What If I Had Chosen ... ?

An EP friend of mine, "txwoman2" (btw, she's very bright and very cute) posed the classic, "What if?", question in a story recently. As I age (just turned 60) that thought crosses.my mind more often. But I know that I have been blessed with a cup that has been more than half full for most of my life. Here's my response to her. "What if ... ?", is the ultimate philosophical question. Your best line is, "Life is full of choices ... and every time you make one decision ... you actually make many ... ". In my life, I have worn many hats: soldier, teacher, coach, husband, father and much more. I like to think that I have been good at each of those things, despite the ups and downs of my life. But after a rewarding life in the Army, I can't help but wonder where I would be today if, instead, I had become a teacher or a full-time college coach. Regardless, I know that I would have been great at each, because I'm that kind of guy, supremely confident and competitive. But when I reflect upon my life of service to my country, especially when I swell with pride as I salute our flag, my hand over my heart for the Pledge of Allegiance in a classroom each morning, I know that I chose right. I still get to teach and coach, albeit belatedly. And when I get my retirement check each month or sit at a VA hospital surrounded by the unheralded heroes that have let us sleep safe and sound, I look heavenward, and thank our Lord, for the choice that I did make. So, Merry Christmas to all, and to all a safe night!"
habeant habeant
56-60, M
9 Responses Dec 23, 2012

Whatever you did or could do would have been your best..and that is very good :)

That's sweet to say. Thanks!

Wow! I loved this story so much. And I completely agree you. One decision can have this amazing ripple effect through your entire life...and sometimes you can't even see the current when it first starts shifting into another direction. I will occasionally go down the "what if road"....but it can be a journey full of uncertainty and melancholy. The grass always seems greener on the other side...but a lot of times that is simply an illusion. So I started looking at my blessings that surround me each and every day...and I try to use my free time going down more worthwhile roads. *smile*


I dunno how
i missed this....
but i did...
first tear of the day....
you rock!!!

Thanks, you're sweet! I'm flattered that I moved you. :)

Thank you for your service!

Thanks H...
first "choke up"
liltear for the
whole day...
i love
the way
thank you

Yeah.....hopefully! Lovely anology.....

Amber xx

Choices? I liked your philosophy....my kinda thoughts too. What YOU do affects what OTHERS do and think of you, however big or small....

So.....you have to do things for yourself.....

Do your best.....give your all...treat people as you would like to be treated yourself....and you will sleep soundly each and every night....

What you do throughout life creates who you are now....

Lovely story....


Amber xx

Thank you, sweetie! It's like that old saying, "What goes around, comes around". Live your life as best you can and others will benefit also. Our actions are like ripples in a pond. They effect ripples outward from us touching the lives of all those around us. Hopefully, we ripple goodness.

Habeant that was amazingly beautiful and perfect. I applaud you my friend. Very perfectly said. :)

Thanks! It's easy to think that our life may have been better if taken in another direction. But I try to focus more upon what I have as a blessing. I always know that there are those would give anything to have been able to have had half the life that I've had.

I wish I had 1/2 the life you did. My life isn't nearly as exciting.

It may be hard when you're down, but you have had experiences that people would trade for in a heartbeat. For instance, you live in one of the most beautiful places in America, The Berkshires! Post card towns and wooded landscapes and lakes. And many would enjoy your peaceful solitude in such an idealic setting. That certainly beats an urban life, in my book.

Dang straight it is beautiful here and I love it. But there are many beautiful areas across the states.

Where I live is beautiful! Central Coastal region of California in wine country with almost 300 vineyards and wineries. It's very rural with pastures and rolling hills and just 20 miles from the ocean. But many things make a place nice for living and I hate the liberal politics, the mismanaged state and taxation, and the horrible job market. I'm ready to give this up for somewhere more conservative and hopeful.

Montana hills?

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