How 2 Deal?

Ima religious smoker and I dont front about it, so my problem is the person i been with (almost a year) has started trippin bout my smokin and this is a big problem cuz they kno green is the one thing i have to relieve my stress that never fails me... maaain now they sayin they cant wait till i quit... wtf am i suppose to do seriously weve been together to long for this b.s.... how would u deal with it thats my question???

oh yeh and this is a long distance relationship, and i really love this person i just need them to accept me once and all no ifs ands or buts, like i said i never fronted bout smokin never lied bout it or hid it...

doctorgreenthumb doctorgreenthumb
22-25, F
4 Responses Feb 22, 2009

If u have been up front with her then she has known for a while and dated u anyways...You cant change a person like that...I have a few drinks at night to relax...other people some pot to relax...its basically the samething...So, dont let her stop u from something that you enjoy....If she really loves you like she says she does then she will except this....

Ok, check this out:<br />
Before I got married, I dated my husband for almost three years. In that time, I knew that he was a marijuana smoker. I have known Brandon since we were in the ninth grade, so I have known this for a long time, and he has always been very honest with me also, (which I commend you for, btw). Anyway, I really didn't want him to smoke it at first either, because I don't smoke weed myself, I hate the smell of it, I hate the smoke, and I just don't like being around it in general. Well, Brandon and I had a really long talk about it, and he explained to me that a big reason why he smokes weed is because he has ADD, and it calms him down, which helps him to relax. (Sometimes now, my husband even has panic attacks and has to take medication for them). The other thing we talked about was that Brandon doesn't smoke weed all the time (it's very rare actually), and he doesn't smoke a lot or get all stoned out of his mind when he does. Those are the things that I was afraid of, to tell you the truth. So after we talked, I did some research on the computer, and you would be amazed at how many grown adults with ADD actually smoke marijuana every day just to keep themselves on an even keel, and/or to concentrate. My best friend Sarah has ADD, and she does the same thing, like she's self-medicating. So maybe if you sit down with your girlfriend, and have a long, heart-to-heart discussion with her about how you feel, she will understand. Because when it came down to it, I knew that I couldn't change my husband, and you know what? I didn't want to try. I love him for who and what he is, and unconditionally. And he loves me the same way...that's the way it should be.<br />
Good Luck,<br />

its good that u hav neva lied about it 2 ur partner<br />
and in my opinion if they should accept it because it is some thing which you have chosen to do and if you dont want 2 quit they should understand that, because them going on at you about it is not going to help and u r not goin to really listen, <br />
i can understand there side as well, but if this is some thing which u want they should accept that <br />
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one thing which may be gd is jus talkin about the whole situation and both get ur sides across calmly and see how that goes,<br />
because some thing like this shouldnt come between u both and casue all this, because at the end of the day it is not worth it

I quit a loooooong time ago, but when I was young, me and everybody I knew was into it. There were some couples I knew where one did, and the other didn't, but usually the one who didn't still disapproved, and it forced the one who did to hide it and/or lie about it.<br />
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Wouldn't it be trip if you came clean, and found out that he was into it as well?