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Pretending to Be Someone Online

im 17 years old and i have a problem with pretending to be someone else online. i have problems with going on other screen names and pretending to be people and facebook and myspace and stuff like that and i really need some feed back on what i can do to stop this cause i dont like doing this and i really dont know why i am doing this because im losing some of the friends i had because of it and because i got caught. i want to be friends with these people agian but they all think im a freak now because of this and i dont know what to do about it. any sugestions?

austin162 austin162 16-17 88 Responses Apr 23, 2009

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What has been your best suggestion? I am going through this as well and would like to talk.

Unfortunately I've done this on and off for years. It's definitely a low self esteem and confidence issue. I recently came clean to the girl I did it to. She's 27 and I'm 25. I pretended to be an older male but I'm actually female. I lost someone very close to me a good few years ago and couldn't deal with it so it was sort of my escape. I regret it massively. I cannot deal with the guilt or shame and if anyone in my family found out it would break us apart. It's not something I'm ever going to do again as I learnt my lesson but I'm so scared that the girl I told is going to tell people as she knows people I know. Distant relatives etc. It's causing me anxiety and depression issues and at first when I told her she flipped out but then we spoke on the phone and I told her everything then I went out one day and she just disappeared. She didn't reply to any messages or anything. We've not spoken since. It's been a few months but I still see her posting things on instagram. I think my main concern now is that she will tell everyone that I pretended to be male which would make me look like I like girls. I'm Indian so this is definitely a no go. I would advise anyone doing this to either come clean or walk away. Don't carry on doing it because It is peoples real lives. It can only end up with someone being hurt. If anything focus on you and improving yourself. We obviously do this for a reason so as they say prevention is better than cure. If anyone wants to talk to me you can check out my blog. Noyouturns.blogspot.com
I will soon be writing a post about this.

Wut happens if I confess? Will I get in trouble for lying for so long?

I keep faking my identity online. Most of the time I am a boy, and when I am "myself" I am his (fake) female cousin. I know it's dishonest, but those identities are really truly me, with different aspects of my personality, just under a different name or gender. Maybe it's because I don't feel comfortable with who I am... I struggle with wanting to be "him" and also trying to be just "me." Hopefully people won't wonder why they never see the two of them together... Photoshop, anyone...?

I've just found out the girl I was in love with was a fake and it's just broken me. We had been talking for a year before I found out the truth. It hurts.

I had this problem for several years, starting when I was 11 or 12. I don't know why I started it, and I often got tired of it and quit altogether for several months, once even a couple of years. In my personal experience it came from my low self-esteem and the feeling that I could never been what I wanted to be. It didn't feel wrong to me, I simply felt like I was just being the "true" me, only under a different name.

It wasn't until a couple of years ago that I really found a way to cope- I started role playing. That sounds a bit crazy to some people but I started spending large amounts of time playing games like Dungeons & Dragons with my brothers and even tried larping (live action role play, you can learn about this by googling!!). I found that it gave me a way to live out someone else's life, and it didn't hurt anyone. It was extremely fun and I found it to be so stress relieving! So if you think this might help you I suggest giving it a try :) You never know, it might give you an outlet for your need to be someone else for a while.

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I've been making fake personalities for maybe a year now.

It started on an online game. I'm a girl, but pretended to be a boy along with some online friends, just to "troll."

I created a guy one day on the same day, and called him Alex. Me and Alex were "friends." I introduced him to some friends.

I made him private messaging apps. I talked to one girl in particular often. She developed a crush for him.

I don't like her like that, never will, never have.

Eventually, she asked if he was fake. I told her no. Still tell her no. We aren't even friends now.

But I didn't stop with Alex. I found a website where you write books. I create 3 Fake Girls and 1 fake boy. I've deleted 2/3 of the fake girls. Made the last girl date the boy. Gave him a tragic backstory, one that was NOTHING like my own. I thought of it as "oh, you're just telling a story, but in a different way, with REAL people." But I don't want that, I've just informed them all I'm taking a two week break as the guy. The girl already quit because she was upset that her and the boy broke up and felt terrible about it. I'm done with being someone I'm not. I'm sick of it. Tired of it. So tired. I want to be ME. ME not HIM not HER not any of them and that's what I'm doing.

I said, "If in 2 weeks I realize I can't live without this site, I'll come back. If not, I'm staying away forever."

And you can believe in 2 weeks, maybe tomorrow, I'm deleting EVERYTHING that isn't me. EVERYTHING that is him.

Alex has been dead for a while. No, I didn't pretend he died. He just moved away and decided not to talk to me. I'm so tired of it. The sad thing is I'm so young, I have a nice life ahead. A life that's mine. So not his. So.

I'm done. I was hoping to find something like a help to see if this will mentally affect me, maybe give me multiple personality disorder, but I'm guessing it won't. I hope not. Anyways, thanks for reading.

I have done this too I need help the person I love going out. We dated in real life now he hates me

I'm not gonna judge anyone of you, you have your reasons. I talked for a girl (or he/she/it) for a whole year before I found out that this person was fake. Found her on a gay site. I was, is completely in love with ms mysterious, but as soon as I confronted her, she removed everything. I knew, deep down that something wasn't right, but she was amazing. Her personality was gold. We talked everyday about everything between heaven and earth. She was my everything. But then she just dissapeared, two months have passed by and I still can't let go. All I want to say with this is, it's not fun to fool someone like this, I am so hurt, not mad, just hurt. She affected me in a way I can't describe and now I don't even know how to reach her. Cause she lives in the states and I'm in Europe. It's pain. Don't let it go so far, cause you only cause damage. I don't look down on you, but don't be afraid to be who you are. When you've captured someones heart, it's not a game anymore.. Maybe I'll never know who she was, all I know is that I will never forget her. Sadness through everything..

I've pretended to be someone else for years, ever since I started using online forums pretty much.
I've pretended to be other people, one persona in particular on forums but never made any real friends. It was all habit because I didn't like myself that much and these other people were who I wish I could be. Three years ago I made an account as my fake self just out of habit and I wish I hadn't and had created it as myself (I have occasionally been myself online, like now).

I've made great friends people who I hate HATE lying to so much. I say I'm older than I am, I live somewhere different, I have a job, am college-educated, am nine inches taller than I really am etc etc. For god's sake, I've been raving about this music festival I'm "going to" next month and people have said that they're excited for me. I'm not really going to any festival. This will mean fake posts the whole weekend I'm supposedly there, I already feel bad about it.

Lying like that never bothered me much until I found people I really care for. Every time I'm asked about a fake part of my life I cringe while I answer it with my lie. I can still bury the guilt fairly well, but one of the worst parts is the reason I made up a fake person is because I hated myself so much. I've changed in the past few years, my self-worth and esteem have gotten a lot better but it's too late I've been lying on this site for THREE YEARS and have no intention to stop because I can't abandon these people and all the things I've built on this site, even if it is fake.

I have done this too. Love to talk I need help

I can't believe there are so many people out there that have done this as well. I thought I was the only one. I recently just confessed to this girl that I was not a man because I do not feel like a woman. By being a man to her, I felt alive. Ive struggled with this since I was a kid. I did not ever think that I'd have so many years. We had a 5 yr long distance relationship on the playstation, text, and talking. I could not stop just like everyone else. I fell in love with her. I became consumed in a life I knew would never happen. At the time it made me happy but I knew someday that it would end and would hurt badly. Was I going to tell her the truth or just leave? A few days ago, I emailed her the truth of who I was because it was getting to the point where she kept insisting to webcam. I knew at that point I was not going to be able to get out of it. She had her doubts many times but kept the relationship. She didn't ask many questions nor express how she truly felt when she read it. She forgives me for lying but can never be with a woman. She said she needed time now to move on with her life and maybe be friends. Ive text her twice since then and no response but she did not delete our twitter feeds. Do I just move on or will she someday except me for who I am and be friends? I feel like I still owe her more of an explanation through email but I know that probably is not the best idea. I would rather have her as a friend than not. I do not know what to do.

I have that same problem only I'm younger .

I didn't know there were more people doing this, I'm a girl pretending to be a sweet asian guy, and I met a girl that is in a relationship, but even being a girl, I feel really good supporting her emotionaly, she tells me everything about her life and I made up a super sweet personality just to be like her teddy bear that she can trust and feel good with.

I'm inlove with her and I'm not destroying her life.

What I think you're doing is wrong on so many levels but...... Don't ever let her find out you're pretending to be someone else.......... That sort of thing can kill all the happy inside you and drive you to self harm or suicide.... Sadly I learned that the hard way.....

I have done this too. I dated the person in real life as well as catfished him. I need help if you could please rite back

Ok soooo im Jamie I somehow got into This i was acting Like i knew a famous person and the famous person'Keaton stromberg' And he knew this girl Andrea (Me) Who was best friends They use to hang out all the time And then keaton Met natalie and then Adrianna and then jessica and bailey and all these other chicks They Somehow Have still not found out im scared to tell them my true stroie And i got these photos of a girl andrea Who was really me Anyway i fell really bad cause i became really close to them And its just that you know i don't know what to tell them .... Help please

Me too

Don't feel bad you are not along ,I'm in the same battle ,God can help us he know we need to love ourself more read my story I have 13 fake profiles

Okay well, at the moment i am pretending to be someone else, that i know in real life. I havent done anything malicious or bad or any harm to anyone, i was just on this website and decided to make a profile of her, she is very pretty, prettier than me thats why. Ive saved pictures of her onto my computer and uploaded them. I feel really guilty, and ashamed and even scared if she finds out. What would happen if she found out? What would happen to me?? would I be sued or taken to prison or fined??

I am quite young (13) and she is 15, we go to the same school shes two years above me though. I need advice and help on what i should do because ive put up her snapchat too and people who have added her could ask about the profile if its really her? someone please talk to me

The only advice I can give you from my experience is stop completely. If you've enjoyed a relationship you have created, tell them who you are right now before it loses control. I lied about who I was to someone who means the absolute world to me, and now it feels like a part of me has died. Stop before you forget who you are entirely, and the guilt slowly deteriorates your soul into nothing but a frozen wasteland.

