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Embarrassed. Shamed. Degraded. Demeaned. Disgraced. Humiliated. Mortified. The Feelings Of A Teenage Girl Receiving Bare Bottom Spankings From Her Stepdad.



--- By Becky Romero ---

Embarrassed. Shamed. Degraded. Demeaned. Disgraced. Humiliated. Mortified.

That's how I felt nine years ago as a 16-year old teenager from having my bare bottom spanked by my stepdad on more than one occasion.

And that doesn't even get into the other emotions it fed: anger, guilt, hate...

But from having it happen first in front of my younger brother and his 12-year old playmate (a boy I regularly babysat - making those feelings intensify greatly) to the spankings I got a week later on full display in front of not only my younger brother (who was present the whole time) but also in front of my older brother, his girlfriend and two friends of theirs from college who unexpectedly walked into the house during my punishment, my humiliation and shame complete, I also felt new emotions:

Resignation, helplessness and total submission.

As that evening's spanking began, I was told from that now on, that is how I would be punished: bared from the waist down and spanked regardless of who was in the room - this time it was my younger brother again. And if I continued to reach back with my hands to block the swats, my stepdad would continue to unhook or simply remove my bra each time too (as he had last week and that night), essentially giving me a choice whether to suffer further shame or be compliant and accept my punishment.

As one vicious bare-hand slap after another that night rained down on my bare bottom, I cried and pleaded for mercy that still makes be ashamed to this day for not being stronger and more defiant.

With tears rolling down my cheeks I promised and acknowledged and agreed that I understood how I'd be spanked from that day on and that I knew I'd be spanked each weekend for the next month for my ''poor behavior'' and ''disrespect.''

With each demanding question put to me I blubbered out barely coherent answers:

"Are you going to behave from now on?" - yes

"You promise?" - yes

"Are you going to start showing me respect?" - yes

"You promise?" - yes

"Are you going to start dressing properly?" - yes

"I didn't hear you?" - yes

"You promise?" - yes

"Are you ever going to run out of the house again?" - no

"You promise?" - yes

"Are you going to stop talking back?" - yes

"You promise?" - yes

"And what will happen if you do, or if you don't listen or behave?" - I get a spanking.

"What kind of spanking?" - a... a bare bottom spanking.

"And if you don't behave while being spanked?'' - my top gets removed.

"What about your bra?'' - it gets removed too

"I didn't understand you. What did you say?" - my bra gets removed too

"Are you going to behave from now on?" - yes

"You promise?" - yes

Resignation, helplessness and total submission indeed.

Regardless of the embarrassment, the stinging to my bottom was just too much and so I let my unhooked bra fall to the floor as I grabbed the lower part of the legs of the chair with my hands to help brace myself, my younger brother having already seen me essentially spanked twice this way before: naked. (As he had done before my stepdad had unhooked my bra that night, figuring that would keep my hands busy trying to hold it up against my breasts than reaching back attempting to block the swats.)

Between my stepdad's commands, me crying, Matt watching and my mom in the shower upstairs, no one it seems heard the doorbell.

The first indication that others were behind me was upon hearing a guy's voice exclaim, ''Whoa! What the ****?! Sweeeeeet!''

An unfamiliar female voice then began giggling.

Then I heard a familiar snort - it was coming from my older brother, Bobby.

And I quickly recognized his girlfriend (now wife) Kris' voice from her, ''Oh my God!''

My stepdad stopped only momentarily, before addressing Bobby: ''This is what your sister gets for running around the neighborhood half-naked. Isn't that right, Becky?"

"Well? Answer me! Well?'' he continued.

I blubbered out a barely coherent string of ''yesses'' and could only imagine what they all must of thought of my stepdad's twisting of what had really happened that day.

Then I heard the other female say, ''Come on, Cory. Let's go and wait in the car for Kris.'' (As I later found out, the four of them had double-dated and were dropping Bobby off at home; Bobby was starting college that fall.)

''I said, 'Let's go!''' she said again, even as she giggled.

Then my mom came downstairs from her shower, yelling at my stepdad as the couple who were friends of my older brother and his girlfriend (now wife) made a hasty exit. I could hear the guy telling his girlfriend, ''Did you see the way her **** were bouncing?'', both of them giggling as they closed the door on their way outside.

Embarrassed, shamed, degraded, demeaned, disgrace, humiliated, mortified indeed.

Then as I, in retrospect, made the poor decision to answer back to the way my stepdad ''explained'' to my older brother and his girlfriend why I was being punished, my bare bottom received several more slaps for my trouble - until my mom demanding that he stop and that I stand up.

When I did, I could do nothing but stand there, my bare bottom most certainly a bright cherry red and on fire as if stung by a hive of bees from that evening's spanking and an earlier one late that afternoon. I could not help rubbing it while indifferent to my nakedness in front of my mom, my stepdad, my two brothers and my older brother's girlfriend.

As I stood there, my parents arguing, my younger brother held up and dangled my bra in front of me, grinning. I snatched it from his hands before flinging it across the room in anger - my shame and humiliation already complete.

As my parents continued arguing, my older brother Bobby stared at me, a shocked expression on his face of both disbelief but also disapproval from what my stepdad was saying about my behavior that day.

My stepdad continued, ''Who knows? Maybe she was flashing truckers on the way back home.''

I protested: ''I did not. I had the towel wrapped around me and...''

But he cut me off and made fun of me saying, ''Hear that? But she had a ''TOWEL on''! If that's the way she wants to dress in public, then she has no right to complain about being spanked this way. She already knows that from now on, when she gets spanked it will be on her bare ***. Isn't that right, Becky?''

I nodded, then mouthed a ''yes'' when ordered to speak up and answered "on my bare bottom" when questioned as to how I'd be spanked any time it was felt I needed a spanking.

My mom began arguing again, ''I said that's enough..."

I heard my dad saying something like ''That's right. On her bare ***... don't care what her brothers see...

As my mom was saying, ''I don't want you spanking her anymore.''

Matt started to say something. Then my mom added, ''And that goes for Matt, too.

My stepdad countered and said something like, ''Why? Because now that Miss Spoiled Tart here sheds a few tears? You never demanded I stop spanking him. Why should she be treated any differently? Maybe a sore *** and a little humiliation each week will finally teach her to behave.''

"Becky, should you be treated any differently than Matt? Is that fair?'' he asked.

"No," I replied.

"So if he gets spanked for misbehaving or talking back, how should you be spanked?"

"The same. On my bare bottom," I answered, my head down in shame.

"When?" he asked.

"Every time I don't listen," I replied.

He continued arguing with my mom: ''I've had it with her attitude, her disrespect and her dressing like a hooker. From now on, that's the way it's going to be until she goes off to college and I don't give a **** how embarrassed she says she is. If she's embarrassed naked and bare-assed being spanked over her father's lap, if she's embarrassed with her brothers seeing her like that, then she can start behaving herself and watching her sassy mouth. Otherwise...''

At that point I just lost it. Not over my humiliation, my nakedness and the twisting of the truth as to what had happened that day. Not over the spanking

With my hands on my hips, I turned to face him and yelled back, ''You're NOT my father. My father's DEAD. Stop calling yourself that, you don't know the meaning of the word, you son of a *****! I HATE you! Do you hear me? I HATE YOU!''

There was quite a hush in the room and I just sort of stood there, then began trembling, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Kris, Bobby's girlfriend, left the room for a moment and walked in the kitchen, returning with an apron for me to drape around myself. As she handed it to me it fell to the floor; I didn't bother picking it up.

My mom said, ''Becky, why don't you go upstairs and put something on?''

My stepdad replied, ''After that outburst? You're going to let her get away and go unpunished for that? Apparently two spankings today weren't enough.''

At that point, I outstretched both arms away from myself and yelled back at my mom:

"Put something on? What for? You heard him. From now on, why should I bother wearing anything around the house since this is how I'm going to be spanked?''

I stood like that for at least ten seconds or so, everyone staring at me, until finally an incredible sense of shame came over me. I threw my hands across my boobs and ***** and went running off into the living and flung myself onto the couch. There I lay crying, burying my head into the pillows for I'm not sure how long. Then I felt Kris' hands caressing my shoulders.

A robe in her hand, she whispered to me that my mom wanted me to spend the night at my best friend's house, that hers and Bobby's friends were still out front in their car all that time waiting to drive her home and that they'd drop me off, Kris having already called my girlfriend that I'd soon be coming over.

As I stood up, putting on the robe, my mom walked over. She hugged and kissed me and told me that everything was going to be alright. That she was sorry she didn't act sooner. She handed me a small overnight bag that she had Kris hastily pack for me and walked out of the room, saying she'd see me in the morning. As Kris led me out the door, I didn't look back into the dining room where I could hear my stepdad still arguing with her but in a much more subdued tone. My mom had told him she was filing for divorce.

But there were to be many more spankings, more humiliation and more shame to come as the divorce progressed.

For years afterward, I was in denial. Whenever in conversation if asked had I ever been spanked by my parents, I'd deny it. Sure, I'd sometimes acknowledge that my younger brother was spanked while growing up. But not me. And certainly not as a teenager. And never, never, NEVER by my stepdad. He hadn't seen me naked since I was in diapers, I'd reply. Only my family and my closest friends knew the truth. Had guys at my high school knew, I would have never lived it down.

But the embarrassment, shame, degradation and humiliation was still there. It still is. Though I've finally come to terms that at least the shame isn't mine. It's his - for treating me like that.

But even though it has faded with time, the embarrassment and humiliation will always be there.
BeckyRomero BeckyRomero 26-30, F 61 Responses Jul 21, 2011

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sonds like my mom dad when spank growing up allways bare bottom and mom use haribrush over her knees she would spank me in clear view of my sister cousin aunt nucle me kicking cyring when done did spanking dance hands on *** exposing every thing else alot times corner after naked my sister gfs would come by an see me in corner my spankings by mom stop when i left house and married
mom allways had me stand in front leutre and ake down pants undies

It's a moms job to protect her kids like yours did you. I lose all respect for a woman that lets anybody hurt her kids. Although my mom passed more than a year and a half ago, I can never forget that she chose a piece of **** over her children. A lot of bad things have happened to my family which I'm sure is a direct result of the **** bag she chose over us.

I'm sorry Becky. I don't have the words other than I'm sorry this happened to you.

I related to this story. I am a 68 year old man. When I was a child growing up in Ireland, I was beaten by my father with a school cane (they were legal in Irish schools back then. I distinctly remember one day after he had stopped striking me with the cane, I screamed at him, "Why don't you just go ahead and kill me!" He had no response. With me there was no overt sexual component, since it happened with all my clothes on, but to be assaulted in that manner by one who is supposed to love you destroyed something in me, and I still struggle with that. My heart goes out to you Becky, because no one deserves to be treated without respect for their dignity as a human being.

sexuel agression ****** in europa he go to jail

This is clearly sexual assault.

I know how you feel. I am 23 and because of circumstances have to live at home. Home rules apply and mom or dad will spank my bare bottom My aunt also is allowed and she has me totally naked no matter who is there , My aunt has added diaper discipline as well

Yes it will be - as a counselor, i have mature woman finding different ways that they deal with situations like that - as teens. Interesting that the key part of the session that was in your memory is the exposure and humiliation - and nothing about the pain.

Wow. Thankyou for writing this. it has helped me see my fantasies in a different light. He is sick. Maybe I am too for having such thoughts, but mine won't be acted upon. Unless she consents. Thankyou, and please add me, if I didn't make myself out to be too much of a perve.

I am so so sorry this happened to you. Your stepdad sounds like a monster and a sadist. Even though he had a legal right to discipline you he took it way too far. Although I'm not an expert in family law you may have some legal options available to you starting with an IIED claim (intentional infliction of emotional distress).

Cutting children\'s penises is legal in this country. Do you really think she\'s going to get anywhere with that claim, when you can legally take off a child\'s clothes, strap him to a table so he can\'t move, spread his legs and then cut off the most sensitive and nerve riddled part of his penis?

Child abuse will always be disguised under \'\'parental rights\'\' .
If this story is real, which I have a very hard time believing, but if it is, she\'s not going to get anywhere with that claim. You can do pretty much anything you want to kids in this country, and you will get away with it.

God Bless America !

It's true the humiliation of being spanked in front of people lasts for a LONG time....whenever my parents did that to me, often promising, "You'll never forget this spanking Missy...." it's been true.
Also i know the absurd/disturbed feeling U mentioned about "who cares how I'm undressed?" cuz I knew I'd would be bare bottomed or naked for spankings in front of everyone anyways!!!

Very nice story :)

Your story was very moving - the pain really was nothing at the time. The sheer exposure - total shame that others saw you - and you were powerless. Some of the strongest emotions one can have - how has that effected your relationships from the way of trust, need and more?

I don't think it's effected my existing relationships with others as far as trust.

Although I still have lots of resentment towards my stepdad for what he did, I still find myself wresting with the guilt I still feel because of how my younger brother was treated.

Given how he was treated for years, I often sometimes wish I was spanked years earlier than I was and in front of him and his friends just like he was spanked sometimes when I or my girlfriends were around. I think it would have helped me understand how embarrassed and humiliated he often felt if my bare bottom was spanked as often as his was when I was 12, 13, 14 and 15. Though the spankings I did start getting at 16 were quite humiliating, the number of the pales in comparison to the amount he received during all those years when I didn't receive any.

I also regret never having once had the courage to take blame for something he did and therefore get punished in his place. I think if I could somehow change one thing it would have been that -- to have had the courage at 13 or 14 to have taken the blame at least a handful of times for some of the spankings my brother got in front of his friends, even though it would have meant me being embarrassed and spanked on my bare bottom in front of them instead.

That a number of his friends later saw me spanked like that when I was 16 made it far more embarrassing given my older age (and theirs, especially when in front of 12 and 13 year olds who I still babysat at the time). But I only wish those spankings would have served a purpose.

I hope this all makes sense.

Where in the HELL do you live, where what your stepfather was doing to you and your brother at that time was considered normal ?! Why didn\'t the mother call the police? Why didn\'t your older brother call the police? His girlfriend? Her friends? Where was CPS ? Why didn\'t you call CPS and tell them he touched your vagina, or that he fiddled your brother\'s private parts?

I mean, this is so unbelievable, that all those people would see and know about it, and nobody would do anything.

Where the hell do you live? I\'m sorry but this is very hard to believe.

It sounds like it actually really happened in real life.

Do you even know that spanking is sexual foreplay? That the buttocks are part of the private parts and that they\'re an erogenous zone? And doing that to children is sexual assault and child abuse and doing it to a teenager is just molestation.

I mean, WHERE THE HELL DID THIS HAPPEN !!??

That\'s what child abuse, trauma victims and people with PTSD have. It\'s when the brain locks up.

I mean...reading this is just...in 2002? In America?

It sounds like a story from a 3rd world country...

If you had children Becky, what form of discipline would you use?

I would hope when I do that I wouldn't use any form of corporal punishment. I think many parents resort to physical punishment out of either having been punished that way themselves or not wanting to take the time to parent with love. Spending more time explaining why the child is wrong for what she or he did instead of punishing them for whatever they did. I don't think it necessarily has to be only one ''form'' of discipline. Might be a combination. Time outs. Restriction of privileges. Also, would be dependent on age. You don't punish a 4-year old by saying they can't go out with their friends. Or tell a teenager they can't watch cartoons for a week. Many pro-spanking parents, unfortunately, think their approach is a one-size fits all.

I don't think I would describe your step-father as 'Pro-spanking' but instead I would say he was a dirty bastard who may have been frustrated by your behaviour and got hard from seeing you naked and undoubtedly got a thrill from seeing your humiliation and your forced obedience. Some young adults may have enjoyed certain aspects of that, but I don't think from what you said that he cared much for your feelings. I suspect that the memories of what he did to you and made you do still form the core of his masturbatory fantasies.

Hi, Ming,

Oh yes, I'm sure he was frustrated by my ''attitude'' and behavior and how I dressed and just about everything. But if he got a ''high'' so to speak out of me being humiliated by him it wasn't from anything sexual. It was because he knew I was shamed and humiliated. He was a f'n control freak anyway.

Oh yes, you really cut the mustard here on shame and humiliation, liked it lots thanks

Becky: You knew your dad spaned bare bottom as you have seen your brother spanked bae bottom with underwear down at ankles when he was 13. You saw all of his so hom seeing you spanked should not have been that big a deal. What age did spankings stop for you and stop for your youngest brother. What age was the oldest brother when you last saw him spanked bare bottom?

Are you crazy it's ALWAYS a big deal.
Po

Exactly!

James, I never saw my older brother getting spanked. He got a few, for sure. Just didn't happen when I was around.

As for my younger brother and I, the spankings we were receiving stopped when the judge in the family court said we didn't have to attend visitations anymore with my stepdad because of his refusal to go to anger management therapy after the mediator - by a pure stroke of luck - saw him slap me hard across the face causing my lip to bleed slightly when she unexpectedly returned after a session.

My younger brother had turned 14 by then. I was nearly 17. Obviously the part-summer's worth of spankings I received was far less numerous than my younger brother had received for years. But that didn't mean there weren't hugely embarrassing.

Slapping in the face is pure abuse. A normal spanking even if it is done on bare bottom is not abuse in my opinion.The fact that you and your brother were treated the same I think is fair, but if your step dad was spanking in anger and when extremely anger then that was wrong.

I am sure you would be embarrassed if your step brother seen you spanked at 17 and he was probabloy embarrassed to be spanked in front of you as a 13 and 14 year old who had started puberty. Did your brother ever say anything to you about his spankings and how often did you see him spanked during the small time you were there that summer.

James, I think you misunderstood. This was happening before my mom divorced my stepdad. He was living with us! Over the years, I had seen my younger brother spanked a number of times, yes sometimes with his pants down.

I am not saying I should have been treated differently than my younger brother. In fact, I wish NEITHER of us were spanked, bare bottom or not. I also don't think I deserved the spankings my stepdad gave me. And my younger brother was constantly picked on. Our stepdad treated him horribly!

But try to imagine how embarrassing it was for me - then 16 - on that day being spanked bottomless in front of my kid brother for the first time as well as well as in front of his 12-year old playmate (a boy I regularly babysat!). And then for my stepdad to untie my bikini top and let it fall to the floor because I kept reaching back with my hands to interfere with the spanking.

I know that at first my younger brother thought it was great. He enjoyed seeing me embarrassed. He admitted later to me that at the time he felt I should have been spanked a lot more because he was. I guess from his point of view, he was right. But after he saw me get a couple of spankings he started to feel bad for me.

Of course that was just the first taste of the humiliation I would feel, because within a week, BOTH of my brothers would see everything while I was being spanked. Even after my mom kicked him out, my stepdad would spank me during the court-ordered visitations (these were basically weekends or specific days during the month when we had to spend time with him). He even had his new girlfriend spank me several times, too, because I called her a name the first day I met her. And it didn't matter who was around to watch, whether it be my younger brother, his girlfriend's nephews or others kids. This lasted most of the summer.

Basically, most of the time I was reduced to a crying, naked jiggling spectacle. I know my stepdad was within his 'technically' legal rights to spank me and that I, as a minor, had no 'technically' legal right to even remain clothed during spankings. But still!!!

That totally sucks Becky I feel sorry for you.
Po

Well Becky hearing all that and the fact you were being spanked in front of his g/f's nephews (how old were they) is ridiculouys and not right. Did you ever see your older brother spanked bare bottom and did you ever see your brothers naked with pants down after they both reached puberty, if so until what age did you see them naked and spanked? Spankings for you should have probably ended at age 13-14 at the most but probably before puberty.

