I Often Feel Ignored
For months now I've been planning a baby shower for my youngest niece. I've written about the difficulties this has caused for myself and my family on my other blog pages, so I'm not going to go into it here... but what I am going to write about here is the incredibly disrespectful and hurtful lack of communication that's taking place between myself and family members who are invovled in the shower.
Though I am the person who has been asked to host the shower, there have been a variety of changes made to plans without so much as a consultation with me. Because of those changes there has been a great deal of stress created, so much so, recently, my sister-in-law cancelled the shower, then decided it was back on again within a 24 hour period of time.
I've been feeling disrespected, as I can't get my niece or sister-in-law to communicate with me. I call, I don't hear back. I email and get no response. I respond on Facebook and get nothing, I try to instant message and that cues the crickets. Somehow they expect me to know how they feel, what they are thinking, to just be here to implement whatever they happen to decide upon. I, apparently, don't rate a response, little to no respect. I'm just supposed to be here when I'm needed.
The baby's father's mother is supposed to be helping with the baby shower, but I can't get the woman to conmunicate with me at all. Even when I speak to her on the phone, it's like pulling teeth to get an answer from her. There's a lot of 'dead air space' when I try to speak to her. She doesn't answer emails, even though I ask for a response.
When people don't respond to me, when there's no communication, it makes me feel as if I'm not worthy of the time it would take to make a phone call, type out an email, participate in an online chat.
I can't get my Godson to communicate with me either, my friend of 34 years only comes around when she wants to complain about her life.
I read a posting that circulates around Facebook often that says something to the effect that 'a good friend is someone you can go wtihout talking to or seeing for years and pick up right where you left off.' I strongly disagree.... a good friend is someone who would never let years go by without dropping a line, sending an email, etc. I feel dismissed, unwanted, unworthy, degraded and disrespected when people can't communicate, even in the simplest ways.
I know that's probaby something about me I need to work on, as most things that upset or bother us are attributed to us ourselves, but nonetheless, it's how I feel and I just needed to write it out, validate how I felt.
Though I am the person who has been asked to host the shower, there have been a variety of changes made to plans without so much as a consultation with me. Because of those changes there has been a great deal of stress created, so much so, recently, my sister-in-law cancelled the shower, then decided it was back on again within a 24 hour period of time.
I've been feeling disrespected, as I can't get my niece or sister-in-law to communicate with me. I call, I don't hear back. I email and get no response. I respond on Facebook and get nothing, I try to instant message and that cues the crickets. Somehow they expect me to know how they feel, what they are thinking, to just be here to implement whatever they happen to decide upon. I, apparently, don't rate a response, little to no respect. I'm just supposed to be here when I'm needed.
The baby's father's mother is supposed to be helping with the baby shower, but I can't get the woman to conmunicate with me at all. Even when I speak to her on the phone, it's like pulling teeth to get an answer from her. There's a lot of 'dead air space' when I try to speak to her. She doesn't answer emails, even though I ask for a response.
When people don't respond to me, when there's no communication, it makes me feel as if I'm not worthy of the time it would take to make a phone call, type out an email, participate in an online chat.
I can't get my Godson to communicate with me either, my friend of 34 years only comes around when she wants to complain about her life.
I read a posting that circulates around Facebook often that says something to the effect that 'a good friend is someone you can go wtihout talking to or seeing for years and pick up right where you left off.' I strongly disagree.... a good friend is someone who would never let years go by without dropping a line, sending an email, etc. I feel dismissed, unwanted, unworthy, degraded and disrespected when people can't communicate, even in the simplest ways.
I know that's probaby something about me I need to work on, as most things that upset or bother us are attributed to us ourselves, but nonetheless, it's how I feel and I just needed to write it out, validate how I felt.
By:
rollingwithhusky
Age:
46-50
,
Female
