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I Sit And Cry

Sometimes when i'm alone I sit for hours and just cry...I think about the years I have wasted and will never have back about the love I could have had and the loves I have lost..
Life can be cruel no matter how hard you try..
I see couples walking hand in hand with so much love for each other and wonder just where I went wrong..I long for that special someone to want me and love me for who I am....
I have so much in my heart to offer and it breaks to easy..So I sit and cry...
One day I pray....
vickieprince vickieprince 51-55, F 102 Responses Sep 11, 2012

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Can I cry with you?

I don't ever want you to cry...Be happy okay

I want to, I really do, be happy I mean. You be happy as well

That day is getting closer and lets hope you find happiness

*Hugs* I wish for you bright blessings and a new surprising love that is real and precious.

I was stunned as I read your story as that is exactly like I have felt for years. Men feel things as strongly as women do, but we are not free to express those emotions like women can. I think that is one reason men don't have as long a life expectancy as women. I also have allot of love to give and no one to give it to. I don't understand why God would give me all these emotions and no special one to give them to. I have helped allot of people both children and adults and just never was able to connect with the one special person, except a long time ago and I was too immature to realize that this beautiful, special girl who loved me would be the one I let get away. She was 11 and I was 12 when we met in church and both she and I and our families became very close. Not asking her to marry me was the biggest mistake I ever made. I can truly say I understand your pain. There are some cruel responses here, but don't let them get you down. Some people need to understand that everyone of us is unique and that not all people are able to handle things the same way. You sound like a keeper. Don't give up my friend. God Bless, John, Fresno, CA.

I'm sorry. I remember feeling this way, but haven't for a long time. Now, I just enjoy being my own person and having my own space. I don't know what changed.....maybe menopause.

I find I don't cry about being lonely anymore. I have not tried to date anyone for a few years and I am ok with it. In fact , I have kind of liked being alone. I have many projects and things to keep me busy. Sometimes on a weekend night if I have nothing to do, I start thinking about the past and my mistakes etc, but I think this does no good at all, I cannot change the past. I see couples at the store and I think yes would be nice to be with someone who appreciates and loves me for me with all my great attributes and my flaws too. It is hard to find genuine people especially genuine men in southern california. I have dated dozens, so I just give up for now because most if them are shallow, self centered pigs who at 60 think they deserve a 30 yr old. So I am happy to be alone with no one telling me how to look, think or act. If love finds me again so be it, if it doesn't , then fine . By the way with meet up.com, there is no excuse to be lonely. There is a group for every little and big aspect of anyone's life . If you don't find a group you can start one!

there are times when i just sit and cry too and i have done this recently and i am still hurting, it takes time to heal when you have been broken inside. Life and people can be soo cruel, but keep your chin up and your get though it.

love and hugs to you too....

Hugs* I am feeling the same way too:')

I'm so sorry you are feeling this pain...I know this will pass for the both of us soon....Hugs

Yes I hope so too :(

hope you feel better soon

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I Will ease your sadness So sleepy now , I'll love you when I wake know I care. closing eyes. Don

Many people here do not know about the loneliness you are exposed to. For myself I think I am often lonely, and I think I can understand you. A fate or not, it is a kind of a tendency to being lonely. As you mention “all those happy couples”, this tells me your loneliness may have a sexual basis with its reason in some event of that kind in the past. If someone was unhappy in love, strongly in love and deeply emotionally involved, but rejected, it may leave a strong psychological impact, a sense of abandonment and inferiority, with seriously undermined self-esteem, causing passivisation, becoming introvert and lonely with strong feelings of helplessness and self-condemnation for inability to live as a couple and social exclusion. Pas event may be like a strong blow or burn making you oversensitive and leaving you with signs of disability. Someone who cries is like a crying baby, and by crying you likely achieve similar effects as a crying child – by crying, hard feelings are chased away and attention may be attracted. Also it is a form of self-activation. I'm with you in my thoughts. Please know that you're not the only one who have situation to cry and who actually do cry alone at home like you. Crying may well be an element of indulging in destiny, self-confession of failure to provide for yourself, it can bring nothing, but it may be the way to solution. I sympathize with you.