You ever see yoiur step dad spank the nephews or see them spanked at all?

James, as I said - never saw my older brother spanked. Certainly not that I can remember unless maybe it happened before I started school when I was very young. Never saw him naked either, although one of my girlfriends did when she accidentally walked in on him changing (she was at my house for the first time, had gone downstairs and then came back up and went to the wrong bedroom door).

My younger brother? Yes. I've seen him spanked. But as I got older, I invariably left the room because it hurt me to see him beaten like that, especially if our stepdad was going to spank his bare bottom. Ironically, I've seen him naked a number of times AFTER the divorce was final. I've written about the awkwardness he felt when he injured his ankle and needed help bathing (and was too embarrassed to ask our mom). Still, at the time when I was being spanked, it was extremely shameful and humiliating for me.

At the time - when he first saw me spanked naked - it was about 3 months before I turned 17. So I think you can see why I was so mortified (also with his 12-year old playmate there - a boy whom I regularly babysat). And then a week later him seeing me spanked again - and again with my older brother, his girlfriend (now wife) and a couple who was friends of theirs. After that, during visitations with our stepdad, anytime he was with me he saw me get spanked. Ironically, once the court-ordered visitations started, my brother didn't get spanked. Only me. (My older brother was off to college that summer, so he was out of the picture as far as visitations were concerned.)

As to my stepdad's new girlfriend (that relationship didn't last long; he was just being spiteful towards my mom), her nephews were school age, I think around 8 or 9. No, I never saw them spanked. I was also forced to change in front of them in a family changing room at a public pool.

So you admit to calling her a name. That deserved one spanking. What did you do to earn more spankings from her?

I don't think I did anything to earn even ONE spanking from that *****.

Calling her a ***** didn't deserve a spanking?

First of all, I didn't call her a *****. My younger brother hadn't met her yet and asked who that was. I whispered to him that she was our stepdad's ''new-found wh..e.''

Unfortunately, my stepdad overheard me and that resulted in spanking - and to make it even more humiliating for me, he had her give it to me.

Calling a woman a ***** doesn't merit a spanking? Unless she had sex for money then she wasn't a *****. And you were being a rude girl.

That explains how you earned one spanking. What did you do to earn the other spankings you got from her?

I am in favor of spanking when it is done proper. First of all I am a christian. I am a believer in spare the rod spoil the child. I am a single dad who raised a daughter by myself with help of grandmother. My daughter now is 24yrs old and her and her husband are successful nurses. I spanked my daughter only 3 times her life all under 10yrs old with clothing on not off. I didnt have to spank as teenager, just took grounded and restriction worked fine. She liked school good student all in all a good kid. I do not believe a father should be spanking or even seeing his teenage daughter naked, or mother seeing her teenage son naked eather. It is morally wrong. Spankings are done not to embarrasse and humiliate, but to correct bad behavier. It is against the law to forcefully make a person take their clothing off. this guy should be in jail in my opinion. it is sexual abuse period. If anyone touched my daughter like that, they should fear my wrath. I am sorry for what you and your brothers went through Becky. Please, excuse grammer and spelling?

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I am sorry you had to go through that - no-one deserves such treatment!

Really? No one at all? Not even Hitler?

Godwin's Law strikes again.

But thank you, Peejay. I appreciate the sentiment - even if some people want to be nitpickers.

(As for Hitler, I feel he cheated the hangman.)

There's always someone who wants to rain on your parade - just ignore the nitpickers and enjoy what you do!

How about Himmler then? Or Taylor Swift?

Pick your own horrible person. Does no one really deserve a bare *** spanking?

probably you do.

See that wasn't so hard. Was it?

Here's a song of my roommates said her grandfather learned from some Australian buddies he made while serving in the Navy in the Pacific in WWII.

Think of The Bridge on the River Kwai theme.

''Hitler has only got one ball.
Goering... has two but very small.
Himmler... has something sim'liar.
And poor old Goebbels has no balls at all.''

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Anyone who beats a teenage girl on her bare buttocks is guilty of sexual as well as physical abuse. And anyone here who can't see this is too moronic to argue with further or is a closet pervert themselves. I'm glad this young woman's mother finally had the sense to divorce this sick **** (although he should have done time in jail too).

You don't spank a girl when she is 16 years old even if she is your kid. It's a nonsense. Definitely you don't humiliate her. You speak to her, you earn her respect, you dominate her in any other way but not like this. This way is effective at ages of 6,7,8 years. At Becky's age spanking is a suicide for the parent and definitely causes results and feeling similar with Becky's outburst. The guy was definitely a looser trying to dominate with his physical strength not his mind his step daughter. NONSENSE

I don't particularly agree with you that you (at no time) spank a 16 year old girl. I would I venture to say that at 16 it is probably a good idea that physical punishment be relegated to the mother. I agree with you that the way the story reflects her treatment by her stepdad is always, ALWAYS a no-go. I also agree with you that he was compensating. To any step parent I would say if at all possible let the blood relative handle the discipline. It would solve a lot of headaches as well as possibley legal trouble. The stepdad in this story was ripe for discipline himself (the justice system kind).

Of course it may happen, but if it happens it is wrong, I believe. On the one hand with your daughter, if you haven't already earn her respect, definitely you are not going to earn it with a spanking. If you have already earn her respect, just a word is enough. On the other hand with your step daughter you are not ever going to earn her respect like that.
In both cases the result of a spanking is definitely reverse of the expected and definitely a teen's reaction is unforeseeable.

Wow most kids need spankings growing up n u seemed to need to be spanked too but no need to spank u in front of all those people spnkbooty

that step dad was a ***** and should have been arrested , but think you were a little bratty though . he should never had touched you though . but you naked sure sounds exciting .

Your stepfather was only giving you punishment you deserved.

How so? Why do you say ''deserved''? What did I do to deserve that?

You are an excellent writer....and sorry. :(

Becky<br />
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Just to give some perspective.<br />
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In the country I live in everything your stepdad did would be illegal. That is:<br />
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1. All forms of physical punishment is illegal, under all circumstances.<br />
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2. Force stripping someone, or possibly even ordering them to ***** themselves, would be regarded as sexual assault. The shame aspect would be the legal ground for this to be a sexual assault.<br />
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3. A stepparent would have absolutely no legal right to engage in parenting under any circumstances. Only the biological parent would be considered a parent and have a right and an obligation to take responsibility for parenting. The biological parent would also be legally liable for any actions the stepparent do regarding parenting.<br />
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I understand that this might not be culturally relevant in another society, and I don't say this to say its better. Just to let you know that there a whole countries in the world where people don't think anyone should experience what you experienced. It might be helpful to know that.

I'm not sure where you got this idea that in your country a step-parent has "no legal right to engage in parenting", but that is utter nonsense. First of all, how would such a law be written? Secondly, what person would want to marry someone who wouldn't "engage in parenting" their kids? What does that even mean? If a woman with two children marries a man, he is not responsible for the children? So if the woman gets sick and goes into the hospital, he isn't supposed to feed the children? He just allows them to run into the street? What nonsense! Don't write crap like this when you don't know what the heck you're talking about.

The Country is Sweden.

And in Sweden marriage is legally only an affair between the adults. Usually both the biological parents stay as legal guardians for the kids after a divorce. And a stepparent would have to legally adopt a kid after marriage to become a legal guardian. And for an adoption to take place both the biological parents would have to consent and if the child is over 11 years old it also has to consent to the adoption.

Marriage in general has a very weak legal status in Sweden. It mostly influences taxes, inheritance and legal liability for debt. Care of children is a completely different law and is completely separated from marriage law. Unmarried parents that gets kids have the same responsibilities towards the kid as married parents. Both the father and mother gets the same rights and responsibilities regarding the child. Stepparents do not, they're not regarded as parents at all by the law.

In the scenario you described where the mother would get sick and end up in hospital the other biological parent would be responsible, if there is no such person then of course the mother could organize so that the stepparent functions as a babysitter. But the stepparent wouldn't have any real legal right and cannot make any decisions without the biological parents consent.

If the biological parent is to sick to make decisions then social security administration would step in and place the kids in the care of a temporary foster parent. That could be the stepparent but only after a full investigation about the suitability of that person to act as foster parent.

And to be honest, you're the one writing crap and have absolutely no clue whatsoever when it comes to laws in other countries than your own.

What you are talking about are legal rights as it pertains to custody. What I am talking about is legal *obligation*. For example (since you mentioned "babysitting"), what legal obligation do you think a stepparent has for the child it is "babysitting" for? If the stepparent neglects the child, if it doesn't feed the child, can that stepparent get into trouble with the law? Yes, they can. The legal parent will too, but the stepparent has a legal *obligation* to treat the child properly. Caring for a child properly is "parenting". I'm not saying that a stepparent has "legal rights". I'm saying that a stepparent has a "legal obligation" as it pertains to how they care for a child living with them (and their legal custodian, i.e., the parent).

Secondly, in Sweden a stepparent cannot adopt a child if both parents are living (and have joint custody) contrary to your example. In Sweden a child can have only two "custodians" and if both parents are living, a stepparent cannot adopt.

Lastly, it doesn't really matter what the laws are, abuse happens. It happens everywhere, including in Sweden. In fact, stepparents in Sweden are more likely to abuse children to death than their own parents:

http://www.nkmr.org/english/step_parents_abuse_children_to_death_more_often.htm

You will also notice in that study that the following conclusion was made:

"A study performed by Richard Gelles and Ǻke Edfelt in 1986 compared Sweden and the USA in regard to violence against children. The study showed that Swedish parents in general use less violence than American parents. This difference was explained by the relatively new law against corporal punishment.

But when you compared the violence against children more specifically, there was no major difference between the countries."

"No major difference". Swedish laws don't stop parents from abusing, and it certainly doesn't stop stepparents from abusing. So your original statement, which was:

"Just to let you know that there a whole countries in the world where people don't think anyone should experience what you experienced. It might be helpful to know that.."

...doesn't hold water. Your country isn't any different.

It is very different.

And you are completely wrong regarding Swedish laws. I have an uncle who legally adopted his wife's child with the consent of the biological father. It's extremely uncommon though.

Anyone who interacts with a child would have a legal obligation to treat that child properly in Sweden, being a stepparent doesn't have anything to do with it.

And yes there is child abuse in Sweden too. That was not my point. The point is what is regarded as child abuse by the law is a much wider definition and almost everything Becky has experienced would actually be illegal as I stated in my original comment.

This was my last comment on this matter because I find you're way of debating aggressive, abusive, dishonest and there is no value whatsoever in debating with people who are outright lying about things they have no knowledge of just because they cannot admit they are wrong.

Thanks for making my point for me. You just said, "Anyone who interacts with a child would have a legal obligation to treat that child properly in Sweden, being a stepparent doesn't have anything to do with it." That is exactly what I was saying. A stepparent does not have to have any "legal" rights to parent, they are expected to parent because that is what a stepparent is supposed to do. You said, "Only the biological parent would be considered a parent and have a right and an obligation to take responsibility for parenting. " But now you say, "Anyone who interacts with a child would have a legal obligation to treat that child properly in Sweden". So which is it? Does a stepparent have a legal obligation to treat a child properly, meaning care for the child, which is PARENTING, or are they not supposed to parent at all? See, you don't know what you're talking about. As far as your example goes, about some uncle who legally adopted his wife's child with the consent of the biological parent, the only way that would happen is if the biological parent gave up ALL legal rights to be the child's parent. So what I said was true, in Sweden there can only be two legal guardians. As far as what Becky experienced, you and I don't differ on the fact that she was abused. NO child should EVER be spanked nude, and certainly no female teen should EVER be forced to ***** for a stepparent. That is wrong, sick and horrible. As far as your comment that I'm "aggressive, abusive and dishonest", how was I dishonest? You called me a liar, without ANY evidence. I think calling someone a liar, without any evidence, is very "abusive, dishonest and aggressive". I don't really care if you comment again, because (as I said before) you don't know what the heck you're talking about. You change your mind as you go along and you don't read what I write. I don't appreciate you saying I'm "lying" when I haven't told a single lie. The only person who has made things up, is you.

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Is he still alive?I could use his name and address along with the other guy who exposed his STEP daughter.There are members of at least 3 1%er bike clubs that would really like to meet them.

May have your step fathers adress? I would like to slowly cut off his hands if you wouldent mind. What he did to you was crewel torcher. I think he just wanted to touch you pervertedly and humiliate you. He had no right to do that :/ I don't care if u were dressed like a hooker flashing people (which he probably completely lied about and took a small fact and changed it to a twisted lie) I feel compleatly sorry for you

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It was not necessary and it was wrong, that you got caned naked in front of strangers.<br />
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I can understand that you have been embarrassed and felt degraded not only because strangers saw as you got caned on your bare buttocks but also because you had to remove your bra, and because your boobs bounced and jiggled to the amusement of spectators as you were spanked.

Sky, you write with feeling and maturity about your situation. We did not spank our kids any more by your age and it was never bare bottom. I think that Becky had a much tougher time as her stepdad's motives were questionable

hi, im skyyler and i read all of what is here. I get spanked by my dad and i have to pull my pants down and underwear to. i am 13. nothin else comes off ever jus those. but i get spanked in his office at home but i also get spanked where ever sometimes and i have a younger brother 2 he is 3 years younger. my dad says things kinda like your step dad did. like "why are you getting this spanking" or like"what happens when you hit your brother?" and like "what kind of spanking do you get?" and I have to answer him. if I fight then I get either more spanks or if i disobey during me getting spanked really bad i will get another spanking before bed. I do love my dad. He doesn't hurt me bad bad. i mean the spanking hurts but he doesn't leave marks or nothing. well i guess i jus wanted to say that..i feel like what you wrote ..i didn't before to bad because i always got spanked this way but now i do. thank u 4 writting what u did. im glad that you dont get spanked anymore . i have a lonnnnnng way to go...before i move out. i dont mean to make my dad sound bad because he is not. but well i duno what i mean..just i feel the same way i guess about having to pull my pants an everything down and people see and my dad. *hugs* from Skyyler

Thank you very much Becky for the story and the discussion and you write very well and I agree with reggiefane. Also it is hard to understand people who seem to think that everything is a choice and I would think that after a while your hands are going to go wherever they can whether you like it or not.<br />
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Any one else think so?

You write extremely well and with insight of this very difficult time for you. While I do not condone your stepfather's use of public spanking and nudity, I do feel that CP is sometimes appropriate, though as parents we permitted a la<x>yer of clothing. It is good that your mother stood by you to a degree. I encounter families where I am sure the stepdad is enjoying the spanking of a nubile teen girl and the wife plays along or turns a blind eye.

So you were acting out and got spanked and it actually worked for a while till your mother interfered. Maybe if you stopped fighting it you would be a better person today and the shame would be constructive. <br />
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Your choice.

Hi, Brian. My ''choice''? I didn't have a choice. I was hauled over his lap suddenly and the spanking began. If you're saying that my exposure and shame and spanking immediately stopped me from talking back at the moment, well then of course it 'worked' in that sense. But do you feel my stepdad was justified in doing what he did? Can't you understand the incredible sense of embarrassment I felt at 16-years old (closer to 17 than 16), not only being essentially naked over his lap but all of that happening in front of my younger brother and his friend? (not to even mention the subsequent spankings I received after that one). And even if you think my spanking was deserved, what about my stepdad removing my bikini top (made topless in subsequent spankings too) because it 'encouraged' me to put my hands and arms elsewhere than interfering with the spanking, even though covering myself throughout the pain of a spanking was impossible?

You knew what would happen if you misbehaved, you misbehaved and you got spanked. Your choice. Simple lesson.

Did your stepfather have a reason to be concerned about your behavior? Did talking to you or grounding you work? Was this spanking really just about how you dressed or about how you acted. The rest of your family believed him when he said you were running around naked. They obviously had a reason for believing you might be doing something like that.

What's the big deal about your bikini top coming off? If you were bottomless then what was on display there was a lot more embarrassing, especially if your younger brother and his friend were behind you. Unless for some reason you were more embarrassed about your breasts. And being topless was your choice too. If you kept your hands to yourself your breasts would stay covered. Simple lesson too.

You were 16 and out of control. What was your stepfather supposed to do to bring you into line?

Hi, Brian. Thank you for your response. I'll try to address your points. This was the first real full-blown spanking my stepdad had given me. Sure, he made threats before, some even resulted in the beginnings of a couple of spankings. As for 'grounding', yes, I had been grounded by my my mom and him for some stuff but I wasn't much of a trouble maker at home. My younger brother got many spankings, usually pants down (and many times on his bare butt). My older brother was rarely spanked. First of all, this first day re: my bikini. There was essentially no warning. I had just showed my mom the bikini and then walked from the kitchen into the living room to head back upstairs to change; she was OK with it (my mom was heading out to shop; I was lucky she came back to get something and interrupted what surely would have been a longer spanking). I did not know my stepdad and the boys had gotten back home. He was incensed that I intended to wear it to the beach the following weekend. We exchanged words, the argument escalated and before I knew it he grabbed me and pulled me over his lap right in front of my younger brother and his friend (a 12-year old boy I regularly babysat and who was a son of a good friend of my mom's - can you now see how even MORE mortifying this all was?). And even though it was a g-string thong tie bikini bottom, he untied it and pulled it down and out of my butt crack. Why do you say that being topless was my ''choice"? My stepdad undid my bikini top without any real warning because I was reaching back as he was spanking me. And even after I belated tried to put my one free hand up in front of my bare breasts (my stepdad held my other arm behind my back), it was pretty much impossible to keep my breasts covered as my bare butt was being spanked quite hard. So basically I was reduced to a crying, naked jiggling spectacle. I know he was within his 'technically' legal rights to spank me and that I, as a minor, had no 'technically' legal right to remain clothed during spankings (the judge ruled later that that one and subsequent spankings I received 'did not come close' to meeting the threshold for physical abuse; nor was there any sexual abuse). But still. Why do you think such embarrassment was justified? For being 'out of control' in what way? My choice of clothes? Really? As for the following weekend, when I got spanked again in front of my younger brother and later that night in front of everyone, I wasn't ''running around naked.' I was wearing a towel when my friend Ashley drove me home (I didn't think my stepdad would insist on seeing whether I was wearing the bikini under it and thought he'd believe me that I was naked underneath it, which I was). That night when I got the second spanking of that day, my stepdad purposely distorted the context of why I was only wearing a towel to embarrass me further and to justify my spanking to everyone. And of course it was MORE embarrassing being topless, too. In other words, that increased my embarrassment.

Your story is confusing about happened when, but you got spanked more than once, more than once your top got untied and you were given a choice between covering your breasts or covering your butt. You chose to interfere with the spanking and cover your butt. Otherwise you wouldn't have been exposed. After the first spanking you knew what would happen and did it anyway. If being topless was really that much more embarrassing why didn't you just keep your hands in place.

Looking at your profile you have a bunch of stories about being caught naked. One story is about getting caught naked having sex with some guy in a car. I can see what kind of conclusions your stepfather might have jumped to if you came home naked except for a towel.

If you had such a high threshold for embarrassment, going to the beach in a thong that left your butt out there, the spanking had to be equally more embarrassing so you would learn to keep your clothes on and stop messing around.

