Mistake

True enough. I know how you feel.

Hi I'm Mezniquee Mattis & I'm so sorry what happen to you. There is still time to gain back power within it all. I'm the host of vir?gin sex 101 after dark on blog talk raido & you can catch up with me at bvippresentsdotcom.com check them out you always have a safe home there.

Dont worry if you are preggers i had a baby when i was 14! and my best friend (the Father) was wonderful



i'm sure you will find mr right some day!

thank you so much for ur advice and i appreciate tht u had the courage to write all this so publicly!!! im really proud of you!!

Many people confuse sex with love and marriage. They are NOT to be equated. Sex is a physical act, ultimately to get the female pregnant. You don't have be be in love or married to have sex or get pregnant. It's not a bad thing. It is what it is. Good sex doesn't necessarily make for a good marriage and visa-versa. The pressure to "keep your virginity until marriage" puts an unnecessary amount of guilt into the situation. Be a virgin when your married is a personal choice, but does NOT guarantee a long and happy life together. That's impossible to predict.

We should be teaching young adults about the responsibility and COST of having children and a family. Kids aren't easy, and they are NOT cheap!!! Teaching kids to "wait until marriage" is a complete disservice to them and essentially says "We don't want to teach you how to manage or afford a family, because we don't know ourselves."

your right dear :)

I had a pregnancy scare at 15. You can message me if you want. I am like a wise old woman towards my friends because of all the pain I've went through due to a stupid boy I shouldve gotten rid of.

Unfortunately, since losing one's virginity is a decision usually made by young people, it is often not the best possible decision. It takes a certain amount of experience in life to know how important these things are and how to put aside attraction when acting on it would not be in one's best interest.



(One thing you learn as you get older is that if you are the least bit attracted to someone--especially if liquor is involved--and you have decided that having sex with that person would not really be a good idea, even if it is a good fantasy....do not be alone with that person. Don't put yourself in a situation in which sex could easily occur; when two sexually attracted people are alone together, the default situation is sexual intercourse. That's just the way human being are designed--we don't have a mating season).



So do not be hard on yourself about this. Your mistake is a very common one. I believe that many people, and perhaps most women, regret the decision to have sex with their first lover. Give it some time and you will regain some of your sense of innocence if not all of it. Take care. This was a youthful mistake, but not a major one, most likely.

thanx dear for th advice

thanx dear for th advice

omg im goin through the same thing bhut thank god i waz negative:]

I understand you i was my girl 3rd sexual experience ... we now live together, got a house and have a kid but sometimes i shed a tear at night while were just both naerly falin asleep , like fuuu if she could of waited for me.. the other 2 guys didnt even took her serious .. i cant speak for the rest of the fellas on this but.. but i think a guys virginity is marriage ... some guys can do it 2,3 4, times ( marriage/divorce) but real fellas know we only want to get married once and we rather keep the number of guys the chosen girl we plan on being with down and i give you girls the answer for free its 5 please if ur a ***** lie to us never say u been with more guys then one hand can hold up ..... its just a guy code peace

If u wanna know whether the guy cares for u, tell him to wait for marriage, no guy wanting just sex will take u to the altar when he doesn't love you.

so were ya preggers??

I lost mine to someone who didn't care about me...but yo know what, forget him...what's done is done..and first time sex hurts and it's gross...well at least that's how if felt for me...

the first time you have sex with someone that matters should be the only first time worth putting in your book.

im sorry to hear you are in one hell of a situation

Do not worry about it too much...look ahead ..one day you will meet someone special and it will be like first time again...

Yea, sorry you have to go through this. Hopefully things will get better for you soon. When things look bad...expect the worst and hope for the best.

Damn. That's a ****** situation to be in :O But to be honest, the day I lose my virginity is probably the day I start believing in God again LOL