I'm A Female Pretending To Be A Man Online

That must feel awful, I know Heaven2.I had a crush on someone for years that ended up being a female, but she eventually told me later and honestly I'm fine with it. I met her on a game and she is still the same person to me. But then again i'm attracted to both genders so I see no difference.I even pretended to be a male online, (through a game) but i've never ever tried to be romantic with anyone. People would flirt with me and stuff, but i'm a bit of a douche and a smartass so I come off as a guy easily online. I usually play male characters too. Sometimes I wish I could be that person because I kind of envy males for their strength and power because I am an ectomorph body type female.. what more can I say ugh. But online in a game I can be this really strong guy and beat up people :D

I am on the other end of the spectrum. I was the one being catfished. I dated a guy online for two years and we fell deeply in love. And one day I stumbled upon some things that suggested he wasn't who he said he was. He was stilling photos from someone else. So when I further investigated, I decided to confront him about it. I asked him via AIM and he signed off without responding and deleted me from his profile and all his friends, so that means he must have been controlling these 'friends' profiles... It's been 4 years since he walked out of my life. I still have zero explanation of what happened and who I was really talking too. There's not a day that goes by where I don't wonder. All I want is some closure. So if you have ever lied about your identity to someone online whom you cared about. Go confess, it's more heart breaking for me that I will never know this person I was so in love with.

I have done this for years. Am I nuts?

...I have been doing the exact same thing for a very long time, it started when I was 14 or 15. I still do it, after so many years, it's as if I just couldn't stop. As some have said it's an "obsession" an obsession, which I just don't seem to be able to stop. It's starting to kill me... It just hurts so badly to have to pretend to be someone that I'm not... I just wish that I could talk to someone that either, is going through the same thing as I am or that did it some time ago & was able to get past it. It just hurts so much... :(

I started pretending when I was 19 & I'm 30 now. I confessed to my 1st online gf & felt just as long as I didn't havev anymore girlfriends I would be fine, Boy was I WRONG!!!! I am a big female & always enjoyed the attention but always had an excuses to why I couldn't be involved even making up that I got married, but this did not stop this one person. Behave been friends since she was 16 & she has been in full pursuit from day 1. I always hoped her having a bf & now being engaged would change things but she tells me all the time if I say the word she will give the ring bk. I let my guard down with her 2 yrs ago when my mom died & she was there. I encourage her to get married b/c I am married. I have tried several times to break up with her but she is unable 2 function & has threatened to hurt herself. I have thought of telling her but fear this will destroy her life so considered telling her me& wife want to grow & she needs to focus on her fiancee. She has always wanted to get married been engaged since January 2012 , but haven't madevany plans because she is not happy. I have wished so hard I could be the person she has fallen in love with & starting to hate myself daily for lying to her & making her fall in love with a horrible person like me. I do love her hence y I know I have to let her know. She is not bi & would never let her have to chose that path b/c that is not an easy road either. I feel if I tell her truth I will destoy her & if I break up with her she will never love her husband as she should b/c she will always wonder about us. I mean she is only getting married b/c I said I can't & she is banking on me to get divorce soon & she will leave her husband it's like she is my puppet & so crazy b/c she is so strong & nothing like this with & I try to encourage her not to be this way with me. I'm not sure what to do but I feel that I will end this soon, besides I can bare the fact of her being with her fiancee makes me soooooooo angry I won't even let her sleep with him yes that's my selfishness coming out. I'm such a horrible person @ times I try to imagine my life without her & I become so depressed but it's my fault so I have to suffer what is to come, I just pray God give me strength. Oh yeah I've been praying a lot this when I really started to want to change and I know He is the only one that can help me thru. This will be my 2nd & last no way I can put myself let alone someone else thru this.

i know how you feel. i do the same thing. it makes me feel so guilty and stressed out. i have been talking to this girl online, i never told her my gender but i think she thought i was a guy from the start, by the things she said. so when she asked if i was a guy i said yes. i haven't lied to her about myself. just that i'm a guy when in fact i'm a girl. i really like her and i flirt all the time. i think i'm confused, because i don't know weather i like girls or guys but i like the attention. i think i like them both but i'm not sure. i feel so bad. i get so angry at myself sometimes that i just cry but i cant tell anyone. i get depressed and sometimes i cant keep up with my normal life because i keep thinking about her. do you think i need help or something? i just don't know what to do. :(

