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When Someone Asks If Your Okay..

I mean as in when you know you feel crap they know you feel crap, and yet you still lie, and say your fine. Does anykne else feel guilty about lying to the ones they love?
stopmefalling stopmefalling 16-18, F 15 Responses Jun 13, 2007

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There was a smiling guy ,, who had little to say but didnt say too many harsh words when asked an opinion. why? Cus that was his human nature,, yep hmmm! but on the inside the darkness lingered , a cold cloudy day of winter within....waiting for a burst of sunshine to light up all and glow anew !!!

If you feel guilty about it then why do you do it? its better to be honest about how you're feeling then to hold it all in. Holding it in can cause some sever damage to your mental and physical state of being.

WELL, "HI,..HOW ARE YOU?" SERVES AS THE STARTING POINT OF CONVERSATION.....A LOTS OF FOLKS ASK ABOUT IT EVEN IF THEY DON'T MEAN IT. IT HAS BEEN TOTALLY ABUSED THROUGHOUT THE WORLD JUST TO BEGIN THE CONVERSATION, BUT DEEP INSIDE THEY TRULY DON'T CARE WHILE BLURTING IT OUT.

Of course I feel guilty. But I think anybody would take the guilt of bottled up feelings rather than admit to needing help, or accept the fact that we are being bullied. It's a pride thing. People are too proud and think that they are too good to be bullied, or for another's help. Do yourself a favor, on that I have yet to do, and just tell someone.

I always say to my parents that I'm fine. even it's not true

I don't feel bad when I lie and say I'm, "fine." I think that they are lacking on their part if they claim to love me yet can't tell that I am feeling horrible.

I know i do. I tried to tell them that everything is not fine but I couldn't find the words. When I finally got had the words to say they blamed me for being weak minded. So I rather just keep it to myself. To protect them from the thoughts that race through my head.

no guilt because people don't usually want to know anyway- I know because I have gotten past the I'm fine to be honest and they have no clue what to do or say and treat you differently after that point.

completly no how u feel,spent so long trynna pretend im normal n alls ok dat sumtimes i 4get how 2 feel

I feel guilty for lying every time! But ya I wish people would just say CAn I Help You? Is it that hard? I use to run a business and if one of my girls came into work crying or looked bent out of shape I took them in the office to find out what was up. You gotta care to many people don"t care and to many people are lying about hurting so someones gotta be there.

Lately I get angry (but pretend I'm not) at the supposedly well-meaning folks who ask such a stupid question. I mean seriously--why even ask a question that you know what answer you'll get 98% of the time?<br />
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People ask me if I'm OK and I answer "yes." Then they drop or it. Why not ask something like, "Are you hurting? Are you searching? Do you feel messed up?" Any of those would illicit much more interesting answers.

People rarely listen to the answer anyway. Most expect you to say "Fine, and how are you?" but if you just say "Fine, thanks" they will still answer as though you asked them. <br />
I find it funny to do.

I think people have a tendancy to just say "fine" because it's what other people want to hear. I mean, how many times can you say that someone generally asked how you are because they really wanted to know. Because they were actually prepared to spend a few hours listening to you and helping with your problems. You shouldn't feel guilty about it. That's insane! Well, maybe not insane but something less dramatic. As a rule, I only ask people how they are if I generally care. <br />
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If someone asks me who generally does care and I lie and say I'm fine then that's because I don't want to worry them and burden them with my problems. That's not something to feel guilty about either.

I say fine even when I am not fine. Sometimes I feel guilty about it too.

I feel guilty about responding 'fine' to "how are you" - but at the same time, its the response that many people expect when they pose the question. For a while, I was being honest, but people tend to not like that...