21 And Dead Parents

My mom had a stroke last year, and my dad had a heart attack 11 days ago. So sad and depressed. ESPECIALLY being an only lonely. The people who are supposed to love you unconditionally no matter what, are gone.
18-21, F
2 Responses Nov 30, 2012

I can't contact you directly because of the settings on your account, but please know I hope you are managing through this difficult time and I hope you have found a survivor group that can help you deal with all this. I have two boys just about your age and I can only imagine how hard it would be for them to live without us. Take it one day at a time and hold on to the memories. They are things you can treasure in the years to come.

It is going to be hard, dealing with these losses as such a young age and so soon together. Especially this time of year. I know it is sad and depressing, but you need to move forward. Stay in touch with other family members if you can, aunts, uncles, cousins. Contact good friends and keep them close, especially if you trust them. Find a way to celebrate the love and patience your parents gave you by paying it forward to someone else. Perhaps you can be a mentor, a Big Sister, work at the local soup kitchen, something that helps you focus on those who need a little extra help or love. If you belong to a church, there may be survivor groups that can help you with your loss. If you are not a member of a church, maybe that will help. There are other organizations that might help you though these difficult times as well. We have a place called Ellie's Place that is specifically oriented to helping young people deal with the loss of a parent or family member. Search around, you will likely find one. You are welcome to respond if you need an ear, I'll try to check my messages every day. I've been where you are and know it can be hard. The most important thing to do is breath in and breath out. Get up in the morning and try to make the most of each day. Make yourself a live that you, and your parents can be proud of and try to fill each day with joy and love.