Omg I'm the same exact way I thought I was the only one!!

i can relate to you all.i tried before justifying my actions but in the end it is still wrong . any one here wants to have a therapy group online?im just here i want to talk to you all ^^.

i feel the same way and i have done that too so hard to overcome but you really have to try to change the way you think and do things to be busy

This is crazy to see how many people are going through the same thing as me, it's not that we try to harm anyone it jut happens you start to believe our own lies and dot realize it intill it's to late for both you and the person your lying to. When you talk to them you take on the character and believe it. I want to stop but it's hard.

This happened to me and it was two years of my time gone! I recently found out the truth behind all this mess and was heartbroken and freaking pissed off! I was 19 years old when I started being friends with someone who lived a couple hours away from me. We would text and talk on the phone. We then decided to take it to the next level and start this long distance relationship. We would spend so much time on the phone...send pictures to each other but at the time neither one of us wanted to webcam. Things seemed shady when I kept trying to see this "guy" and he kept making excuses up. He would tell me things and I would then not question it. I was brainwashed and I don't know how I allowed that to happen! I opened up to this person...this person knew everything about me. Where I worked, where I go to school, where I lived, ect...and I also knew stuff about him as well. He then tells me about his family members...he said he is a triplet and has all these sisters. I'm like a triplet?? Wow what are the odds of that? So I would "talk " to these triplets and one of his sisters one the phone. The voices all sounded different except for the triplets of course. He would constantly send me pictures of himself and I caught him stealing pics from a guy I found on facebook. He apologized and told me he was sorry and that he don't know why he did it but he would then send me pics of the real him. I told him only if he made a video of himself and got a pic of where he has my name written down in the pic. He did it! He got a video saying my name and a picture of him with my name written down in a piece of paper. I forgave him like an idiot and we remained being together. I moved to where this guy was from because of college and he still "couldn't" see me because of our "schedules." I was like this is too much...it's been 2 years and it is excuse after excuse. With the help of my family member and investigating.....turns out this guy I fell deeply in love with was a woman who is 30 and has 3 kids and is married! I am 22 now and just found out about 2 months ago! Scary thing is...I met this woman's two kids and her nephew before! One day I was at work and two little kids came in and gave me cookies (those were her daughters). One time I met her nephew at the gas station where he gave me a present from his "uncle" which was from his aunt! I truly believe this woman's family knows what she does and accepts it! Before I knew my "boyfriend" was a woman....I would talk to his mom on the phone and would hear all his sisters in the background. I knew all of their facebooks...and I even went back to myspace and they all had accounts. I knew the sisters and mom was real because I met the nephew and he was in pics with the sisters and my "boyfriend's" mother! There was just no sign of my boyfriend ever in those pics. I once wrote my "boyfriend's" mom on facebook asking if my "boyfriend is ok" and my boyfriend called me saying not to tell his mom our business. That explains it because he is a ******* woman! This woman that was acting like my boyfriend was married and her husband must have known everything! My "boyfriend" would tell me he lived in a house with his sister, husband and 3 kids. In reality it was just the woman acting like him! We would get intimate on the phone! Therefore the husband must have known everything and that is sick! We would always be on the phone and you can hear the husband saying you are always on the phone! But in reality it was his wife on the phone with me! That whole family is messed up ! I told my "boyfriend" to leave me alone and not to ever call me again. SHe became psycho and started calling me non stop. I never confronted her and told her that I knew the truth because I am scared SHE would try and harm me because SHE does know where I live and where I work. She sounded like a man though...and she got me real good! Lesson learned: I will never date anyone online. Honestly, I am not ugly or anything...I would reject guys that tried talking to me because I was in love with this "man" Now I have to act like nothing ever happened and try to move on. I wish I can do something about it because I know she will continue to do this to other people! She must have been a scammer...because I always received gifts from this person! Now that I think of it...she must have been talking to guy while she was with me because how would she get a video of a guy talking saying my name and a picture with my name written on a paper? She must send this guy my pictures acting like me and he must send her pictures acting like himself! I don't know...It is just a scary thought!