Hi V,

Don't cry. Every day brings new hope. A new beginning. It doesn't matter how old you are...You are alive. Live!

When you are crying what you are doing is living in your thoughts but those thoughts are not what is real. They are thoughts and the exist no where but in your mind. You are allow you mind to control your emotions. Your mind lives only in the past or in the future. It cannot exist in the here and now.

Be here NOW. Look at what you have! I see the photo of your son. He is ALIVE! That is something. Go outside look at the trees. Look at all the beauty that surrounds you. It is everywhere, if you look for it. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change. Stop thinking about what might have been. It wasn't supposed to be. What is supposed to be is what is.

Stop looking for love out there somewhere and realize you will never find it OUT THERE! You'll never find love any another person or thing. Love is inside of YOU! YOU are love. Love yourself. When you love you, what you will find is that love isn't missing in your life. When you love yourself, love will be attracted you you. You will be amazed how life can change when you decide to make it so. You are creating your own personal reality in every minute of everyday.

Wishing you inner peace, love and happiness (it is already yours you just have to claim it),
Ken

While you sit and cry and think of all the time you've wasted; are you adding more to those wasted years? By the hour, or by the minute, or even the second; they will be gone and no way to get them back. Who knows; that you sit and cry, that you are lonely?
Yes life; can be cruel, it can also end too soon, no-one knows when, or how many days one will dwell on this earth. So; why sit and cry, and wast more time.
Yes; sit and pray, then get up and VOLUNTEER. The rewards are great, you'll no longer be alone, and you may find that special someone that you could not have found by siting alone and crying.

i'm NOT depressed.and i DO feel worthy.felling worthy has nothing to do with it.i see people who are "worthy" every day (like katey perry) & NO ONE CARES.many people of both sexes are just surface images.THEY LOOK GREAT BUT THERE'S NOTHING ELSE TO THEM.people like britney spears who had to pay her exhusband 7 MILLION DOLLARS to pretend to be in love with her.& britney spears played stupid pretending she didn't know he was just after the money BECAUSE SHE GOT A LOT OF PUBLICITY FOR THAT TRASHY SITUATION.

Week of course if you look for celebrity examples of love you're gonna find shallow. That's the sheer definition of Hollywood etc. those who are happy with themselves don't need to seek publicity for attention. Observe the smallest affections between ppl especially older couples and ask if they're Just surface images

I understand how you feel. Some people responded were very harsh. Those people don't understand a sensitive heart that is afraid to even dare take a chance in giving or care because you don't feel worthy. I understand you completely. What has helped me though is volunteering but I still struggle how worthy I am at that, I am taking small steps to build my confidence and I try so hard to stay away from feedback like some of given below. You are at the bottom, start w/meditations, try building your strength by going to starbucks or any small place by yourself and be still, only talk to someone if you feel confident to. What most people don't understand about the depressed is that their hearts are so broken they think it's easy to just get up and go help someone else. It's not easy but you will get strong, I promise you that you will get strong. Take it slow.

If you have love to give, give it! Volunteer at a church, a hospital or a hospice. A homeless shelter, a soup kitchen, a preschool, or a center for immigrants. Anywhere that there are people that are suffering. There are so many people that need the love that you have to give desperately. When you give that love that is overflowing from your heart, you will realize why you have been given that gift. We have been given the gift of love so that we can give it away. You are suffering because your love is not going anywhere. Please, please let it go where it's needed. I guarantee that you will get it back a hundredfold and you will stop suffering.

