My First Swinger Experience

It was several years ago (about 10 or so) and I worked retail.  I had been checking different sites I belonged to and wondering if the couples and singles you read on them actually were real and actually met people.  Well, I got my chance to find out.  There was this absolutely LOVELY couple that used to frequent a bookstore north of Baltimore (I think the name started with a 'B' for the life of me I can't remember). Anyway, the couple posted that they would be in a certain tv room on a certain day at a certain time.  All of those things happened to fit my schedule at that time so I made plans to attend.  I drove to the bookstore, paid to get into the tv room area, went to the room and walked in.  The room was dark but I was able to make out the different shapes in the shadows.  I also listened to any sounds that sounded like a woman in ecstacy.  I found the room and followed the sounds of a female.  There were several guys standing around her and to me she seemed to want someone to 'interact' with her so I kinda pushed the guys aside and jumped to my knees and obliged her.  She tasted so sweet and untouched (I must have been the first one...they had only just started thank goodness!).  I ate the  best I could for as quick as I could, the whole time watching her reaction to my tongue.  She became weak-kneed and needed to sit down.  We took a break and chatted a bit.  I soon met her husband and we got real close.



I had other fun the rest of that afternoon and stayed in touch with the couple for sometime afterwards.  They were my first couple of many afterwards.  It was because of them that I got known by other couples who operated in that area.  They were well known and they got me well known.  I thank them for the fun and experience.

mcjackin mcjackin
46-50, M
5 Responses Mar 8, 2010

Thanks for your response and I now remember the name of the place I got my start. It is called Bush River!! Anyway, I'd love to get back into it but that won't happen for awhile. Until then, I'll continue to listen to those of you who have gotten in and are still in. I'll have my fun (kinda) vicariously through all of you.

Well, since the secret is out, I don't mind others using it to their advantage. Of course with this lifestyle the more the merrier is oh so true!! You're right, the groups and clubs are everywhere but you do have to know someone who knows someone. Once you're in, you'll see that its actually a very small community of folks and as you stated, you never know who you'll see at a party.<br />
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If I was able to get back in, I know for a fact I wouldn't see any of my old friends in the lifestyle. They knew I was into it and surprisingly never gave me any problems about it. They did their thing and I did mine (I miss my friends like that).<br />
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I found your story about the family who 'found' themselves at the same party interesting. The daughter and her parents is taboo (literally) but in the context of the lifestyle where each person shouldn't be of the judging type, I don't think its all that bad if they were to have done anything with each other, but that's just my take on it. As long as all are concenting adults its fine and legal. I will leave it at that because like I said, everyone has their own limit.<br />
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I would have loved to have been in as a couple but I wasn't that fortunate but when I was in I did have fun. I admit, I felt cheated when I had to step away. I miss it and wish I could get back in to 'finish what I started'. One can only dream, right??

Humorously stated. Well, the secret's out now! I can only add one other way, other than a chance meeting or answering ads. Groups in most medium and all large cities hold swingers' socials frequently. An internet search will find one near almost anyone. These are usually held in hotel ballrooms, charge a fee, and allow couples and singles to mingle. (No sex at these mixers, just socializing.) And there's almost always house parties held by some of the attendees at their homes following the socials. <br />
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We met two friends by surprise and a married neighboring couple; and, once, a high school girlfriend of my wife who we hadn't known had married and moved to the same town where we then lived. <br />
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We have heard a story about a brother and sister and their spouses unexpectedly meeting at the socials, but I don't know whether that's really true or not. We are sure that a similar story is correct though, because at least three couples said they knew these people: At one swingers' social at a local hotel, parents were surprised to run into their daughter and her husband of six years who were first time visitors and curious to know about the lifestyle. The parents, of course, didn''t have sex with the daughter (perhaps with the son-in-law, but we don't know the families), but both couples are now happy swingers and reportedly attend some of the same parties, including at the parents' home.<br />
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Many more couples swap spouses for occasional nights than non-swingers have ever considered.or probably would believe.

Exactly right. Its a network. You basically have to know somebody who knows somebody just to get in then keep your nose clean (unless its buried in someone's groin) to stay in. You're building trust every step of the way. My advice to guys starting out. Don't be afraid to start at the bottom. There's nothing wrong with the bottom, and there's a lot of fun being had at the bottom, believe me. Unless you've got it going on (HUGE ****, HUGE tongue, look like Adonis, etc.) the bottom is where you'll be. Be humble and you'll be rewarded.<br />
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Now that the secret is out, I hope others use it to their advantage.

You just let out a little known secret about swinging. Most non-swingers don't understand how swingers get to know so many others with their interests. The fact, as you revealed here, is that they introduce you to others and invite new couples and singles to parties where many others are. It's a network.