I doubt you'll get into any major trouble unless you are buying things under their name. It's harmless, but if someone impersonated me on the internet I'd feel incredibly violated. I wouldn't be surprised if she lashed out angrily.

Hey. I also did this but it was on instagram i never posted fake photos of the girl i literally just used that name to view inspirational photos etc on others profiles because i didnt want one because i didnt want to get addicted like i am to facebook. But these girls took it really seriously because there friend was called that name so i bit back and had a go and now they are saying they are going to get the police involved yet i wasnt doing any harm at all.. they acted as though that girl is the only girl with the name yet i know 2 anyway. So could the police get me done for this?

not unless you're obtaining things in her name like using her identity to mislead someone or get things illegally in her name.

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Reading these stories have calmed my nerves slightly, causing me to feel the need to post my story as well. It all started with me meeting a man on the video game World of Warcraft, just grouping up to play together randomly. At this time I was currently pretending to be male, when in reality I was female, and the greatest part was I impersonated a GAY male. Well- I instantly connected with this man and at first it was completely harmless. Flirting, laughing, getting to know one another, I saw nothing wrong with it until feelings began to spawn for one another. Most pretend to have a different personality, but I didn't, everything I told them was true except molded in a different fashion. It was me, who I truly was deep down inside... pretending to be male, and it made me feel so... confident. Honestly I have no quarrels with how I look as female, I get attention, I know I'm beautiful, yet this feeling within me constantly confuses my thoughts when I crave the need to be a man. Either way as the story continues, we've now been in love for 7 months, almost 8. I've sent this man packages, gifts, drawn him things. But of course as you'll probably assume by now, I did send him fake photos of myself. I didn't search the internet randomly, but I sent photos of my best friend, eventually he knew they were fake but never confronted me until... yesterday. The evening prior we brought up a very passionate, heavy subject then decided to put himself on webcam just to make me smile. To cheer me up, since I was upset. I've talked to him on the phone before with my voice... and he's always known I wasn't who I was in the photos because of jaw structure. The next day I showed him who I was on webcam, he loved me.. he told me I was the most beautiful thing he's ever seen. He made me tilt my head upwards to check for my Adam's Apple, seeing I had none but he didn't say anything, only continue to smile and tell me how much he loved me. Then after an amazing day of feeling so much relief, I came clean because I couldn't take it anymore. He was a bit stunned, but he told me he already expected it because I was too pretty to be male, and missing my Adam's Apple. Overall... right now he's upset because I lied to him. But this man... perhaps it's absolutely stupid, but he's dedicated to me. He doesn't want to leave me... he tells me how much he loves me, but is so hurt that I lied to him. But he's willing to work it out because he wants the future we've planned together, a true fairytale happily ever after... except I wouldn't be his prince, that's what... bugs me. I think I have a gender identity issue because as much as I love being female and feminine, I'd rather have the male genitalia on my lower half. All I have to say to the rest of you is... be honest. Be honest... save yourself the cruel pain. If they truly love you, they'll work to make everything right... but some things aren't meant to last. Truly it's terrified me how real it's become with the man I love, but perhaps it could work. He also doesn't claim that he's gay, "pansexual" more like it, but that scares me. Perhaps I wont be enough to satisfy him, even though he tells me I'm perfection itself even now. The feeling is horrible, frightening, and lonely... but eventually everything settles down back to calm waters. I've also previously pretended to be a male for 3 years before this, and it turned me into such a nut case. For the first time I was honest, and it feels... amazing. Let the weight drop from your shoulders, be honest... you're not only hurting yourself, but others as well.

Hello I'm going to say my story basically I made a fake account of a boy and I am a girl I spoke to the girl for 8months and they went out during them months she spoke to him once on the phone but that was my boy mate pretending to be him and she asked to face time and meet but i always Changed the subject I remember it was perfect she was madly Inlove I didn't even know I was Inlove until she found out she was genuinely my first love we spoke everyday for 8months on whatsapp and facebook and twitter one of her Mates in March 2013 said it was me but she didn't believe it that was 2months in to there relationship and then the 27th of July I woke up and seen the worst message my heart dropped I never felt this way before my other boy account which was suppose to be his bestmate I was speaking to her for a year and she me elver found out only once or twice but she carried on speaking to him and I never had that many feeling but this other girl she trusted this boy and the 27th of July 2013 I woke up to this message she had found out the real persons mate followed her and dm'd her on twitter she put things about me on twitter no body in my school turned against me because they knew but because she didn't go to my school everyone outside of school hated me I lost her my love my everything I felt so sick and a couple of months after she had a boyfriend a different one I hated it and I eventually told her me myself had feelings for her.l because of what happened she didn't know what to do at first but a few weeks after she got my number we texted eachother all day as me being me and her and she randomly said she had feelings for me my mates thought she was joking to get me back but she isn't I never thought she would have feelings for me but she got back with her boyfriend but I want her she's the person that makes me happy her and S would this other girl I like but this other girl is the best thing that ever happened to me I could never let anybody hurt her

i had almost the same story but she finished cuz we could have a real realitonship on "life". so that was the message that broke myheart. im not lesbian but i love heer! she is an amazing person. she blocked me on facebook n twitter. but she never found the thruth that i was a girl so maybe it good that it finish like that... but its difficult toforget her 13%"!%!#"%#%

I faked for almost a year. I had a few friends in on it, but I never meant to hurt anyone. It was a self esteem booster. Then I met a guy. Well, I had my real account friended to my fake one. And my real account, I was my fake account's cousin. Then, I met the love of my life.. he made a Twitter one day, looked up my "cousin" (me), and found out some of the things I had told him and linked to me. So he texted me and told me he knew, so tell him the truth.. we talked for hours. I came clean. This was over a year ago, and we just celebrated our two year anniversary. It took him some time, but he forgave me because he knows how I feel about myself. What I did was wrong, but I love him very much and he knows I never meant to hurt him. You just have to give it time.. it kills to be lied to by someone you're supposed to be able to trust with your life. But it's worth it if they're the right one for you. I promise.

I did the same thing. I have no rational behind it

Yeah... I've been doing this for a while too... since I was really young, at least 13..14 and I'm almost 24. I feel so ashamed but I am so afraid that the girl I was pretending to be will find out and that everyone will go on a witch hunt for me. I've always thought I was ugly I've always doubted myself and thought I'd be lonely forever. I've never had a real boyfriend because I've been so busy closing myself off spiritually that I'm blocking all the real love and my potential. I've been selfish because of having low self-esteem. Hating the skin I'm in...always wanting to be the thinner prettier girls. I'm lonely... and I've done it so many times...I came clean with two of the guys I had lied too and then became friends with them and still speak to one regularly. But the guy I talk to now... he's so loyal... I'm not worried about being crushed...I'm worried about telling him and him spiraling back into depression and just ruining his life. I'm afraid of hurting him. I've tried to stop texting him and vanish but he keeps reaching out... honestly I would die if I knew that my dying could bring him the girl he thinks I am. I'm afraid the truth would do him more damage. But sometimes I think he knows... in the over 4 or 5 years we've talked off and on we've never chatted on webcam...I've sent him only a handful of pictures. I've gone too far. I'm in too deeply. He's not someone who would be able to bounce back. And more than anything I'm afraid of hurting him and freaking out the girl I stole from... I really wish I would just die in my sleep. He's perfect...and being wasted on me. I wish he'd just hate me. I don't know what to do.. sometimes I wanna just tell him.. but he isn't like the others.. it would break his spirit. I just wish I could give up my life to make it right. I lied so much I just don't like myself. I'm trying to love myself so I can learn to love people and give my true self to people...but at the root I hate myself and I lie because I'm lonely and fear I'll always be alone. I know I've already hurt him... I just don't want to shatter him. I regret ever responding to his i.m. so many years ago. I've been so weak and so selfish. I wish I could give my life to make up for what I did and that if I died the girl I was pretending to be could love him and share life with him and make him happy forever.

I have done this too. You aren't the only one. I did it once for about 2 years straight, then stopped, and have kind of started back up again with the fakes. Honestly I don't know why I do it. I want to stop. At this point I think I'm addicted. Maybe not to doing it, but to the fact I can be anyone and feel better I guess. I don't know. But I feel your pain. :/

this is my story too. I wanted to friend someone who had a difficult divorce to give them encouragement but she wanted a relationship to rub in the exes face, so that made it a long drawn out thing with me trying to get rid of her without hurting her again, which caused me to do some really crazy things. Got busted and it is not pretty, being accused of wasting a year of her life and threatening with lawsuits.

I'm so sorry :( I honestly feel like I can't stop. I just wish I could talk to someone who knew what I did. Because I can't tell anyone or everyone will think I'm crazy.

I feel the sameway, I've donethis before and toldthemthe truth and the result was heartbreaking so I KNOW what I'm getting myself into. The question asked is always why? I think like u said, self-esteem and attention also. I'mcurrently involved with someone who wants to meet this weekend, after dating for 3 months. I'm really scared and ready to get this over with. He's really a lot like me, great looking n worst part he's described what he's not attracted to which physically, is me. I hope you r able to get through ur situation n all works out.

