Constant Fighting-he Say's I'm to Blame
Oh my..things have not been good lately. I know the first year of marriage is supposed to be hard, but this is taking it to a whole new level. My husband and I met and dated for a year before tying the knot. When we were dating he was nice, and respectful and we always found things to do that made us jointly happy. He was also good with my son. We argued on occasion, but nothing too terrible. He always complained about something, usually my family (my family has issues, but that's a whole other story). He is younger than me so I figured a lot of the petty things we argued about he would "grow out of". Then the ring got put on my finger! We bought a new house together and I quit work so I could go to school full time. Now that I'm under the mercy of my husband and without any income, he's changed. He comes home griping and complaining all the time. He tells friends that I don't ever cook or clean the house, we do enjoy going out to eat, but I do cook..and I TRY to keep the house clean, but the minute he walks through the door his crap gets thrown all over the place. If I tell him, or even ask him to put it away he usually doesn't. I ask him questions just to talk or to get info I need, and he ignores me..or doesn't answer. When I ask again or ask why he didn't answer, his reply is usually that he did I just didn't hear him! BS!! He's mean to me and my son now, and when he picks fights he always blames me for them! ALWAYS! His step father was verbally abusive and I think he's picked up this bad habit..and it's not one I want my son picking up! This is my second marriage, and I don't want it to end, but it looks as if we're on a train headed off the tracks and I don't know what to do! I'm stressed all the time. After we fight he immediately mocks me..Aww did I hurt your feelings, poor Baby..and then wants sex..I DON'T!!! When I'm mad I don't want him near me..Then he gets more mad that I won't have sex with him..Now I don't if it's the new birth control I'm on or if it's his behavior, but I almost never want sex any more..I can't even climax! I'm sick of fighting, I'm sick of feeling unloved, and hurt, I'm frustrated, and I just don't know what to do...I don't have a job, I don't have income, I don't have anywhere to go..my family is not a safe haven..and it seems I've turned to shopping as a "cure" which is horrible since I don't need to spend money..I need a therapist, which I can't afford! I just don't know what to do..he would pick a fight with me if he knew I posted this..he probably wouldn't talk to me for a week..Maybe that would be good, at least we wouldn't be screaming at each other.