My stepdad didn't find out about that incident with my boyfriend until during the divorce. Of course when did, he made sure to embarrass me and told all his family about it, how I was a 'SL..' and that if it had been up to him, he'd have given me a spanking right there on my bare *** in front of that assistant principal, my boyfriend and his parents. (Thankfully, that night, my mom was able to come and pick me up.) Not sure exactly what ''equally more embarrassing.'' Bit of an oxymoron, don't you think? OK, I get it. But don't you understand there's a bit of a difference between going to the beach in a bikini with my girlfriends, even the more revealing one I was wearing, and getting spanked the way I was? And I took off the bikini and wore the towel home only instead of regular clothes because my friend Ashley and I rushed out from my house quickly on the way to the lake when we saw my younger brother walking down the street and I didn't want him to see me in that bikini and tattle to our stepdad. Then, both Ashley and I thought we had put the bag with my clothes in her car - when neither of us had done so. Which also lead to the embarrassing situation with the highway officer when we got pulled over. Later, without anything to wear for the drive home - either the bikini, towel, both or neither - I decided that rather than walk in the house wearing the bikini and risking that my stepdad would see me in it, I'd just wear only the towel and say I didn't want to get Ashley's new car dirty from the sand &amp; wetness. I thought he'd believe and respect the fact I was naked under the towel instead of thinking the towel was hiding the bikini (which I told him I 'accidentally' forgot in Ashley's car). When he demanded to see my tan lines, an argument ensured and when I told him he could kiss my ***, I ended up over his lap sans the towel.

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HI, Pyramania,<br />
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No, I don't resent Bobby's attitude that night. It was embarrassing at the time, but it was my stepdad's fault for telling him things out of context. Once my mom told him the whole story what had really happened that day and during the week before and he heard what Kris (now my sister-in-law) had to say from what I eventually told her, he apologized. It's not something we've talking about much, him probably feeling a bit awkward about it all and me obviously being quite embarrassed about it. Eventually he got on Matt's case for enjoying my spankings too much.<br />
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Yes, Bobby pretty much stayed out of trouble. But he was also smart enough to stay out of the house more. Between ba<x>seball and his other school activities, dating and college prep and that summer getting ready to start college, I don't think he really realized just how much worse our stepdad was getting over the years.

It sounds like you have a loving family, except for your horrible ex-stepfather who is no longer part of it.

Becky, you wrote that your older brother Bobby snorted when he saw you being spanked nude, and looked at you with disapproval as your stepfather told him and the others why you were being spanked. Do you think Bobby should have done more to protect you and Matt from your ex-stepfather? Did you resent his apparent lack of sympathy for you? Have you and Bobby talked about this or is it a subject that you both avoid?<br />
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As the oldest of five siblings I'm not sure what I would have done if my younger brothers and sister had been spanked the way you were spanked. Bobby reminds me of myself in some ways, like getting good grades and staying out of trouble.

Dear Becky:<br />
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I did not think that either a bikini or a bra was so important to start with and there must be more than a million fellow Americans who would just as soon string me up if I don’t back up their drinking age though they would hardly admit it and after they already put me out on the street for going according to patriarchs and wise men instead of markets and liars I see that over here at the Romero thread the big deal seems to be spankings etiquette as if it may as well deserve to have a partridge and a pear tree. Well OK if that is going to be the curriculum then I tend to think that your stepdad had been cheating a little bit when he had been dickering with your bra since that fashion of it is getting too much like ***** poker and besides that it is hard to believe that all of this business about a bra would keep working for very long anyway. And Becky I wouldn’t have thought that even a nun would be paying so much attention to a bra if she was getting a parental controls spanking like that. And who are you? Ahh…well as far as I can tell it would fit right in with your image if you had even gone topless to the lake and besides that I tend to think that if your stepdad had a couch in the living room then probably he could have gotten your left elbow stuck over close to it somehow if he had wanted to. <br />
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Before any such particulars and apart from whatever living room or whatever mortgage behind it I would have thought that the tempertantrums that may as well deserve to have your forty two cousins find out are probably like if it were over the lap for a small child and maybe one hand behind your back for if you’re more than about six years old or so and probably over one knee also close to some obstruction to get your elbow stuck over there somewhere for people who are much more than about five feet tall. Or something like that. And people who are more than about seven and a half feet tall would seem to be probably unelectable since what do they know and in any case I noticed that the world record on it seems to be Robert Wadlow who could never have stayed in charge of anything for very long since by the time that he grew up he became more than eight foot eleven and how dumb can you get and that one who went to his reward in 1940 is documented some in one of the Guiness Books of World Records.<br />
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In any case I myself am about 5’11 and if the question was whether a teenage girl should get a spanking somehow for if she keeps going around too sluttish styled when the parental controls parent thinks that it belongs more chastity styled then I would think that there are probably a lot of teenage girls who would really deserve it that way for a last resort and others who would not. And now that I think of it there was a girl back at college who once got a parental controls spanking before then for going around in her birthday suit and if I remember right she must have been sixteen years old and I had the impression that she had also been a bit hippied up at the time notwithstanding that from the way that she talked about it later at the sexuality colloquium you would think that it was probably OK anyway. And another one from back at high school used to go around rather sluttish styled sometimes and I had the impression that the most that her parents ever cracked down on it was a lot short of a spanking. And that one had had the most straight laced parental controls parents that you ever heard of and they used to drive according to the speed limit all the time and like a lie had never crossed the lips of the patriarchs the needle had never been above the speed limit.<br />
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Judging from the tales on the boyish website for spanking the female celebrities I would think that Hillary Clinton would have very probably gotten a spanking when she was sixteen years old if she had gone over to the lake in a bikini after daddy said no and also I tend to imagine that probably by now she would have to be playing ***** poker somewhere before she could maybe deserve a little bit of a spanking somehow maybe? But if the question was whether you should now go to the beach in a one piece since you already said sorry sorry and promise promise a long time ago or whether everyone should throw away their parental controls lessons and decide for themselves after they go out on their own as they call it then I tend to think that probably both theories have some element of truth in them. And also I would think that if you have accomplished much with your boyfriend then you would probably deserve to share the say so on it with him some or else if it is nothing of the kind then that would seem to be like getting promiscuous as they call it.<br />
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If the question were whatever is no fair then I would tend to think that by the time you get over it it may as well graduate up to some big deal about hugs and kisses and things of the sort like the stuff that David has asked about and if sometimes the more important question has been whatever is crime then at that point what would really be no fair is to blur it up a lot as if you would be judge the wrong way when really there are a lot of no good cheats who would escape such a judgment while by comparison King David himself was a criminal. And for those who will assume that the bible must be some book about Prince Charming its over at II Samuel chapter twelve. Roman Bible: II Kings, 12; Jewish Bible, Jewish Publication Society: IISamuel, 12. <br />
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But Becky and quite apart from the fact that crime and punishment are not really value judgments nor would they tell us anything at all about the value of any parental controls lessons nor the standing of any parents I tend to think that your spankings would have been entirely legitimate if your stepdad had not been pushing you into lying about it and also the infractions do not seem to be on the criminal side of the line since all of this business about a bikini is trivial and that kind of stuff has been known for example to the Supreme Court of Canada which seems to be better qualified than the other big deal which has its marbles on the other side of the boarder. But if it were a question of whether your ex-stepdad is very high among spankings teachers then apart from any consideration for marbles I tend to think that the other parent that you mentioned who used to do your roommate would probably measure out better since probably that one would have left out the four letter words part of it for example.<br />
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Also these whining and complaining groups seem to get involved with whole bunch of other important issues but as far as I can tell no one seems to think that I am supposed to be teacher around here very much anyway. Except that it became that way some over at the other thread about KellyAdams who said that I had understood better than one of the other ones who is younger (and also that one had been more heated up after Kelly who got a spanking on it had first been sticking her tongue out at the whole world a lot) but over there you had been more of a teacher than I was.

Hey, Churchward, I think you need to ease up on the drugs. Just saying.

Contrary to what you have suggested in your July 1 post I don’t believe that you had had any business trying to protect your younger brother by arguing with your step dad about it. Your mistake had been that you had started that, not that you had discontinued it when you were going to be next.

Of course it was Becky's business whether her younger brother was abused or not, but there really wasn't much she could have done about it since her stepfather was presumably much bigger and stronger than she was. The person who should have spoken up sooner was Becky's mother.

Pyramania: but of course! And big sister Becky should have helped to cover up her little brother if she could. Like he did for her. Also I had the impression that maybe she had once rather liked it that her little brother got spanked...ahh...and didn't she also watch it...but I don't think that big sister would be very guilty for believing it as a child since really stepdady had not been so bad anyway...and besides that her little brother had also started out by believing it on her.

I could and SHOULD have spoken up more. One time when I finally did, my stepdad told me to shut up or I'd be next. I still feel guilty that I didn't continue to protest. I'm quite sure I would have ended up spanked and I knew so then - which is why I took the cowardly way out and stopped protesting. But I was wrong. I should have still protested even though it surely would have ended up with me spanked and humiliated. Why? Because at least on that day, for that moment, it would have been me suffering instead of my kid brother.

Yes, Churchward. When I was younger I giggled or laughed more than a couple times or teased my kid brother that he got spanked, that his pants came down, etc. But as a teenager, my attitude had changed as I realized how badly my brother was being treated. And that's something I still feel bad about. That I was at an age where I knew I could have taken the blame for some things for Matt or purposely spoke up and argued with my stepdad to the point where I would have ended up the one spanked instead of my brother. (1) it would have served me right for my earlier teasing, (2) would have made my brother feel I was doing what I should have - protected him, (3) and maybe then while I was being exposed and totally humiliated in front of my younger brother, he wouldn't have felt as though I was finally getting what I deserved when I ultimately did get spanked bare-bottomed and naked in front of him when I was 16. Plus, maybe if I had started being spanked in that manner a few years earlier, my mom might have divorced him sooner. If not, then at least for a few years my brother wouldn't have felt that he was alone in his suffering.

Well at least you are a very thoughtful person and thanks for all the attention. I will have to get back to all of this business about your protective role later. I'm affraid that I don't have time right now.

As far as I can remember the first time that I ever backed up any spanking was when I got over to the thread on I Enjoyed Watching where KellyAdams got caught and until I had been finding out about parental controls stuff from all of these reports on EP I had never backed up any drinking age either. But then I started to think that it is probably OK in some small towns around here and then I went over and applied at various supermarkets where everyone else has been doing it and by now it seems that it changes around a lot. I would most trust it around some bunch of tamed down religious people who dress up conformism styled like the Mennonites and the least among those who go around in the fashion of all Chiefs and no Indians when what they really are is a conspiracy against the people who made the shirts on their backs and they are like a Sundays School that would like to make all the children to each take a turn to dress up and play Pharaoh like what it says in the Sunday School teacher’s guide (1) when really if they were as disentitled as Dennis the Menace who must have sugared the gas tank yesterday then the most that they would owe us is to shush up and learn our teachings. Not to dress up and play Pharaoh and by now I would more nearly trust the parental controls in Shangai than I would in New York if those were the two choices.

In any case I had the impression that it is probably not uncommon for kids to back up each other’s spankings except that probably you aren’t supposed to tattle like a grownup unless maybe if you’re the babysitter and I had the impression that it is usually OK somehow. If your little brother had been spanked for cross dressing like the naughty boy in the novel by Keyes (2) then I would think that you could have backed up your stepdad on it without mistreating your little brother at all. Of course that would not seem to stay so good in the case where the parent is cheating a lot and then I would think that probably a protective big sister will deserve to cover up a lot on whatever naughty things her little brother has been up to…OK if it was very bad and if also the little bother was coming home after his curfew then maybe the protective big sister deserves to come home after her curfew too.

So far the most that we seem to agree on is that your stepdad had been mean to your little brother and that you had owed him a special consideration for that. It is hard to believe that you had really deserved to harass you stepdad in any way.

Notes: (1): Well the leader’s guide actually does suggest that you should get them to dress up and play Pharaoh and also you’re supposed to get them to make the ten commandments out of playdoh and this kind of schooling goes according to the Sunday School books company on West 31st street. Actually my copy of it is from 1984 but even so I still hesitate to tell everyone who has been in on this in any particulars. (2): The naughty boy had gotten dreamish headed around the hamper and then he dressed up like Norma to make believe that he was Norma and then he got caught. Flowers For Algernon, Bantam Books, 216 pages, p. 60.

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I am a parent and apart from smacking my children when younger between ages of maybe 2-6 and only once if threat not worked and then on buttock/top of leg and usually over clothes have found that there are other punishments that can be used or better still encourage self discipline by using a reward system it works as well and does NOT Harm any one.ANY Parent who resorts to physically abusing a child is in need of desperate child care classes.

I thought that I had it bad when my drunk mother refused to let me wear underwear in order to beat me "better", but this entire line is just sick. My girls never got more than a swat from either me or their step-dad. You simply cannot beat someone into good behavior. You might break their spirit, but what good is that?

Well if your mother had not interfered then I would think that your big deal about your bra would have surely gotten to the end of its rope at one point or another. Am I missing something? Where I came from it would be easier to swim under water until your dead than to keep your hands wherever you would like them during your lesson.

Becky,<br />
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As a teenager and young adult, I had to bare my *** and grab the front legs of a chair in the family room. My mom would bruise and blister my bare butt with the paddle. It didn't matter who was around.

I think it's terrible that some people seem to think that bare bottom or nude spanking is an acceptable punishment for children or teenagers. This should be illegal, and the perpetrators should go to jail. One of the worst things about Becky's story is that the judge said it was O.K. for her stepfather to punish her that way. She was victimized by the legal system which failed to protect her as well as by her stepfather.<br />
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Like Becky I grew up in the Midwest, but we moved away when I was eight. My parents did spank us but it was always over our clothes. It would have been unthinkable for them to humiliate my siblings and me the way Becky was humiliated. I don't know of any of my friends who were punished like that, either. I'm not sure how common it was then (1960s) or now.

While bare bottom spankings are thankfully not too commonplace anymore, it happens more than people think. There's a horrible stigma to it. Other than to close friends and family members, I wouldn't talk about it. I sure didn't want classmates to know my stepdad even SAW me nude, let alone spanked me with me that way. As for the legal system? Pffft! Just in the past 6 or 7 years or so, a judge in Ohio ruled it was OK for a man to spank a teenage girl who he was babysitting on her bare bottom. A Texas judge ordered a father to paddle his teenage daughter in the court room. And a second grader's aunt marched into her nephew's classroom, pulled down his pants and underwear and spanked his bare bottom in front of whole class. The sad part is what gets reported is just the tip of the iceberg.

Yes I also noticed the courtroom "spankings" on the corpun website and really judges who put "spankings" in a courtroom are broadening out the definition too much. Also I would think that probably it is done more often than it gets in the newspaper.

Well you did deserve that spanking you were the one who decided to block the swats so it was your fault he removed the bra and you were the one who decided to misbehave

Did she deserve it? You mean the first one that we hear about where it is in front of both of her brothers and one of their girlfriends and and a couple of other people from college? Why did she deserve that? Because she had a bikini or what?

Actually I did not get spanked like that I got spanked with my pants on with a hand

Oh with the pants on huh? I wonder if that is maybe one of the reasons why you would think that Becky must have "decided" to make a fuss about it?

wolf1956: well apart from the fact that you seem to have the wrong guy I think it would be really unfortunate if anyone hurt Becky's ex-stepdad. And maybe she herself did not mean it that way when she posted her report? Also I did not spank Becky and apart from being a taxpayer I had nothing to do with it and also I did not enjoy reading the story about it.

wow george sounds like your a sick ***** and enjoyed the spankin, if i were your neighbor i would kick your *** on the front lawn so everyone can see..count on that ****..dont ever put your hands on that child again ..your going to get yours my friend, watch and see when she comes to you with some dude thats 6ft tall and 230lbs like me and rips your skin off and use it for a rubber.

