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Random Acts of Weakness

I generally disdain what I am about to do, but...it's so much more fun to be the critic sometimes.  That being said...

Random acts of kindness are merely a compensation for a sense of powerlessness.  What one feels in this universe of seemingly random and occasionally pointedly brutal events is that the world has it in for us.  We've either suffered greatly, lost something important, or questioned our own faith.  What these events bring us to- whether they be the loss of a loved one, the betrayal of our partner, or the ruthless abandonment of some authority figure- we are left to question the "greater purpose", the "meaning"...not only of our own life, but life in general.

This brings us to the conundrum: one has an option of any three possible paths.  The first, we call "righteous," because of us it demands everything and promises no return.  I prefer to call it the path of the weak.  In this path, we choose to influence the course of events in life to the benefit of others, retaining nothing from this exchange (a misnomer for only one side gains) but a "warm, fuzzy feeling" of having accomplished something wonderful.  We volunteer at the soup kitchen, we donate clothes to the naked and dying, we give blood to whomever needs it.  I call this path weak because it runs contrary to Nature (being brutal itself, allowing survival to those who earn rather than those who prosper by charity) and lends nothing to the giver.

The second path I call cruelty.  This is a path of dominance; the strong take what they can, leaving nothing in return for those who are dominated.  This path may seem attractive, for that which one can seize by force or cunning becomes theirs by right of Nature.  However, physics and science both demand that for every action there must be an equal opposing reaction.  Thereore, the unlimited cruelty and injustice born of this illusion of strength compels nothing short of the forceful and violent reaction of the many, resulting in what Hegel and Marx called the inevitable "antithesis," or opposing and resistant ideology, which must combat the existing ambitition to the point of its dissolution or destruction.

The third path is that of indifference, and it is best by far.  To care not for the fate of others is the ultimate bliss of the individual in this life.  It alleviates one of the responsibility to care for others while simultaneously facilitiating the effort of the individual to confront reality on his or her own terms and succeed or fail based solely on one's own desire- or lack thereof- to do so.  In this path, those who can, do.  Those who cannot, fail.  It is the most equitable of solutions and provides a system by which neither are the weak taken advantage of unfairly, nor are the powerful permitted to run amok unchecked.  Call it, the "live and let live" scenario.  When the livelihood of the few interferes with the enjoyment of life by the many, at that point there is the possibility for rejection of the system by the many.  Without this dissonance, however, there be neither a reason nor a need for conflict.

Leave each other alone.  Stop pretending that the things we do mean anything.  I do not advocate cold-heartedness, but to delude each other into thinking that "random" acts of kindness are anything but weakness is a lie too disgusting to tolerate.  To act kindly to another does not prevent me or anyone else from doing harm to you.  It might make you WANT to believe it, or believe in any number of other useless dogmas- such as karma- but make no mistake that your belief changes nothing about the outcome of your or my life in the long-term.  There is no grace; there is no karma.  There is only what you choose to do, and how and why you choose to do it.  To do something nice for no reason might make you feel better, but it earns you nothing in this life or any other.

So, for those of you who enjoy pointless acts of weakness, by all means, continue...the rest of us will be feeding off the carrion of your weakness forever, because Nature dictates there is no other action but that...

flirtswithdisaster flirtswithdisaster 26-30, M 8 Responses May 31, 2008

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I agree. My experience thus far leads to only one conclusion:<br />
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NO KIND DEED GOING UNPUNISHED<br />
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And although, I also agree SELFISHNESS so accurately predicts just about every actions I've ever seen someone make, it's not immediately apparent (even to me) that IT DOESN'T HAVE TO.<br />
And, in fact, it we all consistently, as a species as a whole, were less selfish and more giving, there is nothing you've said to suggest that this couldn't be true instead:<br />
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YOU AND THE RECEPIENT MADE NOT IMMEDIATELY, IF AT ALL, FEEL THE POSTIVE EFFECTS OF YOUR SELFLESS ACT, BUT IT HAS BEEN PUT OUT THERE AS A POSTIVE FORCE/ENERGY/POTENTIAL (ETC), AND IF THIS HAPPENED ENOUGH WITH HUMANS, THERE WAS A REASONABLE CHANCE THE ABUNDANCE OF POSTIVE ENERGY WOULD MAKE SOME CHANGE IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION THAN IT WAS DOING NOW.

good food for thought,but is'nt limiting oneself to three options dogmatic at it's core?my story is the mystery and I will strive to do the next right thing regardless of how the outcome treats me,I create my own positive reality or suffer accordingly.