My friends, I relate to this somewhat, although I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend online. That's wrong and needs to stop. However, I am transgender, and for a long time I was lying to myself.



It always started off as a relationship where I didn't disclose my gender. But then the question would always come up. I would put it off for a as long as possible, make a joke out of it. But finally it would come up. Every. Single. Time. I would tell myself no, this time I'm going to say what my birth gender is. I managed to do it only once, and it lead to the eventual demise of the friendship. So every time after that I would end up blurting the other, the gender I want to be. I would feel so much relief, and felt I could be myself.



Think about the characters you've made up, and then think about performing them in your real life. That's how I felt.



But then, slowly, my online persona would become a character in and of itself. I would do weird things to maintain it, although not much *taps noggin'* I'm not afraid to say I'm a bit savvy like that. I would feel utterly guilty and horrible, even though I wasn't romancing these people and they were my best friends. Are my best friends.



I would feel utterly terrible watching this person that would unfold out of me and realising I could never, ever be that.



But I never romanced them. Never. It would have been wrong of me.



A perona online is different than breaking someone's heart. I feel for you, honestly, I do, but this aspect needs to stop. I know you must feel so ashamed, and I'm here for you, I truly am.



But please, you need to go and find someone safe where you can get help.



If you have feelings of transgenderism also, I can help further. But the romancing needs to stop. It shouldn't have a place online anyway.



Just as you'd go to a doctor if your leg fell off, you do something with addictive behaviour. And your behaviour is addictive. And addictions, no matter what they are, are bad for you. And in this case, bad for whoever it is you're breaking. You need to do this. For yourself as much as the friends that love you. Go please. You'll feel so much better.

Yes, you do need help indeed. You ******* ****. A person like you ruined my life. It went on for years and I'm not too proud to say it but I was a child when we met. Get your **** together or it will eventually come back and bite you in the ***. It's not fair for these people to waste their time being fooled because of your ******* issues as a human being. Deal with them as yourself.

I can relate to everyone all too much. Someone please message me, I've /never/ spoken of this before to anyone whatsoever, and frankly it's 4am and sitting here and pouring my heart out tonight in the form of a story is not my intent. But I think I seriously need some help, this has been going on for too long.

Wow I really genuinely feels sorry for you in a way, because we all do things that we don't realize can get very intense. On the other hand I feel so bad for the people you have lied to, who have become attached to these fake personas you created. Yeah a part of me feels angry towards what you have done, but we all do bad things. The good news is you can make the choice to change it all. I hope that if you have not already that you find the strength to confess to the people you have impacted.

You all are sick human beings. I don't know how you sleep at night. The world would be a better place without your deceit and corruption. Stop justifying your actions and seek help. You can and never will be happy if you believe, in some messed up part of your mind, that this is forgivable. You're selfish and that's why you do this. Wake up. Stop robbing these people of their innocence. I want to believe in good people and you make it very, very hard.

ive done the same thingg like i realate to you 100% same age same everything

If anyone needs to talk, feel free to message me

I have done and been through the same thing. I fell in love with someone who didn't know the real me. I come clean to her sister today. What you girls have to understand is that it isn't just about YOURSELF. Honestly, coming out bisexual and coming out clean all in one weekend has made me so much happier, but you still feel the guilt and hate yourself for it. There is a light at the end of the tunnel though, you can do this, even if it means cutting all ties. Think of their feelings, if you love them, if you care about these people then STOP. It will be the best decision of your life.

Has anyone realized a pattern here? The internet is an illusion, it's not real life, so realize if your pretending to be a character, you're just bored and protecting yourself. Imagine all of the other people pretending to be characters to that you dont about. I think anyone that exposes their real self on the internet is dumb because no one really knows who's fake and who's real. I have ran into many fake profiles on the internet and I even flirted with a couple without knowing they we're fake. I think people shouldn't take the internet so seriously. Sometime when you pretend to be a character, you are not only helping yourself get through hard times but it might make it easier for you to get personal situations off your chest while you still remain anonymous, also in the process you might be helping someone else overcome something in their lives. You might even save someone from suicide by helping them w/ problems while you overcome you're need to be a different character.



