Will I Always Be This Way?

I feel like... I'm going to be alone forever. I'm 19, life is fine, I'm not struggling... I just feel alone. I've never had a relationship, nor have I even ever had female friends. Every time I try to even speak to a female that I find attractive, I have no idea what to say, and fear denial, or that she won't like me. I feel like I'm destined to be alone, to go through life, with no one to share it with. I have no family left, I recently moved several states away from them, for issues which I don't feel comfortable going into. I'm stuck, alone, and afraid that I'll always be. I just don't know what to do anymore about ever even talking to a female. I don't have much self confidence, and I don't find myself very attractive. I don't know what to do now, should I simply just always carry on alone? I've tried to talk to females in the past, and I feel like I just do something supremely awkward, and they end up feeling awkward. I've never even had my first kiss or anything like it, never really had any female friends in general I suppose. I need some advice, can anyone relate, or if they were in a similar situation, what did you do to fix this? What do I do from here, simply carry on life alone?
OneWord1042 OneWord1042
2 Responses Jan 17, 2013

And for the awkwardness, a defense mechanism helps. I crack jokes. You could just say, "awkward - LOL". The main thing is to redirect both of you somewhere else. Ask if she wants something to drink. Change the subject. That has always been a huge stressor for me, and I can only say you'll get better with time. Just don't dwell on it. Because as soon as that moment passes it's gone forever because both of you feel awkward.

I was the same way. You have to put yourself into low pressure situations. Join clubs that will put you in situations that let you get to know them naturally. Dancing (many kinds-Scottish, waltz, etc.) , the SCA, church groups, karate, karaoke, yoga... The list is endless. Join a couple of different clubs you might be interested in and just take your time and have fun. The girl who smiles at you is probably doing that for a reason. Smile back. And remind yourself... Most single people are looking for the same thing.