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Resent Isn't the Word

My husband has lied to me about smoking pot. He let my little brother who is 14 smoke pot and lied to me about it. Our marriage is ending and I'm heartbroken, but at the same time I wish the divorce was already over, I hate him. But I can't help but love the man who I've been with for 5 years and who gave me a beautiful son. I need to get over him quick or I'm going to go crazy and into depression. I don't want to be depressed, but I think I'm getting there. He's ruining my life.
dreamofme dreamofme 21-25, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2007

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I've been divorced before and all I can tell you is that it's very hard in the beginning. Being married is also like developing a bad habit, you're so use to this person (all their goods and all their bads) that you actually crave them when they are gone. <br />
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The only thing that will change this is (time,) like time breaks a bad habit. If you spend enough time not doing your bad habit everyday in between gets easier until eventually the bad habit is gone. <br />
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Divorce is an ugly thing, and I regret getting into a marriage that I wasn't ready for that ended in divorce. I had a child out of that divorce, she is 11 years old now and she is fine. <br />
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Some people were just brought up in that type of culture. They see nothing really wrong with smoking. Being common place for them they don't get it.I didn't.<br />
They don't see all of the detrimental things that it brings into their life and the lives of those around them.<br />
They don't understand that they are really checked out at times when they should be applying themselves.Even to the smallest most insignificant (or seemingly insignificant) things.<br />
I had to learn the hard way several years ago. I quit though. I didn't think it was a big thing. Even though my habit was very mild. I could go days without any and when I smoked it was like only like lighting one throughout the entire day and I'm not talking about a big blunt.Cigarette size.But I know now that even that was bad.Not necessarily because it's against the law but because it kept me from being at my best.

Some people were just brought up in that type of culture. They see nothing really wrong with smoking. Being common place for them they don't get it.I didn't.<br />
They don't see all of the detrimental things that it brings into their life and the lives of those around them.<br />
They don't understand that they are really checked out at times when they should be applying themselves.Even to the smallest most insignificant (or seemingly insignificant) things.<br />
I had to learn the hard way several years ago. I quit though. I didn't think it was a big thing. Even though my habit was very mild. I could go days without any and when I smoked it was like only like lighting one throughout the entire day and I'm not talking about a big blunt.Cigarette size.But I know now that even that was bad.Not necessarily because it's against the law but because it kept me from being at my best.

I see what you mean, sort of resentment but not exactly, Yep, I get it. But yes, make a clean break of it and move on. I've known many people in situations almost exactly like yous, and it is that wisdom of the early, quick break that helps them make a GREAT choice of man the next time and happy ever after. Yep, you'll do it too. Your common sense shines out through your pain:)