WHY SIT AND WAIT, YOU GOTTA GIVE LOVE TO GET IT, THERE ARE A LOT OF UNFORTUNATE PEOPLE OUT THERE WAITING FOR SOMEONE LIKE YOU, THE CHILDREN, THE ORPHANS, THE ELDERLY, THE BLIND, THE WEAK, THE BATTERED WIVES, THE SICK, THE CANCER PATIENTS, GO TO THEM, REMEMBER FLORENCE NIGHTINGALE, MOTHER THRESSA, THEY NEVER WAITED, PUT YOUR YEARS TO GOOD USE. THE WORLD NEEDS YOU

Now I have been alone for 17 years and I used to have hope but nont so much now. My friend used to say " I promise you will find love before you are 30. Now I am in my 40's! The thing I grieve most about is ( well 2 things actually) is that I realize that whilst I have loved, I have never had someone love me and I would have loved to experience that feeling. Secondly the time waisted. I gave up a wonderful life to be with my Husband and then he ruined my life and I cry most for what I could have done in all these years since. I can't get the time back- too late now.

You are a fifty carets gold lady with a diamond heart . I think , true love is to love yourself and the loved you gave . By that , you have lost nothing . Cruel only stays in a song , Don't be cruel by late Elvis . Just think millions of gentlemen in the world who love woman with a diamond heart . I am one of them .

You are a fifty carets gold lady with a diamond heart . I think , true love is to love yourself and the loved you gave . By that , you have lost nothing . Cruel only stays in a song , Don't be cruel by late Elvis . Just think millions of gentlemen in the world who love woman with a diamond heart . I am one of them .

It is better to have loved and lost, then to have never have loved at all. I never understood this saying until it happened to me. So in love with someone and he broke it off. Sure it hurt in the beginning but gradually I got over it. Being in Love is wonderful, a beautiful feeling. First love yourself and that should show on the outside and will attract others to you. Always know that you are loveable and deserve the best, then it will show to others even if you dont realize this.

There is another kind of love which is not dependant on the other.It is call Gift love or Being love and it in all of us.But we have to grow in that love which knows no misery.It goes unaddress to whosoever.You have to blossom in that love and thereafter you are enough onto yourself.You become the love and you start showering like raincloud.

I sit and cry thinking about it

those "couples walking hand in hand" do NOT love oneanother! he's just too cheap to pay a prostitute(& he treats HER like one). those girls walking "hand in hand "with those sleazebags HAVE TO GIVE BLOW JOBS TO PAY THAT RENT.THAT AINT LOVE.THAT'S PROSTITUTION.& THAT'S SICK & SAD.

Some of those couples are in love not all people are bad

THINK AGAIN FOOL! PEOPLE WILL LIE & TELL YOU ANYTHING TO COVER UP THEIR AGENDAS.THEY'LL LIE & SAY THEIR IN LOVE WITH PEOPLE THEY HATE OR COULD CARE LESS ABOUT IF THEY HAVE A USE FOR THAT PERSON.I'VE CAUGHT PEOPLE DOING EXACTLY THAT.MANY TIMES.

You are a very sad person my heart goes out to you...Really it does...Nasty is not necessary here so please don't be...

I'm doing you a favor telling you this.I'M VERY authentic.You're just too dense to figure this out for yourself.Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

You have never been in love? V is a very nice woman and she doesn't deserve your words. You need to learn to play nice and not believe that everyone has had the experiences that you have. If you think there is not such thing as love, then you have truly been dealt a bad hand in life. Be well.

Thank you for this...Very much thank you

You poor thing. Obviously you are burning on the inside, suffering the disdain others have inflicted upon you. BUT YOU DO NOT VENT YOUR NEGATIVITY TO VLOWERY, DO NOT SPIT YOUR PAIN OR YOUR SORROW. She does NOT deserve it. NOR needs to hear **** about it when she's already in pain. **** off.

I'M NOT BEING NASTY.I'M BEING TRUTHFULL.& I'M DOING THAT GIRL WHO WANTED HELP A FAVOR.i want her to know that "those couples walking hand in hand" AREN'T IN LOVE.THEY'RE JUST USING ONE ANOTHER.& THEY HATE OR COULD CARE LESS ABOUT EACHOTHER.I WANT THAT GIRL WHO NEEDED HELP TO KNOW THEY DONT HAVE ANYTHING WORTH HAVING.&THEY'RE NO MORE LOVABLE THAN SHE IS.