I’m Sorry that your spanking went over to any conversation during it on whether you were going to be dressing properly or running out of the house.<br />
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But apart from that I tend to think that if a real one is over where after that you would more nearly deserve to either eat your spinach or else no dessert then the sort of doings that tend to happen in prisons in Syria are probably fake spankings though they forgot the spanking part of it and some other people have been faking it the other way like where it has handcuffs and a password over it like if it were according to the directions in the adult magazine from over in Florida somewhere. And that’s what most of those PhD people deserve to do. And your stepfather’s way is yet another thing and among those sorts of things that are over where it would seem to be probably illegal to sell photographs of it at a *********** store the ones that are more OK would seem to be also a thing of a kind.<br />
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In some places you would get the impression that maybe crimes are not spankings (and if I ever got your kind of a lesson in a blind alley somewhere and then if next it had to become a spanking for a police report on it then I would probably remind the officer at the desk that maybe he doesn’t want that character on the loose either) but also I noticed that if spankings were going to become too much of a matter of opinion then everyone could get out from under it and already there are some people who have it so far from the fashions of any Ann Landers that their kind of it would send the police theirselves to bed from if they had to see the corpus delicti of it.<br />
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Therefore spankings are probably known to the schoolhouse and the supermarket, quite apart from any long story about it, or whether it would still look like a spanking so much if you got it all involved with a psychoanalytic office somewhere, and for example if your mother had slapped you on the seat of the pants more than once from if you had climbed over the fence and went into the street when you were three years old then that would seem to be probably a spanking. If also before then you used to get sent to police up your room and to also apply for inspection on it where by then you would maybe get to the count of ten to find out what’s still wrong with it then by the time that you are maybe going to impeach the spanking label on all your parental controls you would seem to be getting over to a secondary dialect. <br />
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For example Jenny has been spanked up until the age of twelve and if next the question was whether that sort of a person deserves to wear a bikini since who does she think she is anyway then I would think that it would hardly be consequential that it was really her sister Kelly who had put the loot in her room to start with. To the contrary and quite apart from all longer stories about it it was actually Jenny who got it and that night it was so perfect that she even had 2 friends around and she was punished in front of them and jeans down and knickers down and she howled and pleaded and then the spanking kept going anyway and then she got sent to bed with her derriere accordingly and also her friends got sent home and also she couldn’t prove anything and no one believed her. And what a result! And now for purposes of either bikini or otherwise or however she really belongs I would think that she may as well just forget about all of these picky distinctions about whether her mother had spanked the wrong one since it was her sister who did it and she may as well keep it up like that for after she gets out on her own as they call it and for the purposes of those who are eavesdropping I am referring to the reports on it from over at the group I Saw Someone Get Spanked #1652192 posted July 5, 2011 “I Enjoyed Watching.” KellyAdams and numerous comments by various contributors. <br />
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But if sometimes it comes up to such a question as however was it ever supposed to go anyway then I would tend to think that for example if somewhere else it went over to the kind that is only for gentlepeople instead of all of this other business where it gets extended over to unruly people and to everyone then maybe you could really deserve to get questioned on whether it would seem to stay OK all the time or whether it might go around some during it? If also it was a little bit standardized on who would seem to deserve it instead of too much like if it were supposed to be a matter of taste then I would think that such a conversation for when you’re getting your derriere done could probably get humiliating as you call it. For all I know maybe you could also deserve to talk about it some more for if you changed your mind on it too fast since if it were from because you were naughty then maybe it would get OK again after some more of it and if also it went over to no no and stop it then maybe you aren’t so much like the Governor anyway? If you were then you would seem to deserve to get it more parental controls fixated and if instead the reason why you don’t go parading around in public with pigtails is from because you are hiding it then also you don’t deserve to rebuild the transmission when no one is looking. Or probably not anyway. Unless maybe if that were a hole in it somewhere and what fits the image more is like if you deserved to whitewash the picket fence and then someone else goes over to make sure on whether you also did it over close to the tree where that part of it doesn’t show before you get any credit on it and before then there were mommies and daddies and houses and marriages and farms and markets and weddings where there came some tall tale about water and wine and the religion authorities used to take up collections for everyone to condescend down to butter it up for the widows and orphans.<br />
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If it were like putting an adult magazine in a nursery school instead of all of this other business about some Story About Ping then by the time it gets all done it would seem to be the orphans who should make the lullabies for the people who have mommies and daddies and the land where there is a famine to collect up some alms for the place that has its potatoes growing. If it were like sending the captives to some parental controls counselor who would like to keep talking about it for as long as he can while the little ones had their real parents left out of it then I would think that by the time that it gets all done the whole bunch of them will deserve to get about ten feet tall. If instead it was like the first king of Israel then as far as I can tell its schoolhouse is not progressive education as they call it like with all of this nonsense about a children’s government which used to be up and about some from over around in the 1960s anyway and I don’t know what became of it and also its supermarket is over at some place where if maybe they back up the drinking age over there then it wasn’t from because some welfare department was going to make them polish the parking meters somewhere else if they didn’t. It does not seem to be over at the dormitory and its teachers are not PhDs and otherwise the most that I know about it is that the place of the kind had been over at Bogota New Jersey in 1969 where it had copper things in the kitchen and coffee at breakfast and the next door neighbors had probably had it parental controls fixated for theirs but when the other minor got caught it went over to where you get a firm lesson on it in the kitchen and by the time that it got all finished you would get the impression that the next time that Lena gets arrested her mother better not cry in front of the police again or else Lena is going to keep up being pouty for a long time. And also if it had been spanking in the other sense then it would have been done the other way around like how its supposed to but Lena had invented this other fashion of it where over there you exclude the parent from the table where the minors smoke a bunch of cigarettes while they talk about her behind her back right in front of her and then the parent gets all shushed up like a waitress who keeps up trying to earn her way back up gain since she had cried in front of the police when she had been bailing Lena out of jail and then when it came up to the fessing and promising part of it she had watered it down a little bit by pointing out that Lena has never walked in her moccasins and then Lena gets up close to the edge of her patience on all of this. And Lena’s mother who probably paid for the wine and the rent over there had a job as they call it and she used to go over to Paramus all the time for whatever it was at some place called Dialog Incorporated. <br />
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Perhaps another important matter of concern has been whether your stepfather had been out of line with the enlightenment some and has all of this business about everyone gets their own opinion been getting carried too far and for some reason I had the impression that a person who really deserves to talk in riddles a lot did not get a spanking yesterday and also if I started getting very involved with the enlightenment then I would write a very long comment. Instead and apart from the finer points of it your stepfather should not have been interrogating you during your spanking. Also I have noticed that spankings do not seem to have any monopoly on the ways that people get unopinionated and as far as I can tell Simon and Garfunkel had probably not been over to any nightclub that deserves such a name as Bonage à Go Go (but over at Kathy’s Song the only tru- oo-ooth he know-o-ows is you).<br />
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My own parental controls spankings had more in common with yours than what my parents would want to see posted on the internet and maybe one of the differences between us is that when I was about to put it out like you I had told them so. And I wasn’t trying to get them and instead I had noticed that a bunch of stuff about how everyone else and the whole world is wrong is not very much of a spankings record by comparison. If it were one or the other then I would think that the valuable spankings records are the reports from the parents and teachers and not complainish remarks from those who more nearly deserve to get sent back over to the carwash in Brooklyn some more (actually it was not my parents but more nearly a teacher at a seminary who had sent me over to the car wash in Brooklyn but the final say so on all of this was the Stanley Employment Agency which used to be down close to the World Trade Center) and then I was really surprised when my parents didn’t seem to still hold to their lessons and also they don’t want to be remembered that way. And now the discipline report from my parents is that my father used to lie down on the floor and that we children used to play backhoe. And for the minority opinion from the one who more nearly deserves to get sent back over to the car wash in Brooklyn for example my parents had put three things on the counter and one for each child and then they used to put demerits in them for maybe if we were late to school and such and then we used to do the laundry and fold it up very sissy to earn our demerits back out again but for some reason my parents didn’t seem to still like it that way any more after a long time and then one day all their demerits went back into their jar when they weren’t looking. <br />
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And also their things on the counter didn’t seem to make the kitchen get any more nearly like a hotel with a swimming pool in it anyway and yet apart from any big deal about all their demerits (and I don’t know where they got all those demerits anyway and they looked kind of like poker chips) I admire you and someone had to do it and I don’t think that George Washington would have recommended your stepfather’s kind of spanking (but if George Washington had been in charge then probably you get a spanking somehow what with all of this business about a bikini). And also and without prejudice to any bikini we have seen some other things rather differently and maybe one of the places where we disagree is whether a person who really deserves to be treated like a parent like with the high place and the respect that you’re supposed to pay to a parent is one who has earned it? <br />
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And also whether anyone could have ever earned it?<br />
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Postsc<x>ript: It seems to me that your ex-stepfather (and oh come on Becky that sounds disrespectful) is not really bad enough to even be finished and it would seem to be an understatement to say that if the two of you found some occasion to sit down and talk about recent developments then between the two of you it is your ex who would more nearly deserve the floor. Also you don’t seem to be spanking allowed over there any more unless maybe if it were too much like if you were throwing eggs at him for example but if maybe there had been a time when it would have been correct for more educational purposes or for those that would seem to have better hopes for the future like for if you had been naughty a long time ago then I would think that now after you have nearly ******** him in public you could probably water it down some by at least telling him that. And also if you could find some particulars on how you would have deserved to be spanked and for what (like what if for getting in trouble at school and what if for truancy and what if for drinking and what if for smoking and what if for shoplifting and what if for putting graffiti in the public hallway or for if you had lived in an apartment for example and what if for drawing with crayons on the wall in the other hallway or maybe in the bedroom and what if you were supposed to have a bedtime or a curfew or how bout if you had come home very late after your curfew and what if you had also told him to cool his pipes and what if you had been parading around in the low morals neighborhood where they have the outlaws when fully dressed from the knees down and etc.) then I would think that you could have a much better spankings record by adding that more embarrassing part of it and posting it right here on EP. <br />
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For example by comparison my parental controls spankings had already soured out from before I went to nursery school and I don’t see how it could have ever become OK again at home since except for one occasion which seems to be probably from because I had been naughty at school where I put a whole bunch of I Must Nots on the blackboard all of my spankings had been from because I had tried to punch him in the mouth when I was two years old from because he had started it by spanking me for telling him to keep him hands to himself and also the real spankings teacher of the family had been my mother’s father and not some kid from over at the ba<x>sement at some military academy somewhere and yet when I try and do it the other way it seems that for example my father would probably have spanked me if I had put graffiti in the public hallway and OK if I had done that for example then it would have been more nearly correct. And actually it is my father who would have more likely done such a thing between the two of us but he would not have done it either and also I noticed that everyone else seemed to think that he was supposed to be a parental controls parent and later when I tried to wean the babysitter she kept up holding to parental controls anyway as if the jury already came in on it a long time ago and eventually she was going to spank on the next time that my bedtime goes away again. <br />
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And also there was nothing wrong with the sitter who must have been about eighteen years old and besides that she was cute and the last time that I saw her she was in the living room where she had been reading a book of some sort.

@Churchward: LOLWUT?

Your step dad sounds sick. I am so sorry you had to go through this, It is not your fault. Kris sounds nice.I hope you are good friends.<br />
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What a horrible experience. I was raised by a single mom. Always felt there was something missing in my life because I didn't have a dad. Guess I was lucky not to have an ******* step dad like you had. I know your story happened a few years ago but my heart still goes out to you.

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When the parents have good parentings skill, kids shouldn't get anymore corporal punishment very earlier. Did I ever spank my dog? Yet he is easily trained and obedient. <br />
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Some parents are just insufferable, and that's why Becky had to fight back. Her stepdad had been around since she was like 1 or something if memory serves. He should have plenty of time to win the affection and respect from Becky.<br />
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Not all adults are obeyable. They can be real bad examples as someone you don't want to grow out to be. Many of them are mentally distressing to those near them, so you can't help but have to get angry. Imagine someone you have to live with beckering you day and night, what would you do? Can you keep up the smiles and be nice all the time? If he is an authority there is always excuse to spank you or something.

Hi Becky, I'm in agreement with Virago. I also think that spankings should be done in private except when siblings are held accountable for the same offense. <br />
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Nobody has said this that I read but I don't think it was your stepfather's place to spank or discipline you at all and especially without your mother's consent. That having been said it seems clear that you needed discipline and probably much earlier than your 16th year. Where was your mom when you were bratting all of those years? My mom would have had no apprehension about putting you over her knee and spanking your bare bottom just as hard as your stepdad did if you lived with our family. She died when I was 12 but spanked my 2 sisters and I often and hard up until then. I'm sorry that you suffered the abuse, which is what it was. It's too bad you mom didn't decide to be a mom long before this particular incident happened. I'm just sayin.......

From the way that badgretchen talks I would think that there are evidently some houses where even hard parental controls spankings are no mistreatment at all. Also her image of all of this Romero business does not seem to be very far off and I had the impression that stacygirl who is over at another one of these spankings groups is the one who was all tamed down like a Cinderalla while Miss Romero tends to sound like she had been kind of willful-styled and not very disciplined? And both of us are backing her up some that her spankings had not been correct and maybe the stepfather had not been the person for it and now Becky should tell us whether she had been a brat like how Gretchen has seen it? And if so then when did that start and wherever did she get disciplined anyway and who was the teacher?

You had a strong will to get to your goal.<br />
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I still get caned and belted and I accept to get spanked if I deserve it. <br />
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I don´t have a reason to provoke such humiliations.<br />
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... and it would be too embarrassing and humiliating for me. I would die.

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The difference is that she wanted to provoke her stepfather, to humiliate her even more because she wanted to get rid of him. She reached the goal and took the humiliation to purchase. Perhaps she has had even enjoyed it!?<br />
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Don't blame the mugger for kicking you in the face. It was your decision for him to kick you in the face, if you have provoked the situation, to bring him into prison.

canestern: your reasoning seems to have a hole in its head somewhere.

I agree to CATS merlin.<br />
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If you were beaten naked in front of strange boys and girls it must been humiliating for you.<br />
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But you've confirmed to your stepfather, that you knew that your bra will be removed and you must show your naked boobs, if you do not behave while being spanked.<br />
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Still, you decided to show yourself completely naked by show your bare bottom, your public hair at your front side and your bared boobs.<br />
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You'll have to have really enjoyed to get humiliated in front of all present.

Being in her position I would have felt humiliated but not sexually aroused.<br />
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I often dreamed of it, even when I was young, but it never happened to me in this humiliating manner.

It has been always your choice to accept your punishment and not blocking the swats by your hands or your bra gets removed and you show bare boobs to everybody who is witnessing your punishment.<br />
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You knew you had the choice, but you still decided that all the boys should see your boobs. Don´t blame somebody else. It has been your decision and you enjoyed it.

So if you get mugged and try to hold on to your wallet, it's your decision to get kicked in the face.

Don't blame the mugger for kicking you in the face. It was your decision for him to kick you in the face.

CATSmerlin: OK your comment is very funny. If it were supposed to be a lampoon then it would be a good one. But for some reason it sounds like you didn't mean it that way?

If you think that you could keep your hands wherever you would like when you get it then I would think that either you didn't get it that way or else you don't remember it so good.

so if your getting hit in the face and you put your arms up to protect it and then you get hit in the stomach its your fault for not protecting it

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Hey Becky,<br />
So I guess the forums dead. Happened upon this story and can understand all your pent up anger and humilation over the years. This is extremely embarrassing! I could not even imagine what it felt like? Thankfully I was never spanked in front of my sisters....Omg! Take care.<br />
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Dear Becky, <br />
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If I become a step-dad one day and have someone like you as my daughter, I will only pray for you and earn your love and respect, though I don't know if that would ever work. <br />
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Poor girl. I know spanking a young girl or seeing a young girl who get punished that way can be kinky, but the reality is that the girl will either get addicted to pains and humiliation and become vulnerable to addictions such as SM or dominating men, or she would be damaged like what you said happened to you.<br />
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The last time I read your story was your grade 1 diaper story. <br />
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With a lot more divorces happening these days, there are more single parent and step dad, and of course some combo would be hot-daughter with stranger step dad. I hope and pray that the more children will find protection and happiness instead of something like what you experienced.<br />
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Now with some training people can train a dog very well without ever hitting it, so why would they need to spank a human child regularly? (though I think a human person can exercise free will to become evil, and in that case a spanking maybe needed)<br />
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REPEAT POSTING FROM ANGIE'S THREAD:<br />
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Becky - I spent an emotional 35 mins reading your huge summary of the abuse (my considered view) at the hands of your stepfather. In your case, it was not firm discipline adminstered by a loving parent but was abusive controlling behaviour from a bully who possibly didn't like you (you used the word 'hate'). I've got to say, from here in the UK, I have a lot of respect for the way in which you handled a very difficult set of circumstances. It all goes to proportionality and the true motives for the punishment. My takes for what it's worth. 1. You probably were a bit of a brat but no more than any other teenager (including my own daughter!) but there's many ways to punish without a humiliating bare arsed beating (it was a beating because the damage was such that other adults thought about calling the police) 2. I think there was a sexual element to it ...not sure but domination of a sexually mature girl using the humiliation of public nakedness...mmmm. 3. He was trying to break you and your brothers - no doubt in my mind from all your reported conversations. This is wrongful act by anyone in loco parentis. 4. I'm pleased there's no lasting damage on an emotional or spiritual level 5. Well done for never giving in and as for inviting him to kiss your arse OUTSTANDING! 6. For the record, I'm not anti-spanking -- in fact it has a lot of merits -- but never as you describe it. I'm pretty much of the view it's better for mothers alone to do it. 7. Punishments should always be kept within the family - outsiders viewing spankings is unforgiveable. 8. I hope Angie gets something from your comments/support/advice here. 9. As regards you and Angie, I'm sorry you've both had to experience this sort of inappropriate treatment from an adult who should know better -- there's a hundred ways to punish a wayward teenager all just as effective as corporal punishment which don't involve crushing them, hurting them or humiliating them. Just saying........ :)<br />
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And a PS. Trust that you've now forgiven yourself for not 'protecting' your younger brother from the worst of your stepfather's out-of-control behaviour. The truth is you were never really in a position to do so -- you were too young and against an adult male....nothing could be done....he wanted to be a bas tard and US law says he can be. Your mother had her own worries and judged she could not do much about it. You were not to blame.

Hi, powerman2000,<br />
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I really didn't feel I was provoking him at the time. It just worked out that way, I guess.<br />
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As far as getting him out of my life, I think luck had more to do with it that than anything on my part.<br />
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If the mediator - just by chance walking back down the hallway after we had finished - didn't see him slapping me hard across the face causing my lip to bleed and calling me an ''ungrateful little tramp'' (and/or if he hadn't refused to attend anger management therapy that was ordered as a result) the visitations would have continued. So, I would have very likely continued to have been spanked throughout the rest of the divorce process, perhaps until I turned 18 (or even nearly 19 - since I turned 18 as a senior in high school early in the school year, since a joint custody arrangement or visitation might have been ordered until I graduated).

You disobeyed him and got into confrontations with him. Eventually a few of those confrontations helped lead to a divorce and then to him losing custody. Maybe you didn't plan it that way, but it's how it worked out. And it was bound to work out that way.

So you got into enough fights with him to break free, and that kept him from abusing you or the rest of your family anymore. Being spanked and ******** was humiliating, but it was a price you paid to get him out of your life.

If it hadn't happened the way it did, it would have happened another way. The humiliation might have gone on for another year or two, but it would have still worked out similarly with your mother seeing a breaking point and the court denying him custody.

Think about it. Would you rather have only gotten spanked with your clothes on till you were 19, or had that humiliating day and gotten rid of him that way?

That was a really humiliating thing to happen, but at least it put an end to him controlling you.<br />
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You said that there were still other spankings, so maybe the divorce dragged on, but he's not in your life now.<br />
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Think about it, if he hadn't gone so far over the top as to spank you completely naked in front of a bunch of people, maybe you would have gone on being under his roof for two more years. Maybe more.<br />
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And if he just spanked you bare bottom in private sometimes, it could have gone on for years.<br />
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But you provoked him into going over the top and that got him out of your life. It was really humiliating but a small price to pay for humiliating him by getting rid of him.<br />
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It's like the Lady Godiva story. <br />
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Sure you felt resignation, humiliation and submission. And you gave in a few times. But you also kept resisting and arguing, which touched off the climax. And you're still arguing. So you didn't submit.

