My Therapist Judges Me

Let me ask this. If a therapist is making a judgment about a client, and the client ask them what that judgment is, should the therapist say?

hmm idk what to say then....and i cant say something that might be wrong so i better stop here..sending u hugs*

At the moment, it's a moot issue, I think. I'm not depressed and so I'm prepared to believe the things she says because I agree with them. I'm also not doing anything reprehensible at the moment. In fact, I'm using my reprehensible behavior as motivation to be a better husband and father.



I think the problem is mostly me and being depressed. I don't trust anyone who says anything nice about me when I'm depressed. I think they are just trying to manipulate me into a better mood. When I'm depressed, I know how sucky and worthless and etc, etc, I am. I know that is a lie, too, but it has nothing to do with reality and everything to do with what is running around in my mind -- thought-wise and chemical-wise.



And then there's the thought that I like feeling like I suck. I think it takes a certain form of hopelessness before I will finally feel any sympathy for myself. I suppose some would see it as self-pity, but **** 'em if they can't take a joke!

Me too

have u told ur psychologist that?i mean really really told her?there were/are times i thought mine judged me too but thats cause i deal with thoughts like - what is he thinking about me ? oh im sure now she ll think im fat too or say im too thin etc i think about how everyone can think about me because i judge myself so i think everyone else judge me too (does it make sense to u) .. i think though my psychologist know what shes doing and i need to trust her..

If you can't trust your psychologist, then what's the point? I spent a lot of time trying to figure out if I could trust her. I was especially skeptical when she said nice things about me. I trust her more when she disapproves. I don't mind if she disapproves. What I do mind is if she says she doesn't when she does.



But, what can you do? They need to support you, so they can't disapprove too much, especially if you're the kind of person who takes that disapproval and magnifies to the point where it's enough to make it worth killing yourself. I don't miss those days one bit!

yes it could be that, or other things as well. Don't let that "could be" get in the way though. She might say she doesn't judge you in a sense that she does not judge you "negatively". Although she is probably judging you with difference. Difference can look negative, but it really isn't.

It's just that she says she doesn't judge me. She only wants to make sure I see the consequences of my behavior. Still, the way she reacts makes me feel she doesn't approve, although it could be that she is just very worried that I'll hurt myself.

what if your therapist was emotionless, standstill, a robot of attention? would you ever feel like they were listening? Probably not.



At the very least, your therapist reacts "from listening" which is good. Whether the reaction is what you perceive it to be, is the mystery. I would let time unravel, but I see where it is hard to not see things like that. When ever I notice something once, I usually will notice it over and over. It's hard to prevent it. But whether what you notice is bad or not is another question.