I HAVE NOT BEEN DEALT A BAD HAND IN LIFE.OH CONTRAIRE! I 'VE BEEN DIAGNOSED AS A MENTALLY UNSTABLE GENIUS.& BECAUSE OF MY HIGH GENERAL I.Q..I'M WIZE TO ALL THE USING BASTARDS OUT THERE.BTW,THE MEMBERS OF MY FAMILY ALL AGREE WITH ME 100% ON ALL THAT I'VE TOLD YOU.THEY'RE WIZE TO THE USING BASTARDS ALSO.

Genius or not instability defines someone who copes with heartbreak and grief by lashing out with blanket generalizations. Someone obviously broke your heart and you're denying yourself the op to grieve and grow from the experience. PS THE ALL CAPS MODE ONLY MAKES YOU APPEAR LESS CONVINCING. Kudos to lovers and prostitutes alike as long as it's consensual

Don't be such a *****

Here I am again.I STAND BY EVERYTHING I SAID ON THIS PAGE.Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

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Look forward my dear. I have been where you are and many tears were shed just as you did. But God held and guided me all those times I cried at losing a love or when I had no one TO love! I understand your story completely and I said as I read "Yes I did that too!"

God is faithful my dear. As long as you trust God to bring that "special someone who loves you for who you are" into your life, he will do it! I am living proof of that!

I am 66 years young and have never married but God has answered my prayer for his mate for me that I prayed when I was just 25. I've waited 41 years and God's time has come because I will be marrying my God-presented wife next year. Both of us know that we never married before because God was working in his time to bring us together at the right time for his glory and honor.

Don't despair sweetie. There is someone special just for you in this world and God is working to bring the two of you together at the right time....God's time.

Remain strong in faith for the answer to your heart's desire because it will come to pass! Count on it!

Your friend,
Nakednfree

We can't change the past, but we can learn from it to make our future better. That one person *will* come, but until then there are still so many things you can do with your life. Keep loving everyone and everything! And it will all come back to you

Live to love, and you will love to live

Ben

I have done that for many years. But love still alludes me

Some of us were made to be alone , to always make the wrong choices , to go throught life feeling like u do right now .that's the truth and it sucks .

Being alone is not necessarily the result of making a wrong choice! Not everyone has to have "that special someone" to feel complete - there are people that are comfortable and confident enough, and like themselves enough to be alone and be fine with it!

I was just like you. Perhaps fewer tears, as we men do, although I had those too. Like yourself, I felt the most acute pain seeing couples hand in hand.

Then, at age 59, I met my sweetheart on a dating site. Loved blossomed by my 60th birthday. It's over now, we could not take it to full, lifetime commitment. But I'm grateful for having lived though these mature-age years. It would have been a great loss to die at 58.

You are a woman, so you might more easily identify with my sweetheart. She was same age as me, only one month younger. This means she was also 59 when we met. She had a similar background of decades spent without love. We now still meet occasionally, and we call each other "my first love". Seriously, this happened at 60.

I told this story to give you hope.

Every word is what I wanna say...Last weekends, I just can't stop crying and feel so lonely.
Life can be cruel no matter how hard you try..

Stay strong and remeber that you can still have a bright future to look forward to if you just apply yourself more in the areas you have made mistakes.

I returned from Afganastan 6 weeks ago to find my wife pregnant. I have been gone a year....A Year! In that year, I have killed, I cheated death. I would ache with the thought of being away from her. The most hurtful point of this is, we tried so many times to get pregnant when I was home before. The Drs. Said we should give up and adopt. That was what I was living for. Is this punishment for killing all those insurgents?

Please don't feel like that, you are not being punished at all. You are amazing for what you have done. Your wife has done what she's done and it cannot be controlled now. Learn from this experience and move on, you deserve better and you will find it. When life isn't plain sailing - enjoy the diversion x

I feel the same. Hang in there. Everyone deserves to be loved and what's meant to be will be. Don't give up.