I Pretend To Be A Guy, one that went really far in faking

I do this too and I really hate that I do, but I can't stop. I've tried. I get too attached to the people I lie too :/ Like even now, I have a girlfriend and we've been going out for a month..and she thinks I'm a guy. She always talks about how much she trusts me and I'm just like "Yeahh.." ......Honestly, I don't lie to her about anything but my gender and whatnot. I really do love her. She's the most amazing person. I just wish that she knew that the person she's dating and loves is a girl..not a guy. I really feel like a horrible person, though, for doing this. I feel like I'm taking advantage of the situation and deceiving these people(which I am) The sad thing is, I've been doing this kind of stuff since I was 11(I'm 15 now). I don't know, I never felt comfortable with myself so I always felt like I had to be someone else. And with these chatting websites..that makes it so easy. At one point, I was pretending to be over 5 different guys and I never got caught on my lies. Each guy lived in a different state and had a different story..and it was so easy for me to go along with it. But now I realize that what I'm doing can really hurt people and I really want to stop. I just don't want to end things with my girlfriend....I feel so selfish :/
My last girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago because I just couldn't take it. She would say how she was in love with me and I felt terrible. One time we skyped and it was such a pain because I had to cover up the camera and say it was broken..Her parents were suspicious of me. Everyone in her family was (unfortunately she told everyone about how we were dating) This one time we were on skype and her mom came into the room and was like "Hey, why don't you show your face" and she kept asking me to show my face..I was so scared. Another time, her sister's boyfriend came in the room and was looking at my fake instagram (I used a guys photos from my school) and was like "He's such a fake" ....I felt so bad because I knew I was, but she was over there defending me and getting in trouble because of it...We dated for 7 months and it was pretty easy with her (aside from the skype incidents) because she was 14 and very gullible and because I was pretending to be 16..so whenever we'd talk on the phone it was very easy for me to deepen my voice and pass as a teenage boy......Oh and my parents know that I do this (not the whole story) because I did it to this girl that i went to school with for 8 months and rumors spread that it was another guy in my school texting her. And I made the mistake of telling one of my "friends" that it was me and she told everyone. SO now there's rumors going around that its me -.- and I was so scared so I just told my parents about that ONE girl. They just think I did it because I had a giant crush on her ( which I did ) and because I'm gay (which I am ) But they don't understand that it didnt start off that way. It's not like I go around like "Hey, who's gonna be the next girl I target" Like no...I don't think most people would understand. These people really do become my friends and I really do care about them..That's the only reason why it's so hard to stop.

it's weird the same thing happened to me for about one and a half year now , it started as a joke and i don't know how it even got that far , first it was with this girl a friend of mine and we talked i just wanted to confess to her and tell her it was a joke but i found out that this girl recently broke up with her fiance and she was already broken so i got scared and didn't tell her it went for about 3/4 monthes eventually i disappeared after i helped her get over her fiance am not sayin it 's right or anything i was in a bad situation after a really heartbreaking relationship with this guy who cheated on me and lied alot so i was over with guys at this point i'm not lesbian i guess i dont think about having sex with girls but beeing with them it 's just easier . so after that relation ended i found myself in another 1 but this girl was just amazing i felt so attracted to her i couldn't stop still couldnt btw tried alot to stop i don't know why i did that .. i don't want to hurt her i dont want to hurt ME i know i'm not a bad person I'M NOT ..i just left her hopefully forever Now . u guys helped alot .. glad to know i'm not the only one .. i want to tell HER i'm sorry i'm really sorry ..

Im in a similar position. I joined this social networking app on my phone and i started by creating a boys account. My bff has fell 4 my character and now idk wt 2 do

Hey... Well, i'm another Girl who's being a boy in internet... But i'm acting this way because I myself feel more male.
Nevertheless it's wrong to tell lies about your gender... You should tell the people after some months who you really are and before you've done this you shouldn't have an relationship... Else, if you are addicted like I was... Just delete that account and give your computer to your friend for a month... It's hard but possible... Good luck... ;)

welcome to my world. :I
except...reversed on the genders. I have thrived too much on attention and interest on it. I just Really don't like me. Long story short, it really got out of hand, and I have closed off a lot on that but still suffer from it because, back in reality...it really really sucks.