I agree to you

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The last words I said to my stepdad were during that mediation in 2002 after which he slapped me across the face in the hallway later. I had told the mediator how I often cried myself to sleep wondering why the drunk driver couldn't have killed my stepdad instead of my real dad. The last time I saw him was when my older brother got married. He was invited and came but I did not talk to him. My older brother still sees him but very infrequently, my younger brother not at all.<br />
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He was not someone you could go to with a problem or for help with homework etc. Hugs? Kisses? Oh sure. When the first Bush was president and I was in Kindergarten. I'm not kidding. OK, maybe during Clinton's first term too. Unless later when it was at a birthday party or Christmas etc and it was for show around relatives.<br />
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I can't tell you how relieved I was when my mom announced she was divorcing him. He eventually got re-married but doesn't have any kids.<br />
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Travis, I think I basically answered your question about my bikini when I answered Dave's similar question.<br />
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About our argument and what was said? Fair enough question. One, remember, I was caught by surprise that they were in the living room. So that was embarrassing to begin with them seeing me in the bikini.<br />
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It basically went something like:<br />
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He started yelling at me, ''What the f--- are you wearing?''<br />
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I told him as matter-of-factly, it was a new bikini I had bought to wear to the beach the following weekend.<br />
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He said, ''Like hell you will'' and proceeded to order me to get upstairs and change. I told him, yes, I was going to change, but that's what I would be wearing to the beach.<br />
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He said no "STEPdaughter" of his was going to be walking around looking like a two-bit ********. I lashed right back, saying no "STEPfather" of mine was going to tell me how I could dress. And it basically got worse from there. We continued arguing and shouting at each other and then he grabbed me and put me over his knee, saying by the time he was done I ''wouldn't want any guys looking at my bare ***.''<br />
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And then it began. I was initially successful in deflecting a number of the swats, but once he undid my bikini top, one hard slap after another crashed down on my bare bottom. I was soon crying, begging him to stop to no avail and only the unexpected intervention of my mom, who thankfully heard me crying when she had come back into the house, avoided a much more prolonged spanking. Still, my butt was really stinging from his repeated slaps.<br />
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My mom and stepdad started arguing, her telling him to stop spanking. He responded that I was disrespectful and nothing but a "spoiled brat" and he didn't want me going to the beach looking like a "****" and embarrassing him. I was still over his lap as they argued for another minute or so, though he had stopped swatting me.<br />
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Then he slapped me one more time on my bare bottom, one that really stung, and then he let go of my right arm, warning me if I ever wore that "slutty outfit" again, he'd finish what he started. (which, unfortunately, he did.)<br />
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Once I was finally standing, my butt felt like it was on fire and I was reaching back rubbing it with one hand while holding one side of my bottoms up with my other hand. I was no doubt springing up and down on my feet and hadn't yet realized Vaughn, my brother's friend, was now sitting on the couch a few feet in front of me. (Yes, Travis, they were no doubt bouncing and jiggling as I was springing up and down on my feet.)<br />
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Re: Your comment #4. I don't feel my stepdad was necessarily 'preserving my modesty' by not making me stand up and then removing my bottoms. Are you or Dave saying that's what he should have done?<br />
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I don't disagree with your 'observation' as to WHY my stepdad removed my bikini top or that it was 'effective' in stopping me deflect swats. But can you NOT see how embarrassing that was and shouldn't that be a factor in perhaps not doing it?<br />
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Just because he technically had a legal right to spank me and perhaps one to even fully undress me too doesn't make it right.<br />
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June 29, 2011<br />
re: so now we get more of the story<br />
by: Dave<br />
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Becky thank you for replying to my comments. So young lady we get more of the story. So your stepdad caught you for the second time in that bikini. You say you got spanked right how did you get spanked was it over the towel I beleive you said you had a towel wrapped around you or was it on the bare. Did you fight with him this time? or did you obey his commands meaning he told you to drop the towel and to get over his lap and you did or did you fight with him. Now you say it was the following weekend did you not learn from the first spanking that you should not be wearing that. Just the thought of another spanking or even a run in with your stepdad should of stopped you. or like you said you thought you would not be caught. I think it was You put in your head ( I will show him if I want to wear this there's nothing that can stop me not even a spanking of any kind) its inportant that you tell us want kind of spanking you got because we can understand better your situtation I am sure you would agree. A spanking over the cloths is one thing a bare bottom spanking is completing different I look at it as double punishment. What is this you feeling bad about how your younger brother was treated? what could have you done to change things.? Do not forget you were a child to. Do you think he got spanked because of your behaviour. Tell me why you feel so badly. I need to know more about your family how it operated how people got along if they did. What I see so far is the stepdad loving his wife and as for the kids he rather not have them but srring that they are here. I going to make there life misable or thing like that please correct me if I am wrong. I did ask you about your family before but I guess to many things to answer. How about your older brother how did he fit in? I look forward to your answers. thanks<br />
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June 29, 2011<br />
re: To Becky<br />
by: Dave<br />
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Becky this is a two part story. The first part is I never asked you what would you see as a suitable punishment for you misdeeds with your stepdad over the swimsuite incendent. The other is Why do.nt you ask your ask question to the genereal public in this form now the tile is spanking teenagers you can but your own tile something like.Do you think it's right for a 16 year old girl being given a bare bottom spanking and being totaly striped? and then tell your story. I just thought about it this concversation is only between you Travis and myself we have not heard from any one else so think about it and if you are to shy and you are fine with it I will ask for you? please let me know. besides all this whats going on in your life what are doing how are things how are you getting along with your family?<br />
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June 30, 2011<br />
re: answers to Dave and Becky Romero about her spanking<br />
by: Travis<br />
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Dave, I think we're in agreement most things. Let me take a stab at the main difference: Becky's bra coming off.<br />
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Yes Becky. I believe your stepdad acted appropriately. I'd do the same thing.As some one else said earlier, that your breasts bounced and jiggled about in front of your brother and his friend that's too bad and sorry it was embarrassing for you. But it was your fault that led to your embarrassment.<br />
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Dave, I agree spankings should be in private meaning at home or at relatives. Not in public. But at home its OK if mom, siblings, company see it. But never out in public like the store, park. Maybe we disagree? Maybe not?<br />
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Becky, I think Dave would agree with me that if only your bottom was bared and you were embarrassed just by that who's fault would it be? Yours.Not your stepdad's. Why?Because of your actions.<br />
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Dave, as to her breasts being bared, you said what you would do to her for interfering was give her extra spankings. That's reasonable. Except...<br />
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What if her interfering keep you from making contact? Say you made her stand up bottomless or lay down on your lap. Either way I figure you have a preference but one or the other or both you must feel is OK.So she's bottomless and interfering. If she's interfering and its not having the intended effect then won't the same thing happen with the extra spanking? And even if you do connect you have to be careful.You can't overdo it or it becomes excessive by laws.<br />
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So if you can't effectively spank her because she's interfering what do you do? What I would do is make her stand up (if she's not already) and take off her bra (or she can). Yes embarrassing for sure depending on how developed she is but I'd warn her first what would happen. If she still interferred then off it comes. Yeah she still might try to interfer and block the spanking but at the cost of more embarrassment since she couldn't cover up her front and the boys would get a good long look.<br />
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If you feel that's going too far but can't effectively spank her sure you could give her some extra punishment, take away her cell phone, no school dances, no friends over. But if any of that stuff really worked we would be spanking our daughters to begin with, right? So why bother?<br />
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Becky you knew your stepdad spanked. And at your house you knew that meant a good chance you'd be spanked bare. At least one of your brothers was spanked bottomless in front of you like that.I know you said you disagreed and think the better solution was for your brother not to be spanked but he was. So given that he was shouldn't your bad behavior be dealt with likewise? Or do you feel it is more fair for your brother to be bottomless in front of you and spanked but you not in front of him? You saw him bottomless and spanked in the past but now it's your turn. You really believe you should be spared the same? Come on. Be honest. Dont you think you both should be treated equally?<br />
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June 30, 2011<br />
re: Becky Romero spanked by her stepdad<br />
by: Travis<br />
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Becky, I guess some of what I asked you had already discussed but I didn't see that. I guess there's a delay in posts appearing. I only saw your 1st 2 posts dated 6/29 before I posted.<br />
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So a few more questions. Like Dave said we need to know more not to embarrass you but to be able to honestly answer your question if your stepdad was right in spanking you. So please don't feel bad or think were picking on you.<br />
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So far I haven't changed by opinion. I agree with your stepdad. But he was very wrong in calling you names even if his desc<x>ription of what you looked like wearing that swimsuit was correct. But the disrespectful way in how you answered him was certainly cause for being spanked on the spot.<br />
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When he spanked you after you disobeyed him two things come to mind. One disobeying him was cause for a spanking. Two you not only wore that swimsuit in public but took it off along side a highway. So shame on you for that. Did he know that? When you got home did he take your towel or did it fall off during the spanking? From what you said he did care about how you felt right? He let you put a bra on before your brother walked in.<br />
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Yes Becky. When you were spanked in front of your brother and his friend I would have let you take your own top off (only after warning you to stop interefering and only doing so if you didn't listen to the warning.) Then I would have pulled down your bottoms.You would therefore had some modesty protected since you could use your hands to cover your breasts and your pubic hair wouldn't let the boys see much.<br />
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To answer your question, once your bottoms were down and your top off I would then let you decide whether to lay across my lap or continue to stand as you were spanked.If you still interfered by reaching back it would be you baring your breasts to the boys not me. If they saw them bounce and jiggle, you would have been the blame for that as you would have caused your own embarrassment for not listening and submitting to the spanking, instead chosing to expose your breasts while reaching back to interfere. Dave, do you concur or how would you have handled it differently in front of the boys?<br />
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Why don't you think your stepdad had a right to tell you what not to wear? Sounds like this was a continuing problem with you wearing things inappropriate. You said your older brother wasn't spanked much. Just guessing but maybe he was allowed to bring girlfriends upstairs because your stepdad felt he was older and more responsible especially given how you dressed.<br />
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You said you wished your mom spanked all of you bottomless instead of your stepdad. Why would that be OK for your mom to see your brothers' butt and penis but not OK for your stepdad to see you half naked? Would that be fair to your brothers? I note you even said 'lol' so you would have thought that funny if that had happened but with your stepdad seeing you naked and spanking you it's unfair and so on. Double standard?<br />
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July 1, 2011<br />
re: answers to Dave about my stepdad spanking my bare bottom<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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Hi. I'll try to answer Dave's 6/29/11 post here.<br />
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Re: the spanking I got for disobeyed my stepdad's orders not to wear the g-string to the lake.<br />
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When my friend Ashley dropped me off from the day at the lake with my friends, as I said I had already taken off my bikini and put it in the trunk of her car. My plan was to walk in the house wearing on a towel wrapped around me and hopefully simply go straight up to my room and get dressed. If my stepdad saw me, I had a plan. So I thought. He was in the living room so I couldn't get upstairs without him seeing me. Worse, my foolproof plan quickly collapsed like a house of cards.<br />
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He immediately demanded to know if I had worn the g-string to the beach. I lied and said no. He then demanded to see. I told him no. When he kept demanding I show him what I had on I finally said I wasn't wearing anything under the towel (the truth). He didn't believe me and still wanted to see.<br />
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The argument was getting more heated by the second. I was afraid he was going to grab the towel and see me naked so I yelled back at him something like ''God dammit. I ******* told you I'm not wearing anything but the towel. See?'' (and with that I re-arranged the towel so he could see my whole side)<br />
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He jumped up and got in my face, yelling ''What the **** are you doing going to the lake naked?''<br />
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While I was yelling back that I did NOT go to the lake naked, he sat back down and ordered me over to him.<br />
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''If you think that spanking you got last weekend hurt...''<br />
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I was yelling back, trying to make him understand I did not go to the lake naked. He shouted back, ''Don't lie to me Becky or you'll get another spanking tonight. Now get over here!''<br />
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I shouted at the top of my lungs, ''Will you shut up and listen? I did not ******* go to the lake naked!''<br />
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Finally, he shut his mouth long enough for me to weave my lie, that I had worn a one-piece but it was not only wet but dirty from sand and I didn't want to mess up the inside of Ashley's car so I took it off and wrapped myself in the towel for the drive home but then forget my swimsuit in the trunk of her car.<br />
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He stopped yelling and didn't say anything for about a minute as I stood there still holding the towel around me.<br />
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Then he shocked me and ordered, ''Turn around.''<br />
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I said, ''What?''<br />
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He said, ''Turn around. I want to see your ***.''<br />
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Before it clued in why he said that I was indignant about his order but he yelled that if I didn't turn around and open the towel (off my butt) he would...<br />
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Interrupting his train of thought, I quickly complied but was really pissed that I had to bare my butt for him. As I stood there my back to him for what seemed like a good 5 or 10 seconds, I said, 'Well?''<br />
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When he didn't answer, I finally was ticked off enough that I said, ''Why don't you ******* kiss it!''<br />
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He exploded like an A-Bomb. He was sitting but he reached out and grabbed one of my arms and spun me around so fast I couldn't react quick enough and the towel fell to the floor. I was now facing him and was utterly mortified. He probably hadn't seen me fully nude since before I started first grade when my mom was still bathing me.<br />
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He shouted and said ''Just as I thought! You DID wear that piece of trash after I told you not to.''<br />
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As I teared up, I lied and shouted back that, no I hadn't. But even as I tried to cover myself with my hands he pointed out that I wouldn't have tanned as I did wearing a one-piece. Then as I began to cry and plead and beg, no, no, no, and began saying how sorry I was, etc, he grabbed me and put me over his lap and began spanking me really hard, accusing me of lying and shouting questions did I wear it, did I wear it?<br />
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Just about the time I admitted, yes I had and was sorry and for lying, etc, we both heard the front door slam shut. Other than my stepdad, my younger brother was the only one in the family who had a bad habit of slamming the front door, but was I ever glad he did that late afternoon.<br />
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I began quickly begging my stepdad to please not let Matt see me naked, please, please, please. To at least let me put a bra on.<br />
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He stopped spanking me and said, ''OK, but just a bra. And if your *** isn't back down here in one minute...''<br />
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All I could do was scream, ''OK, OK'' as I got up holding my butt in pain and ran upstairs, reaching the top stairs just as I heard my brother yell, ''What the ****?''<br />
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As I grabbed a bra from my dresser, I was crying and in pain and looked in the mirror and my butt was red.<br />
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I looked down from the top of the stairs and unfortunately my younger brother had plopped himself down on a couch near where my stepdad was sitting.<br />
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My stepdad yelled out my name and I slowly made my way down the stairs, my bra on and trying to cover my ***** and my butt with each hand as I walked over to him, as my brother snickered and made comments like ''someone's getting a spanking, someone's getting a spanking.''<br />
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As I said earlier, my stepdad then made me unfasten my bra despite my protests because he didn't want me reaching back. Moments later I was back over his lap and my brother was getting an educational view of my lower anatomy as I cried, sobbed and kicked my legs about in pain.<br />
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Thankfully, as I said before, the phone rang, my brother went to answer it and my stepdad stopped spanking me when he went in the kitchen to take the call, warning me to stay where I was and not go upstairs because he ''wasn't done'' with me yet.<br />
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Ashamed, I stood there for a minute or so in front of my brother, holding my unfastened bra against my breasts. Then, I quickly fastened it and grabbed my brother on his shoulders and pleaded for him to go upstairs and not tell our stepdad I had ran out of the house. By this time, my brother thankfully thought the spanking I was getting was no longer funny and said he'd do as I asked. I hugged and kissed him, grabbed a jacket from the closet that didn't even fully cover my butt and ran out the front door, not even wasting time to put a pair of shoes on.<br />
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My best friend lived a little over a mile away and I ran for several straight blocks to her house without even stopping. I already said what happened after that so I won't repeat it and will try to answer Dave's other questions now.<br />
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My younger brother was treated horribly my our stepdad, constantly yelled at, called names, told he was stupid, a loser, etc. And spanked. And spanked. And spanked. He misbehaved a lot, much more than I did while growing up and way more than my older brother (who was a straight A student, on the ba<x>seball team in high school, always busy with extra curricular activities). As I got older, especially in high school, I really felt bad for my younger brother and the spankings he got were causing more arguments between my mom and stepdad.<br />
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I also felt guilty because I did nothing to protect him. He was my younger brother and I love him a lot and as his big sister I failed. I wish there were times I would have gotten spanked in his place. One time when I did speak up and told my stepdad to stop spanking him, I was told to shut my face or I'd be next. And I kept quiet when I should have continued to speak up. That I finally got some courage and told my stepdad off for spanking him instead of me because he had lied to protect me was too little, too late.<br />
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As for your question about what punishment I think I should have got: none. I really don't think he should have spanked me because of the bikini, especially since my mom didn't have a big problem with it.<br />
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After that first spanking, once I put a dress on, my mom wanted to get me away from my stepdad so we went to the mall. First we went to a park, where we got out of the car and just slowly walked or stood, since I still couldn't sit comfortably. I told my mom how much I hated my stepdad and so on. My mom said she didn't think there was anything wrong with the bikini, but that he was stubborn and I shouldn't provoke him, especially while she was away the following weekend.<br />
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(I still didn't know at that point the reason why she was going to see my grandmother was to tell her she was going to file for a divorce).<br />
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I finally blurted out what I had been holding back for years: "Why don't you divorce him?" Little did I know at that time she was already taking steps to do so. We talked about my real dad, how much he loved me when I was a baby, how his death effected her, how things would have been different had he lived. We must have talked for a couple hours, crying, laughing, sometimes just staring at the birds and flowers. By then I was able to sit in the car and we went shopping. When we got home, I avoided my stepdad the rest of the evening, not to mention my brother and his friend Vaughn. There was never an apology from my stepdad. Just disapproving looks and glares.<br />
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BTW, Dave, I did try to post the question of whether it's ever OK to remove a teenage girl's bra during a spanking, but I don't know, maybe it was too long or something, because I can't find it posted here anywhere.<br />
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You asked if it's OK that you talk about my spankings on another website. Yes, I guess so. I mean, I don't mind or anything if that's what you're asking. But if you do I just hope you put it in proper context. I mean if it's about me that is. Probably the easiest way is just to link to this page or cut and paste what I've said. You asked if I would mind and no I don't. I mean, after all, I'm discussing publicly here what happened to me so I don't mind if you quote me as much as you want. If people don't think I'm right, that's OK too but at least they would have read me as quoted. So, no, I don't mind. It's helped finally talking about all this too.<br />
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As for my life now? I share an apartment with two close friends who just finished grad school. We went to college together. I'm 25. I have a boyfriend. I'm working part-time in interior decorating). My two roommates and another good friend had bought a house together after high school rather than dorm. We still own it and rent it out year-round to students. I'm very close with my mom and brothers. My older brother's married and has two kids. I'm happy.<br />
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I see Travis has asked me more questions. I don't mind answering them too. Maybe over the weekend.<br />
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July 1, 2011<br />
to Becky R<br />
by: Dave<br />
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As I read more and more about your life one things enters my mind wht did you mother ever marry this man? was he always like that? or did he change. What I also see that there was no love between you and the rest of the family towards him. At the beginning it is normal for kids and adult to be calling one another step-- but after a few years the word step disappears because people grow on one another meaning closer and a matural love for one another for some reason it never happed here. I have some ideals but I am not sure. Tell me did you see him as a father and another athurity figure and someone trying to take your real dad's place so you put in your head no bleepen way. Then you add the total disrespect for one another do you guy's normaling talk to each other by swearing or just towards him.The other thing is Your mom and stepfather did not seem to have eye to eye on<br />