I' have 13 fake profiles I pretend to be the girlfriend or boyfriend of my other fake profile , I also have friends from other country's I have never fall in love with anybody I had this limit I have help lots of people. With my fake profile even sending girls in Salvador cell phones and tablets and in COLOMBIA I talk only sports. Then I log off and pretend. To talk to my other fake friend I find pictures of people and there friends , I pretend. To be engaged to this person the person I'm engaged is me , I have a model friend is me, I have a friend who is a business men is me. I have never harm anybody to all the propel I talk is about god , I don't like myself I'm always lonely. I suffer form pain attacks ,I came from a good family I want too stop this behavior in the name of Jesus .is not healthy I gave myself with the help of god to make this fakes disappear I already deleted one 12 more to go

Sorry my English panic attacks

My profiles is no too fall in love reason they have boyfriends is just to be somebody else cuz I don't find myself attractive,i only talk to people I talk about sports ,news nothing else I talk to my best friend is me too. to my boyfriend is me too.the real people I talk too I talk about how is their county ,I keep a distance no personal messages just in the wall I invented this
character he is very funny. And my best friend people laugh at his jokes but is really me

Hey there, similar thing happened to me but lasted an year... I too met a guy on the Internet we've been talking daily for almost 12 months, I definitely fell for him so as he. I fell in love for the first time. I wanted exactly the same things as you do. But eventually he found out that it wasn't the real me in the pictures.. its been almost half year since he knows the real me. Before that I was such a coward, never even wanted to think about revealing myself to him thinking I would hurt him too just like you said. But yes he was hurt.. He maybe still is and he is probably acting like he doesn't care. Right now we still keep in touch we even cam, i never even imagined that we ever would but I did. I still love him so much and I suggest you to tell him the truth as fast as possible. I think he would still love you for you because love has no barriers.

Omg our story so similar I wanna talk to you

I know this feeling. Everything you said, I relate to. I often feel like it'd be better if I stopped existing so other people could move on and forget me. I feel like people would be happier if I just... Stopped existing.

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I have this problem too. I've been doing this for over a year and I used the identity of a celebrity. I met this girl and we became like brother and sister. Today she found out everything and I feel like ****. She was a really fun girl. She texted me all this stuff and I can't reply because she won't believe me. What can I do to fix this?

Me too, and I don't know how to break up with the person because I genuinely love them.

Are you pretending to be a real person or one you made up? Because if you are one you made up, then I don't see what the problem is.

i did it too i pretended to be someone else 3 months ago we fell in love so bad, i tied to breakup on the first week because i didnt want things to get serious but when ever i tried he used to send a photo of him holding a knife on his belly so i didnt do it, may be i didnt tell him the truth because i was afraid that he might kill himself, he promised me so many times that he will never leave me (we are gay). so last week he called me at 7 am i was sleeping he found out about everything i was so scared but pretended to be cool, i told him that i am telling you this because of your promises and i trust you so i told him the truth, i came on webcam we talked for like 4 hours both of us were really happy until evening, he suddenly messaged me on facebook that "i can't be with you can we be friends" that really broke my heart i tried my best for two days but he told me that he don't love me anymore so i gaveup on him, he was not really good looking, i need help to get him back or maybe some advice thank you.

So why does my looks matter if I truly showed him how it feels to be loved and always made him laugh and kept a smile on his face?

Also I just wanted to add I have a great personality (always make him smile and laugh) and he said that's what made him fall in love with me but obviously it's how I look that got him trying to avoid me.

I've been doing this for years. No one knows (except the people who are going to read this). I have low self esteem. I hate how I look. I feel guys don't want me unless they are desperate and just want me around for company temporarily or for sex. I feel the only way I can get guys to talk to me is if I pretend to be an attractive woman. My latest story is, I signed up on a website in November 2011. I met this guy who I will call "Terrell." We instantly clicked. Eventually he wanted to talk offline and I was kind of nervous about doing that because I had lied and said I lived in Atlanta. I did text/talk to him from my real number but lied to him and said that it was my "business" number from an app that creates a 2nd phone line on your cell. Of course he believed me. Then I created another fake number with an Atlanta area code and started communicating from that number. So things were going smoothly. I was feeling bad for lying to him. Eventually I started finding out that he was lying to me about things. He claimed he only had 1 child but found out he has 4 (Found out last year). He claimed he was single but he's really married (Found that out earlier this year). That made me not want to tell him my secret. I continued to talk to him anyway (A sign right there that I have low self esteem) just to have someone to talk to plus I really did love him. He loved me too. Within the 2 years we've known each other I did stop talking to him because of his lies but I would always go back to him. The last time we stopped talking was in May of this year and we started back talking in September. He was happy to hear from me and we started right where we left off. Then one day we were on the phone while watching a show together. Around 3 a.m. I told him I was getting off the phone to go to bed. I couldn't sleep so I texted him and said I was thinking about him. He said the same. Then he asked me was I really the girl I said I was. I said "Yes. Why?" He said he have his reasons why he would have doubts. So then he kept asking me and trying to talk me into telling the truth. Even though I didn't want to I did anyway. Right after I sent the text I turned off my phone and cried myself to sleep. Later that morning (remember it was already after 3 a.m. at the time of my confession) I turned my phone on and I didn't get a reply back to my message. That made me cry even more. I sent a text and told him I'll delete myself from his friend list on the site we met from. He texted back saying not to do it but it was already too late. So we texted and talked about my confession. He said he wasn't made at me because of the fact that he lied about himself too. I was worried he wouldn't like how I really looked. He asked for a picture and I sent it from my real number. The first thing he texted back was he asked me was I really from (my real state because of my area code). I didn't get a "you're cute" or anything. I literally had to ask about 4 times about what did he really think of my picture and he finally said I'm cute. But I think he only said that to be nice because he kept beating around the bush the 1st couple of times. So he said he still love me and want to be with me once he get a divorce from his wife (Claimed they've been talking about getting a divorce). And he also said I'm the only one who has ever showed him how it truly feels to be loved. I don't think the divorce is going to happen though. I was shocked he said it though because I thought he was going to lose communication with me. Well it's been almost a month since I confessed and things were going good until he started going days without texting or calling. When I was pretending to be another woman, he would always make time to text/call. Now if I text he might reply back 1 to 3 times and then stop and that'll be it for the day. And the best way for me to get him to text back is if I start complaining about how he's treating me. He'll say he's been busy but that's never stopped him from communicating before. Plus if he really loved me he would always make time to talk. So this past Tuesday I sent him 1 last text telling him to have a good day at work and told him that was going to be my last text. That was it. He replied back about an hour later saying "Hey baby...wyd?" I didn't reply back even though I wanted to but I know he's not into me now that he knows how I really look. Plus like I said he's married anyway so if a man is going to have what young people say a "side piece" I guess the "side piece" has to be beautiful. I'm really hurt though because if he wasn't interested in me anymore he could've said it instead of trying to get me to stop talking to him 1st (that's how I see it). And I guess he really didn't love me if it's that easy to get rid of me. He was just stuck on the looks. Now I'm lonely all over again

I do this because it gives e confidence and I can act however I want. Iam able to say no and tellppl mean things if they are tude I don't have much self confidence as my other friends in real life iamintheseventhgrade andnever had a boyfriend.. well I guess I am prettyugly plus I try to act like ikm cool but my self confidence bar lowers and I once again act like low term..

I have a pretty tragic story. I'm a 22 year old. My sex is a problem because I was born what you would call "intersexed". I have male genetalia, and female as well but I also have an underdevolped female uterus. It doesn't work, but on top of that I am infertile. I've been talking with the same girl for about 4 years over the internet, phone, and text. She's my life. Sweetest person in the world. I never want to hurt her. But I've never told her how I was born. She wants kids and to get married. But I can't give that to her. I've never told her the truth. I feel like if I did it would kill her. It would destroy her. I don't know how to fix it. I've never been close with anybody like I have been with her. Mainly just because she accepts me. I've never fake pictures. I've only ever used my own. But it's not my outer appearance except for my privates that would hurt her, even if she could overlook it, I could never give her kids. It makes me sick thinking about how long I've been lying. And in honesty it's not protect me, it's too save her the heartache. Somebody please help me.

I have a pretty tragic story.

I have done this also but I know why I do it. I get bored with life and it's nice to escape and pretend to be someone or something different than the real me. I was just wondering does anyone know if this is illegal?

No unless you're trying to obtain items illegally then yes it's illegal but roleplaying isn't a crime unless you're stealing their identity and receiving things illegally in said persons name

thanks

I just recently told my best mate the truth about me but still haven't shown her a picture of me she already hates me and even if it hurts it's my fault I should've just kept going but I felt bad and just had to come clean. It was my first time doing it and I immediately felt guilty, I just want things to go back to the way they were but they won't. I don't think she even wants to talk to me any more and I accept that.

Yes my experience is excatly as yours, i need to talk to someone. I need to come out clean. chelseacrazy75 at gamail dot come

Could really use someone to talk to that has been through this.

Hi(: I'm here if you would like to talk to me.

Kik?

