Why Does My Husband Yell At Me Alone? Is It A Power Trip?God only knows how many times I have tried to please this man to no avail... I can never succeed -- no matter how hard I try there is always something to scream or yell about. It took me long enough to figure out that I don't deserve this. Can you please tell me if there is any reason why a person should yell at another, especially a husband to his wife? Isn't he supposed to love me and treat me with respect and love and show how much he cares? There are things that I do (or don't do) that are really not that serious to me yet it seems to mean a world of difference to my husband.
I am a 43 year old woman who has a husband with a temper problem, and although he doesn't physically abuse me, I have to admit, verbally he does. We have been married for 7 years this coming spring, yet we have really only lived together this past year for about 8 months altogether throughout the 7 years, because things keep happening that just tear us apart. These past four months have been both good and bad. But this morning I just felt like screaming, crying and I really am getting tired of this life of confusion and ups and downs... !!! I got home and started hyperventilating. Today is the second day of school for my daughter and she missed the bus because I overslept. I have my husband's car at home so I decide like any mother who has a car at home to not rush her since it's my fault and take her to school which is approx. 1 mile away. When he called I told him I overslept, he starts yelling at me because according to him I'm home doing nothing, I shouldn't be oversleeping, why am I wasting gas. He says she shouldn't be missing the bus. Then he came home (he's a driver and was passing by the house) and inspected the garbage cans -- the garbage was supposed to go out today and to make matters worst, i had forgotten to put out the garbage last week, but in the four months that I have lived here, I had never forgotten to put out the garbage. It's not something that happens. I think I'm just getting tired of pleasing him because it doesn't matter what I do, he always finds something I didn't do to yell at me about. Do you think these are reasons to yell and have an argument with your wife about???
We are both Christians and so I tolerate because I don't believe in divorce. I keep insisting that we need to go to a Christian Marriage Retreat because we've already tried counseling. He needs to learn how to communicate things to me without yelling. Will anything help? Can this be outgrown? I can't be any more tolerant than I have been. There is many more other things I don't agree with that I have had to swallow my pride for, but I cannot do this anymore. I'm suffocating. I just want out. I can't take it anymore.
Marilyng413 41-45, F 0 Aug 16, 2011