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I have a daughter who graduated at the top of her high school class. She was a hard worker and self motivated. She was accepted at a private college, and given a great scholarship package that covered about 80% of her college expenses. She did fine her first semester, but then she totally crashed and burned her second semester.

Over the summer, she was hardly ever home. I found out that she started taking meth. She lost her job and has become totally unreliable. She doesn't follow through on even the simplest things. It's hard to see her high school classmates going to college, or working at their jobs. I just want to cry at the waste.

I feel so ashamed of her, but I can't say that out loud to anyone. I just keep my chin up and try to encourage her.
Taylorvos Taylorvos
4 Responses Jan 13, 2011

Don't be sad, God has destined each human to what is best for him/her. You may think that if your daughter got her degree she would have had a better job or life but that's not true! there is no guarantee. I, for example, rushed my university education and finished my degree in 3 years rather than 4, hoping to get a job earlier than anyone else; The irony is that among all my fellows who graduated a semster or a year after me, I'm the one who suffered 2 years to get a low-paid job!<br />
Give your daughter true love and support and tell her that you love her no matter what she is! this is what will bring her back to you...

That's sad. Drugs ruin lives i'll attest to that. With my experiences being an addict i've found that people come around when they want to. it's got to get really bad for you to realize what you're doing. Until then it just doesn't matter. You don't think about anyone but yourself when you're in active addiction. It's all about the next hit because your so afraid of what happens when you don't get it. It's hard to be powerless but you can't help her right now. She has to want your help and when/if she does, be there. thats all you can do. Hope i don't sound like a know it all. but that's how it was for me and every other addict i know.

The pain of our children is worst than any other.<br />
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Although it has been several months since your post, I pray that your daughter is safe - and that she has found her way; and that you have been blessed with the strength and the courage to remain hopeful for her.<br />
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God bless you both.

you assume she would have had a better life finishing college, promicing career- don't there are so many out there today with educations who end up flipping burgers working retail or living on welfare just to survive because its not good enough to have a degree you have to have one in a "viable feild" <br />
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an oximoron that no longer exists but educators youth mentors and ignorant adults still sell it as if it does