Hey what's your kik I need someone who understands /;

I've been doing this for as long as I can remember, and often times I would get caught by family and would stop for a while. But then I started back up and started stealing pictures of a girl who I went to school with when we were really young and made a profile on a website. I had a lot of fun with it because I could be someone else and seeing that I was pudgy and didnt have a lot of friends I had a ton of confidence pretending to be this gorgeous girl on the internet. I met this guy in Chicago and said that I lived in New York because there were real people on the site were I lived and since she was near me I didn't want local people recognizing her and mentioning her profile to her and her catching me faking her. Anyways, so I told him I lived in New York and so on and so forth and we eventually started dating and even though we fought a lot we grew incredibly close, closer than I've ever been with anyone-in real life or on the internet. I made a fake number and texted him off of that but then eventually I graduated to letting him text my real number and I was only cautious of that because I was scared I would get my phone taken and get caught. We dated for a good two years but one day near christmas/new years he texted me screen shots of the girl who I was faking's facebook, pictures of her kissing her boyfriend, and told me to leave him alone and never to talk to him again. I was crushed. I couldn't think or speak or breathe. I went to my room and cried and panicked. I thought he knew, so I just texted him "Okay. I'm sorry." and left him alone. Then he texted me and I realized he only thought I was cheating on him. He had no idea. What he did next killed me. He kept dating me. I feed him some more lies about how I (being the girl) had to date this boy to keep my mom off my back about getting a boyfriend and he believed it. I knew at this point he was hooked and I could never tell him. But it took about a month to get him to go back to normal, loving and caring. A couple weeks later she broke up with her boyfriend so I told him "I" dumped him and he was on top of the world. He thought he had a gorgeous girl all to himself. But they got back together and I didnt tell him. Then he found her twitter, and told me to leave him alone again.. but then he still stayed. We fought almost every other day after that point and eventually he found the boyfriends twitter and number and everytime I tried to end it and leave so I didn't have to tell him he would threaten to tell him that I was cheating on the boyfriend and send him screenshots of what I told him. I was terrified because he had my real number and the boyfriend would ask all his friends whos number it was and everyone would know I was pretending to be her. About a week ago, June 3, the birthday I told him was mine when we first started talking even though it was neither mine nor the girl's, he started a group text with me and the boyfriend and was going to tell him I was cheating. But the boyfriend told him my number wasn't the girlfriend's number, and they put my number on instagram and everyone found out. Then I had to tell him I wasn't her. He denied it and I told him. I told him what he should hear and explained how I made it so real and told him how sorry I was and that I wished I regreted it but that I didn't because he changed my life. He said thank god you weren't the only girl I was talking to, and now he apparently has a torn tendon, but I haven't heard from him in days. I miss him so much and I dont know how much longer I can take like this. I can't imagine how much pain I caused him. My life is ruined. If youre pretending to be someone youre not, especially if you've connected with someone, come clean.

i have done this myself but I gave out my number and the person caught me.. she is from a different state an says she is going to turn me in. what trouble could I face? please people I need help and advice.

I want to say something to all of you that pretend to be someone else. I was on the other end of what you do, and it has been the hardest thing in my life to get over. I confronted the person in email of every lie they told, said i didnt care, i just wanted to know why. I didnt care about the stories or what they looked like, i loved thier personality, but i derserved the truth, because that is all i gave. This person has instead decided to disappear, never talk to me again. Maybe they dont want to have to face it all, idk, and never will. Im hurt, confused, feel stupid, humilitated..and damn sad that i dont if they are alive or dead. It may be fun and excited to you, but these are real emotions your dealing with. The best thing you could do is be honest, tell the truth, it may not turn out like you like all the time, but i promise, those other ppl love you..not what you look like or your outragoius stories. Even tho i know everything now..if she came back and said sorry, i did that..id forgive everthing. I would not even bring up all the other stuff as long as this point forward, it was the truth. Please stop, pretending, be yourself, I promise you will feel so much better about yourselves.

Thank you for your message. I am pretending to be someone, but my feelings for him and his for this girl have gone too far. I know I need to stop, I just can't decide how. Whether to just disappear, or to tell him the truth, I know both will crush him and I don't want to hurt him any more than I already have. I want your opinion on what I do and how I do it.

We've been talking for about 3 years. He has real images of me, my phone number. He could (maybe has) find me very easily, I'm sure. I do want to stop, I just don't want to ruin anything he has or anything I have because of this silly mess I have gotten myself into. Please respond, feel free to message me as well.

Tell him. Disappearing would hurt both of you. Be honest with him first and you'll start being honest with yourself and you'll feel EXTREMELY relieved even though it will hurt at the same time.

Hey evenbetter -- My name is Sandy. I'd like to see if i could possibly help you. I know you love him, and I would want to see if we could help. I work on a program called Catfish, that helps people in your situation. You can email me directly at catfishcasting at rrstaff dot com. You can also call me directly at 323-860-6744. Thanks. – Sandy :D

sad to admit this but , I've done this before too. I started when I was 13 , I guess it was like I was experimenting with my life - Seeing as it was pretty boring then and it's the internet , you can sort of do whatever you want with no tracks back to you.
I did it on a couple of online games , forged my own background , feelings etc to make friends (Which I did already have , Just they weren't really the friend's everyone has). I did it for about 2 years , Used different pictures from different websites , stole them etc. The recievers , the poeple whom I was talking to didn't even realise this. Finally , I stopped. But there's a small catch , I'm pretty much 2 people. The fake online person and the real person... I made up some bad story which went along the lines of the fake person gave the online game account to somebody else . I was planning on making another story to the reciever , that the "fake" (me) was actually someone else or a man or something. I don't think I'm going to do it. I feel ******* stupid for doing it , I'm not sure how to end it. Do I just delete them off of Skype? Do I tell them? Do I just continue? :/

Hey YellowFortunes - my name is Sandy. I'm a Producer with Catfish. I can't tell you how much your honesty and willingness to talk about what you're going through is a true inspiration. I'd like to see if I could help. You can email me directly at catfishcasting at rrstaff dot com. Or, you can call me directly at 323-860-6744. Thanks, YellowFortunes :D - Sandy

I'm 16 now. However, I've pretended to be someone else since I was 12. My life wasn't too depressing, but it was definitely far from being glamorous. It started off very innocent. I was on a website called "BlogTV", and all I wanted was a nice looking profile picture. I saw this girl's picture through Facebook, whom I've never met before.. and I thought she looked incredibly beautiful, so it I thought "Hey, it wouldn't be that bad if I used her picture -- you know, since she looks a little prettier than me-- right?" I thought wrong. After that, it became an addiction. I would stalk this girl's profile on a daily basis. Saving her pictures. Everything. Her life consumed mine. I wanted to be her. Well, through a fake Facebook account, I technically could.

However, eventually this guy came along. Charming. Good-looking. An amazing sense of humor..personality. Gosh, how I screwed up. We talked everyday. Constantly. He was infatuated with me, as I was with him. We'd text each other everyday, Facebook chat everyday..and then it came to talking on the phone -- which was a huge risk for me, revealing something that was a part of me. Something that was actually me-- and not someone else. He loved my voice. He loved me for me. For my personality. For my humor. For who I was, damn..that was amazing. But he didn't know what I really looked like--and that tore me to pieces. I hated it. I couldn't reveal that, I didn't want things to end between us. But I knew one day it had to.

Well, things went completely downhill when one day he called me to announce that he wanted to see me. Actually see me in person. He lived in the mid-west, while I live in California. He was willing to actually take a plane and go here. To cut to the chase, he actually took a plane to California. Then, took a taxi to the city that I live in. He texted me saying that he wants to finally see me, to hold me, to kiss me..I fell apart. I cried so much that night, because all I said to him was "I can never see you..please just leave. Go back to Chicago. I'm sorry." This man, did so much to sacrifice for me. He truly loved me. And I still appreciate what he has done, up to now. It's been a little over a year since then. I've deleted his phone number, my Facebook account, along with discontinuing speaking to all the other friends that I've made that I wish I could of somehow still stayed friends with, I've stopped using all the social networking websites. We've never talked, or exchanged any sort of conversation at all to each other.

Today-- precisely 2 hours ago is when I finally revealed that disgustingly, tortuous lie I've kept bottled up for so long. I made a random twitter account, messaging him the entire story. Everything. And trust me, it feels so good. I haven't had a reply yet -- but it feels so damn good to know that he can finally move on with his life, and enjoy it-- rather than thinking of me..but ****. I wish I had never done it in the first place. Because I still love him. And I wish he loved me.

I met this guy on the internet with my fake account. We have been talking every single day and we fell in love with each other. And on January, he caught me being a fake he also found my real twitter and facebook account but i still denied it was me. After that we fell out, after a few weeks he came back and talked to me. Then we were together on March 7 2013. I wanted to tell him that i'm not that pretty girl in my fake account's picture. I want to let him know the real me but i'm scared of telling him. I dont want him to leave me... I started telling him things about me feeling insecure and hating how i look, how worthless i felt. He told me he doesn't care about appearance, it's my personality that made him love me. But what i'm scared is he would tell the girl that i'm taking photos from her. Tell me what i should do?!!! Please..

I have been tricked by the love of my life for 5 years, we are now planning to get married, she was not the one she showed me, I found out today. The pictures was one of her friends, after 5 years, this exact day, I found this girl she showed me on the internet and she has a boyfriend and so much else, when I saw them pictures i felt like nothing was left inside me, I am as cold as you can get.I love the girl and would die for her but why this why!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!STOP DOING THIS **** PEOPLE YOU ARE ******* ME UP, I DONT GIVE A **** WHO YOU DOING IT TO; STOP. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL GIRL YOU ARE STRONG NOW SHOW ME!!!!!

how could you be planning to marry them if they lied? your story doesn\'t make sense and you are as much to blame as them shouldn\'t you have been trying to meet someone outside the internet. It\'s the internet people lie all the time about who they are even if it\'s them in the pictures they still exaggerate their life. You should try finding someone offline.

I used to do this when i was younger, around 13, i thought it was exciting. Looking how you always wanted to, seemingly living the life you desire. Its never a grandiose life, a rich famous person, its a real life, with problems, but still somehow better than your own. Anyway, I did it a few more times after that, but for fun, nothing serious, never REALLY deceiving anyone. And then it started again, I am 19 almost 20. I am pretending to be from a different country, with a different life, age, (18) everything is different except my personality and name. I guess its how i wish i was in an alternate universe. I feel very ashamed and bad, i want to stop.

I too did this and actually just got caught and really could use someone to talk to who can relate please i really need it

Hi(: I am in the exact same shoes as you so if you want you can talk to me(:

I have a question. What would happen is the person you "impersonate" finds out? do they generally file a lawsuit?

they can but if you\'re only using their pictures and not trying to actually be them then there\'s nothing they can really do. All the can do is ask you not to take their photos and say they are you most of the people who find out that their pictures are being used don\'t seem to care. They just find it flattering one girl even told people they can use her photos and if they do use them pick one that\'s decent. It doesn\'t bother most people because they take it as a compliment,when they found out they weren\'t upset that the person was using their pictures they were upset that they didn\'t use one that was decent other than that they didn\'t care.