Hi guys, I've just read all the story's on here and thought I would give my view. I'm a victim of sexual assault who attended court earlier this year to convinct a girl who deceived me for 2 years as being the "boy" I loved. She deceived me online and betrayed my trust and I loved "him" with all my heart, so much so that I had sex with "him" after a year of being in an online relationship. It's the only time I've ever been intimate so I didn't know any different and I was young at the time. I want you all to know what you're doing effects innocent and vulnerable people and it needs to stop. What she done has effected my life to the extent where I can't trust anyone anymore, my family is broken and it effects so much. I'm begging you to please quit while you're ahead because it hurts so much. The girl who assaulted me is now in prison, but if effects me everyday I can't sleep at night. Please stop while you can it's not fair.

I'm in this situation actually. I pretend to be a guy (i'm a girl), i met this girl online before. We've been together for almost a two years now. We're always texting until now. On our first month dating, she said the guy she used to like before confess to her, i said to her just go with this guy because deep down i know it's better that way. But instead, she chose me. I don't know what to do, i mean, i'm deeply in love with her. I wanna tell her the real me, but i don't want to stop the relationship with her. We're broke up once but we couldn't move on from each other. And we're back together again until now. Nowadays, things between me and her are not good. Some of it because of trust. Either me or her want to break up but it never be done. I mean, it's because i'm in love with her. At the same time i feel guilty. I used my cousin's pictures, and whenever she wants to call me, i asked my cousin to help me. And yeah, it's working. She seems happy but i'm not. I know i lie most of the things to her, but i'm not lying about my feelings to her. It's real. I really need help. Someone please see this, and reply me. I need serious help. I want to end this things but i'm too weak to do it. So please, anyone..i need help!

I have been in your situation before, but I stopped a couple years ago. And you're right, it DOES become like an addiction because you become trapped in the role of being someone who you believe is better than you are and wish you could be. I pretended to be guys and girls, but guys seemed to be easier for me to, i don't know, "become" because as a girl I knew exactly what I would want in a guy. It's true, I did gain feelings for girls I talked to, even though I'm 100% straight and in a loving relationship with a good guy now. I think this is because we become attached to those people and we love that they care about us and they give us attention. In a sense they become your best friends and you become addicted to the love they give you. So, I understand what you're going through, but it's really not okay. Whoever is reading this and is still faking someone, YOU HAVE TO STOP. Let me tell you, you're hurting REAL people and also yourself. You will live with guilt and anxiety for the rest of your life. Confront your addiction now and talk to someone because it really helps. I know that people who fake people sometimes have severe depression or extreme loneliness, so they create people and alternate lives to feel safe, but it's not worth it and it's not real. In the long run, everything will come to an end for that unreal you when the people you meet move on from the fake you as well. It's hard believe me, when you try to stop because like I said before, it does become an addiction. But, like any other addiction it can be helped by talking to someone, finding new hobbies, or simply being more social with family and friends. Any way to pass the time you would be using to pretend to be someone else. Everyone is a unique individual and this addiction or whatever you want to call it should be something that everyone learns from and not something that keeps you stuck in the guilt and shame. Remember that you still have your whole life ahead of you and that you are not alone. You can make your REAL life even BETTER than the fake one.

Take care & I sincerely hope the best for everyone who reads this.

Hey guys,
I had the same experiencep as you as well.
I pretended to be guy (I'm a girl in real life) on an online game website. But when thing got deeper, i quieted it.
One of the girls that i use to be friends with, confessed to me. That's when i realised that what I'm doing is wrong.
I rejected her pretending that i already have a girlfriend.
I stopped doing this as soon as possible because i was too sacred that things might get worse.
Srsly guys, stop what you're doing right now.
Karma is a *****. Someone might do the same thing to you, and this time, you're the one who'll get hurt badly.

I've been in a situation like this, only I've been on the receiving end. To any of you who are pretending to be someone you're not on the internet, you need to STOP. Although it may be fun to you or fulfill you in some way, you're toying with another person's life. You're consuming days, months, years of their existence. I spent two and a half years speaking to and being in love with somebody who was lying to me about who they were. After I found out the truth I nearly ended my life. People's emotions are not a game. And for those of you who are victims of these fake people, remember not to blame yourself. This isn't your fault. You'll get through this.

ughh its soo sick just stop!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm in a little bit different situation. I just caught my 12yr old daughter pretending to be a 14yr old gay boy. She even has created a relationship with another boy. I'm lost, I don't know what to do. Is this a cry for help? She's a good person. Good grades, friends at school, etc. I'm afraid if I don't intervene, the situation will get worse. And this poor boy on the other end, his heart will be so hurt. Any advice?