Sometime when people pretend to be different ppl online, they dont realize what they are doing for a while because they think it's not serious but when you become aware it feel like your doing the worst thing in the world but seriously you are not. It's the internet, in all honesty no one really know who were talking to, if that person is being truth, what they person's background holds. I dont have internet romances and I never fell for anyone online but i think ppl who pretend to be someone else just have an expanded imagination. there are much worse things people do. The internet is full crazy, sick, broken, lying, cheating people that where masks, so tbh, dont trust anyone on the internet even your internet lovers. they are all liars if they say aren't.

Im in the same situation :/ last year i made a fake fb account of this guy from my school. I met a girl (denise)!and we hit it off but in january from this year the guy from my school msg on my real fb acc. And it was horrible :/ i lost few people but some stay friends with me. I deleted the account but after a month, Stupid me, made another guy fb acc -.- i made a guy acc from a friend who really doesnt know and I been with this girl for nearly 4 months. Im straight but I starting to like her. Heres worse, my 'ex gf' Denise found out Im fake by hacking the guy im being him. But she didnt know its me but i been thinking I could come clean. Im scared if i lose all my friends and gf on my new guy fb acc. :(

Wow! i honestly thought i was the only creeper in town to do this! mine was on the n.com and it started in 2007 and it was off and on until 2010. it started by me making my little brother an account and talking to girls for him but he never got on and one day i just pretended to be him and it just took off from there. i made two accounts one bboyfresh (khalil) who was a black boy/ break dancer and that one was EXTEMALY popular. he had a girlfriend for about 2 weeks but i just broke up with her and told her i didnt wanna be with anybody. i didnt want to hurt the poor girls feelings THANK GOD i didnt get to attached to her but i even had a best friend named chanelle i used to talk to her everyday. but in the mist of everything i felt terrible so i would leave the site, come back two moths later,..then leave again. finally i felt so horrible about it i confessed to everyone and she got PISSED cause she really trusted me. but i moved on.





THEN.

i got bored cause my fake life was gone and i still didnt have any friends or relationships so i got a new character called caliboy101 (derek) who was a white kid/ surfer. lonely and depressed and bored i didnt know what else to do. and ALL of these girls loved me because i was the perfect guy! that got boring so i quit.



I had a few fake girl profiles as well. (its weird that people were MORE suspicious of these rather than the boy ones) there was brook, a hot blonde/cheerleader and there was jennifer milestone a crazy rocker chick who i actually wrote her life into a story.



i quit everything after a while because i was in the 11th grade, i had a boyfriend, and i had made friends for the first time in my life! i stopped all the fakeness for about 2 years...i went off to college and had tons to do! boyfriends friends etc.



but recently my boyfriend broke up with me...its summer and im lonely heartbroken and bored so i decided to dive back into the fake profiles. IT DIDNT WORK THIS TIME. i dont think i have the patience to do it anymore because people dont like my "characters" and when i try to get a boyfriend/girlfriend people say im moving too fast. and that they dont even know me that well.



SO ALL IN ALL, YOU ARE DOING THIS BECAUSE YOU ARE LONELY..and i dont think its right AT ALL. even though you meet these people online THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE. and its not right to lie to them! learn how to be alone or get a hobby, a job OR join a club. get a REAL LIFE. because being able to touch and talk to people that u like IS SO MUCH MORE FUN then typing at a computer screen.

Well... I have fourteen, I'm in the exactly same situation as you... And sometimes, some of my characters, that's what I call them, get really deep in with other people, and when I pretend to be them, I feel everything they feel. That now has the name of roleplaying. x) And so... when I see that I'm getting obsessive, I cut bonds with everyone, telling them the truth. And I let the character disappear. And then it is just me... and the bond I had with them is gone.... But it's good to know that I'm not the only one in this situation :D

Im sorry i realise this is a support group.. i just hate watching my friend believe something that i discovered on my own is a huge messed up LIE

This is what you call pathetic people..

