I Came To Regret It

I was 20 when I kissed a girl for the first time. I was so shy and had no idea what I was getting into. She was my first everything (kiss, girlfriend, lover, etc). I ended up marrying her, which was a huge mistake. I had nothing to compare our relationship to, and she pushed me around all the time, emotionally and physically and I didn't realize it was wrong. It felt bad, but I thought it was normal.

And it all started with that kiss. I thought I was growing up, but it ended up becoming a 10 year detour in my life.

76starships 76starships
41-45, M
2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

My story is similar, though I did not marry the first woman I *kissed*, but I *did* marry the first woman I ******! My first kiss was probably around the age of 16, but I lost my virginity when I was 18 and a freshman in college, and I never wanted to stop ******* again, lol! I married her, had some good sex for quite a few years, but aside from the sex, the relationship was not a healthy one for me. For me, the detour was closer to 30 years... OUCH! But now I am finally free, and truly enjoying life for the first time of my adult life! And like AeroBubbles says, it's NOT really a detour, it's not "wasted time"... it's a part of what makes us who we are today. I know that I *am* a much stronger person now for all I've been through, and the three "chapters" I spent with my wife were NOT all bad... there was a LOT of good that came from it, not the least of which were two wonderful children, now both adults.

You mustn't regret it. It wasn't a detour it was simply a chapter of your life. Ten years is not your whole life i hope to live until i'm 100 which gives me ten long chapters to fill or twenty short ones. I can bet you became a stronger person out of your experience. which will help you form a better stronger more fulfilling relationship in the future. without the journey you cant reach the destination so never regret just learn from it.