Me too. It lasted 3 years until the girl finally found out from my other friend. Anyone doing this who hasn't yet been caught: stop; the lies will build up and up, and people will begin to have more suspicions. Trust me. Don't. I know how hard it is to leave them, and how guilty you will feel, just quit it while they still believe you. Quit, or feel 10 times worse.

Im going throught the same thing to this day.. im inlove with a girl who thinks im a guy and its been going on for 8 years now. i dont know what to do. i am such a bad person and lied about so much.

Me and my mate have just sat here and read all these, we feel sick this is our story...

weve knoiwn our mate beth for years since we was 13 .... shes allways been one of our good mates but something was never quite right and she made up for that on been such a gd friend... our other friend carly started txtin some lad when she was 14 and basically fell in love with her fne and every time she was supposed to meetm this so called ''boy'' he never showed up... beth was the one who passed on his number to her they was best mates and allways said ye hes great message him..anyway situation been he obvs never showed up but also did it to a load of othe friends we was all young and niaeve beth moved away every forgot abpout it alltho we had doubts it was her....
Years down the line were all sat in the pub and decided to ring this number for a laugh.. beth answered. we put the fone down in shock and laughed about it as she didnt live down here anymore so all just forgot about it...
Few more years down the line beth moved back and got intouch with everyone again. we never dwelled on the past we all just got over it and everyone became friends again.. nothing was ever mentioned. Recently our other friend sammy who was new to our group and new nothing about all of this in the past so had no reason to question anythin about beth... sammy became good friends with beth and out of the blue sammy started texting some boy called jay who told her he had text the wrong number but they decided to carry on textin anyway. they started an online relationship in the end but me and my friend realised it was all to much of a coinsidence and we analised everythin that beth did from then on... we knew that this boy was beth but didnt no how to tell sammy because beth had turned her all against us. started to get serious and when they arranged to meet jay would make a massive excuse i.e his dad had died, hospital etc so cudnt meet her. therefore sammy wud never question it. We decided it was goin to far so we made an aligation that beth was this 'jay' beth even went as far as making fake facebook accounts for 'jay' and his friends. police was involved numbers were traced... accounts were hacked they all led to beth. turns out shes done it to ALOT of girls. shes a female herself. weve always thought she was gay but bein good friends said it wudnt change anythin when she decided to come out.

It ****** with sammys head big time and tonight she tried to kill herself. i hope this will sort you all out and realise your mentally rapin people and its not fun nor nice what you are doing to people. go to the hospital you need MENTAL HELP you **** tards.... did u not see the documentary where that girl went as far as to rape the girls she was lying to. Your all going on about how upset you are but your ******* with innocent peoples lives! SORT IT OUT! knobheads.

THE END, p.s ur sick! theres not a single excuse u can use for usin someone elses identity its a criminal offense

I am in the same situation and I don't know what to do I posted as a guy on a free dating site with fake pics and I wasn't looking for a relationship or to fall in love with anyone then this nice girl started sending me messages and I didn't really care....she kept insisting to talk to me and I created fake aim and we were chatting everyday and I still really didn't care for her and we did exchange numbers and we were texting daily but then I stop texting her because I was busy with work and didn't really care to text her then she went to vacation and I got very sick with stomach virus and all the sudden I text her and she responded and I told her that I was sick and she showed that she cares and we started texting again she confessed she had delete it my number because I stopped texting her and she was so sweet and concerned about my health and I started caring for her and we text it eachother more and more I started having feelings for her and it was mutual but then she asked when she would hear my voice I kept avoiding the subjet but one day she called me and I answer with my own voice and its been 8 months and I'm in love and she wants to meet and I kept to giving excuses and she said she can't do this anymore she wants to meet today or she will be done with me and I'm supposed to meet her for coffee I want to tell her the truth but I am scared we have such a connection and mutual feelings but I don't want to hurt her what can I do?? She has an amazing personality and I'm not who she thinks I am ...I also like men but I like girls too

I'm going through the same thing :( I need someone to talk to.

