Sorry but to feel feminine I need to be held by a man who has some girth to him. You have to understand, I love men's bodies, and when there is more, it really is a bonus. Now I don't mean I'd dig Jabba or anything but a belly-to me-is not only sexy but empowering. I feel sexy when I am held by a man with a belly =P I feel desirable in a way I wouldn't were the world's most gorgeous guy holding me. That would give me a complex lol.