I don't know why I typed all that on a reply but yeah, I've never talked to someone who has had a very similar experience to mine. Id really love to talk to someone about this. feel free to contact me.

I'd really like to talk to you!

@wecanovercome- Your profile is set on private, so I'm not able to respond to the message you sent me. And to answer your question... yes! I am for real! You can contact me anytime. I'd love to talk with you and hear more of your story if you're up for it. Thanks, wecanovercome. - Sandy :D

I do the same thing. But the difference is I know why I do it. I get bored with my actual life and I think about how cool it would be too look like one of those tumblr girls, and live an amazing life...so I go online and I pretend I am one of them living that life. I don't let my friends at school know about it, its just a bad idea to connect them to this fantasy life you're living. I usually go on some not-well-known chat sites and do this. And I for one think its completely harmless, although, it can be utterly humiliating when you get caught as a fake. So when that happens, I abandon the account and make a new one with a new model, or I use the same one on a new website. some websites are much better at telling fakes than others.

Hello smilesandstuff - I'm a producer with Catfish and MTV. I read your recent post and found your story incredible and inspirational. I'd love to talk with you and hear more, not to be on the show or anything, just to hear more about how you are doing. You can respond to me at catfishcasting at rrstaff.com or call me directly at 323-860-6744. Thanks, smilesandstuff – Sandy :)

same my life isn\'t interesting either but still shouldn\'t mislead people.

Sadly, I am also one that does this. I don't know why I do. I have been portraying myself as someone different. A whole new life, new friends, background.. Everything. I've been talking to this female, and at first it started out as just friends getting to know each other. Now I've fallen in love with her... and I can't take back what I've done. I'm too much of a wuss to confess to her that I'm not this person. She has fallen for this made up person. It makes me sick that I am capable of doing something like this to another person. I just wish I could get myself to stop, but I can't.

tell them trust me I just told the person I fell for that I wasn\'t the person in the photo and she told me she knew it wasn\'t me because she follows the real person on tumblr (which she doesn\'t because he doesn\'t have one) I doubt the person photo I had can even speak or write English because they\'re from Brasil. Anyway I told them the truth and they\'re extremely upset with me they no longer trust me and keep asking me why did I do it because it happened to them twice already one with this guy name Jace and the other with this guy who turned out to be a girl name Adrian. I felt bad for even sending her that photo but she wouldn\'t stop asking so I just grabbed the closest photo I could find and then sent it to her I confessed two days later that it wasn\'t me. But they\'re pissed off and probably hates my guts now but I\'m just going to let them live their life and let them be happy and just go back to isolating myself as I always did,it wasn\'t that big of a deal to me when I didn\'t have anyone to talk to. I\'m fine without having friends.

i pretended to be a guy online when im a girl, i dont know why i did it i have a really good life in reality but i got sucked up into it and addicted and the attention was amazing and i fell in love with her and made her fall in love with me, im not a lesbian at all but i was in love with her, shes found out and i dont know what to do or how to make things better, i never wanted to hurt her and i carried it on because i didnt know how to stop or want to hurt her and now ive done just that

I feel you on thisnthisnis my exact situation. It would be nice i can actually talk about this with someone who would understand

Its the same for me . I swear I didnt domit on purpose . So this is my life story . Im a girl who thinks her life is awful and then I found this website called "imvu" well theyre I made this guy account wnd I started chatting people and I got this online girlfriend we were together for 3 months and she barely got on so I decided to end it and move on btw I searched this goth attractive kid and I set it as my default she thought it was me . So after our break she completely disconnected till a year later which is now when she started messaging me again we got really tight 2 months ago and became bestfriends. The thing is I started having a crush im straight i love penis but this girl is just amazing so we finally confess that we had feelings for eachother and this girl really got me opened up she was the first person I talked on the phone as me because I was afraid she would figure out I was a girl but she didnt so after talking fir a while I asked her out and things are great I started developing really strong feelings for her so did she and we even had phone sex.i know its really sick but I fell in love with her . She asked for pictures and not being able to find pictures from that same goth guy I sent new ones this reallymsexy guy with abs and snake bites . Things were amazing till today that she skyped me ans told me that her mom had been getting this weird thoughts into her head that I was fake and that she needed prove . She told me that she ignored them for a week till today she started to wonder because she realize that the old picture of " me" the goth kid didnt have snake bites so that made her wonder and she even has asked expecific pictures of me with a kissy face but I make up excuses . So now she thinks im fake and she says she will understand if im some other guy but the thing is im a GIRL! She wants prove and I told her I was going to give her prove I asked if I could send a picture with her name on the paper and "me" . Im still in touch the guy . But she said she wasnt sure about a picture . She wanted to video chat that what her mom told her scared her . Im inlove with her and she said she needed a break that shes scared . But I love her and I cant tell her that im a girl ill lose her forever and hurt her soo bad I need her like the air I breathe I sound so stupid but its the way I feel we even made plans to meet each other in the summer and not ready to tell her . Ps in christmas she confess she wasnt the girlnfrom the picture and it hurt me that she lied but I fell inlove with her not with the girl the picture she told me her real name was cynthia . She even asked if there was something I was keeeping from her but I just wasn't ready to confess something like this and I still arent . She my world and ive fallen fornher like never before I want to be with her . I cant lose her I need her . PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME . WHAT CAN I DO I WANT TO TELL HER BUT IM NOT READY YET . I WILL WHEN SOME TIME PASSES BUT FOR NOW I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP IM INLOV I AND DESPERATE. SHOULD I TALK TO THE DUDE FROM THE PICTURE AND TELL HIM TO DO THIS FAVOR FOR ME . MAYBE A PICTURE OF HIM WITH HER NAME MIGHT HELP ALOT . OR SHOULD I TELL HIM ABOUT MY PROBLEM AND HOPEFULLY HE'LL UNDERSTAND AND HAVE A VIDEO CHAT WITH HER PRETENDING TO BE "ZACK" .PLEASE ANSWER ASAP . I KNOW IM A SICK F R EAK BUT MY LIFE SUCKS AND I REALLY DONT FEEL ATTRACTIVE . MY MOM SWEARS IM PRETTY SO DO MY FRIENDS BUT I DONT SEE IT SO I THOUGHT MAKING A GUY ACCOUNT A WOULD BE FUN AND BEING WANTED BY PEOPLE DID TOO EVEN THOUGH THAT WASNT ME IT JUST FELLT NICE. I NEVER MEANT TO FALL INLOVE . IT WAS JUST FOR FUN . BUT THIS GIRL REALLY GOT TO ME AND MADE ME FEEL REALLY SPECIAL. IM HOPELESSLY INLOVE . AND IM POURING OUT MY HEART EXPLAINING THIS. I HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND AND DONT FIND ME SELFIS.

THANK YOU FOR READING THIS

tell them you owe them that much anyway since you\'ve been lying for this long, I am pretty sure if you ask the guy he\'s going to think you\'re completely insane and probably get a restraint against you. Just tell them well I hope you have anyway because they deserve to know the truth.

Hi, I just want to say straight up, I know you didn't mean to put this girl in a difficult position, and its NOT YOUR FAULT. I think I can give you a little help with this because I myself am in the same type of situation. I'm a 20 year old guy, I've known this girl I met online for a year. From the moment I first spoke to her I felt something I never have in my life. It was true love. Every moment I spent talking with her, was incredible. It was like I found a missing puzzle peice that completed my life. After a month we both fell madly in love with eachother and we did the whole phone sex thing and all that stuff. After about 4 months, not only did my friends and family think I was nuts for being so in love with someone that I wasnt 100% sure was who I thought she was, but I was beginning to have doubts because the pictures she would show me were clearly of completely different girls. And her story started changing. When I first met her, she said she was a very wealthy, traditional polish girl who taught physics at a college. I believed her, because I instictively expected honesty. After a while things started not adding up, and she would always avoid any questions I would ask regarding anything to do with getting proof that what she said was true. But HERES THE CATCH: I didn't care who she was, what she looked like, what she did for a living. I didn't care if she was 500 pounds, covered in warts, missing limbs, and dare I say it, I didn't even care if she wasn't a girl. And I am 10000% straight as an arrow. All I wanted from her was the truth. I wasn't in love with a story, or an amount of wealth, or good looks, I was in love with who I believed with my entire being, was my soulmate. Sadly, after a while, my parents gave me an ultimatum: If I can't get proof that she is who she says she is, I either break up with her, and stop talking to her completely, OR I can no longer live in their house because they thought I was endangering the whole family. And because she wouldn't tell me the truth, I had to break up with her. After about 8 months, we're still friends, we rarely talk, and she still insists on being this person that I know isn't her. It kills me because even if he or she knows that I love them no matter what, they're too scared to tell me the truth anyway because they think it will change my opinion. I am still crazy about them. A year has gone by and this person is the only person that I have thought about every single day for a year. My point is, I'm on the other side of your situation. I can tell you from my own experience that honesty can go a very, very long way. And if the girl I've known for a year were to tell me right now the 100% truth, I would welcome anything that she would think to be unfit. No matter what it was, I would at the very least try to make it work. Everyone deserves a chance to be with their soulmate. My advice to you: Tell her. Explain to her why you did it, maybe you thought you wouldnt ever find someone because you didnt like yourself, or maybe you thought she wouldnt understand, and tell her that you probably dont fully understand how you even fell in love with a girl, whatever the case may be, be honest with her. Don't worry about her freaking out. This has to come out one way or the other, because if it doesnt, nothing will change. Nothing will get better if you keep the lie going. You'd only be making it harder on both you, and her. Break it to her slowly, and before you pour your heart out to this girl, just remember, everything happens for a reason. You were meant to meet this girl. Even if it doesnt work out, you will have grown as a person. If you don't get this off your chest, I'm telling you, it will weigh you down and tear you apart. Anyway, I hope this message finds you well, and if you ever need someone to talk to about this let me know. This is my first time using this site, so I'm not sure how the reply system works, but if I get a reply, I'm here for you. I know what this is like, and you should know you arent alone in this struggle. Best wishes.

