Nanny And Husbandneed your advice please. I have 2 beautiful twin girls, who is 1 year old now, and a wonderful husband. He works in his own business and I am a full time student studying–neither of us are home often or together because of our busy schedules. I got married at 17 and divorced by 18. That guy was cheating on me and when I confronted him, he was so angry and became so abusive. I don’t want this to happen again with my new marriage because we are so happy together. Here is why I wrote because some thing similar is happening to me. My husband and me hired a nanny from the Philippians who has become a very good friend to me–she looks after our little girls and lives with us.
But at different times my husband flirts with her sometimes i pretend I don't see. When they are together in the ba
She talked to me it when i asked her if she was OK, and she said it does not bother her that he touches her and all like that begged me to stay because she needed the money and supports her family with it too, they are old and need her help so I let her stay. I promised her I would not send her back. She is so afraid of going back, her parents could send her to a worse part of their city where she may have to sell herself to help support her family. With us she gets her own room, my old car, a good salary, and 2 days off a week. We have become the best of friends since she moved in. She said she would please us and do anything for us. She is very sweet. I do feel weird about it.
I don’t want to lose him and want him to be happy too, she is just a young girl and he may just have a weakness for girls like her. It seems harmless–she is a virgin. I am afraid to confront him. You see my mother told me that she had to put up with my father for our sake and because she valued her family more than sex.
My mother told me that if the girl is a virgin, and she is, I should not worry about STDs or anything else. I should just be a good wife like she was and leave him alone otherwise this husband will leave me too. Mom says he is a good man who comes from a good family, he supports me, i only have a high school degree with some modeling experience.
What if I just let him alone? Allah commanded us girls to submit to our husbands. My mom said the prophet had many wives and slave girls for sex. His wives needed to accept that, and she did with my father and i should too.
I dont know what to do. I just want us to be happy. Please advise,
What harm would it do to keep ignoring it?
I am dependent on him for my support and for my girls too.
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jjordan2011 22-25 9 Responses 0 Jan 12, 2011