discipline and you seem to take advantage of that case and point the bikini your mom had no problem with it ( is that the truth) but your stepfather did so you decide that you would show him. I would think you would want to avoid a spanking meaning you got spanked the week before for wearing that bikini I guess you really did not learn your lesson because you wore it again and got another spanking for it but at least you got to wear the bikini right. Wrong Becky you most have wanted a spanking for some reason I am sorry I am being so harsh but Beck you are not a stupid girl. Ya your mom had no problem with it but you stepfather did a normal person would have not woren the bikini to prevent the spanking.Ya your mom said yes but that would cause no pain no embarrassement your stepfather did cause all those things. It a matter of pain or no pain. Ya you thought that you could get one over your stepfather and you would be the winner. You were the winner alright you won and black and blue bottom and unable to wear the bikini again for a couple of days to prevent questions. That last spanking you got for wearing the bikini did you submit to that one or was it another fight? and did you wear it after that. As for your brother you should feel bad are you telling me you allowed your brother to take spanking that were but some how he took them. Now that was not fair the deserve a good spanking for you. Let me ask you this did you ever take a spanking for him? I can be harsh because as you see I am a straight no nonscene kind of guy. But I do have a heart be stricted when its time and be more loving. Becky that was years ago you have to forgive yourself and maybe if make you feel better ask your brother for forgiveness and if he does whats the problem let yourself off the hook ok. Are you relegious if so go to church. If not it really does not matter just let yourself off the hook. You do know by you keepings this in your mind you are allowing your stepfather in win <br />
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Well I am sad to say this is the second time I am writing this because I do not know about you but I fine it hard to keep track of the numbers so I went well over the 3000 count and to erase some but it all went I have to find some way to count while writing.So here I go are you telling me that your brother got spanked for you or instead of you well you should feel bad. Did you ever take a spanking for him seeing that he took some for you? You need to forgive yourself that was a long time ago and it make you feel better go ask him for forgiveness and I do not think you are going to have a problem stop beating yourself up about it.And look at it this way by you still have problems with it you are allowing your stepfather to win again and we cannot have that now can we. Life is to short to worrying about the past.<br />
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Now let jst clearify your bikini that you were wearing your front was cover right now your bottom was totaly exposed right except for a string that went up the middle of you bottom right right. So how come your did not have a problem with it did she see you in it. If you are me the truth will I would have a problem with that bikini because no young girl should be wearing that kind of bikini in public nor in front of your family or friend you are going around half naked. Come on Becky you are not a stupid girl be honest with me. I would go as far as saying that no daughter of mine would be wearing that either and if they did it wounld be one time only. You would let your daughter wear that?. Ok lets move on from this now your mom had nothing against the bikini but your stepfather did righ well the way I see it you most have been wanting a spanking because you knew your stepfather would have spanked you right even thou your mom had nothing to say about it whitch meant no pain but on the other hand your stepfather would have caused you pain but you decided who was he telling me not to wear something when my mom said ok so you thought you could get one over on stepfather well you did some what you got over his knee<br />
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July 2, 2011<br />
answers to Travis about my stepdad spanking my bare bottom<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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Hi, Travis.<br />
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I think I touched on some of your questions when I was answering Dave, so I won't bother repeating some of the things I said. Also, many of your questions are to Dave, not to me, about how the two of you would punish and spank me if I were your daughter.<br />
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Back to my stepdad removing my bra: looks like you're the only one here who condones that and the humiliation I suffered being seen half-naked and a week later totally naked by others, including my brothers and some of their friends. But I suppose I shouldn't put words in Dave's mouth. You asked him some things that were ba<x>sed on my follow up answers. I would just say that, yes, I was trying to block the swats from my stepdad to my bare bottom but how can that be wrong for me to do it the spanking itself was wrong?<br />
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You said because I saw my younger brother spanked bare bottom that means he should see me spanked that way to and if not, you basically said how is that not unfair? OK, if you put it that way, I sort of have to agree in a way but you're basically saying if there were two choice: (a) my brother gets bared and spanked and I don't or (b) we both get bared and spanked. Which is more equally fair. Obviously, the latter. But you're leaving out something more fair to my brother. An option (c) where neither of us get spanked.<br />
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No, I don't feel you or Dave are picking on me. It's OK. I don't mind the questions.<br />
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I blushed when I read how you think me standing in front of my brother and his friend as you pulled down my bottoms shouldn't be cause for embarrassment because they wouldn't 'see much' because of my pubic hair. Aside from the fact that would still be hugely embarrassing anyway, I'll have you know I was smooth at the time. Not that my stepdad knew (he certainly found out a week later). But can't you see how making me stand up would be a lot more embarrassing?<br />
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Hi, Dave.<br />
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My stepdad's attitude got worse over the years. When my brothers and I were younger it was different. My mom wasn't working so she took care of us. My older brother and I were old enough to have some memories of our real dad, I was almost three when he died. My younger brother was just a baby. My mom re-married in 1990 when I was five.<br />
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Honest, my mom did not have a problem with my g-string bikini. Yes, your desc<x>ription is accurate. It was a g-string tie thong bikini. Basically my butt's exposed except for the piece of material up my butt crack. Something like this:<br />
http://www.ujena.com/<br />
xbikini-details.php?c=1092&cid=194&pid=J356<br />
Only with tie string on both sides of the bottoms.<br />
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OK, maybe it wouldn't have been something she'd have bought for me but I bought it myself with my own money. She also knew I'd occasionally skinny-dip at my friend's house (before you ask: no guys around, just a few of my close girlfriends). Nor was it like I was walking around downtown at lunch hour with it on either. I don't know why you think it's such a big deal. And I wasn't 9 or 10, but 16 at the time!<br />
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July 2, 2011<br />
re: Embarassment<br />
by: Sarah<br />
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The simple answer is "Yes, in the course of a bare-bottom spanking genital exposure is not unheard-of."<br />
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My stepson is 14 and while not every punishment his father and I mete out is physical-we ground or restrict in many cases-if I do give him a belt spanking on the bare, it's bare-everything. We usually reserve spanking for fighting because there will soon come a time where if the police and criminal justice system gets involved due to his fighting, he may face serious time and be sidled with a criminal record.<br />
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Yes, pants and shorts to the ankles, yes, hands on top of head, and yes, he cries like a three-year-old before he even gets the first "lick" because he's humiliated.<br />
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The corollary is really quite simple. The same hormones which enrage him to the point that even a cross word at the wrong time cause the situation with other boys to come to blows have blessed him with a precociously developed "private" area.<br />
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Well, not so much "blessed" as "cursed" because part of getting a whipping is his freakish penis waving like a windsock while he cries in shame.<br />
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What he needs to realize sooner than later is that while he may carry that shame around for a long time after the punishment is over, it's not going to stop him from getting a good job like a criminal record could.<br />
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July 3, 2011<br />
re: question to Sarah about spanking her stepson's bare bottom<br />
by: Travis<br />
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Sarah, I see that you too believe in bare bottom spankings.May I ask, how old are you and how long have you been the stepmother to your teenage stepson?<br />
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When time to spank him do you permit him to pull down his pants and underwear or do you do it for him? If you do is he facing you with hands already on his head? If so I imagine the embarrassment he feels should make him want to avoid such spankings all the more. I know I would if in his shoes.<br />
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As I explained to Becky Romero, the teenage girl on the board who gets spanked on her bare bottom by her stepdad, I insist on the hands-on-head position only when daughter tries to interfere with spanking.Is that why your stepson is made to assume that position too? If not I'd suggest allowing him to place his hands over his privates.<br />
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Does your stepson have any siblings? Do they get punished the same way (or maybe they don't get in the kind of trouble he does)?Are the spankings your stepson gets from you given in front of them? If so are any of them girls? His sisters or your daughters? How old are they and what are their reactions and how does he feel if punished in front of them?<br />
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I do disagree with you using a belt. You don't want to cause bad bruising or welts which could lead to charges of child abuse if he ever shows such welts to his friends. There's also the danger that he might unexpectedly turn sideways causing you to accidentally hit his penis. I would suggest that giving him bare hand spanking would be safer.<br />
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If the idea is to help him behave more properly by causing him a certain amount of pain and shame a bare hand spanking on his bare bottom might take a little longer to achieve the 'pain' part but don't you think the added benefit would be more shame? How do you think he would feel as his bare bottom is being being soundly spanked by the bare hand of his stepmother? Imagine the shame if his classmates knew that especially female ones? That might knock the chip off his shoulder that he seems to have.<br />
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It might be good for Becky Romero to hear a woman's perspective, you being one favoring bare bottom spankings. Do you have any ob<x>jections to fathers or stepfathers giving our teenage daughters bare bottom spankings? What about the hands-on-head approach you make your stepson adopt? Any ob<x>jections for making girls assume that position? Or removing their bra if they interfere?<br />
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How would you have dealt with Becky? Was not her swimming attire inappropriate for her age and if she showed the disrespect to you as her stepmom she showed her stepdad would it have bothered you in the least to spank her bare bottom right in front of her kid brother and the other boy?<br />
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You said your stepson's penis waggles about like a windsock as he cries in shame when spanked. Any problem with making a teenage girl like Becky stand there fully nude hands on her head with her bare breasts bouncing and jiggling about as she gets spanked even if her kid brother or house guests are present?<br />
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July 3, 2011<br />
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off too<br />
by: Alexander<br />
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Dear Becky. You have written us o lot about spankings you have received from your stepdad.I really appreciate it. But it comes to my attention that you were even spanked several times by your's stepdad's new girlfriend during your parent's divorce and in the most ironic of ironies, one of those times was in a family changing room at a public pool. Please, don't be shy and write us about it a few details. Was it very humiliating, bare bottom spanking? Did some people see this? Do you think that your stepdad girfriend was bi-sexual? I think that it may by very intersesting story.<br />
Kisses, Alexander from Berlin.<br />
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[Alexander, apparently had found me on EP and had read something I had posted on EP about how my stepdad's new girlfriend was given authority by him to spank me too.]<br />
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July 3, 2011<br />
re: To Travis:<br />
by: Sarah<br />
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Kevin is 14 and I've been married to his father for 7 years, since the Summer he finished 1st grade.<br />
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While humiliation is an effective component of corporal punishment, I don't believe in taking his pants and shorts down while his hands are on top of his head because I think the line between punishment and sexual abuse should be maintained.<br />
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As for the belt, it's not a big heavy strop; the belt is elastic and meant for wear with Sunday church clothes. He outgrew it several years ago and his father cut the buckle off so there'd be no chance of his getting hit with any metal parts.<br />
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During the spanking, I'm more beside him than behind while he's standing there with his pants and shorts around his ankles and his hands are on top of his head. I'm by no means staring at his private parts, but the kid's a freak of nature on par with bearded ladies and two-headed babies, and I would challenge anybody to completely ignore it.<br />
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From age 7-12 or so, when Kevin's father or I would spank him, he'd go up to his room five minutes ahead of time, pull down his pants and shorts and then lay flat on his stomach.<br />
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Then, at 13, he went to his room and only took his jeans off and told me that I had no right to see his bare bottom. I told his father what was happening and he went in to Kevin's room and told him to take his underwear off and remain standing. When I came in Kevin was trying to cover his privates and that's when his father told him to turn around, face me and take his shirt off. He had to keep his hands on top of his head while I gave him his first fully bare spanking<br />
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The lesson was that while sexual abuse is inexcusable, he messed up telling me I didn't have the right to see his buttocks and it cost him his dignity.<br />
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I completely agree with the idea of punishing for the most serious infractions(fighting, drug experimentation and disrespecting parental authority)with bare-it-all spanking, including bare breasts for girls.<br />
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I my opinion, you should give the adolescent a head-start to go to his or her room and undress, then come in and give the licks and then immediately walk out. The period of being naked shouldn't exceed 15-30 seconds.<br />
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The next time the teen considers such an infraction, they can reflect on having last time been reduced to a naked, jiggling spectacle.S <br />
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[I never got the chance to ask Sarah if under her authority her response to my behavior would have reduced me to a ''naked, jiggling spectacle'' and whether she would have cared that my younger brother and his12-year old playmate were present.]<br />
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July 3, 2011<br />
re: To Becky<br />
by: Dave<br />
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Well well what in the world is going on here. It seem like a soap oprapa who ever thought you could write your story and then out of the blue or woodwork comes someone else with something else to tell. How about it Becky is there any truth to the story and what with that one. Who is Alexander from Berlin never the less what about those spankings.Let me first say what does sexualty got do to with spanking. Now I can be wrong but a parent or stepparent spanking there child whether its bare or not bare buttom were does sexualty get into the picture. A stepmom cannot spank her stepdaughter ( in this case) on the bare buttom without someone thinking is the stepmom getting off on it now come on people lets get real here. Now I am not saying it does not go on. Well I hope not. Parents this is your child you are talking about. Becky do you know why Alexander say's this? Now lets get down to who the hell does your stepfather girlfriend think she is spanking you? Well I should say first is this true? If it is then I go back to the first question. She has no right to spank you at all who is she? not to disrespect the girlfriend but she has no place to spank her. Becky had a mom all ready and even a stepfather. Now we need to know more about this situation maybe she had permission from who well I have some idea maybe the stepfather or maybe not either way she should have stayed out of it. I think this is abuse. Becky can you tell me more about this if you want I do not want to open a can of worms but it looks like it all has opened<br />
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July 3, 2011<br />
re: to Sarah and Travis<br />
by: Dave<br />
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Well first with Sarah how old are you I get thought you must be in your early thridy late twenty right. And your husband knew about this right.And the spanking was just a stepmom spanking a stepson right nothing else right. As you using a belt or something other then your hand you are right. This answer is for Travis and you if you want. Useing your hand and a fourteen year old might be good or no go. You have to know the person who you are spanking meaning if you are spanking someone with your hand and bacisly it looks like they might be enjoy it well I should not say that the spanking is doing nothing to the person. bascily a spanking is supose to hurt right otherwise whats the point. Haveing said that if you are spanking someone and its getting no were you need to use something else but it can be done so the bottom is the only thing that is getting spanked if you want to use a belt thats fine just fold the belt in two or three or you can use a paddle aka (bread board) or strap. What you may want to try instead of have the spankee over your lap try over one knee instead you have better access to the bottom and can use your implements better.<br />
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Some people when getting spanked has a affect when useing your hand so you have to use something else you can tell this by when you are spanking them with your hand and nothing but you try useing some different and you get a different response like them moveing around over your knee or even if there standing and the old clenching of the bottom to lessen the pain. Or you ask then "is this hurting you"? you might be suprised with the answer. If you are spanking on the bare buttom on the buttom is getting red does not mean it is hurting them. This is the same whether you are spanking male of female som people can take pain and some not.<br />
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June 5, 2011<br />
re: Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?<br />
by: George<br />
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Normally, as the stepfather of a rather maladjusted 14-year-old, I would never recommend removing ALL of a child or teenager's clothes to spank them, but Heather made the mistake of half-drowning another girl at the rec' center pool on Friday and got sent home. We pay a decent sum for access to the pool for the kids and the tennis court for my wife and myself and as both kids are over 12, we pay a full fee, x4.<br />
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So when Heather comes home with a note from the Red Cross substitute lifeguard for me to have to sign, I'm in no mood to wait for her to get dressed in street clothes just to pull her pants down, bottoms up, to spank her for half-drowning another kid.<br />
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Plus, as she was already crying from shame before I spanked her, it saved her several licks.<br />
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That one-piece bathing suit had to come off her shoulders to get it down to her knees and modesty was out of the question. Her instinct was to cover her chest with one arm and her so-called "private" area with her other hand so I pulled out her desk chair and had her hold on to the back of it.<br />
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I could insult your intelligence and tell you I didn't see anything but her bottom, but the truth is I was beside her, not behind her.<br />
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By the 5th lick, her embarrassment was complete because each swat from the belt bounced her chest like Jello, and that's to say nothing of her painfully exposed pubic hair.<br />
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She may feel violated and think that because I'm not her biological father I derived some sexual satisfaction from it, but dang it, she could've killed that girl in the pool.<br />
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If that had happened, she could well have ended up having to not only show her body, but share it with some butch dyke in Juvenile Detention until she turned 21.<br />
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Puberty is a tough time for a child, but until they're 18, there's no guarantee that a spanking might not involve a little shameful exposure of their ripe-for-picking "private" areas. <br />
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June 7, 2011<br />
re: ''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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This is in reply to the post on 6/5/11 by George by the above title.<br />
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George, first of all, I in no way mean to excuse what your stepdaughter did at the pool. Although when I have kids I don't intend to spank them, I am not what many would call an anti-spanking crusader.<br />
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But I do question the humiliating spanking you gave your stepdaughter. Can't you imagine how humiliated she'd feel if any classmates of hers stumble across this webpage and deduce from the incident you described who she is, reading as you talk about her pubic hair and her breasts bouncing about like Jello, etc?<br />
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I ask because I, too, unfortunately know all too well the embarrassment and shame she must feel, having also been completely bared and spanked by my stepdad. (Thankfully I was spared the mortification of all but my closest friends during high school from knowing about my spankings. Hopefully your daughter will be spared that as well.)<br />
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But can't you and other men who bare your daughters'/stepdaughters' bottoms understand how utterly and intensely humiliating it is to be spanked like that (for me, by my step dad) as a teenager? In my case, with my younger brother watching, one time even with my brother and his 12-year old playmate - a boy I regularly babysat - when I was 16?<br />
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He caught me heading upstairs to change out of a new g-string tie thong bikini that I had put on to show my mom and intended to wear it to the lake the following weekend. (And btw my mom was OK with it - the bikini that is.)<br />
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As I thought my mom left out the back door to the driveway, I heading out from the kitchen to go upstairs to change out of the bikini. That's when my stepdad saw me. He was furious, yelling: "What the f--- are you wearing?"<br />
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I told him as matter-of-factly it was a new thong bikini I had bought to wear to the lake the following weekend.<br />
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He said, "Like hell you will." One thing led to another, words were exchanged and I was soon pulled over his lap.<br />
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I can still see my brother smirking as I struggled over my stepdad's lap. He then untied my bottoms and pulled down the back portion of it, out of my butt crack and down below my bottom.<br />
I reached around my back with both my hands, interfering with his attempts to spank me. He kept ordering me to put down my hands, but I refused. So he grabbed my right hand with his and held it behind my back. I kicked up my feet as he continued to spank me. So without warning he yanked hard on the string of my bikini top, undoing it. As it fell to the floor, my brother's friend Vaughn giggled at my exposure. I gasped and pulled my left arm back from behind me, trying to cover my exposed bare breasts as best I could, my right arm still being held behind my back.<br />
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Resigning myself to the inevitable, I winced in pain as one hard slap after another crashed down upon my bare bottom. I was soon crying, begging him to stop to no avail and only the unexpected intervention of my mom, who had forgot something and returned, avoided a surely much more prolonged spanking.<br />
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Obviously, I don't feel I should have been spanked. But to George and other pro-spank parents I ask: was it fair? Would you have handled it differently?<br />
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I know some will say I should have been spanked in private, but there was no way (even had my stepdad ordered me, which he did not) I was going to 'go to my room.' At the same time, physically I couldn't resist him if he chose to spank me on the spot (which he did).<br />
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In that case would you have still spanked me, given the presence of my brother and his friend? Was it not unjustified for him to expose my breasts?<br />
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Hopefully, by me daring to ask even such questions you can see why such a spanking was simply wrong from the get-go.<br />
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June 8, 2011<br />
re: Becky Romero<br />
by: George<br />
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Becky, the only thing I can think about your breasts being exposed is that your stepdad might have thought that if you were too busy with your arm trying to cover your breasts that it wouldn't be blocking the licks.<br />
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I my case, my stepdaughter's one-piece swimsuit, as with most girls' one-pieces, was too form-fitting to stretch below her bottom without coming off her shoulders.<br />
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Her breasts' exposure was more of a "side-effect".<br />
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Well, I mean if I hadn't made her hold the back of her chair, which also resulted in her pubic hair showing. Where I would draw the line normally is that if you're gonna spank an adolescent girl bare-bottom, you don't make her bend over and expose her labia and vulva. Having her stand straight up and keep her hands somewhere besides her pubic hair is enough added embarrassment, I don't need her to present herself sexually.<br />
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As long as she's standing straight up, all I'm going to see below the waist is hair.<br />
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But if I can make her cry from shame, I don't have to put as much physical force into the equation, so I might have her undress completely if she manages to screw up again.<br />
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Only thing is, I won't watch her undress like some ********; I'll give her a head-start up to her room to undress and then when I come in, no lecture or leering, just have her place her hands anywhere but in front of herself and wail on that bottom. If her breasts happen to bounce, that's just too bad.<br />
