I have been married since August of last year. The man I married is a good guy. He is loving and provides for the family. I have one son and so does he. However he has trust issues and very needy. I like having my own space and doing things on my own. He feels the need to have to do everything together. Before I met him, I was a single parent and was used to doing everything on my own. I feel like he is suffocating me. His son was physically abused by his stepfather. His ex is a manipulative ***** and gives him a hard. His son was in our custody for a while, I had to step up and take care of him. He is younger than my son, after everything I realized that I was not ready to be a wife and a step mother. I constantly cry almost every night because I no longer want to be married. I told him that I know longer want to be married and he just tells me I am selfish. I don't know what to do anymore.
lori04 lori04
31-35, F
4 Responses Jan 19, 2016

I was in a similar situation. It was like he really didn't want to let me have my own life. There were so many things I didn't get to do because he didn't want to, or he would drag himself along with me and whine about it the whole time. He is a good man in so many ways so it was kind of hard to let go. I'm extremely independent, and after being together for 5 years and married for only 7 months I decided that we should go our seperate ways. I don't know if I'll ever get married again.

I'm sorry to hear that, I'm in a similar boat. Marriage to me does not mean losing your identity. I value my independence and think we should just be there for each other, not suffocate each other. Maybe that's why I shouldn't be married I guess.

follow your feeling have it annulled

Wow that sucks. I don't know your details but if you're that miserable, why stay?

Every women that he has been with has cheated on him. He is always checking what I am doing. He seems happy and so do the children, but I am not. He won't even let me get my own bank account. I feel like I lost my independence. I feel lie this marriage is more like an obligation. I do what ever needs to me done because I have to not because I want to. I know that he is not the one.

You know there are two sides of every story, I hear yours. Based on what you've said it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. I don't know if he knows what a healthy relationship is. Obviously he has issues with trust and a marriage without trust isn't a good marriage. Seek counseling or take action and do what's best for you. You have one life and it's short, make it worth your while.