I just told the truth to my best mate who I\'ve fallen for I haven\'t given them a picture and kind of refuse to because I know they will look at me different but if they were to say I don\'t want to be mates any more it would crush me but I would also accept it after all I lied to them twice when I should\'ve been honest with them because they\'ve been nothing but honest with me.

Oh my god, I honestly just came back from smoking with some friends right now, I sat down and thought about everything I've done just to keep this girl believing I'm some guy she met online for 4years. But I'm a girl...and Its gotten to the point where this girl is head over heels for this guy I created, and I'm in love her too, and I'm not even lesbian! it's so horrible how I'm not who she thinks I am... I never meant to do this to her, it just happened. We just felt this connection between us. but I can't just let her go, she's an amazing, honest, beautiful person. she doesn't deserve to hurt....and I feel terrible that I'm going to leave her instead, pretty soon. I'm slowly being distant. I don't want to ever tell her though, it won't go well like you say. She really trusted me, told me her entire life story, and basically everything there is to know about her and if she ever finds out again, the truth would just make her question her entire life....(and yes I said again, she found out once before...I kept it going cause I loved her and she couldn't let me go either, I was her life, her comfort and sunshine.) I admit this is selfish. but I was little when this all started, like 14! at first I brought her that happiness cause wanted to help her get through a tough time in her life when i met her. and i did! I wasn't in love with her yet but the more I talked to her the more I realized that this person was such a beautiful person inside and out. I really wish to talk to someone who's been through this please..anyone?:(

I hope you told them the truth and pretty much let them live their life and be happy because that is selfish it may be just for fun for us but honestly what we\'re doing is misleading them and keeping them from growing and finding their one true love. I should just stay off the internet and focus on school and try to be the best person I can be because what we are doing is wrong and we are hurting them the most because they trust us it\'s not fair to them just tell this person who knows they may still want to be your friend and you never know they may just be into girls or are probably hiding something from you as well.

I really would like to talk to you and help you!

tell them I did and it felt bad for ever doing it to be honest I just want them to be happy even if the happiness doesn\'t come from me. I feel so bad for hurting them and for lying to them we became best mates and I fell for them but I knew I had to come clean I had to tell them the truth and even though I thought telling them the truth would make me feel better it didn\'t it only made me feel even more of a **** person. It made me feel even more horrible about myself for even doing that to them. I shouldn\'t have done it from the start I deserve to hurt just as much as they are. I shouldn\'t have done that to them and it\'s all I keep saying because I shouldn\'t have I just want my life back to be honest and just be left alone like I was before we ever met and that they\'re happy because I know I ruined their life even more and I just hate myself so much for that. I didn\'t expect them to be okay with it I knew the outcome but still I told them the truth. And I\'m glad I did.

My story was exactly as yours, i dont'n know what i ve created that but thenn i add her and we started to talk for 8 months i didn't know but she was in love with me i could say that i was too. we say we love you to each other, i was feeling bad so i finish it not to hurt more cuz she could find the thruth but then we start to talk again and againthe same story, the one day i woke up i receive the worst message in mi life, she told me that she couldnt have that, cuz it wasnt not real , we would never have something real in real life, cuz everytime she told me to encounter i change the topic so that message really broke my heart... the she blocked me on facebook n i send her a lot of messages but there wasnt sollution.. i dont know why but now i created one account od twiter an follow her and she blocksme too... she never knew the thruth that i am i girl . I m not lesbian but i know that i dont want to hurt her ..- so the best thing ithink i can do is to forget her, right? :/ it would be difficult."!!!!3i43hjt0932853#"$#"%

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I dont know why i'm typing this but feel the need to just share and try to get understanding. I sometimes would waste time on omegle just talking to random people. one day I met a person named Jade Bains. We talked for a couple hours she was nice, and when i saw her picture she was stunning. (i know, that should have been the first flag :P) added her on skype and we just talked for hours every night for nearly 2 months straight, She claimed her camera was busted so she couldn't video chat. (i know another sign) but i let it go. She'd show me all these pictures of herself, which I did try to image search for similar images but nothing so I figured she was indeed who she said she was. So we talked like hours and hours everynight, I told her all about myself, she told me all about herself supposedly. The story she crafted was just damn convincing, and ridiculously unorthodox. She was half punjab, half white, her real mother didn't want her so she left and her dad remarried. she was a Sikh, she was pretty rich. going to school to be a radiologist. She'd talk about how she'd get upset about her ex boyfriend of 3 years who had just broken up with her. I professed my love to her and she the same to me. Still, I always had anticipated that she was fake. She slipped up and was giving me these nude pics (obviously without the face). I saw that they were posted on tons of other places when i imaged searched them. I tried to get her/him to confess without outright accusing but they were stubborn. So I just outright showed them the website that I saw the pics were from. Immediately I was blocked and just disconnected. Even though I kinda suspected, it still was disheartening. I tried to send messages back, saying i wasn't even upset, I just wanted to know why they would do this and for so long. I mean we'd be talking every night for like 3-5 hours for nearly 2 months straight. Thats a huge investment on their part, they never wanted anything from me, or asked anything of me, just to talk with me. I just wanted to know something at least....Well, thats my story...

I am sorry I realised doing this bothers you all and I regret doing it. So I ended up confessing.

I pretended to be someone else online. At first I used my own pictures, but then I used the pictures of a girl I knew in real life. I got about the same responses and everything from people, but I felt like it was easier to be myself with that picture, because I am extremely insecure. Then one day, a guy kept pestering me. He was also using someone elses pictures, but he admitted to it a few days later. I accepted his apology, but in the back of my mind I knew that I was doing the same thing but I did NOT have the guts to tell the truth. I wish I would have, because little did I know, the next year of my life was going to be ruined. I kept taking those pictures from that girl and sending them to this guy and he fell so deeply in love with her. I made her into the complete opposite of me. Fake name, fake life, fake everything. There were a few tidbits of the story that I did keep true to myself but mostly everything was fake. We were in a relationship for a little more than a year. Then he found out that I was pretending to be something I'm not. My heart sank to the floor. It was the worst feeling. I had fallen for this guy, and I hurt him so much. I couldn't sleep or eat. I got suicidal because everything was my fault. I was living in a fantasy. I didn't leave him because I felt like I owed my life to him. He didn't want anything to do with me, but he wanted revenge. He asked me who the girl was in the pictures and I told him. He found her on FaceBook and told her everything. Except who did it. Me. He protected my identity. Which I was very lucky for. But for the next 5 months, he did nothing but kick me to the ground. Called me degrading names, did things to make me cry, told me he got pleasure out of hurting me. And I took it because I knew I deserved it. One week he would like me, then the next he would get annoyed, and frustrated, and he would treat me like complete and utter ****. He hated me, but still loved me. It got to the point that I wanted to commit suicide. My grades in college dropped. My relationships with friends and family were gone. Nobody knew but me and him. And somewhat the real girl in the pictures. That girl blocked him. She blocked him and couldn't see the messages from him. He made multiple facebook accounts to try and contact her. He kept telling me that she was prettier than me and that he wanted to be friends with her and not me. I told him that I'd still be here no matter what for him, if he wanted to leave, then fine, I'd still be here because I owe it to him. I wouldn't bother him. But if he ever felt the need to come back, I'd be there. He's doing everything he possibly can to get me to be sad and suicidal. He wants me dead. I wish that I could tell every person out there that has ever thought of pretending to be someone else or to be something they're not online, to just stop. Don't even do it. You do not know what you're getting yourself into. You could be messing with a psycho, like me. You could be ruining your life. Like I did. I can no longer leave my house because I'm too scared. I will never be able to be happy again. I'm in fear for my life because of what I've done.

I am sorry that happened to you.

I refuse to think this is a real issue. Just quit, there ain't no secret thing that will eventually work for you. Where I'd pretending to be someone else going to get you? You can only get far in life as your self. I'm not the best looking guy at all but I'd be damned before I pretend to be somebody else. I know there are people that except me for me. I would never want to associate with somebody under another identity, especially to people that wouldn't like you as your normal self. That's begging for someone to like you.. I'd rather have one friend then to do that ****. Now if you have social anxiety or autism and can't seem to make friends get help from a doctor. Those problems are some of the easier disorders to treat and cope with if you get therapy.

Ok y'all are weird. That's stuff that little kids do. Please just be yourself, trust me that's way less strange. I've known this girl for a couple of years and never seen her. Every time I try to chill she bullshits and won't talk on the phone. She sends me pictures of a girl that doesn't seem to match her personality. I think she created a few fake profiles in Facebook to of an imaginary group of friends. I want to catch her. But how?

I've been talking to this person for over three years now...she has pretended to be 3 different women and I busted her on all 3 from pictures she's shown me but I can't find her name anywhere. She won't video call me thru Skype Oovoo or Tango and the rare times she does its usually in the middle of the night and all I see is darkness, never her face...it's destroying me from the inside out as I wanna see who the hell this person is..I can't ignore her or she sends non stop emails telling me to login to Skype so she can video chat. And if I do she doesn't....she's sent me pictures if the "real her" which she swears is her but my trust is so totally gone idk what to do...I jus wanna find out who this person is!?!? Anyone know of any sure fire sites that I can guarantee find out??

I have sadly done this too, I did to someone for almost 5 months. I've stopped now, she was my bestfriend, I just wanted to make her happy and feel pretty so for that long I pretended to e a guy. I still feel like a sick **** but you know what everyone makes mistakes right? She's turning people against me now, it's embarrassing and I'm ashamed, it really sucks

Yeah I had this same problem, I ended up telling a bunch of lies and I thought I was crazy. What I did to fix it is I just stopped going on the websites.... It seems to work. Even talking to a psychiatrist could help, I know that sounds crazy but it worked for me.

me too

Yeah... same thing happened to me. And the people I was talking to found out. And it sucks! I feel really bad and I don't know what to do. We should talk because I thought I was the only person who had ever done this.

