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An Emplty Heart Just Needs Refilling

When you tell someone all your hopes, dreams, fears and they just sit there without an answer, perhaps because there is none, you feel empty and want someone to open your heart, pour in at least a little love so that you can share it again sometime.

dorobo dorobo 70+, M 12 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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I really enjoyed reading what you wrote. You love your husband and the children and grandchildren that came from that marriage. You seem happy.

Dorobo - I've read this over and over & I can't give a response. I don't quite understand why though. I don't know what to say. Yes, you need to love yourself, but I get that we all want validation from others. Sometimes I guess, it takes time to say something.

Really great writing!

I really enjoyed reading it and feel that you have a lot of love in your heart. You and your husband created your children and they created your grandchildren and without you and your husband coming together in this way, none of these lovely children would exist. Quite a thought isn't it? Awesome sense of responsibility.

You hot the nail right on the head when you said that it is up to us to fill our own hearts...I was feeling really down on myself...Then I wrote my 5 favorite things...Thinking on my family when I was writting it filled my up, and made my cry my heart was so filled...It is always how you look at the glass...Is it half empty....Or is it half filled...Only you can tell, and it is how you look at it.,

The problem is that we want, hope, expect others to fill our hearts. Be it our children, spouses, friends, etc. The fact of the matter is, we are responsible for filling and refilling our own hearts. <br />
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I give as much of myself as I can, and try not expect anything in return. I've actually had to re-teach this to myself.

Dorobo...check out what I just wrote...My 5 favorite things....before I wrote it I was feeling bad...Not that I see it it fills me up...I love you...you are now on my list of favorite things..oxoxoxox

I believe in unconditional love between a parent and a child. If my son were a serial axe murderer I would be seriouly depressed but I'd not stop loving him.

Tree lady, when it is REAL it is the healthiest thing in the world. It's when you "try" to do it when it's not really authentic that you run into trouble.<br />
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For instance, think about when your babies were born. I'm only guessing here, but didn't you hold them in your arms and tell them your dreams and pour your heart out to them? Did you feel empty, or did it fill you up with possibilities of the future? Because you have no expectations of return from a baby, you were able to selflessly share yourself - period. No response, no exchange. Just the knowledge that the baby loves you and accepts you for who you are.<br />
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I'm going to go off and cry now, wondering why I never had any.....

I agree, He. <br />
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Though its *very* nice when you've shared and get something in return, it seems to me, that it feels more rewarding when done selflessly.

I think you should never share with the intent of return. Your sharing is a gift. Give it freely without any expectation. The rewards are astounding.

The problem is when two people who are half filled find each other and expect the other to fill them up when in fact neither of them has enough to fill up another.