I See My Boyfriend Only On Weekends
I find it really sad and depressing that I'm even on this site, sharing my story with others that share the same heartache.
I'm 36, single mom of 2 kids. My boyfriend is 35 and we have been together now for 1 year as of January 27th. When we first met, dating was great. We live 40 minutes from each other which, to me, isn't much. I know a lot of people who drive an hour to work and back every day. But he's a high school PE teacher and a softball and wrestling coach. owns his own home, and has a dog too. At first the relationship was amazing, we only saw each other on weekends, but when we did, we had missed each other so much that our time together was so special and we were crazy about each other. We both play sports, he plays softball a lot in the summer and I play softball and volleyball. I tried to attend as many of his softball games and tournaments that I could this summer, almost all of them. He never showed up to any of mine, not one. Then in September he texted me and told me that him and his other teacher were going to take the day off and go down to Illinois (2 hrs away) to watch a fellow soccer student of theirs play soccer at her college. I thought, really? You'll take a whole day off work to do THAT but you never once made an effort to come watch me play any sports? It was this instance that I started feeing abandoned, alone, unwanted, unimportant, not special, and I was defintely very hurt. not only had he never come to watch any of my games, he never came to watch any of my kids games either...even when he had the time and wasn't busy. I asked him why. His response was 'I have no excuse'. And that was it. I kind of let it go, pretending it didn't hurt me, brushing it off like it would go away. But it festered. Over the course of the year- seeing him once a week- ususally only on Saturday until Sunday, was getting to me. There was a point in time where I asked him if he thought seeing each other only once a week could ever allow the relationship to grow. he responded with 'why can't it?' So, we carried on with once a week. Sometimes it was only for a dinner date once a week if he had to coach his wrestling team on that particular weekend. My problem with this whole thing is this...he says he loves me all the time. he says he misses me all the time. he has said he wants a future with me. On our year anniversary I brought up the harbored feelings that have been stuck away eating me alive. I told him I hated being a weekend girlfriend, I hated only seeing him once a week, and I hated that we never did anything with my kids. I told him that people that love each other MAKE TIME for each other and that once a week would never be enough to become closer, to make the relationship move forward. He said that he was unhappy with his job, where his life was at, coaching. As if that was even justifiable for an excuse. Once a week just isn't enough is it?
I'm 36, single mom of 2 kids. My boyfriend is 35 and we have been together now for 1 year as of January 27th. When we first met, dating was great. We live 40 minutes from each other which, to me, isn't much. I know a lot of people who drive an hour to work and back every day. But he's a high school PE teacher and a softball and wrestling coach. owns his own home, and has a dog too. At first the relationship was amazing, we only saw each other on weekends, but when we did, we had missed each other so much that our time together was so special and we were crazy about each other. We both play sports, he plays softball a lot in the summer and I play softball and volleyball. I tried to attend as many of his softball games and tournaments that I could this summer, almost all of them. He never showed up to any of mine, not one. Then in September he texted me and told me that him and his other teacher were going to take the day off and go down to Illinois (2 hrs away) to watch a fellow soccer student of theirs play soccer at her college. I thought, really? You'll take a whole day off work to do THAT but you never once made an effort to come watch me play any sports? It was this instance that I started feeing abandoned, alone, unwanted, unimportant, not special, and I was defintely very hurt. not only had he never come to watch any of my games, he never came to watch any of my kids games either...even when he had the time and wasn't busy. I asked him why. His response was 'I have no excuse'. And that was it. I kind of let it go, pretending it didn't hurt me, brushing it off like it would go away. But it festered. Over the course of the year- seeing him once a week- ususally only on Saturday until Sunday, was getting to me. There was a point in time where I asked him if he thought seeing each other only once a week could ever allow the relationship to grow. he responded with 'why can't it?' So, we carried on with once a week. Sometimes it was only for a dinner date once a week if he had to coach his wrestling team on that particular weekend. My problem with this whole thing is this...he says he loves me all the time. he says he misses me all the time. he has said he wants a future with me. On our year anniversary I brought up the harbored feelings that have been stuck away eating me alive. I told him I hated being a weekend girlfriend, I hated only seeing him once a week, and I hated that we never did anything with my kids. I told him that people that love each other MAKE TIME for each other and that once a week would never be enough to become closer, to make the relationship move forward. He said that he was unhappy with his job, where his life was at, coaching. As if that was even justifiable for an excuse. Once a week just isn't enough is it?
By:
jrogers888
Age:
36-40
,
Female
