kids, I have always loved children.
stories4234 stories4234
31-35, F
4 Responses Jan 29, 2008

I think that society adds a pressure of getting married at a certain time,. starting a family by a certain age. Listen now adays people , especially woman are getting married much later in life. It's not like when our parents met when things happened so fast and had like three kids by 24 years old. Times have changed... You being a Christian should know that God has a plan for you, he also has someone in your path that you will meet at the right time. I thought I would NEVER get married. Now I am married and facing all sorts of issues.

Thanks for your comment Franz. I see you are a guy going through the same thing. When I meet men I am happy at first but then they get really "busy" with work or they start talking to their ex-girlfriend again. Men usually tell me I am "wife material", that I have all the qualities they look for in a wife. I don't understand why they are not interested in me then....what am I doing wrong?

I understand where you are coming from. I'm only 28 but feel like I'm 58. I know intellectually I'm still young and have plenty of time, yet I still feel like I'm running out of time for some reason. Silly perhaps but the feeling only gets worse with time.

You still have plenty of time. I am 54 now, but I had the exact same feelings at your age. People had already labled me an old maid, but I just never seemed to be able to find the right person at the right time. Trust me, it will happen when you least expect it. I found my Mr. Right when I was 29, moved in with him. He was 14 years older than I. I got pregnant, we got married in 1984, and I had my first and only child at age 31. Not exactly the way I thought my life would unfold, but then...the chapters were written by a higher power, I think. Everything happens in its own time. Be patient a bit longer.