I once dated a wonderful woman. She was educated, astute, wise, warm and fun to be with. But she yearned to be a mother. A year earlier I'd been divorced from a bad marriage and wasn't particularly looking to get too deeply involved again but was prepared to take the risk for this lovely woman.
But when she told her family about me they strongly dis-approved. Her brother for one, advised her not to get involved. I think his reasoning was that I'd be paying alimony and, as she was an heiress (yes, honestly!) , it might prove to be very expensive if my ex wanted a slice of any money I came into.
We loved each other deeply but I could see this issue was tearing her apart. She didn't want to go against her family's wishes and I understood that so we said a painful goodbye.
A year or so later, I'd met another wonderful woman to whom I am now married and have a wonderful family with. It turns out the alimony issue never was a problem.
A few months after my re-marriage this person contacted me again just to say 'hi'. She asked my situation and I told her that I'd re-married.
She asked if I'd had any more children and I said yes.
I could hear that she was torn-up inside. I dearly would have loved to have been with her and give her the children she longed for.
That was many years ago. I don't know what happened in her life afterwards or whether she ever had her own children. I hope she did. I worry that she may have resented the advice her family gave her and fallenl out with them? I hope not.
I am sending my love to her through the ether as I write this.