YOU GUYS ARE ****** !!! YOUR PUTTING MY FRIEND THROUGH SO MUCH ******* BULLSHIT.

Wow, well this is a shock. I am a male who pretends to be a female online. It started my when i was in highschool. At first i thought it might mean i was bixsexual but i noticed i didn't love any men but i did love women. I eventually figured out that it was the fact that i wanted to be a sexy woman that drew me to this lifestyle. It first just started out as me play female characters in video games, than it escalated to me lying to people that i was actually female. I didn't care if what they thought of a male gamer playing female characters, but the attention i got for being a female was enjoyable.



Its hard to explain. All my life i have always been (and forced to be) an independent person. I always thought merit should only matter, always thought that strength was the most important thing. Even now i still do. And yet the lfiestyle of a pretty girl born in a good family with nothing to worry about but flirting and such attracts me so. And i have no idea why? Women will probably hate me for this but there is something enjoyable about not being expected to always take up responsiblity. Leaving it to other people hands. Even being looked at as a highly desired sex object is fun. Having people pay attention to you, be overly kind and friendly, it's extremely enjoyable.



I am not naive, i know the above thigns are wrong and not every womens life is like that. But i want that life some reason at this moment. Almost everyday i talk to people in online games or chat rooms, using a voice changer to pretend to be a woman. Of course the voice changer isn't perfect but it gets the job done. However i feel like my life is falling apart. That i am split between 2 people. I already know that this can't end well....and yet i am still compelled to do it. Never in my entire life have i been so addicted to a behavior.



The worst part is always hiding the fact. Its really what is eating me up. I have to hide it from my roommates, have to hide it to the people im tricking online who i actually care about. However i cant hide it from myself, why do i want something so bad that i can never have.

Haha I hope you all are a community that picks up each other and you're all being fake as **** to make yourselves feel better ... using other fake people with fake opinions. Get a gym membership and start to feel better about yourselves. I hope you get to feel some real highs while being yourselves.

Okay, I had no idea this was even real... Until it happened to me. I fell in love with a person over online. Yeah usually I don't trust people on the internet but I have had a long distance relationship with someone before that for 3 year and it was good. Anyway I completely trusted this person and everything sending me pictures of the guy I have always dreamed of and on the plus side they said everything right. Also this person made me think the reason they didn't want to go on web cam was because 'I needed to really trust them and believe that they were truthful'... I talked on the phone with this person for hours, even slept on the phone. Bought this person things and shared very personal things with them. The stupid mistake this person made, I would still be with them if I hadn't figured this out, I found one of the ex's he had on facebook. I contacted her and she finally told me the truth about him. Finding out he was a girl and not a guy was a heart stopper. I cried for how much I was going to miss talking to this person, for feeling so stupid for sharing so much with that person, for being LIED too, and I even felt bad for all the other girls that girl was messing with and the ex girlfriend dated that person she thought was a guy for 4 years before me! How could someone be so evil in making such cleaver lies? Is it THAT BAD to be yourself? You know how much you can mess up the people around you or hurt them so badly? .... In the end after I confronted my 'boyfriend' they never said one word to me. But their friend did which I was guessing was her brother just a whole messed up family who lied to me. He said that I was just entertainment and they laughed at everything I have ever said to my 'boyfriend', calling me stupid and ugly and many other mean things that are hurtful and so embarrassing to me. Meaning please do not, DO NOT do that to anyone. It's okay to have friends but love and emotions come at a whole different level. Love is something that you should NOT be messing around with seriously, maybe the people doing it should have a taste of their own medicine then see how they like finding that kind of thing out. ): Lying gets you no where in life. And being yourself no matter how bad it gets their is people way worse off. Ever heard of YOLO--- You Only Live ONCE.

Hey I shared my story a year ago. I am still pretending to be a boy online. If anyone wants to talk more about it please inbox me! I'd like to share with others and hear from other girls who do the same thing.