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June 12, 2011<br />
re: ''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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Yes, George. You are correct that my stepdad figured I'd cover my breasts rather than use my arms and hands to try to deflect the swats. But him untying my bikini top and it falling to the floor (I was already over his lap) happened so fast my brother and his friends saw my exposed breasts even before I got a chance to use my one free arm to sort of cover them up during the rest of the spanking.<br />
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You say you might have given me an order to undress myself in my room and wait for you, but I presume since I wouldn't have obeyed, you'd have done it for me on the spot. Is that correct?<br />
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However, a couple things come to mind. Though my stepdad pulled down the back of my bottoms out of my butt crack and down off my butt, the bottoms still covered my front as I laid across his lap.<br />
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You, on the other hand, would have had me stand there, bottomless and if I understand you correctly, removed my bikini top since I would have tried to reach back?<br />
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Furthermore, by making me place my hands on a chair, my breasts would have been fully exposed throughout the entire spanking and as you put it, if my ''breasts happen to bounce, that's just too bad.''<br />
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Also, at the time, I was smooth down there. Would that have caused you to allow me to retain some dignity or would the spanking you have given me by you - in front of my younger brother and his friend - would therefore been even more shameful than the one I actually got that day?<br />
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I must say I'm sort of stunned. Here I was asking pro-spank parents to defend the spanking I got from my stepdad just to hopefully make them see it was wrong. But what I'm hearing from you at least is that not only was he justified for spanking me but that you have caused me even more embarrassment.<br />
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June 13, 2011<br />
re: teenage girl perspective<br />
by: Anonymous<br />
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I'm almost sixteen and my Dad still spanks me when i do stuff like back talk him or cuss or break curfew. Sometimes it's bare bottom but it depends on the offense and where we are.<br />
Last week i was at the park watching my friend's softball game, and he told me it was time to leave. I was with some of my friends and i was kind of trying to show off, so i told him to F*** off. He grabbed my arm, jerked me out of my seat and swatted me ten times in front of God and everybody. I was really embarrassed but my friends didn't pick on me about it too much. And i usually don't get mad at my Dad for spanking me since I always deserve it. <br />
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June 13, 2011<br />
re: Nudity as part of the punishment.<br />
by: G<br />
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Telling a parent or stepparent to F-OFF is pretty cheeky. You're lucky he embarrassed you by spanking your clothed buttocks in public.<br />
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I'd have waited till we got home and sent you to your room to take your clothes off and made you hold something besides your modesty areas while you took your 10 licks. The argument that there's anything sexual about it fails in that I wouldn't come in and watch you ***** down or hang around after the licks. 10 licks in 10 seconds would be all the time you'd be undressed in my presence. And no bending over so you wouldn't feel vulnerable to an actual act of molestation.<br />
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If you get a spanking on a Monday, and it still physically hurts on Wednesday, you've been injured.<br />
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If you get a spanking on a Monday, and because your pants were down/off, you still remember on Wednesday that your private parts were showing, you might be less likely to commit the same infraction a week, a month or anytime down the line prior to your 18th birthday. Following that logic, it's counterproductive to leave your top on.<br />
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Now, if you choose to shave your private area in order to accommodate swimwear, that's your choice, but keep that in mind when you consider committing an infraction punishable by spanking.<br />
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As for boys, pubic hair isn't going to cover anything private, but the same logic holds otherwise. Bare butt-hurts during the spanking. Bare private parts-hurts your pride long after the physical sting dissipates.<br />
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And kids, as long as you're not being fondled or photographed, a little naked shame doesn't constitute sexual abuse.<br />
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And yes, the common denominator for adolescents of both sexes is that you're at the age where your bodies are changing but you're not too old to be spanked yet, so if it's pants off and top off for girls, the humiliation is just part of the punishment. And yes, boys and girls have parts that bounce when they're not covered and supported, don't make the mistake of thinking parents and step parents haven't noticed. It's still over with faster than a week's restriction and during the summer, it's all free-time you're forfeiting. My suggestion is that you ***** to your birthday suit, take your licks, get dressed, and go have a life, remembering to abide by a few basic house rules.<br />
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June 14, 2011<br />
re: ''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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To G:<br />
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It appears your comments could be as taken to responding to mine and the other most recent girl's comments (the one who told her dad to f--- off at the ballgame).<br />
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Keep in mind, though, if my stepdad (because of the argument we were having over the g-string thong bikini he caught me wearing) HAD ordered me to my room to ***** (he didn't) and then wait for him to come in to spank me (your unrealistic 10 licks in only 10 seconds full unobstructed nudity) there was no way I would have obeyed.<br />
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I realize it would then have been a war of wills. So my question was and still is, how would you or other pro-spank parents have handled it?<br />
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Would you simply forget about the spanking and instead ground me, etc.<br />
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Or spank me in front of my brother and his playmate? And if so, bare bottom? And if I tried to deflect the swats, would you have removed my bikini top as my stepdad did or made me assume even more embarrassing positions like George seemed to indicate he would (meaning, not permitting me to cover my frontal nudity)?<br />
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'G' said: ''The argument that there's anything sexual about it fails in that I wouldn't come in and watch you ***** down or hang around after the licks.''<br />
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Do you believe that stripping me or observing me naked after spanking me does fall under sexual abuse and that's why you wouldn't do it? If so, seems like it would be pretty easy for me to avoid a nude or bare bottom spanking: I would just refuse to take off my clothes and tell you if you want to spank me that way, YOU would have to ***** me first.<br />
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I've found that many pro-spank parents don't like spelling it out too much because maybe they realize that perhaps a stepfather stripping his 16-year stepdaughter down in front of her siblings/company for a spanking just doesn't look right.<br />
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So they simply say they would order their daughters to ***** themselves and then would spank her in private, while completely ignoring the fact that many of us would have refused such a command and would have forced the issue of whether the parent/stepparent would ***** and spank us in front of family/friends/company.<br />
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(Again, in my case, my stepdad never offered me the 'privacy' choice; down my bottoms went and that was that. But if he had and I sensed a reluctance on his part to spank me in front of my brothers/company/etc., why wouldn't I risk it?)<br />
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June 15, 2011<br />
re: IF THEY A SPANKING WHY NOT<br />
by: Dave<br />
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This is for Becky R this is my answer Yes it was very wrong of your father to spank you bare bottom in front of others. It should have been done in private or waited until the guest had left and took you to your room or some other place were no one was around.Would you prefer a two week grounding instead? As for totaly stripping you that was wrong to I do not see the point of removing all your clothes when he was only going to spank your buttom.I do not understand why you did not tell your mom about it or even instint wait until your mom got home and let her spank you.Or do you think you should have not been spank.Did you think you stepdad was going to let you get away with your bad behaviour. How long has your stepdad spanked you this way. Has he try other forms of punishments with you and this is the only one that worked. Or you you think your stepdad was being perverted. did you try to talk to someone about this. I am very sorry this happen to you but you need to let this out. You should tell people the truth when you are tell people your story so they can answer you correctly. Let me ask you this do you have a problem being spanked on the bare bum or was it just the fact your stepdad was doing it. I figure there are ways to spank on the bare bum without revealing to much. What would you say if you were spanked this way you pull down your pants your your stepdad does you get over his knee and while you are over his knee you or he pulls down your underwear and you get spanked like that or you could wear a skirt. Or how about this you be a good girl and you will not be spanked. Listen Beck I am a survire a child abuse I was given beatings and bare and not bare bottom spankings.If I had a choice I would have taken the spankings no matter how it was done. No one see's your bottom but when you have to go to school with black and blue hands stichness and teachers and other people ask what happen. If you like to talk let me know I know sometimes I am pretty straight forward thats how I am you would'nt want me to lie to you would you. I care Becky just let me try.ok?. Good luck let it out of your system yell scream go to the gym and beaten up the punching bag. the longer you keep it inside the longer it will take for you to move on.<br />
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June 15, 2011<br />
re: ''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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Dave, thank you for the comments.<br />
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(I wish there was nesting of messages, would make it easier for people to follow/respond/discuss.)<br />
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I explained what led to this particular spanking earlier (see my two posts on 6/7/11). Those answer most of your follow-up questions since there's not enough characters allowed to repeat.<br />
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My mom never spanked us. My stepdad threatened to a lot and frequently spanked my younger brother. The most I had ever gotten was a very infrequent odd swat. However, he did either partially or fully expose my bare bottom on several previous occasions, but my mom, fate or whatever intervened and interrupted him from continuing.<br />
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It was not unusual for my stepdad to spank my younger brother (who was almost three years younger than me), pants down or underwear too, right on the spot, in the living room, wherever, whether I was present or not. One time in front of my older brother and his then-current girlfriend. When I was 13, my younger brother and I both had our bottoms bared at our stepdad's brother's house. My brother was got spanked first, but fate intervened for me before I got spanked (but unfortunately not before my panties came down inside-out over my thighs).<br />
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I guess what I'm saying is it was not completely shocking, but still. At the time I was 16. And my brother's friend was a boy I regularly babysat (the son of a good friend of my mom from college). So you can imagine being reminded of my shame continuously from just that.<br />
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I don't have any doubts he removed my bikini top because I was reaching back (and to add to my shame, of course). But not for any perverted reason. I wasn't sexually abused, thank God!<br />
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Had my mom not come back in the house and heard me crying, it would have been lasted longer and therefore even more embarrassing - I'm sure.<br />
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Yes, as you asked, I did NOT want him spanking me. Especially exposed or in front of anyone. So of course I'd have preferred being grounded. But keep in mind, that wasn't an option. He believed in spanking cuz he had been spanked too. Nor was asking to let mom do it an option, since he knew she wouldn't have and, anyway, he had grabbed me and put my over his lap and I was too afraid to get in a physical confrontation.<br />
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(My mom didn't have a problem with me wearing that bikini to the beach the following weekend. But as I said, he most certainly did.)<br />
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Unfortunately, it wasn't the last humiliating spanking he gave me but that and others were the proverbial straws that broke the camel's back and helped my mom speed up a process to divorce him she had already begun (we did not know it at the time). It was not a pleasant experience and requests to stop him from spanking us during the custody battle was denied. Ultimately, his own stupidity helped decide the issue and my mom won full custody.<br />
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Yes, I'm finally getting this all out of my system and have come to realize the burning shame I've felt for years shouldn't be my shame, but his. Talking about it does help.<br />
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June 15, 2011<br />
re: To George<br />
by: Anonymous<br />
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The way you punish your daughter is very perverted!!<br />
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The humilation will not last only for a few days as you seem to think - it will last her lifetime. IT IS SEXUAL ABUSE TO FORCE ANYONE TO BARE THEMSELVES.<br />
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You are not a fit parent. The mother of these children needs parenting advice and should be there to protect them. Are you abusing her in the same way?<br />
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June 24, 2011<br />
re: ''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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Though disappointed that even after I made my case that I feel my stepdad was wrong for spanking my bare bottom AND baring my breasts in front of my younger brother and his 12-year old playmate (because I was trying to deflect the swats to my bare bottom) when I was 16, ''George'' not only indicated that if I were his stepdaughter I could not only expect to be totally bared too for my spankings but that I wouldn't even be allowed to cover myself at all, adding the additional humiliating remark that if my ''breasts happen to bounce, that's just too bad.''<br />
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However, although this board has many pro-spank parent advocates, at least it appears George is the lone advocate of delivery such an embarrassing punishment to a teenage girl. That makes me feel a little better in that since other than him no one else is condoning what my stepdad did that it strengthens my belief that he was unjustified in his actions.<br />
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June 25, 2011<br />
re: To Becky Romero: Yes, your stepdad correctly spanked you<br />
by: Travis<br />
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To Becky Romero: Yes, your stepdad correctly spanked you.<br />
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You said your sibling was often spanked in front of you his pants down and exposed. Obvious question: why do you think you should be treated differently? Double standard preference for girls perhaps?<br />
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And your butt was already bare because of your choice of swimwear (if one could even call it that).<br />
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As for your bare breasts you made the choice to interfere with your stepdad spanking you. You said yourself your stepdad only took off your bra hoping you'd cover your breasts instead of interfering with the spanking. So it's your own fault that caused the boys seeing your bare beasts. How much they bounce around when you are spanked of course depends on your teenage body's development but that's only natural and not your stepdad's fault.<br />
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I do think George is partially wrong. You should generally be allowed to use your hands to cover your breasts or *****. And since you're a teenager I'd let you chose whether you'd want to stand up or be spanked over my lap.<br />
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But to teach you to stop interfering and submit, I would make you take your panties and bra off for all your spankings for at least the next couple months. Since you said your sibling was often spanked no matter who was around, so it would be with you too - in the family room. After you fully undress I'd allow you to cover up your front parts with your hands if you wish, but you'd have to otherwise remain fully bare until the spanking was over. This way you probably wouldn't interfere being spanked since you'd want to protect your modesty. A fair exchange I'd say, especially if you're embarrassed your brother or other company was present. Wouldn't you agree?<br />
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Of course you have another option. Be a good girl and behave. Listen to your parents. Don't be disrespectful and wear more modest swimming attire. Apologize to your stepdad and tell him that from now on you won't fight being punished and offer the 'bra off' compromise I outlined above.<br />
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To show your good faith, tell your parents that you deserve and want another spanking because of what happened earlier. Once your parents and siblings are gathering in the family room, remove all your clothes and present yourself to be spanked. You'll be happy with yourself afterward that you've gained back their respect. Conduct yourself appropriately from now but if you're spanked further this way over the summer, accept it as your responsibility for your poor behavior.<br />
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When school resumes in the fall ask your parents if you can keep your bra on for future spankings on the condition you promise not to interfere - and that if you do not only will your bra be removed but you agree to place your hands on top of your head instead of protecting your modesty. Surely if you don't want your siblings or company to see you fully exposed, you'll behave like a young lady of your age should and you'll be thankful later in life for being taught proper discipline.<br />
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June 25, 2011<br />
re: to Becky R<br />
by: dave<br />
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this in responses to your comment.Maybe I misunderstood your story about your stepdad I was under the inpression that he was trying to sexualy asault any chance he could or at least was abusing you by spanking you to much at least that what I got from your storeis. Maybe you could answer this for me if he was your stepdad why was he trying to get custidy of you and your brother or was it a trick so he could get money from your mother for child support. I also notice that you have seem to have calm down to you do not seem to be so angry. Which is good you know Beck bad things happen to good people its what you do with it that matters. Use it as a learning experenice use what you have gone though to help someone there's nothing like telling someone I understand what you are going though because I have been there myself just my saying that you are in the door. Books can only teach you so much there's nothing like living though it. Ya it would be nice to have gone though something better. Keep up the good work but be careful who you listen to that guy G I am sorry he was wrong to say that when a female is getting a bare bottom spanking she should have to remove all her cloths there's no point to that.there should be a way for people to talk to each other. Otherthan here maybe the adminitraters of this site can tell us how were can do this if you want.<br />
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June 26, 2011<br />
re: Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off too<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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Hi, Dave,<br />
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Thank you for responding.<br />
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I realize this might effect your answer as to whether you felt me receiving that spanking and the manner in which I got it was warranted, but I have to honestly say that no, my stepdad did not sexually assault me, thank God, never. Some people told me they felt since he removed my clothes and spanked me bare that he did. But he did not by any legal definition and I did not feel like he did either, nor did he touch my breasts or vaginal area. I was being punished pure and simple. He obviously felt shame was a necessary part of it.<br />
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I did feel he was PHYSICALLY abusing me but unfortunately during my parent's divorce proceedings the judge said that the infrequent amount of spankings I did receive did not come close to meeting the threshold of 'excessive corporal punishment.'<br />
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The judge added though it was not common for a girl my age (then 16) to be spanked on my bare buttocks by a parent, it was far from unusual nor did the law prohibit it since the physician's report (part of a mandatory physical exam my brother and I were required to submit to) stated those spankings had not caused a "substantial risk" to my "emotional health" and there was not yet sufficient evidence to suggest further such spankings would either. So a request to have him barred from spanking me (or my brother) during the initial visitation/mediation period was denied.<br />
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My mom (unknown to all of us at the time) was already contemplating getting a divorce because of his increasing hostile attitude towards us and the arguments she had with him, particularly over how we were disciplined. That spanking and those a week later basically were the straw that broke the camel's back. (I had defied him and wore the g-string thong bikini to the lake anyway thinking as long as he didn't actually see me in it that I'd get away with it. I over-thought the plan and it backfired.)<br />
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Yes my stepdad did seek custody (my older brother was already in college so it was just over my younger brother and I). I think part was to spite my mom and part to spite me, although he said it was because we needed to learn proper discipline, respect and have proper boundaries set. I guess maybe too like someone told me he was angry about losing it all, the marriage, control over our lives, etc, couldn't handle us (me especially) getting older and asserting our independence and it was his way of fighting back.<br />
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In the end my mom won full custody but only because he basically shot himself in the foot, slapping me across the face in a hallway making my lip bleed slightly and calling me an 'ungrateful little tramp' after a mediation over something I had said and the mediator just happened to see it when returning back around a corner. When he refused to undergo counseling for anger management that was basically it and my mom got full temp custody with visitations stopped and later got permanent custody when the divorce was final the following spring.<br />
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June 26, 2011<br />
re: Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off too<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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To Dave & Travis,<br />
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Although this isn't a pleasant subject for me to talk about, I find it does help. So I don't mind answering questions about my particular situation as long as it is a civil conversation even if some of the things are embarrassing. Certainly not the kind of conservation I'd be comfortable talking about to random guys at a party, but here it's okay.<br />
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Dave (continuing past the 3000 character limit), just to clarify, are you saying that him baring me from the waist down was acceptable just not baring my breasts too?<br />
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Travis: No, I'm not saying I should have been treated differently than my younger brother. I do however feel there were many times when he shouldn't have been spanked. There were also times years earlier when we might have equally misbehaved but only he got spanked. But our stepdad treated him and picked on him horribly.<br />
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As for my bikini, I had thought my stepdad, my brother and my brother's friend hadn't got back to the house yet when I had tried it on to show my mom. If I hadn't got caught in it while heading back upstairs to change I wouldn't have gotten spanked at all that day cuz my stepdad didn't even know about it.<br />
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As for him removing my bikini top, I had just been pulled over his lap and was getting spanked hard. How could I not instinctively try to deflect the swats to my bare bottom? Plus, he was holding one of my arms behind my back because of what I was trying to do so I had only one free hand to try to cover my breasts with which was basically impossible to do adequately given the circumstances.<br />
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As to your suggestion, Travis, do you have any idea how humiliating it is being spanked like that, fully exposed, not just in front of my stepdad but in front of my brothers, not to mention others? Of course being naked I tried to cover myself. But that doesn't lessen the shame.<br />
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One thing I've noticed is that many pro-spank parents say they would tell a their teenage child to remove their clothes and prepare for a spanking, but what if it was someone like me who would have initially refused? Is that justification for removing my clothes by force? Or would you give up and give me some alternative punishment (grounding, etc.)?<br />
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I guess what I'm saying is I know my stepdad had a LEGAL right to spank me, even with me undressed and regardless that others were present in our house because it wasn't sexually abusive or considered excessive. And I'm not saying I deserve special treatment because I'm a girl either and the law doesn't make a distinction with regards to the age of a minor. But just because something is legal, does that make it right too?<br />
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June 26, 2011<br />
re: To Becky Romero: Yes, your stepdad correctly spanked you<br />
by: Travis<br />
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To Becky Romero. I stand by my opinion. Even more so after your last posts.<br />
