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I Realize The Way I Feel Mostly Depends On My Perceptions

It's True!

By: fuglygirlonthebench
Written on August 30th, 2011
Well, obviously...Everyone perceive things differently and it's up to them to feel any way they want. No one can control other people's feelings. Your feelings are truly yours, they're private and really,really personal. And if you don't like to share, no one ought to say anything or feel anything about your feelings because it's truly yours, and yours alone.

Talking about perceptions: Well, for one, I don't think suicide is wrong.( Which many people disagree and probably think I am crazy, but I stand strong to it regardless of beliefs, faith and whatever other people say or think of me)

Suicide is sad definitely. I don't think suicide is right but I don't think it's wrong either. I feel everyone has the right to chose when to die and how to die given that God didn't take their life away yet...The minute you are born, breathing and living you have the right to chose how you wanna live it so why do we criticise those who make a decision to end their life? We call them cowards, but who do we think we are? People who suicide have more courage than anyone else. You know why? You think it's easy to die? You think it's fun jumping off the bridge or roof, you think it's cool and slitting your throat and wrist? It's not! And taking your life is a decision you can make only one and then, there's no regrets, there's no remorse, there's no thinking what if.So those who suicide have the courage and strength to make a decision in their crappy life, they know they have the responsibility to whatever they have done. They are strong enough to end their troubles rather than living in the world and wasting their time away smoking pot, drinking alcohol....Those are the cowards, who are too afraid to either live or die,who dare not make a decision to ease their own pains.

Don't misunderstand, I am not encouraging suicide,I just think that all of us should pity those who take their own life. Imagine, what they're going through to finally come to that situation? Who are we to call them cowards. Given that we're in their shoes, we may have died long ago. They must've been suffering all their lives. So stop calling them cowards and useless...To come to this decision of killing themselves, their life must be hell. I pity them and my heart bleed for them. Rest In Peace
By: fuglygirlonthebench
Age: 18-21 , Female
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13 responses
  • diewasseratte
    diewasseratte

    My views on suicide come from a short story I read when I was very young. In "Paul's Case", the young suicidal man leaps in front of an on coming train. As he passes the point of no return, all the "could have beens" that will never happen now flash through his mind. Then he dies. It stuck with me. When one makes that decision, there's no turning back. Life's circumstances usually improve, and life gets better if you wait. When you stop life, you never have the chance to live it.

    Oct 3, 2011
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  • SKELETOR138
    SKELETOR138

    I want so much to say you are wrong but it seems so well put. I must say though that it seems like a waste. Why did they die? Pain - I understand - horrific things that were done to you - I must protest. In this world are others who've been harmed just as bad and worse. Help them - maybe it will change you. I would like anyone thinking to try everything before giving up everything. If it does not change though - the drudge- the same as yesterday- I must respect the well put way you said it.

    Sep 29, 2011
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  • XxLoneFoxxX
    XxLoneFoxxX

    Finally, somebody who speaks the truth about suicide. I agree with you, there decision is there decision. Thank you for those wise words. ^_^

    Sep 3, 2011
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  • Ibix22
    Ibix22

    I think suicide is tragic but I want to look at two common attitudes to it - one cold, the other more philosophical and life-oriented.



    The first says, as you mentioned, that suicide is the cowards way out. They can't cope with the problems in their life so they put a gun to their head and escape. To others it may have seemed they had work and marital problems for example or maybe they lost a spouse or a child or whatever but these people would say that they should have toughened up and dealt with them or the other argument that many people have similar problems and they don't end their live, they deal with them.



    But that's looking at the victim from the outside.No one knows how bad and hopeless they may have felt inside. Because their perception of life had become so distorted, dark and negative they could see a way out or a point to continuing so they killed themselves. That's my second point other people say that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is final and maybe with time a solution could have been found but this is where dark perception comes in.The victim sees no light, no solutions, no therapies - it's all black and hopeless.



    That's why it's important we all stay someway positive and see life as a good thing overall and that even during the bad times there is always the next bend in the road.

    Sep 1, 2011
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    • fuglygirlonthebench
      fuglygirlonthebench

      Exactly, how do we know how a person feels before he leap for his life? Why do we need to point fingers and make accusations? Problems although the same may be of different degrees to different people. It is easy for us to say, u have to deal with whatever problems in life, you just can't chicken out. But I have felt this darkness, this sadness that the world has nothing else to offer you and breathing seemed like a curse, something you would rather give someone else. And during that sad and pathetic period, i wouldn't blame anyone for ending their life when they think they've no reason to live anymore.When a person is suffocating, suffering,struggling.....how can you be heartless and scream at him and ask him to toughen up and stop acting all helpless?

      Sep 1, 2011
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  • coloco
    coloco

    Good statement, in some degree I agree, but, I also see why we stigmatize the act. I have seen where people get into a group think, one gets divorced, a bunch get divorced. was there marriages really that bad? Probably not, but the complaints and the reasons are universal, they fit us all in any relationship to some degree, most of the time we deal with the differences and move on. I think suicide may be something like that, it can get caught up in a group think. Unlike divorce, you can't suicide and move on. I think we need the stigma.

    Aug 31, 2011
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  • AngelicLights
    AngelicLights

    Hmm.. Interesting. About suicide, my perception is this: You are not responsible to 'keep someone alive'. You can TRY to give them words of strength, hope, faith, just BE there for them (not showing that 'you are feeling sorry for them' because that doesn't help them), hold their hand, tell them it's because they worry too much that they think that there'd be no hope.



    A friend of mine has tried to kill herself last year, and she's a really close friend. Her sister found her right on time and she got saved (thank heavens!). She now realizes that what made her do what she did, was worries for no reason.



    Sometimes people just need more self confidence, and need to stand up for themselves, and not take everything personal. There are ******** all over in this world who can make someones' life really miserable, but it's really also perceptions that decide how you FEEL about everything that happens.



    Isn't it strange, yet awesome, how people can experience the same thing differently because of their perceptions?



    That's why we DO must feel responsible to try to give suicidals positive vibrations. Yet, we are not responsible to keep them alive. If someone doesn't want to live anymore, we can't do much about it except TRY to show them there are still good things in their life, and that they shouldn't focuss so much on the bad sides. Negativity will bring them down, and when someone feels reaaally bad, they're too blind to see the good things in their life. We can only try to show them those good things. That's really all we can do.

    Aug 31, 2011
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    • fuglygirlonthebench
      fuglygirlonthebench

      "Negativity will bring them down, and when someone feels reaaally bad, they're too blind to see the good things in their life."

      What you said above is really true. It's really sad that some people had come to that point where they feel nothing is in store for them anymore and start questioning themselves
      " What else is there to life?" So, I think everyone of us should try make this world a better place. I've known a lot of judgemental people and I do hope they try their best to accept themselves and others. Life may seem horrible but life is beautiful at the same time, it's just dissapointing that not many have the oppurtunity to see the good side of life. Life is clouded by jealousy,greed,hatred and that's enough to make you live a bored and unfullfilling life.

      Aug 31, 2011
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