Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device


the person who goes to the most trouble to appear upright, honest, intelligent and full of integrity ~ a real gem ~ is none of those things!

I've known many people in my life who hold no degree, wear second-hand clothing, drive lemons, speak poorly, and live in shacks. And they are the most honest, kind, considerate, interesting, and dependable souls you could ever meet.

And just as beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, INTEGRITY has nothing to do with one's trappings and projected images.
girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 10 Responses Apr 26, 2011

Your Response



Thanks for reading and commenting, 2L&L. ;)

Good for you, Soleil! Let yourself shine. It will take practice to feel comfortable, but you will do it more and more and it will come more easily as you see the power you have to BE who you are and CARE about what really matters to YOU. When you are confident and relaxed, others take notice and back down. Ever notice the judgmental attackers hate it when people like themselves and pick on quiet people because they are so paranoid about their non-verbalized thoughts and opinions? You figure out, in time, that people are cool or they are fearful or they are hateful. And then you learn who is worth dealing with at all! Greatest future wishes to you! You go, girl!

I want to be a women who is characterized as having strength and integrity. I have been very passive most of my life, afraid of what others might think if I stand out. I need to spend some time figuring out what will lead me in this direction.

I want to be a women who is characterized as having strength and integrity. I have been very passive most of my life, afraid of what others might think if I stand out. I need to spend some time figuring out what will lead me in this direction.

Well, spiked, you are already poised with arrow drawn; most people would not admit what you just did. That takes self-awareness and courage, and a humble commitment to change.

Profound observation.<br />
<br />
People who invest in the PERCEPTION of being honest to others vs people who sincerely invest in livng honest.<br />
<br />
I am part of the former aiming to become part of the latter

Totally agree. I was a spec.ed. teacher before I had my boys and later being "on the other side of the table" made me an even better teacher and wiser, more empathic person in general. <br />
<br />
Living a very different kind of life gives you the gift of altered hopes, dreams and expectations - which conveniently seem to align with all that is truly divine.

Religious or not, I am certain that our sons are exactly the way God intended for them to be. It is not what we chose for them, but it has made us better people than we otherwise would have been.

Wow, Oscar, thank you so much for sharing. This is the most heartfelt and real it gets in life and I experience the same feelings about my sons. They are nineteen and twenty-three but more like eighteen months and four years. I have often said I want to be like them. There is no dwelling on the past or worry of the future; not a mean bone or negative thought inside them; the simplest things make them the happiest; just love and the basics and music and nature and movement - they have brought indescribable joy and inspiration to everyone who knows them, and those that see them as burdens are missing out... on a lot. Much of the most fabulous magic in life is unseen and misunderstood; miracles surround us every day but we use primitive measures of intelligence and worth! Through my sons i've met the most amazing people and no value can be put on them or the things my guys have taught me. They have a very rare condition and my oldest is the oldest in the world with it, most die at birth or by six. I am thankful for each day with my sweet angels. I know you know what I'm talking about and I appreciate that so much!!

Very well expressed. I am a questionable character: well groomed, well spoken, quick to toss off a quote from Mark Twain, Winston Churchill, Cervantes, or Shakespeare about truth and a good name. I drive a nice vehicle and live in a tidy, attractive house. I am a man not to be trusted. I do not have half the character of my 13-year-old son. <br />
<br />
He was born with a rare genetic disorder of the circulatory system that affected his brain development in the fetal stage, and there are some visible signs of this, mild anomalies. He doesn't look ordinary, and has an unusual way of speaking, even walking. What he is is gentle, honest, caring and trusting to the core of his being. He has never lied or stolen, and he has a sense of right and wrong that is nothing short of angelic. He will never have a college degree, but what he has is more valuable. I just hope that his trusting nature does not encourage others to take advantage of him after I am gone. I hope he gets to meet and know people like you, girlcapitol, in this world.