But Here's The ThingIn spite of my relative physical unattractiveness, in spite of the times I have hurt him, in spite of my many stupid mistakes -- in spite of all those and more, he treats me like a queen -- better, in that it is evident that he is thrilled when he can perform some task for me. It wows me to see true commitment in action.
But here's the thing:
It doesn't make me feel queenly. It makes me feel valuable, thereby helping me to be of value.
He has taught me that a relationship is an opportunity of the highest degree -- that it is perhaps the best chance we can get to be of genuine service -- that by making a solemn oath to stand by a person, and to love and honor that person -- and then by honoring that oath with integrity, no matter what mistakes are in the past, one is building value and honor and love, valuable commodities for the world.
He helped me understand and appreciate the power and beauty and worth to be found in commitment.