Hey i will talk to.you. i did the same.thing

Me to I'm currently caught up in this cycle and don't know how to end this. I'm currently pretending to be someone else and don't know how to get out of it.

tell them might as well get it over with or they\'ll probably ring Nev and Max and the entire world will know.

Something like this recently happened to me. In my case it was a guy pretending to be a girl, who I thought I knew for quite a while. We played a few online RPGs together and had contact via MSN. He didn't have any intentions of telling me and mutual friends, as I found out by investigating and tracking him down. I even found the person who's images he was using, but I was unable to get in touch with her so I'll have to conclude that perhaps she doesn't care, or was involved in the whole thing (her sister has him on facebook). I could probably find out more by tracking her down but I know it would be better for me to just let go. However, it sucks to know that he or they will continue to mess with others if I withdraw from this now. So disappointing, though... If anyone has a similair case and wants to talk about it, feel free to send me a message.

By the way, pretending to be someone else on social networking sites by using someone's name and/or photos (especially photos) is against the law and could even get you jailed when found out.

stop being a ******* weirdo freank

guys...this isn't cool. But I sorta know what you are going through though, cause somebody did this to me....it's a horrible mixed up feeling. But I think telling the truth isn't going to help the person you are hurting, it will only help you with a feeling of relief..it's like telling your partner you have been cheating on them...the truth only relieves your pain, not the other person's. If the person you have been hurting forgives you, you should consider yourself lucky, because stealing an identity and playing on other people's feelings, is about the worst somebody can do. I am not sure the truth helps in these moments...it didn't make me feel better when the person told me, but I bet it made him feel a relief. So in other words...we (those who get hurt) are better off wondering what happend to the person (you are pretending to be) if you just "disappear" instead of saying you lied to us...we basically tell you our life and you are faking being somebody. I am not judging...everybody has bad sides, but please stop...

wow an eye opener .ilike whhat u said helped alot

I told them I couldn\'t just leave without telling them why,it\'s not fair to them they deserve to know at least that\'s what I felt and it didn\'t make me feel better it actually made me feel ****** for ever doing that to them.

guys...this isn't cool. But I sorta know what you are going through though, cause somebody did this to me....it's a horrible mixed up feeling. But I think telling the truth isn't going to help the person you are hurting, it will only help you with a feeling of relief..it's like telling your partner you have been cheating on them...the truth only relieves your pain, not the other person's. If the person you have been hurting forgives you, you should consider yourself lucky, because stealing an identity and playing on other people's feelings, is about the worst somebody can do. I am not sure the truth helps in these moments...it didn't make me feel better when the person told me, but I bet it made him feel a relief. So in other words...we (those who get hurt) are better off wondering what happend to the person (you are pretending to be) if you just "disappear" instead of saying you lied to us...we basically tell you our life and you are faking being somebody. I am not judging...everybody has bad sides, but please stop...

You all are ****** up. Someone did this to me and complete hurt me... Deanna Walker whoever you are... you have never hurt me more than you can imagine. To all you doing this.. you really are hurting others even though you think you are the only ones being impacted. Admit that all of you have a ******* problem and face it. Start exercising, eating right, taking pride in your life. Hell maybe for once put some "REAL" effort into life. I am now 30 years old and still ****** up emotionally in trusting a woman b/c you made me fall in love with you. All of you that support this behavior or think that it is ok I want you to know this is an offense that can be handled with legal action and I have an intent of tracking each and everyone of you and reporting you to authorities. You messed with the wrong internet guru. Let this be your warning and do not be surprised to find police knocking on your door soon for stolen identity.

shut up you cannot report someone for doing that if they were impersonating the person\'s entire life then it\'s wrong but if they\'re using their pictures there is nothing they can do for their pictures could be used by multiple people what can you do? track every person who\'s used that person\'s photo and have them arrested,the police won\'t even do anything about it because it\'s not really illegal unless you\'re buying things and getting things in their name then that\'s extremely illegal.

you guys huhu we share the same things ..i thought i was the only one doing this .now i can understand why i did this

I have the same problem . Want to email me to talk about it ?

waah i just found this site cos i was searching if there is someone like me... i also pretended to be someone else .it strted in 2007 because i feel so bored . but i didnt expect that this will really destroy me and the person i lied.. well she fell inlove with me i never expected it then later on i fell for her and i really attempted to stop it by breaking her up which is a failure coz she begs me to stay. so i planned to just dissapear but i styill read her post so im temted to message her again .is it okay for me just to dissapear without saying goodbye :( i already have feelings for her but this is not right coz its a lie and i have the same gender . its like im separated with the personality i made.

Karma's a *****!

I don\'t believe in Karma I believe in reasons karma is just something people believe in when they cannot think of anything else and wishing karma on someone will only make it karma hit you not them.

mines started this year and I pretty much told them the truth right after sending them that picture.

It really shocks me that others have the same problem as I do. But it makes me feel a bit better. :/ I know how you feel, though.

I honestly thought I was the only one with this problem. I've been pretending to be people i'm not for 5 years. I would be legit 4 people at one time and it got crazy. I got bored with one person and I'd be fine without them and then I'd get this 'craving' type thing to be someone else online. It's taking over my life. it feels so real when you log in and it's everything you ever wanted your life to be everyone loves you.I told this guy I was dating for almost a year that I wasnt who I said I was and I know for a fact he wasnt who he said he was either and I expected it to be okay because all my other friends that i met online and told ended up with their loves and he got mad at me and never admitted to being fake. It broke my heart, im still heart broken. Its something I neeed to stop but I cant. I need help, but Im scared to let go

Have fun hurting other people, well what goes around comes around.

I know how it feels and its difficult, you just need to tell that person you are busy or will move shortly coz -> work or school? And you will try contact them if you find the time. Get off the computer and look at urself in the mirror, be happy.Its hard to say but be happy, there is always someone struggling even more. This happened to me as well, i told the guy i liked and have been found out once. After i told him, he didnt wanna talk to me? but after a week, he changed his mind and said he loved me hence he never missed anyone this much..Anyways, he felt sad and disgusted because he did not even thik the girl i pretended to be was attractive? He found the real me more intresting to look at and was happy to have me as me.He was just upset at me lying.I advise you guys to tell the truth or get off the game. It will hurt you badly, the deeper you are in it, the more complicated it gets. Being found out is really ****, and try to instead of going to the computer make new friends in real life. Start something new,find a hobby. Go to the gym or start finding intrest in arts or music or engage more in these things..

AloeNumber9 - completely understand you. I guess the longer we do it, it got us stuck getting used to a certain routine. It's even harder when you find a person who you have built a connection with. I've been doing it with someone for 10++ years! At first I thought it was harmless, but I had no idea constant talking and sharing stuff about you would be dangerous.

Does doing that kind of thing makes you happy ha? Seeing someone upset makes you happy? Good job good job!

I\'m sure it doesn\'t in fact once I told them the truth I felt even more ****** about myself because it was wrong to do that to them. I could\'ve kept going but didn\'t and they knew it wasn\'t me anyway because they told me after I admitted to them that I sent them a fake photo.

is there a way out? I want to admit to the lying because this is the last thing I owe her - the truth. I just dont know how to say it without hurting her even more. And im really not sure if I can bear the consequence of her not having anything to do with me. Please need advice.

first pray about it. coz only God can help us with our emotions. its my 3rd day too today not communicating with the person i deceived. it really is hard specially when you dont like hurting the person. 2nd read the bible and go for a counselling. i lied to 3 persons i confessed to the 2 and it was really such a freedom .they accpeted me for who ia m. but the thsird one was dificult coz we have a differrent level .she fell inlove and she is so senstive and has a lot of hurts .icant bear to tell her the truth thats why im just saying goodbye in a silent way even she is waiting for me :((

just tell the truth

Please. Please. Help me. I am doing this to someone I know, and they think that I am friends with the person I made up - he wants me to meet him and thinks I live near him now. I don't know how to get out of it, he has my number and can trace my ip and will know exactly who I am by my area. I'm the only person he knows there and I'm the only person he knows that "knows" the made up person. I've done this so many times, and on one occasion, to a guy I hadn't met, he actually randomly walked into the person who's pictures I was using (an ex-friend). How can I stop this before I get sued, shamed, and have to leave the country to have any form of a life at all... I tried to kill myself last year because of alot of things and I felt like I was doing whatever I could to not be so lonely and self loathing by escaping into this world where I was a beautiful girl and my ex was in love with me. I'm also scared of how bad his reaction would be if he found out. Terrified in fact. I'm ruining my own life. if anyone has any tips on how to get out of my specific situation please, please help.

hey friend dont kill yourself . there is
aways a way out even it hurts.. dont run by killing yourself .i also pretended to be someone else

I can relate. I have an issue with pretending to be other people online and I'm not quite sure how to stop. I want to, because quite frankly it's becoming dull. It's been off and on for over ten years. I'm 26 at the moment, 27 next month, and it began when I was about 14, innocently enough. My family is not the best... Not the worst. I suppose it was my method of "escape" when I was a young- and mid-teenager. However, I've made friends that I have talked to on an almost daily basis for 6 years. I've been discovered a few times. I've had major crushes on some people I've deceived - two of whom ended badly and in heartbreak not only for them but for me as well. Over the course of the past 3 - 4 years I've amassed almost 120 Facebook accounts of various people, which I'm currently in the process of deleting. I've just recently come to learn that posing as a living person is actually a crime and can land you with charges of fraud. I don't know if I'm in that much trouble yet but it was a wake up call to learn that there can be some serious consequences to the actions we take on the Internet if someone finds you out, takes it poorly and wants to pursue you. I've found that I'm very exposed to these charges because the person has my cell number and can probably easily find my IP address. All I can really do is wait and hope that when I have to renew my driver's license at the DMV next month a surprise doesn't pop up on their screens and land me in jail. I don't quite know how I'm going to "be myself." I've so rarely been myself on the Internet. Maybe I ought to give up IM services and social media all together? Perhaps I ought to cancel my subsc<x>ription and just stick with the news on my phone? I'm not sure. I'm really quite torn by all of it. I want to find a way out, and yet if I do, it will end up hurting many people who right now have no idea of what I'm going through and, by extension, what they are going through because of my decisions.

