Big Girls You Are BeautifulI am big girl and damn proud. It took me a few years to get to this point and all because drumroll please....my family made me self conscious. I have actually never had strangers or even people I knew at school bully me for it. If someone did say something it was "through the grapevine" because people were too afraid to confront me. The biggest offender in my family? My mother who made it a daily habit (and STILL does) of telling me I was pretty "but if you lost some weight" routine (also as a kid she told me once I took my clothes off guys would hate what they saw). The funny part is my mother was almost 400 pounds telling me this and although she lost weight is still pretty big and unfortunately highly self conscious of herself which to this day has hindered her from fully living life and finding herself beautiful. My family bullied me about it for so long that I believed nobody would want me but in my believing that people really did stay away from me. Not because of my weight but because I made my weight a big deal. Yes I know there are plenty of arguments about how I must be unhealthy yada yada yada. But what I am saying is big girls are just as beautiful as anyone deemed skinny. And trust me not all skinny girls are healthy. Here is what a lot of people who are big and have self esteem issues do not understand, you will be pretty whether you lose weight or gain it. Also if you physically look like a model but on the inside you are Satan reincarnated well sorry but your ugly and people will stop caring how flawless your skin is. I am big and sexy...why because I believe in myself and I love myself! Once I got over what my family and the media expected me to look like I started looking in the mirror and loving what I saw. Once I gained the confidence men started flocking. I know what I want, I go after it and I don't apologize everytime I get naked because dammit I am a loving and beautiful person, why should I? If you don't like it keep it moving. I love my curves and have found freedom in being me.
P.S. big girls stop being offended by the word fat, I know people have made it into a negative reference but if you are fat then you just are. Seriously get over it...you're fat, who cares? It is the same as someone saying they have brown eyes.