When I first met my husband he was in decent shape. I was genuinely attracted to him, although he never attracted other beautiful females. Perhaps my gaze is just incredibly lenient. I try hard to take care of myself, look decent ever day, and stay in shape. I have never weighed over 117 pounds. He on the other hand has gained over 100 pounds in the past 14 months and I am no longer attracted to him in any way... including sexually. I'm afraid to tell him this because he does the whole guilt/manipulation thing where he says "you're hurting my feelings" and acts like a wounded puppy. He is jobless, extremely overweight, lazy, and depressed. I feel as if I have to be the man in the house and do ALL of the work. I have to pull his teeth to get him to go anywhere and have to be in tears for him to help me with basic work around the house. He gets angry at me for not wanting to have sex with him. It's difficult having sex with a 200+ pound man when I only weigh 110 pounds myself. I don't want him to think that his new look is okay, but I don't want to destroy his esteem. I have talked to him about it for months. He says he will get better, but never does. All he does is sit in front of the tv, play video games, and eat. He has no real reason to be depressed. If either of us should be overweight, it should be me. I have had far more hardships than he has over the past few years, including the fact that he cheated on me over 10 times before we got married. Another reason I don't want to have sex with him is because I feel like I am with a child. I clean for him, tell him to check the mail, remind him to take showers, monitor his tv time, and babysit him during all of his angry outbursts. He is disgusting and I hate it so much! I feel miserable and I don't want any intimate contact with him. When I pushes for it and throws tantrums I'll do what he wants just to shut him up... it never lasts for long. Basically I'm with a fat, lazy, depressed, raging, childish husband. I am only 20 and we've only been married a few months... What to do??? Please help!