I am myself but the pictures I post aren't me at all so in a sense I'm not being myself at all well I am but I'm lying about being the guy in the pictures so yeah might as well say I too am being a fake and it's funny but also stupid on my part I've however deleted all of the guy's (Danny) pictures and will just not even be him anymore I will be myself if they like me they like me if they don't then Idc anymore I'm tired of trying to impress people and my life is still a dark place and shadow for me.

I'm a girl and have a boyfriend of over 7 years. I started playing a social game and started talking to an older married woman there, pretending to be a guy. I used my boyfriends pics. Eventually it lead to texting daily, all day, for 8 months. We planned a future together and everything. She wanted to leave her husband for me. Well just recently her husband found out and researched my information and found out I'm a girl. I'm very embarrassed and heart broken. I loved this woman, even though I knew it'd never happen in reality. The point is we do these things to feel wanted, needed, and loved

I'm a girl and have a boyfriend of over 7 years. I started playing a social game and started talking to an older married woman there, pretending to be a guy. I used my boyfriends pics. Eventually it lead to texting daily, all day, for 8 months. We planned a future together and everything. She wanted to leave her husband for me. Well just recently her husband found out and researched my information and found out I'm a girl. I'm very embarrassed and heart broken. I loved this woman, even though I knew it'd never happen in reality. The point is we do these things to feel wanted, needed, and loved

I also pretended to be someone else online. I posed as this girl lada and i got pictures off this site that had a lot of pictures of beutiful girls. I did this for a couple months and i started to feel special because this person from jamaica was paying attention to me; we were communicating through email. I really loved his personality and he seemed to like the girl that i created.. i made sure her character was the total opposite of mine and the guy even thought he was talking to his perfect girl and this for some reason made me feel good inside anyway to make a long story short i felt soo bad so being the person that i am i came out and told him that everything was a lie and he seemed crushed but he didnt have a bad attitude towards me and he didnt even judge me..i was surprised but i could tell that i really hurt him; i know that i have major insecurities for not being able to be me. My advice just be you! if someone doesn't like you for who you are then move on because there is someone out there for you :)

I didn't pretend to be a girl, I pretended to be older. It sucked because I fell in love, but because I was young and depressed I realized I couldn't do that to the other person, so I said that I was busy doing whatever and would periodically "check in" to get my fix, and then eventually I just stopped being an important aspect of the person's life and it was over with.<br />
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Of course, since I added them on facebook and myspace and told them my real name, they eventually figured it out (along with someone who I was really close to). But they understood why I did it (even if it horrified them) and just let me be without giving me grief IRL.

I Create Fake accounts I use other girls pictures and then guys start talking to me and i really like them, but I know its never gonna come true in the end i wanna stop this but it seems like i cant. I like the feeling i get from doing it. Is that a problem ?

I have done this and I fell madly in love with the guy. Now he's found out I've been pretending for two years and he wants nothing to do with me. I suggest to everyone, get out now. Before someone finds out. The guilt I have over this is unbearable and its hard for me to say that I regret what I did, because I felt so deeply for him, how do you regret that? But I do wish I had stopped myself before it became too much.

So...playing pretend is so addictive when the consequences are so easy to avoid. Conversely, I act more like my real self online than in real life. But in that same strain, I understand how you feel; there's no easy way around it, you just have to get your head out of the clouds. You don't need to slap on a label of 'disorder' when it's probably just a lack of self control. The way I see it, it's like losing weight--you're going to feel the burn, but you'll have to power through it. Messing with people online is fun and easy, but you should take care of yourself, dude. <br />
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Lol, so many people are writing paragraphs. You definitely found like-minded people here.

I've pretended to be someone else online. Really embarrassing when I was caught. I guess I was attracted to the power that came along with overwhelming beauty, but it's not your life no matter how bad u want it to be. I still feel guilt every time I think about it.

Same here..i pretended to be my OC(Original Character) telling people about her(OC) family backgrounds and stuffs for 4years..the pictures where mine but edited..there's this girl who found out about me and she told most of the friends i had on the fake account..which was really embarrassing cause she has been exploiting my REAL IDENTITY to her friends..oTL I think about it everynow and then since she just found out about me this recently.

i dont know what im doing and why im doing this but im like falling apart i have a boyfriend and he treats me right but i made another fb account thinking it was harmless it doesnt hurt to be someone your not i wastn even planning on like talking to all of the friends i added. then this guy this wonderfull guy starts talking to me and now im falling fo himr and im going insane. no to be honest i made it because i hate my life its boreing and i feel so ugly so gross even though im not (or so ppl say) i just wanted to pretend to be someone else to feel pretty for once but i dug myself a deep whole talking to this guy. i know i should do something about it but, im afraid that if he knows who i really am he wont like me anymore and i know for a fact that he will think im a freak and not only that i have a bf and i no longer want to be with him i want to be with the guy in my other life. im destroying myself and hurting others! what can i do!? i shouldve never done this. -_-'

I'm in the same situtation you are. I feel I want to tell him but I just know he will hate me..

I'm not here to judge ANY OF YOU , because I simply don't know you . But commenting with great intention , STOP PRETENDING TO BE SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT . Making up a fake person by a picture , etc , is NOT COOL . I am someone who fell in love , got played on for almost 2 YEARS and It hurt BAD to find out that this person isn't even real , made up by someone else who want to play with my emotions. It can really hurt someone just for the fact that you may fall IN LOVE with this ideal person from a picture , etc . It is not a good feeling . I thought this person was the whole package , everything a girl wanted from a man and now I'm left with a broken heart because I haven't met him and he isn't real . It isn't far , I cry about this every night . So my advice , TELL THEM THE TRUTH , I would hate to see someone get hurt like how I did . JUST TELL THE TRUTH GUYS . :( ... :)

I am in this same situation right now. I have lied to people about myself before but after they found out the truth they stuck around because they loved my personality. However, there is one person who has yet to find out... I don't know how to tell him. I want to understand why I do this and I want to stop :(

k word of advice on a way out... it can hurt them alittle though. but whats worse, lying and keep it going or have it just a shot lie and of course with caution depending the person.. so like you would of course the the person (its like a metal illness called "multi personality disorder" anyways im no doctor but if this person is capable to handle it, ill face you all with some options one can be hurtful to them and you being you will lose the person forever or get your way out, yes i know its not easy...<br />
Option 1: Kill yourself, have the real you say who you are and that your some how related to this person and she died... however you say she died, and she wanted you to tell them and that if they wanted to talk they can talk to you and you be friends with them now with saying that, im not sure if that will lead into building lies around that... depends location, and who again.. id personal suggest option 2.. so on to option 2... (kill youself as in being just try to not go on that profile again and ya i hope you know what i mean, dont kill the real you :) )<br />
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Option 2: slowly bug your way outta the lie (this would be the hardest to do but you will know it feels good after), first find out how the person would feel about you being someone else.. if your a boy pretending to be a girl like ive read in most these stories, ask "how would you feel if i was a guy" and see what they say.. most would think its like "O.O, and ask well are you?" your instinct WILL say just wondering or no... but then you say just wondering lol... then ask them what would you do if i was? how would you feel after? if i was would you still think different of me? and any other questions to make you decision if you wanna give your real personality out.. and finally ask if i was would you still like to be friends? if you chose to give out the real personality then say ok yes im a guy or girl and i was doing this and blah blah blah, would like to start over and get to know the real me? and maybe they will and ask 1001 questions to you and ask why you did it and what not. (how do i know this: personal experiences and well lots of thought)<br />
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last thing.. i do know and realize this is easier to type and think of then actually do... so take the time, work to it slowly, who knows maybe if the person is really good of it, and you both can look at the differences, you can have yourself a girlfriend or something, so hope this help and sorry about it being so long

Its called Skitzofantic and its a disorder that affects your personality. E.G : One moment your happy the next your sad, this is nearly the same thing

omggg this is what happend to me ive been doing it for five years i use a girls called hailey rae<br />
i know alot of people and i mite loose them i wana tell them who i am but i cant<br />
im going out with some1 online i love him like alot but i cant gah help!?

stop doing that!!!!!!!!! it really isnt nice. somebody is doing that to me, and its kind of ruining my life! you wouldnt want anyone to do that to you, so why do it to others??

Who says this isn't helping? People need to know that it hurts others. Just like sometimes babies don't understand that it hurts others when they bite and once they know they stop. Maybe it is help to show them the other side.

thats messed up<br />
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im going through the samething...<br />
i think some sort of advocate or support<br />
group needs to be formed for people that<br />
have this because if im going through the same<br />
thing that your going through and if so are many<br />
other people then its clearly a disorder,<br />
im 19 now and ive been doing it since i was 13.<br />
6 years, thats something isnt it..and it continues<br />
because you get caught and you lose your friends,<br />
family starts alienating you, trust me.... its bad.<br />
but yea message me your responses or just comment<br />
underneath me so that i can try to undersrand<br />
what to do...

i do this too..ive been caught three times but still cannot stop myself. the girl who's pictures i use now knows she has somebody using her pictures but doesn't know who. im scared she'll find out its me. i wanna stop but i don't know how. :|

I do the same thing...but i've never gotten caught..i used a girls picture from my school. i started talking to a guy online and i started to like him. now i have to keep pretending to be this girl and i can't tell him the truth