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He Ran Off With My Virginity

I was emailing this guy back and forth, shared lengthy messages. However, due to some unfit schedule or just bad timing, we didn't meet. And both of us just stopped talking to each other.

A year later, he somehow managed to spot me out of a large crowd even though my pictures were vague in the original dating website. Soon enough, we texted back and forth, as if 2 close friends reuniting for the first time in years. We went out on a date or 2 each week. He was incredibly affectionate and i let my guard down without knowing it.

During the course of the 6 weeks we were together, he asked if we could be official during the 2nd week of dating. After that, made an attempt whenever the opportunity around once a week. He tried several times but couldn't get inside of me. And took the next 4 weeks to finally break through the hymen.

And 2 days after that, he stopped contacting me completely. He used to contact me everyday in some way via text/email/call. Now i just feel as if i was just another victim in an assembly line.

What he didn't know was, that he was my first relationship as well. I had manage to guard my virginity for such a long time, and took a chance at love and it just hit me in the face with a ton of bricks. I've been crying everyday so far this week.
Virginity Virginity 26-30 5 Responses May 12, 2011

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That is horrible and I imagine hard on the ego as well as I know opening up to a person is scary and you put a lot of yourself into doing so. Although from what you said about this guy, maybe it was better he took off.. who needs someone around who doesn't show care towards you as this person would have only caused you further pain. I lost my virginity to someone I thought I was in love with at the time. I mean I thought he was "THE ONE" my "SOUL~MATE" and all of that, he told me all the words I wanted to hear and even though his actions were always horrible and showed he didn't really think much of me.. these perfect words strung me along through out my teenage years almost 7 yrs.! I honestly thought that I didn't deserve better and no one else could ever love me.. I never imagined people could be so cruel.. not like the ways I experienced. It didn't exactly fit in my dream of happiness so I continued to delude myself but the truth always revealed itself and continued to make me miserable. I didn't think I wanted to live without this guy to add to it all and after being hurt by his actions in every way imaginable..going through every depressing emotion and started to think life was a horrible thing.. enough was enough! I finally realized I had to let him go if I ever wanted to be happy and that the pain only continues if you allow it to be the focus of your life.. but really it's just a bad experience. So always respect yourself no matter what other people do..we can't control the actions of others but we can create better memories for ourselves. These kind of relationships can damage your ability to receive love which is why I think in a way even though this lesson might seem hard I think you were lucky in that at least it ended there. The guy has issues of his own..be happy they aren't now yours. Never put yourself out for anyone else.. let them at least meet you half way. Love is rare for a reason in that 2 people love each other unconditionally. Either way you have you and that's all you need to be completed everything else is just a bonus or something to learn from. Doesn't matter the age..experience creates growth, unfortunately that includes a lot of negative experiences. Please don't let this guy make you into a victim..you are only a victim if you chose to be. Let yourself feel everything you need to feel..get it out but don't let it stop you from enjoying life or making the decision to let love in once you are ready.

i forward my sympathies

Sorry, Hope the next person you get with loves you. What that person did to you was thoughtless and wrong.

I'm really sorry your first guy was such a jerk. I lost my virginity to a married man and I regretted it back then. I was 19 when this happened, I'm now 26 and don't care about it anymore. You can't change the past, so try to forget about it, what is done is done and time will heal your wounds.

I'm really sorry your first guy was such a jerk. I lost my virginity to a married man and I regretted it back then. I was 19 when this happened, I'm now 26 and don't care about it anymore. You can't change the past, so try to forget about it, what is done is done and time will heal your wounds.