you are wrong. to do the right thing for it's own sake, and not for gain or reward, is THE reason to do it. the honorable, decent thing to do. <br />
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calling this 'random acts of kindness' however, always has struck me as completely lame, to label something pure, decent and good as random acts of kindness therefore is also wrong. there should never have been anything cutesy, schmaltzy or trendy attached to doing the right thing.<br />
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getting back to ur ideologies---by your logic, one should not hope to be a soldier in YOUR unit. hey--if they did not see that grenade coming and jump clear--who needs them, right? if you were nearby, you certainly would not push them out of the way, correct? you would be too busy thinking you had to let them alone to fend for themselves.<br />
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as for salting slugs--do you do that, or condone it? i certainly do not. my young son did it once and he told me so and so did it also...i told HIM that the creature he just killed was not harming anyone and he had no right whatsoever to take it's life--it is one of God's creatures in Nature, as we all are. <br />
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what you are further saying is that mother teresa was scum and the people she heart-felt cared about and helped, should have been left to die instead. the only 'weak' person i can ferret out is you.

Absolutely...and btw thanks for the not-so-random gift...lol

My mother use to tell me life is not a definite black and white ... that there are gray areas - we use to have terrible arguments about what is right and wrong, what is good and evil, what is winning and loosing... and she always had a way to sugar coat everything ... there always was an excuse as to why she decided to help someone ... SHE IS WEAK! <br />
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She lies to herself and those around her about the trough of her intentions as to why she helps ... <br />
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I am under no illusion as to my reality ... I have failed to win therefor I have lost ... I am my own worst critic ... I have failed to be strong therefor I was weak ... <br />
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That said ... I have yet to meet the person that was never weak, that never made the wrong choice, that never lost a race. This does not make the person weak ... we are not defied by a single event or time period in our life's ... we are defined by how we deal with our weaknesses ... how we overcome our losses, and how we interact with those who hurt us or betray our trust. <br />
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A war is not won in one attack ... it's broken up in battles of which - some we win and some we loose ... <br />
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"Rome was not build in one day" it was build brick by brick .. building by building over a period of time ... some buildings remains standing and some have fallen ... <br />
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I will never judge a person that is weak today ... I don't know who that person will be tomorrow ... I do know that I am not weak today .... and that is enough for me. What you choose to believe regarding my personal weaknesses will perhaps bring you to battle with a enemy that you underestimated my friend .<br />
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There are a number of possible responses to your emotional appeal:<br />
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1) You're too weak to admit that you're weak. OK...so you have/had a problem. You couldn't will yourself out of it, so you were lucky enough to have some "guardian angels" do you a solid and pull you out of the fire. Lucky you; too bad many aren't so lucky. It doesn't change the fact that you failed.<br />
2) Why did they "save" you? Because they believed in you? Because they don't like watching slugs get salt poured upon them? That's called pity; it is the height of sanctimonious contempt.<br />
3) Will you make it? Was the effort worth it? Only you can answer that question. Is it weakness to have helped you? Absolutely. Did it help you? Certainly, for now. But to judge the actions of others through circumstances that directly benefitted you is wholly irresponsible and biased.<br />
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Now, I am not saying I endorse all of these responses; however, I can say that I don't feel bad for you in the slightest. Challenges are placed before us to overcome. You do, or you don't. Don't place the burden upon others, for that is both weak and selfish. If you can't handle your burdens, then you will be crushed beneath them. That will be true ten years from now, five, two, or a couple of weeks, or tomorrow.<br />
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Life isn't about saviors and victims. It is about winners and losers. Figure out which you are, but don't apologize for those who would see you rise when clearly you deserve to fall. Only time can test your worthiness. This is not a question for your or my speculation, but for some distant future.

My life was saved by random acts of kindness ... and at the time I needed saving I was the weak one ... and the person/s saving me were the strong one/s ... <br />
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Now that I am a recovered/ing addict, with my life back on track, I will always look back at the people who led the intervention in my life as strong, brave, and kind ... I see no weakness in investing time and energy in helping others. I am not saying harm yourself to help another, I am saying if you are in a position where you can make a difference why the hell not? I know that I can not be strong all the time, just as well as I know the next person can't be either ... <br />
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Some of us were born to be caregivers ... others where born to be abusers ... I am afraid it takes all kinds, but to call a caregiver weak and a abuser stronger will be a terrible mistake ... it takes far more courage to care then it does to abuse. <br />
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I have been on all sides at given points in my life, and it's far more rewarding to be a caregiver (by choice and ability) then to be on the receiving end of a random mercy.

I think I agree...random acts of kindness make up nothing other than a bragging platform for the self-righteous. Act or don't; but don't ask for some undue or belated praise for your selfishness...I will do what I am built to do: act on my own in my own interest. If that includes being nice, it does so not out of weakness but strength. I do the things I do because I choose to, not because those choices are laid upon me by obligation or dogma.<br />
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Choose, and act. There is no other way to live; all else is slavery.