Friends,how Many Of Us Have Them? One We Can Depend On.

I feel as if no one wants to be my friend, the friends I had when I was in high school don't talk to me much,I try to talk to them or even ask to hang out when I am not working..but no one seems to want to even give me the time of day...I'm lonely, my best friend/love of my life left me for another guy...before that I could talk to her about anything...she was there for me when no one else was....I miss her so much it feels unbearable. She was my best friend,my love,my light,my everything... I just want that again, I'm a loner, no one to talk to, I spend my free time playing video games or staring at my ceiling hoping I can find that same relationship I had with her...highly doubtful since I'm antisocial and rarely go anywhere due to my insecurities and lack of transportation/money for going out....I just need a person who will be there for me and won't abandon me like everyone else and return I will do the that too much to ask for?
jk1290 jk1290
22-25, M
1 Response Jan 14, 2013

You and I seem to have a similar story.
It took me 2 years to get over her. I really did love her. Even now, though she has blocked me from facebook, gmail everything. I go to great lengths to just see her profile once in a few months. I am not stalking her or anything, I just need to know that she is alright.

Since I only ever did talk to her openly, I had no one to turn to when she left me. No one whom I could talk to about what went wrong.

I kept wishing I could have her back. I really didn't think I would be able to be with anyone else again.

But you do move on, it takes time, but you do move on. I know that right now everything else seems useless, but you gotta put some effort in doing something else.

At that time, I worked. I spent 12 hours working, then 2-3 more hours at the office and then when I went home, I was so tired, I fell asleep before I could think about anything else. I kept myself so busy at work, I didn't have time to think about anything else.

You gotta find something like that for yourself too.

I hope you are back on your feet soon.

Keep in touch.

I try to keep myself busy at work,but I'm a commission salesman working at a slow store,so I have a lot of down time even at work, it's extremely difficult especially since she started texting me after a month of not speaking, she tells me she misses my company but at the same time tells me she still really likes this other guy, I dont know what to do.

Block her. It wont be good for either of you to stay in touch and talk about the past, at-least not now.

My ex did a similar thing, she later blocked me completely (though I still like to think the other guy forced her to do it :P ).
Everytime she texted me, it gave me hope that there was a possibility of something happening, but nothing happened except that I kept getting hurt.

If she does want to get back with you, she will come and meet you. She is trying to feel less guilty about what happened by telling you that she misses you.
If she really misses you, she'll do something more than just text.

She wants to meet up but I told her idk if I can handle seeing her,she talks to the only friend.I have and she told him she misses,my voice,my.supportive approach to everything she does, I want to meet her but I will just damage me.more

If she really wants to meet you, and I guess you want to meet her too, go ahead. But don't go expecting her to come back to you.
Its your call. Meeting her, might make you feel better. Might help you move on.

I dont expect her to come back, I know she likes this other guy too much to come back. It kills to think that way, like I should have some hope in it, but I know that'll just bring me down even more if I hope for something that won't come.

Go meet her. Might help you get back up.

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