I Love Weed, But Its Gotten Me In Trouble

I love weed buts gotten me in some trouble as well. I started when I was 16 and have been arrested twice...almost got a felony for one but wiggled my way out, thank God. It never stopped me from smoking though. (My parents showed less of and interest, divorced. my dad just shook his head and didn't talk about it. And my mom would occasionally smoke with me.)
So I didn't have anyone telling me to stop or else. When I was 18 I stopped because I moved. Then I moved back a year later and started smoking daily with my current bf. The only reason is because were safe about it. Rarely smoke anywhere but home, buy and sell only to people we've known for a long time who don't have records, and if we grow we move it to the country.

Stopping smoking now in your life maybe a good thing. Keep your nose clean for now until your on your own. Just remember to think...."could this get me arrested?" :)

Like the other response, I don't know what to comment about.
I've smoked since I was 20, so 16 years now. Fortunately for me, I have never been busted or had any consequences to make me stop smoking. I'm about to quit too and I'm dreading it. Ugh, the night sweats and loss of appetite, hate it! I've quit in the past, but only for a few months. When I think about weed, I wanna smoke something, plain and simple. I just have to battle the urges, just like any addiction. People say you can't get addicted to weed, but I disagree. If you are having cravings and just can't stop smoking, then it's an addiction (or maybe it's just a bad habit, whatever ya wanna call it).
As far as doing things on weed... Yeah, the more you smoke, the more tolerance you build up and the more it affects you less. I smoke multiple times a day, so I can do whatever I want on the influence and not feel like I shouldn't be doing this. Then again, I spend buttloads of money to keep up with my tolerance.
On the other hand, man... I wish I would have stopped smoking a long time ago. I'm sure I would have more spending money, more money saved up, more motivation with my life, ect... Don't get me wrong, I love smoking. But it does make me contempt with my life, however good or bad it may be.
My advice, since you've been busted and threatened... Give weed up. If your gf keeps smoking, then you won't ever quit yourself. Give it up for a few years, move on with your life, make it stable, then consider smoking again and see if you actually want to.
You seem like a good kid with a good future, so don't let weed keep ya down.

I don't know what to comment on about your story first. I guess it has to be your mother's attitude towards weed. That "gateway drug" idea is so over-used and and is so "convenient" for anyone who's convinced themselves that weed is evil or if they're trying to convince someone else that' it's evil. I've smoked weed for 34 years and I've yet to go through that "gateway" and on to the harder drugs. Some people just can't accept that people who like weed might just ONLY like weed. I have many friends who also never went through that so-called "gateway". I also know people who went right to harder drugs without needing weed as a "gateway". As for the lack of drive... People against weed and who know that someone smokes it, almost always blame and any sign of being unmotivated on the weed. It can never seem to be that unmotivated people are just unmotivated. It always has to be the weed that did it to them. It's only a few people who are lazy anyway and also smoke weed that get used as examples for everyone else. It can unmotivate certain people but it's definitely not a standard symptom of smoking weed. Some things that I absolutely hate to do are actually more tolerable and I'm more likely to do them and do them well if I'm able to smoke weed first. Some of the negative opinions people have about weed comes from their own inability to function on it, so they assume everyone else is exactly the same as they are. Sometimes it's just because they did it once and never learned how to handle how it made them feel. Long time smokers who are used to the feeling can easily function after smoking it. People would find out I smoked weed years after I first met them and spent a lot of time around them and once they knew they'd say "I can't believe you smoke weed. I never would have known." The worst part of it for you seems to be that you're still in an environment totally controlled by other people. You have your mom at home and you mentioned school. Growing up I had similar problems to the point where I had to hide my weed outside of the house so my parents wouldn't find it during one of their "raids" on my room. There's not much you can do about home rules for as long as you're there, no matter how unreasonable those rules might be. School seems to have become almost a lock-down dictatorship since I graduated. We had endless rules but nothing like it is now. It seems that while there, you have to stay squeeky clean and almost look at everything you do from the point of view of "How many ways can I possibly get in trouble for doing this or that". As for the cops, all a weed smoker can do is cover their behind in as many ways as possible. Never do it anywhere you can be seen from unless you can see them long before they see you... At least until if and when the law becomes logical towards it wherever you are. Me and my friends who smoked weed all learned the hard way to go out of our way to conceal it when we smoked it, and to never even discuss it out in the open. In your current position you're pretty limited. Your choices seem to be either stop or get very creative about when and where you smoke it and where you keep it. For me, the benefits of it outweighed everything else and stopping was often out of the question. Lately I've stopped but only because I moved and still haven't found any way to get it in my new area, and I miss it and crave it every single day. There is such a thing as people who function better with it than without it, and I'm one of them.