Uhh desperate people u guys are Lez af! Omfg

Hey you can talk to me because I have almost the same stories...I am going through the same exact thing. Only mine was a 3 yr relationship, but just over the summer, I told the girl the truth. You should take a look at my stories or message me or something.

hey i have done this a couple of time but nothing serious, just to get some flirty guys off my back and scan the area safely, but i am thinking of venturing in this path again, because of this boy, who I can't get off my mind, it's a long story.....so idk lol

Hey guys im the same, but i think mines really crossed the line. alright, it all started when i was 11 years old( im a girl btw) and i found this virtual game where u could make avatars, and make em look cool and stuff. i made 2 accounts, a girl and a guy. i noticed that i dont really get much attention on the girl acc, so i got sucked into being a guy. it was really fun, trying to look cool, chasing girls and flirting. I made lots of friends, then soon i got really close to them that they started asking for pictures. of course, i had to fake my pics. i was really satisfied with the comments they gave me "omg ur so hot!" "cutee" so i thought i could keep going like that. until i met this girl who i've been going out with for 2 or 3 years. we clicked, it was the perfect chemistry. i would chat with her online for hours and hours and we wouldnt even notice the time.then one day she asked for my phone number so we can txt when we're not online. i feared that she would call me so i got a txting app on my ipod and gave her that number. ever since then we got closer. sending her goodmorning texts and goodnight texts. it was really awesome. we legit fell in love with each other. but then i started to think..what about in the future? we cant end up together in the future. theres no way. so then i found this discussion. u guys really encouraged me. like, if they can do it, so can i. easier said than done. seriously id give up my life for that girl. so after hours of crying and thinking about it, i broke up with her. of course i didnt tell her my real identity. i couldnt. it was the hardest thing i ever had to do since i love her so much. but its the right thing to do, if u truly care for them. i realized that i was stopping her life, giving her false hope, and i didnt want that for her. i actually broke up with her last night and now i feel numb and empty inside...hopefully this will disappear. im 14 years old now and i learned my lesson. just do it guys, its for the best.

I am going through the Same thing. Like there is this chat app on android. I started faking guys Pics and I'm a girl btw. Tons of girls on that app went all crazy over me and Ifell in love with this girl and she liked me too. One day she said she wanted to face time with me and I kept making excuse idk what to do right now. and we broke up. I just am so addicted. How I wish this was happening in rl so I have less problems

Crazy im going through the same thing. I have been doing this since i was 12 and I am 17 now. At first I started off using fake girl pics but the guys were super annoying and i had tons of pervs hmu so i switched to using a fake guys pics to see what it was like. After a few months of talking to some chick oddly even though i am heterosexual in reality i developed a cyber crush on this girl we eventually dated. Then after a while i dated several other ppl via internet. Tons of girls had crushes on me because they loved my personality. I even had some girls arguing over me and more. That made me feel good so i couldnt stop. After a while i got into some trouble with my parents and they took away my internet away for a few months. Once i was able to use it again i went right back to using fake accounts online. But I do not net date anymore. I use my fake account now just to be a good friend. I have met wonderful people that think im awesome. When im really not.

I am so relieved I found this forum because I’ve struggled with the exact same thing for a long time. It started when I was around 13, I’m now 28 and still find myself struggling with this. I pretend to be a guy online, I don’t even know why. I’ve tried to stop so many times and find myself just gets pulled back in when I get lonely or sad or whatever. Over the years I have seriously hurt so many girls and I feel terrible. I had serious feelings for a lot of them and still care about them more than anything. I never intended to hurt anyone, I just didn’t know how to stop. In real life, I’m not gay…at all I’m just so insecure, shy, have low self esteem and no confidence, I feel so much more confident online and talking to these people makes me happy which is something I’m not in real life. I’ve convinced myself I’m so ****** up and am getting Karma which is why I cant stop. I feel like I will be stuck in this lifestyle forever and I’ll never have a REAL life….which I want so desperately. I’ve looked so many times for info online about this sort of thing and never came across anyone else with this issue until now…I could never admit to anyone in real life what I do its so embarrassing… If anyone has any tips or advice on how to get out of this horrible cycle I’d love to hear it… I’m so tired of hurting other people as well as myself…

