My Husband Has No Sexual Interest In Me

I've been married for a long time. Our sex life started to slack off a couple of years ago untill it reached the point of nothing. My husband tells me this is due to an injury he had years before we met. This could be true but here is were I get confused.  He goes to online sex sites and not only looks at pictures and videos but talks to other women.  If he is not physically capeable of making love to me why does he go to these sites? It's been so long since I've even been hugged with any passion I've forgotten how it feels. My thoughts are that he has gotten so lost in these sites he looks at and the women he talks to that sex with me doesn't appeal to him at all. I'm not young anymore or as small or attractive as I once was. I miss the physical contact. I long for it. I've tried to tell him this but it doesn't help. He will give me attention if I ask for it.  Can you imagine how this makes me feel? It is about as personal as asking to have the oil changed in your car. Afterward I feel even worse . I've confronted him about the sites he goes to and the women he talks to and of course he has denied it. He says they are just friends. I've read some of the e-mails he has written and they are anything but something you would write to a friend. We have become like room mates.  He has everything hidden on his computer now so I can't find it which is fine. It just made me angry and hurt when I did read it. I have many years ahead of me and the thought of not having sex again..well what can I do. I have no one that I can talk to about this. I'm to embarrassed to tell anyone what is going on. How do you tell someone that your husband prefers sex with women on his computer to his wife. There is much more to this but will stop here. I'm glad I found this site so at least now I have a place where I can write down my thougts and feelings and hopefully make some friends who will understand. Being lonely is not fun at all!

NightStorm NightStorm
51-55, F
1 Response Mar 1, 2009

i feel for you,, amazing how many of us are soo alone lacking intimacy and love with me the physical lack of love just makes things worse,,john in colo