Okay so this might be long, apologies in advanced ...

I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, officially. We've been in each other's lives for longer. My problem is, I want a baby so bad, and I don't think he really wants anymore kids at all.

I do not have any children, i am 22, and he has one son, my boyfriend is 28. When we first began talking I asked him if he wanted anymore kids, and his answer was no. I was on the verge of leaving him, and we talked about it again, and he instead told me, "I do want kids, I just thought you didn't, so I said I didn't". However, for the last year, I'm convinced he only changed his answer, not his mind.

When I talk about baby stuff with him, he's really 50/50, sometimes he doesn't want to hear it at all, others he joins in the conversation and really seems interested.

My problem is though, I want a baby so so so so bad. I really want to raise a child and have a family. I mean, his "baby mama" is really mean, and gives him a hard time, but at the end of the day, it's not my fault he had a baby with her, and he shouldn't punish me by not having anymore kids, because SHES a witch.

Last year, I was told I have precancerous HPV, so potentially I could get cervical cancer. Then, I won't be able to have kids at all. I feel like my time is so limited, like it's now or never. My ex and I, we're pretty close and I don't know how it came up, but he told me he would have a baby with me. Now I would NEVER actually do that, I mean we are together for a reason, so I wouldn't have a child with someone I'm not with, but not going to lie, sometimes the thought it nice.

I want a for sure plan, and answer from my boyfriend (basically fiancée because we know we want to marry in 2017 and the ring is picked out and blah blah blah all that) but I can tell how annoyed he gets when I bring up "the baby topic"

Another thing I struggle with, his he had a baby with his ex so willingly, on purpose after literally like 4 months and I feel like I have to BEG just to even him to look at names. What's so great about her and not me? I know I'll be a great mom. I know I can provide, I work full time, I make decent money.

At this point, I don't even care about being married first, I just want to have a child before it's too late.

What should I do? Any advice? Is this normal? Thanks in advanced.
jlflyers jlflyers
22-25, F
4 Responses Aug 28, 2014

your an incredibly beautiful lady who any man would be very happy to make babies with you!

I think you know what you have to do if you want a child this man obviously doesn't want any more children and is playing you trying to keep you on a string to keep from loosing you!

I wouldn't talk about it anymore. He knows what you want. So when your ovulating ask him if he wants to try. See what he says then.

This answer seems the right way.

Do what your heart tells you,