I have been living the same thing... but finally i had to get over it and tell the truth .. It hurts so much and I was feeling tired of hidding myself.. I couldnt this anymore,,,

I am a 15 year old girl. Ive had the same problem. Since I was 12 ive been n pretending to be other people. It started out with me using epicures of girls from my school that I envied. Then somehow I started using guys and on this one site I dated this girl. Except I got in trouble over something and disappeared from the site from a while. Like 3 months and when I logged back on the girl still wanted to talk and she was in love with me. I thought I loved her too but I broke up with her because I knew I was doing wrong by pretending and I disappeared again. I rejoined the site months later as another guy and found out the girl commuted suicide...I knew she was real because shed make signs for me and stuff. I was really hurt by that but I never blamed myself because she had told me about her dad being abusive and stuff because she trusted me. As the new guy I made friends and had this one girl fall in love with me. But I was a bi guy because even using fake pics I wanted to be with guys Bc I am a straight female. I have a long list of people ive faked...maybe more than 10 in the past 3 years and I date many people and hurt them because some find out the truth and it hurts me by becoming so attacthed. Anyways, ive stopped for now because as I was faking a guy, Adam, my boyfriend (Adams bf) wanted to know the truth so I added him on my real facebook and he said he still loves me and we are dating now. But I have a strong urge to fake again because I get so lonely and as myself nobody talks to me because I am ugly and shy.

It's me again, well after writing my first comment a few hours after I already confessed everything to him. I cried a lot, because I am really really worried. I told him my true identity everything about me. I also clarified to him that everything that I said about my feelings are all true. He's currently not home so he doesn't have an internet connection for me to be able to send my real picture. I am really really scared. he still treats me the same, but i don't know if he will still do that after seeing my picture. Damn, I was like blaming myself for not looking like the girl on the picture that I used. Blaming myself for being big. Sigh, I will be sending my real picture to him tomorrow. I am really scared :(

I'm shocked to find a forum that talks about this kind of thing. I am currently experiencing the same thing. I used my ex-friend's photo to chat online, and I suddenly felt great. People started messaging me and the good thing is that most of them are really nice. They started asking questions, and some of the information that I gave them were the information of my ex-friend. But of course I used my own personality or traits since I don't have problems with it. The problem started when this really nice guy started to be extra nice to me, and now we have this "cyber relationship" going on. I really like him and I can sense that he also likes me, but obviously he liked me more because of the pictures that I am using. We are set to meet this August and I am thinking of alibis that I can use. But of course I can't just live with alibis, I want to tell him badly the truth but I am too scared. I know I will be hurting him no matter how I explain myself. He won't like me, since the one in the picture is petite and I am the exact opposite of petite. I don't know what to do, I want to tell him before the month ends.

After five or six years I know exactly what you're going through. It's a scary thing to even want to stop and when I try I feel my heart breaking and I don't think I can do it but I want you to know that you can do it just as I can

about a year ago i posted under blackguitar. I forgot my password so made this new account.



I just wanted to share that i've finally gotten out of this.. Kind of. I told the girl i love the truth about my identity. I told her everything. I wont lie to you it was hard, scary, and nerve racking but i did it. Her reaction to it was surprising. She was upset of course and angry but she still wanted to talk to me and get to know me. I think it was because we were so so in love with each other. We talked for a few months and i was so grateful that she still wanted to be friends. Slowly i realized that she was losing her feelings and attraction to me (naturally) and it hurt because i still felt the same way about her. Finally, she decided she didnt want to be friends anymore and wanted to move on. We stopped talk a few months ago. It still hurts everyday and i'm still IN LOVE with her and i still miss her so much. But i know this is whats best for both of us. I know i'll finaly get over her but right now its still hard. Im trying to mend my own life that ive neglected for so long in the process. I still think about her every single day and i know shes glad im out of her life probably but its for the best. A week ago we talked a little and she asked how i was and i asked how she was, shes happy and i think shes found someone new. It hurt when i found out but i know shes happy. I know i'll eventually get over this but i just wanted you to know that you HAVE to tell the girl you love the truth about your identity. If you truly love her you'll do it because she needs to be happy. You'll miss her and cry and be hurt for a long time after (thats just the honest truth) but its whats best for you and for her. I did it and trust me if i did anyone can.



Good luck.