Stop What You Are Doing...its Not Worth It.I posted weeks ago about my situation. I came on here looking for guidance and I found it. I had been planning on telling the person I was talking to (and fell in love with) for months but was scared shitless.....I regret not telling them sooner. I regret doing it in the first place. It was never supposed to happen. But what matters is, is that I stopped it. AND YOU CAN TOO! Yes, it is scary, but worth it...so worth it. Not everyone will have the same outcome but what everyone WILL have is a sense of relief. I promise that. It may hurt for a while but you will realize that what you were doing was pointless. No matter how hard you try you aren't going to be the person you are pretending to be and hold the person you are talking to. Everyones situation is different but I believe that everyone should come out to the person that they are talking to. It is so better off that way. First off, if you do it that way there is a possibility that you may at least remain friends with the person. Second, you are more likely to never do again. It is pretty humiliating on both sides.
I was so nervous and scared to tell the person I had been talking to. The person I fell in love with. All I used was fake pictures. At first it was bad, really bad. But you have to realize that they just got some pretty shocking news. I gave them space like they wanted. They said they wanted me out of their life. Next thing I know we are Skyping and then MEETING. Did I get a happy ending? No, I still feel horrible about everything and I will for a very long time. And the person I hurt will also be holding it against me for a very long time, but we have actually gotten to meet and we still talk. Things are up in the air right now, but which ever way it goes at least I know it's a real chance.
Saying all of this I just want to make a shout out to the member, this1wonthurt. I couldn't of gotten through everything that I have without her guidance. Find someone that has gone through this, that is the best advice I can give.
dreameak 22-25 2 Responses 9 Nov 13, 2012