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I didn't realize your no longer living with your stepdad so my suggestion he should spank you braless doesn't make sense now. Sorry you might not like to hear this but I do think at the time you should have been punished and any spankings you got after that should have been like I said bottomless and then your bra off to get you to stop interfering. Until a few months pass and after you demonstrated that you would cover up your breasts instead of interferring being spanked.<br />
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OK so you said to ask questions. Your a brave girl for answering so don't get mad if there embarrassing. You said you don't think you should be spanked different than your brother. You weren't. You saw him get spanked bare and now he saw you. Isn't that fair?<br />
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You said a girl guest at your house saw him spanked bottomless. Presumably his balls bounced about so he was embarrassed. Now you got spanked and his male friend saw you bare as your breasts bounced about. So? Isn't that fair? Embarrassing sure but you said yourself you didn't feel as a girl you deserved special exemption right? If all his private boy parts were exposed but all your girl ones weren't wouldn't that be unfair? You even said he got spanked when you didn't though you both misbehaved. Is that fair?<br />
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OK about your bra coming off. Yes I think he acted correctly. Maybe he could have given you warning or let you stand up and take it off yourself. Then standing there it would have been your fault if the boys saw you topless or not since you could cover yourself with your hands.<br />
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Were you embarrassed because your breasts bounced and jiggled as you were spanked or just upset they saw your breasts? Or maybe because they teased you after?<br />
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To answer your other question yes if a parent is going to spank bare bottom, then the parent should be prepared to take off the child's clothes if the child refuses otherwise don't bother. Kids are smart and if they know they won't get spanked bare bottom if they don't undress they won't undress.<br />
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Becky, I wouldn't have any hestiation taking yours off given the circumstances you described and if your embarrassed, I'm sorry but I'd hope you learn to behave and not want to be embarrassed again.<br />
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You said though you got a bare bottom spanking you still disobeyed him and wore what sounds like very revealing swimming attire in public. Did you not expect to get a similar spanking? Did you get spanked again because you didn't listen to your stepdad? If so, did you accept responsbility for your actions?<br />
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But for your main question was your stepdad right in spanking you? Sorry Becky but you answered it yourself. You said the judge agreed with him even though you were bare bottom. That he didn't do anything sexual (which no one would condone). Since you admit he legally had a right to take off your clothes and spank you really what's the problem? I'm sorry its not the answer you want to hear.<br />
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June 27, 2011<br />
re: to Becky R<br />
by: Dave<br />
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let me try to answer comment. No no your father had no right to pull off your bikini top!! Let me make it very clear He wanted to spank you on your bare bottom right so what did that have to do with the top. Was it done by accindent or do you think it was on purpose I want you to really think about it.Sometimes when thing happen we think why that ---- he did that on purpose but really it was an accindent. As for the bikini bottoms are you telling me that it was like a thon so it covered the front but the back was left open so your bottom was exposed? if this is true what did you want your father to do. Any father would not like to see there daughter go out in public dressed like that now be honest Becky.No wait a minute I will ask you would you allow your daughter to wear something like that? actually you did no it was wrong because you try to run up the stairs before you stepdad could see it. right. Was your stepdad always stricted or did he change all of sudden. Well I have to say your stepdad had patients with you because if that was me spanking you I would have not tolerated you trying to stop me from spanking you. I believe that a spanking is a very serious thing so when someone is being spanked they should follow orders and do want they are told these stories I read even yours how you try to diflect the hitts by covering your bottom this is wrong and that would not work with me you did the crime now you get punished and if you tried to stop it you would get an additional spanking at the end. But you would have know that from the beginning and after a few additional spankings you would have stopped and just taken your spanking. Let me ask you this have you ever taken a spanking from your stepdad were you did not give him a hard time? and if you did you not notice that spanking went better than the others.I think from the very begining your mom and stepdad should have talked about what there ideals of discipline was and what they thought of spanking and even bare bottom spanking. I look at it this way your stepdad way of punishing you guys were spankings and even bare bottom spankings. I should ask were you ever spanked just on the pants or clothes see that you are a girl and can be wearing almost anything like a skirt shorts? so that was his way like it or not. so what ever misbehaving you might have done you knew he was going to spank you right so why make a fuss over it. You are a smart girl. If you did not want to be spanked then you should have been a good girl right right!! <br />
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It does not matter whether she is living with him or not. The point is that she was getting a bare bottom spanking right we could all agree to that. What does removing or as I red ripping off her top have to do with it? As I see it nothing I am looking at it as a stand point of me being the father.If I were to spank my daughter on the bare bottom then I would have her or I would pull down her pants and underwear thats it the top the bra what ever it was has no part of the spanking. Are you saying because she was a girl she should have been totaly *****? If so why? When the father spanked the brother he was only spanked on tghe bare bottom he had to only drop his pants and underwear so whats the difference. I could be wrong but do not look at this as a man spanking a women if that is the cases than have her or him ***** anyway you want its not that.Its a father or stepfather spanking his daughter point final. You may say its to make her embarrassit well having your bare butt exposed for all to see covers that ideal no as for her brother. please look at this as straight discipline nothing else. You are right if you can't do the time when do'nt do the crime. She should of just taking the spanking just to get it over with. Yes you are right that was not the kind of swim suit she should have been wearing around boys even thou they were her brothers. I am suprized they did not say anyhing I mean she is there sister. I might have it all wrong about the swim suit<br />
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I am sorry I type so fast I did not realize that I went over the 3000 count I think they should allow you more or at least tell you when you get close because trust me I had to cut alot out and I did not keep what I wrote to you so now I will have to try and remember what I wrote. Over the years I have alot of deals with kids and my way of disciplinng them was old fashion spanking and even some bare bottom spankings I would tell them the rules that I had for them and if they broke them what would happen I went two steps beloned that I had them tell me what would happen if they broke the rules and they all told me that if they broke the rules I would put them over my knee and spank them. I also asked them if they again in what I told them they all said yes exspect for a few you did not like the fact I was hgoing to spank them. After I explain that they had nothing to worry about if they did not want to be spanked then the answer was behave. Ya you are right they said. And I was a person of my word. I never lied to them I told them if I say I am going to do something for you bad you good then I am going to do it I believe you have to treat kids like that way they know you mean business. In short my threats were threats that was carried out by action if need be. That what I call love. Was your dad always strict or did he change. Do you still talk to him? Did you and your brothers love your stepdad and did you get salong or was it like parent child relationship mean they talk you listen. Was he someone you could talk to when you had a problem. I mean was he a loving stepdad hugging kisses you and your brothers or was he not like that. Did you see him as your stepdad or someone else you had to listen to. I hope you can understand what I am trying to say<br />
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June 27, 2011<br />
re: Becky Romero, her stepdad removing her bra, spanking her bare bottom<br />
by: Travis<br />
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To Dave & Becky:<br />
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I hope Becky will answer Dave's and my earlier questions to clear up any misunderstanding.<br />
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Here's how I see it and first let's see if we can agree on a few things.<br />
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1 Becky was wearing swimming attire totally inappropriate for a teenage girl her age<br />
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2 As Dave speculated Becky did you know this was wrong or that your stepdad disapproved?If not why did you not want him to see you in it?<br />
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3 Becky said "words were exchanged and I was soon pulled over his lap." Becky can you elaborate? Maybe if you didn't talk back you wouldn't have been spanked?<br />
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4 Becky said she was wearing a ''g-string tie thong bikini'' and that once she was over her stepdad's lap: "He then untied my bottoms and pulled down the back portion of it, out of my butt crack and down below my bottom." Sounds if he preserved some her modesty in front of boys by not having her stand and pull bottoms down?<br />
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5 As to her top she said her stepdad warned her to stop interfering but she kept doing it anyway: "I kicked up my feet as he continued to spank me. So without warning he yanked hard on the string of my bikini top, undoing it. As it fell to the floor, my brother's friend Vaughn giggled at my exposure."<br />
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My observations.<br />
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Stepdad had enough and lost patience.Top was removed because girl kept interfering. Once breasts were exposed she covered them up instead of interfering so the spanking was allowed to continue. Embarrassing sure. But effective.<br />
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Q for Dave. What would you have the stepdad do? Becky said she would have refused to go to her room so you either have to spank her in front of her brother and the other boy or not spank her.<br />
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From what Becky said bare bottom spankings were given in the house and in front of siblings/witnesses. So she knew this but still choose to break the rules. I'm just saying either you demonstrate your authority and spank her and if removing her bra makes her cover her breasts so can spank her instead of her interfering then either you do it or dont spank her. I think Becky said judge said it wasn't sexual abuse so what's the problem?<br />
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Q for Becky. Like Dave said, did you have prior spankings like that so you knew what might happen? Did you stepdad remove your bra in earlier spankings? If not did you learn a lesson that day and decide to act mature and responsible?<br />
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Maybe your stepdad was bad maybe not. We don't know. But your the one who said he had a legal right to spank you that way. You just didn't like it. Sure many kids don't like being spanked. But mature ones learn from discipline and act more responsibly so they dont get punished again. Did you learn? I wonder. You said you got spanked a week later ("I had defied him and wore the g-string thong bikini to the lake")<br />
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I'm sorry if you don't like the answers. But you do seem conflicted. I could be wrong and I'm sorry if I am so don't take this badly but maybe inside you know your stepdad acted correctly and your afraid to admit that to yourself?<br />
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June 28, 2011<br />
re: to Becky and Travis<br />
by: Dave<br />
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travis what I understand Becky knew what she was wearing was inappropriate whats why she was running up the stair to make sure her stepdad did not see what she was wearing. Lets see if we can all agree to the fact she was going to get a spanking that we all know and have nothing to say about it. She knew her stepdad was a spanker it it might be on the bare bottom. She also knew that her stepdad spanked were ever when ever he decide no matter who was around. So I am sad to say she did desevre to be spanked. It all starts from the first time she got spanked the stepdad did not set out the rules meaning she takes the spanking like a responible person meaning the stepdad give her instruction and she following them. And if they are not followed she get additional spanks longer and harder another word double punishment. that way we would not be having this problem right now but we are. I am looking at this if this was me spanking my daughter and you should be looking it like that way to Travis. The spanking should be done in private not in front of the public.<br />
Would you have stripe your daughter in public and spanked her I know I would not I look at it as I love my daughter and would protect her from embarrassemnt were possible I just see it as wrong. As for the beach the week later I do not think she got caught whether she did or did not offencely she did not learn from the first spanking. It was a war of the wills. she should not been wear that like of bikini at all when she was out on her own thats her choice but under the stepdad roof it was he's rules, I think there's more to this then we both know. All's I know that this has bother her alot after all these years and it time to move on and start to heal and by use fighting over it's not help her at all you have your opion and vis vera and I forgot these Becky's. Becky it was a bad thing that happen to you and I am sorry you had to go thought it but please move on otherwise its going to ruin your life and you know what you let your stepdad win again. Take the hight road kid on move on. good luck<br />
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June 29, 2011<br />
re: Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off too<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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To Dave & Travis,<br />
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I'll try to answer first Travis' older post, then Dave's then Travis' latest post. If I forget something, sorry, please point it out. I don't mind the give and take when it's a polite conversation like this, despite the personal nature of it all. Looks like it will be a couple posts given the 3000 char limit.<br />
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Travis, are you saying that if my parents hadn't gotten divorced I should not only have been spanked bare bottom but topless too just because I tried to deflect swats to my bottom? You do realize I was 16 at the time? With an older brother and a younger brother?<br />
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As to my younger brother, alright this is hard for me to answer because I do feel guilty over how Matt was treated. Yes, I saw him get spanked and no I don't feel I deserved special treatment. But I am almost 3 years older than him. Can't you imagine how embarrassing it was for me with him watching me getting spanked at 16, not to mention on my bare bottom and topless too? As to fairness, no, I know it wasn't fair for him to be spanked at times when we both misbehaved. But I'd prefer to think that true fairness would have been him not getting spanked period than for me to have been spanked as well to somehow even the score.<br />
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Regarding my stepdad removing my bikini top. You suggested that I should have been allowed to stand up and remove it myself. OMG! Since he had already by that point untied and pulled down the back of my bottoms over my butt, making me stand up at that point would have meant even more embarrassment.<br />
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Yes, obviously I was embarrassed that my brother and his friend saw my bare breasts. Of course it was embarrassing that they inevitably 'bounced' and 'jiggled' in front of them as I couldn't keep them covered the whole time, at times grabbing the chair leg with my only free hand as I winced in pain. Obviously, they teased me too.<br />
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I was embarrassed by all that, not just by any one facet of my punishment. My bottom was totally bare. And I was being spanked over my stepdad's lap and crying and begging for him to stop. Every part of it was humiliating. My brother's friend, a boy who was 12 at the time, was someone whom I regularly babysat for years, the son of a good friend of my mom's from college. You can imagine how completely ashamed I felt every time I babysat him and his four younger siblings after that - starting with the following evening.<br />
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I still wore the same bikini to the lake the following weekend because I thought I had outsmarted him by avoiding him seeing me with it on. Unfortunately I over-thought the plan and ended up not only being spanked but because I was caught in a lie got spanked for that too.<br />
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I really hadn't thought I'd get spanked period because I didn't see how he'd have known I disobeyed him. (And remember: my mom didn't have a problem with me wearing it to the lake with my girlfriends and my stepdad knew that from the argument. Since I knew she was going to be out of town at my grandmother's that weekend I knew I had to be careful but felt that meant just avoiding being caught.<br />
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So I wore it. Had a great time with my friends. There had been an issue with my clothes as my friend Ashley picked me up and we rushed out so my younger brother who was up the street at a friend's wouldn't come home, see me wearing it and tattle on me to our stepdad. So unfortunately the bag with my clothes got left behind, her thinking I had put them in the back seat, me thinking she did. So all I had on was the g-string tie thong and couldn't walk in the front door wearing that. So on the way home Ashley pulled over to the side of the highway and I took it off, then wrapped myself in a towel. The lie I would tell was that I had on a one-piece but it was all wet and I didn't want her car seat to get wet or dirty from the sand and forget it in the trunk of her car.<br />
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When Ashley dropped me off, he was home. We argued and so on and I got spanked, even more so when I admitted I had lied, the towel ending up on the floor. I had to beg him to let me go upstairs and put a bra on cuz I heard the front door slam (my younger brother coming home). I did and the spanking continued in front of my brother. But he wouldn't let me fasten it cuz I couldn't help but try to still deflect the swats (he spanked really hard!). When he got interrupted by a phone call and went into the kitchen, I quickly grabbed a jacket, begged my brother to lie and say he didn't know I had ran out and I ran over to my best friend's house. When her parents saw how red my butt was they wanted me to call the police but I called my mom. She caught a quick flight home, calling my stepdad first telling him I was waiting for her at the airport (a lie so he wouldn't go calling my friends to see where I was).<br />
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A number of hours later my friend and her parents dropped my mom and I off at our house. On the porch I took off the skirt my friend had lent me, leaving me in just the short jacket and only my bra on underneath.<br />
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Almost immediately my mom and stepdad started arguing. When things seemed to calm down my mom went upstairs to shower and change and that's when in the dining room my stepdad began picking on my younger brother.<br />
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To make a long story short, I finally couldn't take my brother being spanked for something I did and I ended up being spanked again. And so I was and so it was going on when my older brother, his girlfriend (now wife) and a couple they had gone out on a double date with walked in the house through the back door.<br />
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My mom came back downstairs and another argument started and my stepdad stop spanking me but by that time it was way too late. I had been totally humiliated.<br />
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Travis, you asked if he had ever made me take my bra off before that earlier spanking and if he ever did so again. To answer your questions respectively, no and yes. And that night was one of those times (yes, I was naked).<br />
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Though it was a horribly degrading evening it ended with my mom announcing to us and shocking us all that she was going to be filing for divorce.<br />
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Kris, my now sister-in-law, came over to the couch where I had flung myself over onto and told me what my mom said, led me upstairs and comforted me as I got dressed, my mom instructing me to stay at my friend's house for a few days. By the time I got home later that week, my stepdad had moved out and then we went through the whole divorce process, CFS interviews, exams, mediation, etc.<br />
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Dave, you asked if my stepdad had removed my bikini top on purpose or by accident. It was clearly on purpose. He figured I'd be embarrassed and cover my breasts instead of trying to deflect the swats with my brother and his friends sitting on the floor not too many feet away from me. He didn't rip it off me per se, but he yanked hard on the tied strings in the back as I lay across his lap so once untied it fell off my breasts and to the floor quite suddenly. And with him already holding one arm behind my back, by the time I got the other one around in front of me... well, enough said there.<br />
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As for my bikini bottoms, it was a g-string tie thong bikini, so yes, you're correct. I was basically bare back there even before being spanked. But he still untied the sides and slipped it down off my bottom, leaving the front part untouched.(Travis, you had thought maybe if I stood up and was allowed to remove my own top to keep my hands occupied covering my breasts. If that happened, my untied bottoms would have slipped right down to the floor.)<br />
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Dave asked me some other questions. OK, honestly, if I have a daughter someday: no, I'd prefer her not to wear what I did to a public beach. I wouldn't care so much if she wore it at home or to a friend's pool. But I don't think my stepdad had a right to order me not to wear it, especially since my mom didn't have a problem with it. OK, sure wasn't completely happy about it but I told her I was going to wear it to the lake and she didn't tell me not to.<br />
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Dave, it wasn't that I thought it was wrong, but I would have been embarrassed had my stepdad, brother and my brother's friend saw me in it so that's why I was heading upstairs to change, not knowing they had already come back and were in the living room when I walked in there to go upstairs.<br />
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OK, you're a guy so maybe you don't understand. But there's a difference wearing something like that with friends (and even with strangers around) at the lake or at their house and having your brother or stepdad seeing you in it, especially unexpectedly.<br />
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My stepdad was always bossy, strict and basically overbearing. My mom and him separated once before for a number of months when I was around 10. But he had become increasingly mean to me once I started high school. For example, there was no problem if my older brother had a girlfriend over and they studied upstairs in his bedroom. But I couldn't bring a boyfriend upstairs. He was critical of practically everything I wore. My jeans were always too tight in his eyes, I displayed too much cleavage, my skirts were too short, and of course with that bikini he hit the roof (not to mention my bottom).<br />
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You said you would have given me extra spankings for trying to deflect the swats. I guess he did too or would have had my mom not stopped him but that first one over my bikini was really the first full-fledged spanking he ever gave me. There were a few other times he started to spank me (my butt even being bared) but got interrupted. Even though I knew my younger brother got it bad, I really had no first-hand experience, had no idea how much it was going to sting. Not to mention the embarrassment.<br />
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You said he had patience. Well, I know what you mean but patience? LOL! He had absolutely no patience for anything, whether it be waiting for my mom to fix something to eat or him sitting in traffic on the expressway. Of course his solution, humiliating as it was, to untie my bikini top did work from his standpoint: I stopped trying to deflect the swats after that. I don't know how you would have reacted because I was partially successful in deflecting them, though ultimately my actions caused me more embarrassment. I suppose your response would have as well (caused more embarrassment), since it would have meant more minutes over your lap to deliver additional spankings with my bare bottom exposed in front of my brother and his friend (as well as to you). Or am I wrong to assume that? Do you feel I should be over his lap or standing while bottomless? Dave? Travis?<br />
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June 29, 2011<br />
re: Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off too<br />
by: Becky Romero<br />
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This is to answer Dave and to Travis' post of 6/27/11.<br />
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Dave, it's not like my stepdad had some rulebook that he read to us. I know some parents practically do that, so their children sort of know when they might expect a spanking. My stepdad wasn't like that at all. So it wasn't as if you knew whether you would be spanked over something (this really applied more to my younger brother, because my older brother rarely was spanked and I, though when I finally started to get spanked it was bad, didn't get spanked when I was younger, though the threats were always a constant. Plus, my mom never spanked us. And she really didn't want him spanking us either but part of the whole thing about the divorce was she wasn't to divorce him earlier but was afraid. She was biding time for us to get older where joint custody and or visitation orders would be less likely.<br />
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I understand what you're saying though. I have a close friend and roommate whose mom spanked her and her two younger sisters. She got it bare bottom too at times. But the spankings she got from her mom were never given in a state of raging anger. Her mom never called her names or belittled her in front of others or alone. My friend basically never went to bed crying from a spanking. I know if my mom had spanked us and did so like that, it wouldn't have been bad at all. (well, I guess my brothers would have been embarrassed with their undies down, lol).<br />
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The last words I said to my stepdad were during that mediation in 2002 after which he slapped me across the face in the hallway later. I had told the mediator how I often cried myself to sleep wo